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Topic: Ummmm, I've got some issues!
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key Knowflake Posts: 190 From: USA Registered: Jun 2002
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posted March 17, 2005 12:03 PM
Hi -I have a daughter - about to turn 23. StarLover is only 18. If my daughter had been in her situation, I would hope that someone would have been blunt with her - as Gemini Nymph and I have been. Yeah - it sounds lecturey and not very empathetic or compassionate. And, yes, not very likeable comments. That is okay with me. StarLover just needs to direct her fantasies elsewhere. I don't want to see her hurt, as I would not like to see my own daughter hurt. This teacher-student relationship has not been good for StarLover. Please re-read her following comments (this is a quote; these are not my comments): ______________________________ "I think I'm making things more difficult than they really are. I skipped his quiz again, my mind keeps drawing blanks. The confidence factor is a big problem. I don't think I can tell him about my leanings torward astrology and philosophy. He already thinks I'm weird enough, I shouldn't add anymore reasons. THE PROBLEM IS, I don't belong in PreCalculus, I don't know that the heck I'm doing. The material is ridiculous, and he is making it much harder for me. Lately, he's been acting very detached and uncaring. I just don't know what is really going on here. I shouldn't pursue this man any further than I aready have. It's getting very difficult. I can't do anything, I really need my christmas vacation. I need time to think. I don't want to go through torcher and hell especially in my senior year. However, I think it's too late, I have to stick it out until the end. He is beginning to give me hell." -StarLover
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puppyblew Knowflake Posts: 276 From: usa Registered: Jul 2004
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posted March 17, 2005 10:53 PM
oh, starlover, starlover, where are you??are you doing ok? i miss talking to you. come baaaackkkk! IP: Logged |
Secret Garden Knowflake Posts: 438 From: Registered: Dec 2004
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posted March 18, 2005 02:50 AM
key, pix: I sort of agree with both of u... I said before that its like playing with fire hehe I have gotten into bad relationships before...that I wish I had not gotten into. Ones that people in general would not consider ethical... There were plenty of people warning me that my heart would be broken besides the fact that its dangerous, but anyhow I learned the hard way I do agree that StarLover could potentially be in a very bad situation, but if she is really in that or not, we all think 'she is probably not'. Key are u fire or air? Because my initial reaction was the same, and as Gem nymph, we fire/air ppl tend to think with all brain Star lover, if I am correct, is a Pisces, so she will dream a lot and maybe she needs those dreams. I dream a lot about older men in general (not wayyy older, but 7-10 yrs older than me). I usually only get in relationships with men 7-10 yrs older than me. I married a man 3 yrs older than me and it didn't work out at all. Any how, I guess my point is that we are all somewhere in the middle on this, most importantly that we all have concern for Starlover in our hearts--some that she may feel welcome, and others that she may know what is best for her in the long run, and I think both things are important, but I agree that even if something wrong does happen, which Im hopeful that it will not becoz SL is so mature for her age, but she will only have to learn from her own mistakes, unfortunately even when other ppl warn they only become villains and never educators. Archer once posted that Sex with his Aunt thread, and some ppl very much reprimanded him, but the point was that he recognized it was unacceptable behavior and wanted to stop. I think SL thought it could be harmful too at some point, and her conscience is against her, I Always say thats good, its good for your consciences to go against your heart because that conflict means you are rational, moral AND passionate, and who could resist that right? Much love to all! SG IP: Logged |
key Knowflake Posts: 190 From: USA Registered: Jun 2002
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posted March 18, 2005 10:32 AM
Hello SG,Thank you very much for your message. Yes, I have fire in my chart - but as much earth ... capricorn rising, taurus and virgo placements. And, yes, thank you - I test out smart - SATs, etc. Mainly, though, I have got the common sense factor. While I have made many mistakes in my life - with that fire rushing in - my earth usually stops me in the nick of time. No one wants advice. Not really. People mainly want to hear what they want to hear. Most of the people posting would like others to validate their point of view. This is only natural. The "wake-up" call posts are not usually appreciated. Still, the seed of doubt can be planted. I have noticed this with my children. When I take the "high road" - I get can "hate" in return. Yet, frequently, the "high road" - in a couple of weeks, can be all their own idea. By the way, I have an excellent relationship with both of my grown children (and my husband). Very difficult for me to comprehend any encouragement in the pursuing of a teacher. Most people watch the news on television or read the daily newspaper. Teachers who get involved with their students can lose their jobs and could go to jail. The rules are in place to protect the student. It does make sense to me. KEY
