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Topic: Ummmm, I've got some issues!
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StarLover33
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From: King Arthur's Camelot
Registered: Jun 2002
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posted November 13, 2004 02:42 PM
 
It's funny, this friend of mine has had a very similar experience, but she was very much younger, and her situation was far more serious. My predicament is actually nothing compared to the story she told me about her relationship with her english teacher. Nothing happened, she was still very young, actually only 12, but they would have very serious intimate discussions, and he would frequently stare at her in class, and actually wrote love poetry about her. He was married and had children, but he was slightly sick, and this went on for a few years until the 8th grade. Thankfully, nothing serious happened and they moved on. She told me it was getting very serious though. This friend of mine also goes to boarding school, and to my shock, she told me it is quite common indeed. It's kept very much on the low though. She told me how in boarding school, she's only been there for a few months, and already she knows this 18 year old girl who slept with a 36 year old math teacher. 
This student also told everyone in her dorm, and no one was surprised. Now, my predicament is not at all very serious, it's just a crush, but I just wanted to point out that this kind of thing happens, and there are people out there in more serious situations. Some not so bad than others. In reality, I'm not even close to him at all. They're just thoughts. Does anyone know of any similar stories?-StarLover IP: Logged |
LibraSparkle
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posted November 13, 2004 10:01 PM
12 years old?! Kinda sick? That's a lot sick, IMO  The only similar story I know is that chicky in Oregon that got pregnant ran off with her teacher. I think she was 15 or there abouts. I believe they're still MIA... I could be wrong though. I try not to watch the local news. IP: Logged |
StarLover33
Moderator Posts: 2865
From: King Arthur's Camelot
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posted November 13, 2004 10:29 PM
I know, I was really shocked when she told me, but she was smart enough not do anything. She is and looks old for her age.-StaeLover IP: Logged |
puppyblew
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Registered: Jul 2004
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posted November 14, 2004 05:07 AM
starloverwhere were you when i was asking all you guys for your teacher stories? i posted awhile back about a teacher i liked. i guess i started "kind of" liking him while he was still my high school teacher and the relationship/friendship/whatever i had with him happened well after i was out of high school and even out of college for that matter. so, i can understand gem.nymph's concern. looking back, i realize that if i had had better judgement i would not have gotten so emotionally burned. i was never physcial with him, but emotional hurt is just as bad. and i know fantasy's are fun, but sometimes they can hurt.  i did tarot cards pretty much asking the same thing back then.  i know what you are saying about if this was presented to me i can handle it and it must be for a purpose. i agree with you. i feel that way about life events as well. i'm just worried about you getting hurt because from what i know, older men in authority can be h8ll on your emotions. i've noticed this with teachers. that is why i was asking about them earlier. don't get me wrong - i don't think this guy is a jerk. i was just adding my two cents since you brought the subject up. teacher/student relationships seem to happen all the time. why is that? know any that worked/didn't people?
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StarLover33
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posted November 14, 2004 10:05 AM
 Oh wow Purpleblue, I'm sorry this came to me recently.  I'm not afraid to get emotionally hurt, in fact if that is the purpose then it's probably to make me a better person. I think all relationships are meant to hurt one way or another. I think all relationships will come to an end if it takes either 10 years or 50 years. It's just a fact which you have to except. So if that will be the case then so be it. Since you can't help who you fall for, I'm thinking that you might as well go with it, and see where it takes you. That is the advice being given here right? I'm not banking on these feelings, but I'm also never going to say never. I've been incredibely blessed to have a Venus in Aquarius, so I can see things in a more detached way. Thank god! P.S. So tell me more about your relationship with your teacher? I'd love to hear your story! -StarLover IP: Logged |
StarLover33
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posted November 14, 2004 10:08 AM
I totally agree though, it could get into a torcher mode, I need to be very careful, and not get emotionally burned. I think if the door is not even half open, then I will go off to college, and probably never see him again. I'll finally be able to live away from home, thank god.  I sense that your story sounds extremely similar to mine, and I think we should talk some more. College is my one way ticket to freedom. -StarLover IP: Logged |
