posted May 08, 2007 02:52 PM              

The scenario you mentioned - of you going all the way to his house with food and him ignoring you is... well.. unnacceptable behaviour. If he was too busy he shouldn't have suggested you visit.

Thing is unless you say something he won't think about it and he'll just keep behaving this way. By staying silent you are allowing the pain to stay inside you fermenting and sending the message to him that you are fine with it all. That doesn't serve him any more than it does you.

I'm an Aquarius female and consequently I get on famously with Aquarian men. Of those I have met few would wish to be hurting another.

In my life so far I have learned that one of the most important factors in a relationship is good communication (so speaks the air sign ). If you can talk about a problem, you can solve it. Most likely your Aquarian man will feel the same way. If you truly cannot be upfront with him and connect in this way why do you want to be with him? Why do you feel you love him if you cannot be yourself?

posted May 09, 2007 01:36 PM              

You do sound very pragmatic about it all - which is good. After all the letter was obviously true to your feelings so you have honored yourself by sending it. Well done you

A good friend of mine has the Sun and Moon in Aquarius. It's true to say his view on relationships is unconventional. He really doesn't desire them that much at all and yet he is exceptionally loyal.. he's stayed in touch with me for 15 years, albeit in a random way. Of course this isn't to say all other Sun-Moon Aquarians are like this, it's just interesting to me especially since he's a very warm, affectionate person.

The pull you mention implies to me that there is some kind of karmic thing going on here. Perhaps there is something to balance with him or it may be a personal growth thing. It seems the issue of speaking out and defending yourself could be the key.

Where is your Moon? Do you and your Aqua have strong Saturn and/or Nodal contacts?

Just stay true to yourself - you won't hurt others by doing so unless they have expectations of you and as you are one who accepts others exactly as they are then this will eventually reflect back in your relationships.

posted May 10, 2007 05:57 PM              

Those are bit aspects you share! It does sound like it could share the living daylights out of him and I can understand the pull a whole lot better now! All I can say is ‘let him change you’ that’s what his Uranus could do to your Sun. It’s almost like you’ve met him so he can free your spirit As an Aquarian I see this as a beautiful experience and when Uranus transited my Sun I was literally ‘high’ and also took up Astrology right then. If the freedom doesn’t capture you then perhaps you will enjoy the potentially increased intuition and inspiration around him.

What is your time together like? Do you feel you can read his emotions better than he would naturally express them? That Venus-Chiron conjunction is lovely, as is the reciprocal Chiron aspect he has to your Moon. You both feel so bare and vulnerable together huh? It’s natural to put up barriers but there must have been times when you have surpassed the defenses?

Moon in Capricorn requires nurture to trust and share completely… though his Chiron of course can get close it all depends on how he ‘deals with his Chiron’. The natural reaction with Chironic vulnerability is withdrawal… it takes time and searching to step beyond this, it’s worth it of course but it usually takes the time.

Your Mars on his Sun made me smile too – isn’t that so apt to our conversation? That I guess you are suppose to bring out your fire and speak your mind.

The nodal aspects I was expecting – purely based on my own experiences of powerful bonds. Interesting to note his Moon-Pluto opposition… am I reading that correctly though – his Pluto conjunct your SN and your NN conjunct his Aqua Moon puts his Pluto in Leo which makes him in his 50s.. and he doesn’t sound like he is?? So I won’t look into a Moon-Pluto opp for now.

Have you heard back from him yet? Does he always take this long to respond? Is it a way of controlling the energy between you… to convince himself he IS in control hmmmn.

Hey don't mind me and my Moon-Pluto square I don't want to probe too much but it interests me.

posted May 11, 2007 01:16 PM            

I forgot where I got this but its true..

The Aquarius partner

Air signs live in the world of ideas, and they're frightened of strong emotions. This is truer of Aquarius than any other sign. They're not the world's most romantic or effusive lovers. They are often extraordinarily naive in matters of the heart, which contradicts the sophistication of their ideas. Sincerity, integrity, fairness and loyalty are among the Aquarian partner's most admirable qualities. But because he can be clumsy with emotions, he usually means what he says. He doesn't really know how to play subtle emotional games. So if he says, "I love you," you can count on it...
http://mizian.com.ne.kr/englishwiz/library/names/zodiac/acquarius.htm

posted May 11, 2007 01:20 PM            

Heres some tips if you actually decide to try the impossible(aka understand a aquarian):

1. be patient, without this youre pretty much S-C-R-E-W-E-D, I use to think I was the most impatient person in the world, hell I still am, but somehow with him, It's like he transformed me into a much more patient person, maybe it's just with him, or maybe I'v changed in general.

2. Play mind games, I dont know if they purposely try to play mind games or what, but if youre not familar with aquarian you*ll automatically assume hes playing hard to get, which pretty much is, he just does it without realizing it or so they want us to think...mm hmm..

3. Don't call him a lot, don't talk to him a lot, just keep contact to a minimal, well in the beg. anyway, they need this thing called space, and if you dont give that to them, well, you'll get a sharp tongue jammed in your ear.It seems to me the only ways to get to his heart is to treat him like butter. In all honestly, it's sad but true, and maybe this is just the Aqua I know but you have to treat them like butter or they*ll treat you like butter.