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Secret Garden Knowflake Posts: 438 From: Registered: Dec 2004
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posted March 18, 2005 03:20 PM
Key: There is a striking reality in your quote that people only want to validate their opinions, after all, most of us have formed strong opinions by the time we're 18 or so, and we don't want them to be shaken at any costs, we will even resort to confrontation instead of compromise to make sure our way is asserted as right! A lot of posts on this forum, and Im not excluding myself, say something along the lines of, can someone please let me know that this impossible thing will happen, because i want it to, or that this horrible thing wont happen, because i dont want it to, or something like that. And its so natural! We're scared of negative change, and it depends on how you define negative change doesnt it? Some people see negative change as any change in their fate that goes against what they had desired or planned, some people see it as something different... Anyhow a very long arse philosophical reply hehehe, but I just want you to understand that I do understand where you're coming from, I also understand pix's point of view, and like I said, Pisces does not have the same go get it attitude that sometimes the more think it thru signs like Earth/Air etc. have, because they are dreamy, they survive on dreams, and dreams are their oxygen! To a large extent I think, unless their dreams are leading to self or other's destruction, we should allow them to dream whatever because it is healthy for their own personality; it is their self expression. To my understanding SL hasnt acted irrationally, and I doubt that she will, because she understands that this is simply a fantasy, and how many times have any of us had fantasies of getting it on with anyone and everyone inappropriate from the UPS man to the President, and they never materialize because that is exactly what fantasies ARE--they are dreams of actions and things that can never be realized in practical terms, that is the reason we fantasize about them, if they were realistic we would pursue them instead of fantasizing. Anyhow hope that clears my point and lessens any hostility/conflict of opinion SG IP: Logged |
14stars Knowflake Posts: 58 From: between the line Registered: Jan 2005
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posted March 19, 2005 05:11 AM
hi starlover, we all know age is just a number ,it 's really dosen't matter how old or how young .and I am sure you know well what you are doing,and you know you are already mature enough than the many other school girl in your age. so just one thing I would say ,take a piece a paper write down what do you see him ,like you want a boyfriend,a friend, husband ,just to show to yourself you are special or you want other see that you are special. I have nothing to against you ,please be understand.don't take it in a hard way with me. in the name of divine love,there is no such thing call "I will never see him again". and if he is the one ,a ture love can wait ,and ture love always be test .and lives will always bring him back to you. don't worry ,concenrate to study ,build yourself strong ,be a successful person . I personal made a thousand of mistakes ,life is a never ending lesson. enjoy the game call life I give you loving energy like everyone else who had reply in this topic.IP: Logged |
Heart--Shaped Cross Knowflake Posts: 1151 From: north of Boston, MA Registered: Aug 2004
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posted March 19, 2005 10:37 AM
Don't stand so close to me ((The Police)) Young teacher, the subject Of schoolgirl fantasy She wants him so badly Knows what she wants to be Inside her there's longing This girl's an open page Book marking - she's so close now This girl is half his age
Don't stand, don't stand so Don't stand so close to me Don't stand, don't stand so Don't stand so close to me Her friends are so jealous You know how bad girls get Sometimes it's not so easy To be the teacher's pet Temptation, frustration So bad it makes him cry Wet bus stop, she's waiting His car is warm and dry Don't stand, don't stand so Don't stand so close to me Don't stand, don't stand so Don't stand so close to me Loose talk in the classroom To hurt they try and try Strong words in the staffroom The accusations fly It's no use, he sees her He starts to shake and cough Just like the old man in That book by Nabakov Don't stand, don't stand so Don't stand so close to me Don't stand, don't stand so Don't stand so close to me Don't stand, don't stand so Don't stand so close to me [Back:] (Please don't stand so close to me)
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key Knowflake Posts: 190 From: USA Registered: Jun 2002
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posted March 21, 2005 11:00 AM
