posted September 08, 2006 03:41 PM         

You wont be boring me at all dont worry. I find your comments very much to the point and well, you hit the nail on the head actually. No mincing words there. Really appreciate it!So heck, youve won over this piscean so just lemme know which lady you want to 'patao'!

Inlove,

Hmmm is this guy a cancerian? You did mention that he was i think. My previous was a cancerian and the main reason he decided against me was because of his conservative background. I knew he loved me but well he just didnt wanna take it forward. So he even quit being friends cos any contact was fueling our emotions. However, no two people can be typecast and so my advise to you after reading your bit is....just control your emotions. Its v v v v v v v tough i know!But we dont want you hurt in the future and if the future holds promise you would be very pleasantly surprised!

Otherwise, are you friends? Cos maybe if you arent thats why he isnt asking you out, just hinting to test waters?

Cappyme, thanks for your insight!Well you know everyone on the thread has been telling me that he's fine with me and that i need to decide and you have reiterated that and well....iam in agreement...

Friends who are close and their opinion would matter but in the end its entirely my own 'feelings'.

As of now update wise...

Iam losing the feelings......i think. Not sure yet cos maybe we havent had contact from the past one week so iam out of it. But maybe when we meet again it will be the same? Who knows?

He isnt initiating anything either. As in whatever he did in the past week did look something like pursuit but as of now theres been nothing at all and wont be for the next week either since iam on vacation!

Sincerely, the feeling i have now is of him being 'Just a lil boy'!!!I CANT expect a boy to do stuff for me let alone support me in my life...maybe thats why the intensity has come down.

Just hope he isnt hurt or anything cos ive been very polite but detached through all this.

posted September 08, 2006 03:51 PM         

thanks for sharing your experience. Well, we are good friends, and now its almost obvious that there is a lot of chemistry.

I have been trying to give him a lot of time and space for the very same reason. I dont want him to go forward with a relationship impulsively and then regret it later. In fact, i has stopped calling him, and was acting quite polite but detached with him for a week. In tht week, he called me up every single day, turned up at my lab with a weird excuse, and dropped me home one day.

After all this, I found it very difficult to believe that he is hesitating. I hope he is not so thoughtless as to give all these signals when he can't commit for anything long term (wudn't expect a sensitive cancerian to do tht, tht too a good friend who knows i got my heart broken before...).

Today I was kind of depressed (because of ONE day of no contact from him :P ) and thought tht may be he had changed his mind. But today he FINALLY asked me out for a movie, very casually of course. And there is going to be another common friend there

That's the status right now. I think we both know its a date, just pretending not to :P

I really hope he is not playing games with me, or worse still, confused !!

posted September 09, 2006 07:30 PM         

I am heartbroken today. Wish i cud tell u something, but even i dont knw wht happened.

posted September 10, 2006 01:50 AM         

Whateve happened???? I thought he asked you out on a date!Pls let us know....

And hey stay strong. Sometimes we can be oversensitive abt situations.

Today i got back in touch with an ex virgo kinda boyfriend. He was too shy to say anything. Its his bday 2day so hoping we can resume our contact.

The young virgo for which this thread is as of now outta mind and outta site. Am trying to get over him......but i sincerely liked him...v v much. Even i dont know why.

posted September 10, 2006 01:51 AM         

Whateve happened???? I thought he asked you out on a date!Pls let us know....

And hey stay strong. Sometimes we can be oversensitive abt situations.

Today i got back in touch with an ex virgo kinda boyfriend. He was too shy to say anything. Its his bday 2day so hoping we can resume our contact.

The young virgo for which this thread is as of now outta mind and outta site. Am trying to get over him......but i sincerely liked him...v v much. Even i dont know why.

posted September 10, 2006 12:41 PM         

sarah : ha , sure i'll need your help . waise bhi , we cancerian dont take much time to fall in love .
even i dont know when i 'll fall in love , i'll do thats something that i am dead sure and then i am gonna ask for your help .

and inlove , so the cancerian told you , he was selfish and practical kind .
that was said to check out your reactions , i do it a lot of times , its not only being cautious its also being a humble in their own way .

i didn't actually saw that you were a cap.
and to tell you a fact , our way of seeing the things are completly different .

if i go on writting on it , it will take much time , i have had cap friends , even my sis is a cap .
if you specify certain things that you are confused about , i could be more helpful .
and lastly , they always have the mask so try seeing beyond the obvious .

posted September 10, 2006 04:06 PM         

Well, u r right i think he does say things sometimes just to chk my reactions. but he has a saggy moon, and tht is wht is scaring me a bit.
Yday i analyzed his handwriting, and i saw sth which indicates tht he is artificially nice to people. And he actually told me tht even before i started analyzing it. I dont know wht tht means, coz i am really warm and caring (altho i try not to show it ).

Basically cancerrg, i am as confused as ever. Its like he is playing a game with me. He knows he has got me I can't go into details...but i knw this for a fact...he is very observant and knws exactly wht's going on. I get the feeling tht he is calling all the shots. He turns the conversation whichever way he wants...is able to spot the slightest bit of 'masking' i may try to do. It scares me sometimes

posted September 12, 2006 06:52 AM         

i said it earlier too , we cancerians and the caps see the world in two different lights so that could be problem too .
i would suggest if u can mark how he responds to certain situations and how you react to the same .
it would give you a basic idea of what kind of a person he actually is .
again, it would be helpful for us to analyse too incase you need our help in future.

posted September 12, 2006 01:22 PM         

I think your cancerian might just be trying to be honest with you and maybe sharing his feelings and trying to 'feel' his way into a relashionship or maybe not.... but looks ok to me as of now. Still...dont totally go with it unless you are told what is what.