sthenri
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From: Montreal, Canada
Registered: May 2003
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posted November 14, 2004 12:48 PM
Oh no, she's broken out the Tarot!!!:>Have you read the bad signs in relationships, just for fun first? I am not brushing you off, I have a sixth house sun so I do believe in analyzing the relationship. I think the danger here is in mystifying and adoring the relationship before you know the person. Then you kiss you him and tell yourself it's wonderful, even if he's a bad kisser. Kiss the man, he's just a man after all, and see how you feel afterwards. It's all in a kiss truly, if you listen to your instincts and heart honestly, you can trust yourself. Once you trust yourself, you can trust him, but you don't know without more to go on. Save the Tarot until after he's kissed you at least once spontaneously, That's my 2 cents,
But with that said, I have found the Tarot to be very accurate in predicting the outcome of my own feelings in a relationship. Natasha
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StarLover33
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From: King Arthur's Camelot
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posted November 14, 2004 01:34 PM
 You're right, you're right, but when you have knowlegde of the Tarot you should use it. I couldn't help my analytical mind if I tried. Okay, I'll stop it now!-StarLover IP: Logged |
Motherkonfessor
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posted November 14, 2004 06:08 PM
Here's a story, since you asked..In the town where my mom lives, a 23 year old German teacher was dating one of his students... consensually, apparently. She is 17. They got found out, and he lost his job. For the rest of his life, he will have to register as a sex offender in any community he lives in, and he can never work as a teacher again. Thus, he shot his career to hell, for some under-age thrills. MK IP: Logged |
trillian
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From: The Boundless
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted November 14, 2004 06:52 PM
StarLover, was that chill pill comment directed towards me?IP: Logged |
StarLover33
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posted November 14, 2004 08:16 PM
No, I was talking to Gemini-Nymph. MK, thank you for the interesting story, I'll keep it in mind. I've decided that I'm going to totally back off. I'll get over him, it's not really that serious anyway, and I think nothing would happen even though. So I'll just have to stick it out for a year! It's the wise thing to do. -StarLover IP: Logged |
scorpiosphinx
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From: canada
Registered: Oct 2004
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posted November 14, 2004 09:32 PM
I think thats the right think to do starlover. I once had a teacher of mine draw a heart over the i in my name. It was very awkward. IP: Logged |
StarLover33
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From: King Arthur's Camelot
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posted November 14, 2004 10:07 PM
It would only be lust if I did anything, especially right now. I'm just going to follow my heart, and my heart tells me to be very patient and calm. Most of all I need to be myself. If it's love, everything will work out for the best. Lust would only get me in trouble, and if this relationship is worth anything, it can certianly be put on hold. I think everything will work out for the best though. This relationship will continue to be very innocent. -StarLover IP: Logged |
Harpyr
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From: sleepy Rocky Mountain village
Registered: Dec 2002
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posted November 15, 2004 01:18 AM
SL,
I also think keeping your distance is wise, especially after seeing those tarot spreads.. That first one..such a profusion of swords, so much conflict there.. That eight of swords- you are giving him nightmares, girl! Take it easy with those feminine wiles of yours.. you are torturing the poor man with the forbidden fruit.The lovers and the devil right next to eachother.. there is a reason why those cards appear so similar...............
There may be hope for celebration as indicated by the four of wands but I'd wager that it's a rather distant celebration, judging by the reading about this specific year that ends with the tower.. to get to that celebration it would appear you'd first have to travel to hell and back... The final reading about how you see him would seem to demonstrate your idealization of him. I speak from much painful experience about how dangerous it is to place someone on a pedastal..
All that aside..I totally understand it as well.. I'm a serial crusher myself. It seems there is always atleast one person I'm entertaining little fantasies of in my head..
I just felt the need to speak directly to those spreads since I just attended a tarot class tonight and I've sort of got tarot on the brain lately.. 
