posted November 07, 2004 10:29 PM         

My problem is, I've got a very big crush on my Pre-Calculus teacher, and I don't know what to do! What should I do? I have to see him every single day, and I'm so bad in math, that I must get help from him after school. Nothing has happened, it's all very innocent, but I must stop dreaming about him in class. WHY DO I DO THIS TO MYSELF!?!

P.S. I'll tell you more later!

posted November 08, 2004 12:55 AM         

Tell him you see his lips move but you can't hear him, but you stay because he's so nice to look at. I know you can't say that but you could put it another way. You could say, I would love to learn this, but you make it so difficult. When he asks you why, tell him straight faced, your cologne is distracting me:>

Oh well, you will find a way, with Moon in Gemini, you are a natural with words. If he has Gemini placements, he will fall for you too.

posted November 08, 2004 11:43 AM         

I believe in secret crushes too, but they are so nice when the flirting comes back to you!
Good luck Starlover, get him to respond:>

posted November 08, 2004 12:36 PM         

Pre Calc?

posted November 08, 2004 03:57 PM         

Anyway, I know a little bit about him, he's very young, but I don't know his age because I'm afraid to ask. I think he's in his middle to late twenties. He's not married, and I don't think he's seeing anyone, but perhaps it's very possible that he is, and I'm just imagining things. I do know however, that he has a son, and he's about five years old, but the little boy lives with his mother. I got to see a picture, extremely cute. I don't know the story behind that though. Maybe he was married for a short time, or he wasn't married at all. Strangely it doesn't bother me, it actually makes him more interesting. I don't know when his birthday is either, I try not to ask him too many personal questions so that we maintain a student-teacher relationship, and it doesn't get akward. I really feel like we're forced on one another, because I have so much trouble in math that we don't have much of a choice, that we have to speak to each other!

It's extremely ironic, I've always had a hard time in math, it's just not my subject no matter how hard I work. This year, first day of school, I was dreading Pre-Calculus, my last teacher recommended that I DON'T take the class, and at the time I was going to take a much easier math course, but something convinced me to take Pre-Calc, it was because I wanted to go to a competitive university, but now I realize that isn't my mission. So now, I'm stuck in these courses that I don't need, and Pre-Calculus is one of them. I was absolutely dreading this class before it began, but when he walked into the door it was like seeing an angel. I had never seen such a handsome math teacher in my entire life. I'm so blessed to have him, and he's so much easier than my last teacher, It's ironic because it's one of my favorite classes now, and I wouldn't trade it for the world. No matter what happens, I'm really glad I got him!

P.S. Who knows, maybe something will happen between us, I hope so. The place where I go, the boys aren't really up to bat with me, none of them are really interested, I've never really had a boyfriend, so in a way I really deserve it if something happens. I don't care about the fact that he's a teacher, because I'm excellent at keeping secrets, and I would keep this relationship under wraps. They can't kick our ass because I'm almost 18, and I will be graduating this year as well. Sooooo, they've got nothing on me! It's not like I have friends to tell in high school anyway.

posted November 08, 2004 07:37 PM         

So go with the crush, enjoy it and this chaste time together...and after you graduate, perhaps then you can pursue something deeper.

posted November 08, 2004 08:11 PM         

Granted, I have no sad feeling over this - that band director was a jerk and perv and needed to leave teaching high school - but in your case, a high school crush probably isn't worth it to someone who's obviously put several years of college plus teacher certification to get where he's at. This is his career and his income - two things you don't seem to apperciate. It's far more likely he's working at a high shcool to pay off his student loans than for fishing for teenage tail. And if he is, you'd be better off staying far, far away (because chance would be he's a very sick predator, like that band director).

If this crush is affecting your school work (and I suspect it is) you should talk to your school couselor. You need someone responsible, knowledging and aware of such issues to help you get some objectivity here NOW. Your prespective is obviously very distorted and you're not considering the risks realistically. Saying "Oh, I know how to keep a secret!" is *not* mature nor responsible, and apparently indicates that on some level, you KNOW this is wrong, yet you want to rationalize doing it still. This is not just school-girl silliness, it's ridiculously foolish and potentially dangerous on an emotional and psychological level for you to allow yourself to get so hung up on a man that 1) too old and mature for you and 2) is NOT available for you to pursue and to entertain fantasies of what might happen 6-7 months from now. You can resent me for saying this until your hormone-intoxicated teenage heart is full, but I think you need some sense slapped into you.

posted November 08, 2004 10:37 PM         

P.S. Do me a favor, and get over your age discrimination, okay? If anything was to happen, of course I would do it after I graduate. I'm not like your classmate, and he's not like your band leader. You want to talk about being mature, I bet you all I got that I'm more mature than you. I've heard of all the agism crap, yada, yada, yada! Sorry but you were being rude and unnecessary first.

posted November 08, 2004 11:00 PM         

I feel/felt the same way you do, like I said I'm very rational, but sometimes it really depends on the situation, and the circumstances you're put in. Maybe I need to learn a valuable lesson. Sometimes it can't be helped, and you have to go with it, and see where it may take you. God wouldn't hand me this predicament if I couldn't handle it with grace. Somehow, I know subconciously I've dealt with far more serious circumstances, and this is probably nothing compared to my last lives.

posted November 09, 2004 12:12 AM         

Thank you. I pray to god that I will make right decisions in life.

posted November 09, 2004 01:44 AM         

This will certainly make the remainder of your senior year exciting, eh?!

SL, you're mature. You know that. It's not all that surprising that you would crush on older guys.

Sounds like you've got your priorities straight.

Come June/July... GAME ON!!

Can't wait to hear more. I'll be living vicariously through you

aaahhh... crushes. I love crushes. I get crushes all the time, kinda like IP (Intoxicating Pixie) said. It's fun. Makes going to that place or taking care of that task more bearable.

I've got a little crush/flirt thing going on with one of the produce boys at the grocery store I shop at. It's fun. Yes. I said boy. I don't know how young he is, or even his name for that matter, but GOLLY he's cute and sweet

posted November 09, 2004 12:15 PM         

It seems you got a real good understanding of getting inside the teacher's head and relaying it all to us. Granted, a very abstracted and generalized view.

The problem is you didn't quite get Starlover's head. I think in large part because you don't know her personally like a lot of us do. Getting a message across to her as though she is only an object in your scenario only makes you a detached critic, and makes everything you said valuable in its weightiness - but lacking in receptive value. And that's too bad.

And before you jump the gun to anything, we don't really know what the truth is behind all of this. So there's no point trying to defend or argue for something. I'm just stating what the delivery came across as and the lack of emotional intelligence to it.

Sad really.

posted November 09, 2004 03:32 PM         

It's just a feeling you know, a vibe that I can feel, but maybe it's just my imagination. If it is, it's okay because college is on the horizon. It's my ticket to freedom. Who knows what could happen though? We're just talking and being friendly to one another. Perhaps, I'm just a teacher's pet, because I'm always getting him to answer questions. I hope that doesn't ever change over lovey dovey feelings. I'm a Gemini Moon, and I need to talk out my feelings with reason!

posted November 13, 2004 01:56 PM         

How does Sonia's math teacher feel about her?