Cancerrg iam in Delhi for the next day or two. Lemme know if youre around so you could help me with m virgo and i cld help you with....well, whoever is the current one!

posted September 12, 2006 01:42 PM         

Anyways. The thing is he definitely likes me. But is taking ages to do anything concrete. And i am so hyper-imaginative. One day he acts cold and i begin to run all kinds of negative possiblities in my mind. I am fed up of his running hot and cold.

He likes me sure, but if he just wants to sit on his ass and do nothing abt it then tht's not going to do. Why can't he just ask me on a date alone rather than tagging someone along. i confess tht it wud make us both nervous as hell, but then one day we hv to do it, right ?

I guess I am too impatient.

posted September 12, 2006 10:01 PM         

Well, after a lot of trying not to think negatively, I hv finally been able to analyse the situation and present it here for you.
You know he does these silly things sometimes tht really make my heart stop....like waiting for me before class, or trying to make a mental picture of wht i do on weekends (poor thing he doesnt knw i dont follow a schedule like him).

And then at other times, like today, I called him and he hardly talked. I felt soo bad. Like i was the one running after him (which is probably true...but he doesnt exactly run away ). And when I saw him today, he acted distant. We both did, me bcoz of the way he talked to me on phone. Another common friend was present, and really i felt as if we both behaved like we didnt even knw each other. We were supposed to go and see a 'free' movie with this friend later. But I backed out because I was too confused with his behaviour. It seems to me like he is doubly conscious whn this other friend is around, in case he guesses wht's going on. Bcoz as soon as tht friend left, he acted much more normally, as if the mask was shed. We made eye contact, and he tried to make small talk. (Earlier he wasnt even looking at me!).

posted September 13, 2006 10:39 AM         

and yeah inlove , they are ******** slow bcos for them , its always a relation for whole life .
i'll tell you a secret about myself , i have a tendency to act quite helpful and generous to all the people that i meet and thats the reason i keep looking at people witha suspicious eye too . both the things happen at the same time .
if you see it closely , it actually is a defensive mechanism at work .

send me your mail id , i'll send my handwrittings .

::::You know he does these silly things sometimes tht really make my heart stop....like waiting for me before class, or trying to make a mental picture of wht i do on weekends (poor thing he doesnt knw i dont follow a schedule like him).
:::::

you bet , he is definitely into you .
may be , he still might not have concluded to have a life long relation (though its not very tough for them , they commitvery fast , if they are in love ) but he would definitely like and respect you always unless you do something that breaks his heart .

::::And then at other times, like today, I called him and he hardly talked::::

ah, that happens with me too .
besides shy ness , it has other reasons too .
you want me to go deep into that ?

posted September 13, 2006 05:54 PM         

well u can send me the handwriting at quicksilver.alchemy@gmail.com

Hmmm....ya, i think he likes me. But you know I can't help thinking negatively sometimes. There hv been times in the past whn a guy liked me but then suddenly disappeared. And I am extra-worried in his case bcoz he is a cancerian, cancerians r close to their families, and his family is conservative

But i definitely like him a LOT, and this time (i think) it is not just due to fantasizing.

Yeah he does those cute things, but tries not to show me. I guess he is shy. What other reason cud thr be for his acting cold? Can u tell me in more detail?

Other than tht, wht makes me think negatively...hmmm. There is the age difference. He is younger than me by 2.5 yrs. It doesnt bother me as such, but I dont knw abt him (and his parents). And then thr is the religious and cultural difference. How do guys feel abt older girls ?

He doesnt seem to be a conservative person himself. And seems quite mature too, altho he is quite fun-loving. Temperament wise he is quite level-headed and calm. Well, I cud go on and on in his praise

posted September 14, 2006 01:34 AM         

well about the cancerians there are two type of cancerian , those who are out of their shell , those who are not .

and i have myshelf seen some pretty ******** cancerians male .

so this for you to decide , is he in or out of the shell .

if he is out , nothing matters . no age , no family , no insecurities , not bcos they dobt have their importance but bcos he knows how to keep a balance .

i love my family but i would very much make a balance between my woman and my family .
and cancerians are pretty democratic and believing in equality kind of people , so age and all dont matter .
may be thats also the reason , they dont run after woman , their philosphy -why should they be the only one to do the running , when women are being given same importance (in their minds) why can't they do it .
add to it , the shyness and all .

there are a lot of reasons why , he or me or we act cold.

cancerians , i believe are normally level headded unless ofcurse they feel betrayed .
cancerians can be bloody viloent people .
i am . i am quite short tempered but i dont keep it for long.

posted September 24, 2006 08:28 AM         

CancerRG, u were right !!! he had said those things about being selfish and stingy just to test me i guess. things have taken a queer turn all of a sudden. He has changed towards me.

All of a sudden, he is soooo caring towards me that i can't believe it. listens to me with total attention, no making fun like before (not tht i minded tht), is behaving like a total gentleman towards me. Ooops, i mean like a total CANCERIAN towards me. I am so taken aback. Its like a dream come true....sigh !

We talk and talk and talk!! He told me so many things about myself. Like why he went skydiving. i thought he had gone becoz he liked it. he told me he went bcoz he was scared of even roller coaster rides and used to get sick. so went just to overcome his fears!

Oh my God, am i dreaming?