Hi Everyone -We are all talking back and forth and are concerned about this young lady. She doesn't seem to be around any more. I hope she is okay. First - There isn't really any hostility/conflict (at least not on my end). Pixie obviously cares deeply about SL. Disagreements are okay. We all have room to grow and change. I do, any way. SG - I relate to your posts. Doesn't sound like our charts have much in common - so there goes the astrological factor. Yet, I nod my head up and down when I read your posts. 14 Stars - A sweet and helpful post - but I don't think StarLover is reading this thread. Sometimes it is easier - when we are in the middle of intense feelings, to just "wait", instead of the "never". Heart-Shaped Cross, the creative writer - can say just what I think in a song. BTW, I admire the sign of scorpio above all others. I am for the children. It is an old slogan -but, "it takes a village" rings true to me. When we know of a child or young adult struggling in our own community, it is easy to think ... "phew, I am glad he is not my child". Better, to get involved and to try and help that child. My child is your child, and your child is my child - I like that kind of thinking. Perhaps I have come to that conclusion because many people have helped my own children - when they would not/could not listen to me. KEY
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Heart--Shaped Cross Knowflake Posts: 1151 From: north of Boston, MA Registered: Aug 2004
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posted March 21, 2005 11:13 AM
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pixelpixie Moderator Posts: 7468 From: Ontario, Canada Registered: Aug 2003
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posted March 21, 2005 01:59 PM
Key.. Understand I have absolutely nothing against you. Nothing at all. If I felt you needed defense, you know, I'd be right there. I think you used Gem nymph's words, and hearing them again, I got my back up.. there are ways to use intelligence and insight, in a tactful and caring way.. then there are ways to look down at people from a podium. I feel if you used your own words, you'd have shown concern, not malicious insult. Of course, she's not usually around to say much anymore, but she knows, I have always admired Gem Nymph's way with Astrology. and cutting past the fog and straight into the heart.. but unfortunately, I feel she cuts the heart instead of the fog, when she relays her messages. Personal Opinion... I respect your opinions, Key, and I know they come from a good place. As do mine. I trust Starlover's knowledge and morals, that's all. But I will let her speeak for herself.IP: Logged |
StarLover33 Moderator Posts: 2865 From: King Arthur's Camelot Registered: Jun 2002
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posted March 22, 2005 12:53 PM
OMIGOD, I can't believe I missed this thread for so long, I had no idea it went back up again, there is a reason for everything, and I caught this thread just in time!The story has not ended, but it has taken the strangest turn you could've ever thought possible. I will be back with my story, as soon as I have the time I will right back about what has happened to me these past 6 months. There has been a change in me! It has been a very emotional rollercoaster. I've had to deal with so much emotional baggage in such a short period of time. I've discovered that I'm an 18 year old genius! It's not over yet, and I will be back with my side of the story soon! -StarLover
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StarLover33 Moderator Posts: 2865 From: King Arthur's Camelot Registered: Jun 2002
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posted March 22, 2005 04:26 PM
Oh my god was I naive. :slaps herself in the face:-StarLover IP: Logged |
Secret Garden Knowflake Posts: 438 From: Registered: Dec 2004
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posted March 22, 2005 07:30 PM
SL, what happened? First the bubbliness, then the slapping of self? Is everything ok? Let us know asap ok? Love SG IP: Logged |
puppyblew Knowflake Posts: 276 From: usa Registered: Jul 2004
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posted March 22, 2005 10:24 PM
starlover's back! (does a little dance)we missed you! hope everything is ok. don't stay away again too long. IP: Logged |
14stars Knowflake Posts: 58 From: between the line Registered: Jan 2005
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posted March 23, 2005 02:36 AM
heeee...... as a friend......if your choice is A ,I am with you .If your choice is B ,I am with you . fill your life with ideal ,but be responsible .because at the end who has to face the music is you. but we are here to care for you ,ok lovesIP: Logged |
Harpyr Moderator Posts: 1893 From: sleepy Rocky Mountain village Registered: Dec 2002
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posted March 31, 2005 11:56 AM
starlover,I hope you are allright. Your last post was worrisome. Please let us know how you are doing. IP: Logged |
LibraSparkle Moderator Posts: 4514 From: Vancouver USA Registered: May 2004
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posted April 02, 2005 04:14 AM
Yes... please, finish the story.IP: Logged | |