4. understand he's not like other people, he's different, and thats what you adore about the ass, he's so different from other people you can't help but want to follow him into the forest of his out of this world perspective...

5. Don't cry a lot, Okay, you can be emotional, sentimental, but not over the top, they usually tend to get very uncomfortable, don't know what to say, and get completely silent, not the good kind of silence, the silence that pulls your skin off your body...::shivers:::

6. he wants to be friends first!, thats how the relationship of love usually develops, rarely will a aquarian just date someone theyve known for little time, and if they do, it doesnt last.

7. if youre unique, out there, sweet, kind, intelligent, loving, funny, nonconformist, youre SET, these are usually what aqua's are looking for, plus beauty usually sets their eyes on you in a sweet way.

8. If he seems like he's ignoring you, he's not, he's busy, doing his own thing, wrapped up in work, or his little box...ignore him, thats the only way unfortanely, and when you do finally get him off your damn mind he shows up out of nowhere like nothing happened, ready to talk your ear off...sigh..

9. he has a weird sense of humor, he'll say silly things and sometimes its funny and sometimes its not, but laugh anyway, he'll love you for it...but dont do it in a fake sense...

10. dont try to make him jealous,Does not WORK, I REPEAT DONT TRY THIS, DONT DONT DONT, YOU'LL LOOK FLASHY AND FOOLISH, dont bother, it wont work, he'll just say "thats nice" calm calm calm..

11. you want to ask him something? holy butter dont expect a BULLbutter answer! expect the truth, even if it hurts, his words stand on a fine line between cruel and sweet...you just breathe easier when it's sweet...trust me when its sweet, it's heaven..

12. stand BY HIM, he might seem like he's pushing you away one minute then holding you close the next, hes probably testing you, examining you, probing in with a flashlight, trying to figure your motives, your thoughts, dont take too much of his aloof BS though, stand your ground once and awhile, he doesnt want a girl he can walk all over but he doesnt want a girl who cries by a drop of a hat...He needs a girl who can handle him, aka a very strong indiviual.

13. He's shy, but has a few close friends, who mean a lot to him..he hates confrontations, and conflict, if you must confront a aqua, expect to deal with a very stubborn uncomfortable situation.

posted May 12, 2007 11:24 AM              

It was difficult to make him show his emotions open wide cause he´s very suspicious about other person´s feelings and truths..

posted May 12, 2007 03:50 PM              

Positive Side
Aquarius is eccentric and he has great intuition and telepathy. Though he is a bit distrait, he can concentrate when he really wants. His ideals are equality, brotherhood, freedom and love for all. He is everybody's friend because he likes helping the others. Aquarius is very compassionate and he thinks that everybody needs to live their one life. He is truthful, tolerate and very curious- he especially likes to analyze people (and then he loses interest for them). He hates lying, cheating and loaning. Life is an experiment for him and he enjoys studying it.

Dark Side
Aquarius lives fifty years in the future and nobody understands him which leads him to loneliness. We accuse him that he is a lunatic, but maybe he has a brilliant mind! Aquarius often asks direct questions, but he replies imprecisely. He likes having many friends - it doesn't matter wheather they are good or not. He is always in search for reasons to make a revolution, but he lets others to fight his battles. He has very changeable mood. Moreover, he is very distrait.

Money
Money isn't important to Aquarius. He needs to have a partner who will take care of his account.

posted May 12, 2007 05:17 PM            

So a lot of things happened these past hours...intense things... With my conclusion that for more that i would like to be patient, i just can't deal with him anymore. Yesterday, he "pulled out", then he came back, and now he is "gone" again...I think that for my own health, and for his, it's better that we put a definite END to this story. It's really not going anywhere and i think i'm ready for something else, something less dramatic, something genuine, with respect for the other, in a way i'm grateful to him for something important: this experience has shown me that deep inside me there is still LOVE, this has not made me bitter or sad...(i think he couldn't see the spontaneous love that was there, it didn't "speak" to his heart, and there is nothing i can do about this...), what i do wish for him: in his future "encounter", to learn to respect the other person, to show that he cares for her, I wish for him to have a heart.

"Love is worth nothing until it has been tested by its own defeat".

posted May 12, 2007 08:30 PM              

Big hugs to you girl, I hope you are okay. In the end it doesn't really matter what your chart is.... it's the choices you make that eventually make you the person you are. We all deserve love and respect. Of course it all begins with the self but we have to decide what serves us beyond that. Hey if you ever want talk my email is: waxlobster@hotmail.com

ThisDiva - My honest, honest advice would be to walk away. If this guy loves you he doesn't know it yet and what I have learned in this life so far is that somebody who truly cares usually comes back. You can't ask them to open up, to share, to feel, to be..... You could 'wait' but if you did would you still be *you* the whole you?

Go with that beautiful emotional flow that Cancerians have and live your life. Those that love you will be more drawn to you and those that are wrong for you will fall by the wayside. So be it. The truth comes out in the end regardless.