Ironic, really.. considering that I rarely come to this forum and just happened to stumble onto this string tonight... Anyway,it would seem to me that you are an intelligent woman, Starlover and I think you will make wise decisions. IP: Logged |
LibraSparkle
Moderator Posts: 4514
From: Vancouver USA
Registered: May 2004
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posted November 15, 2004 01:51 AM
I'm also a serial crusher  How is torturing a man with your forbiden fruit is a bad thing? I've always found it kinda fun  Uh oh... That makes me a bad girl! Somebody spank me, quick!  Ironic, that you stumbled in here tonight of all nights, Harpyr... or Synchronistic? IP: Logged |
puppyblew
Knowflake Posts: 276
From: usa
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted November 15, 2004 03:10 AM
i'm not sure you want to read my story after i found out you have venus in aqua! the teacher has venus in aqua. and i think i might have done a wee bit bashing of that placement. j/k. umm... well, i was feeling highly emotinally messed up at the time and it's really a rambling mess, but if you want to read it, it was titled "i've finally done it" or something to that effect. it's on this board somewhere... probably back a few pages. yeah, it might give you a perspective on what could happen, but more than likely your experience will be/is differant because the age differance is not as great. this guy was 35 and i was 17 when i had him in class. so..... that's a big differance! it does give somewhat of a perspective on what happens if a person idolizes someone too much and the person on the pedastal uses his power over you. i know the situation i had with this guy taught me alot. i just am thinking about it now and realize how dumb i was. it's funny how you can look at a situation and know it will change you foever and then go and act on it. looking back now, i think i would have still acted on it. i had to. i had to know. i had to live. now i live with the consequences... both good and bad. IP: Logged |
StarLover33
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From: King Arthur's Camelot
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posted November 15, 2004 03:31 PM
Thanks Harpyr,Your post made me giggle a little, and you're right I could be just torchering him with my feminine wiles. However, I haven't crossed any boundaries, and I don't plan on it. I don't want to fathom the idea of being the cause of his troubles. I do believe the spread indicates I'll be source of anxiety, and the reason is because I have so much trouble in math. I have been a blessing and a nightmare for some of my math teachers. Because I do so poorly in math I have no choice but to see him after school. I'm not about to transfer classes because my guidance counselors will ask why. They'll say, "But you're doing so well Sonia?" Besides I don't want to transfer, I don't give up, and I enjoy being in his class. Yet, I don't want to keep seeing him after school, not because I want to, but because I have to. In the beginning of the year, I felt as if I should ask another teacher for help, because I knew it would stir feelings if I went after school to see him all the time. The tarot spread does indicate if anything is bound to happen then it should happen at the very end of the year. It's indicative because of those Aces, The Lovers, and The Four of Wands. I think The Devil card and The Tower indicate the shock and fear of the relationship itself. The Tower indicates a shocking event is bound to happen if I keep doing what I'm doing. I'm still holding out hope for a happy ending, whatever it may be. IP: Logged |
StarLover33
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posted November 15, 2004 03:36 PM
Hey puppyblew,I will read your string as soon as I have time. I think this whole thing is fated really. I have Neptune in the Seventh house, and I have a tendency to see things in rose colored glasses. So idealizing a mate has been my problem for a while, even going back to my past lives. -StarLover IP: Logged |
StarLover33
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posted November 15, 2004 03:48 PM
As soon as I graduate, the logical thing would be never to see him again. Hopefully, I'll be living inside the city. Right now, I think I'll let go for college, but then again, I could always hop on a train to see him when ever I want. I hope I don't do that for my sake though. Yet, I'm just not that scandalous anyway.-StarLover IP: Logged |
sthenri
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From: Montreal, Canada
Registered: May 2003
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posted November 15, 2004 10:44 PM
Starlover, there is no such thing as just lust. If you do cross that boundary to kissing, it doesn't have to be a purely physical connection. There is emotion in all things, in him, and in you. It may mean the world to him, and if a kiss means that much, you don't need anything else.That is because kissing can change your perceptions of the world. You could change his life, and maybe that's just why he's there, for a change. New relationships mean change, a new direction, and new people are always there for a reason, a new path. Fate yes, I believe this relationship is fated, but you were both meant to be friends for a while. Don't let him go that easily in terms of friendship, if you feel it's fated. Nothing is just lust, or just friendship, there are shades of gray. IMO
Natasha
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astro junkie
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posted November 16, 2004 02:19 AM
And kissing can change ANOTHER'S perception as well ...------------------
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sthenri
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posted November 16, 2004 11:12 AM
Of course, kissing can rip away old perceptions and beliefs. And take you both to a new place,Natasha
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StarLover33
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posted November 16, 2004 03:20 PM
Ummm, kissing him, one step at a time guys! You're even blowing past me. Right now, I just want to pass his class, and be friends. I"m in a bit of a jam, I didn't do so good on yet another quiz. I need to get myself together.-StarLover IP: Logged |
StarLover33
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posted November 16, 2004 03:29 PM
Puppyblew,About people with Venus in Aquarius, I want to tell you about that, but I'll have to say another time. I'll get to you though. -StarLover IP: Logged |
astro junkie
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posted November 17, 2004 04:22 PM
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