posted September 06, 2007 08:47 PM              

I'm perpetually confused by an aquarian that I'm sure is my twin soul. I'm hoping that reading about my situation will maybe help you to understand yours a little better...

Linda says in Sun Signs that an aquarius male will never forget his first true love... ever. Also, that they will compare all future lovers to her. Still, he would prefer the memories of that love rather than go through all the 'work' of putting the relationship back together.

As you may have read in the posts before ours... "an aquarian always comes back". I'm an aquarian's first true love and have been suffering emotionally for 4 years at the hand of his unpredictable behaviors. I still FEEL that he loves me and will come back for me when the time is truly right... whenever the heck that is.

Since our breakup(4years ago) I have not moved on despite my nuuuuumerous efforts to connect with other guys romantically. I'm one to always trust my intuition, so I will probably always believe that he is coming back for me. But, since I have no idea when that could happen, I would really love to have a relationship in the meantime like he has had...many. I'm sure somehow my love for him has hindered me from finding someone else, but I feel so open to it!

1 year ago he told me that he's had lots of girlfriends but none of them were "real". He also said he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me many times even though I lied and tried to use my gemini charm to convince him that I only wanted a fling. Of course he knew i was lying... this kid lives in my head! The reason he gave to me was "with you, I know it's the real thing". His body language was SCREAMING "I love you! I want you!" the entire time we were talking. Also I was getting his oh so familiar analytical stare. That stare burns straight through me.

I can take this one of two ways.

1. He is fully aware that we're twin souls(in my opinion, we absolutely are) BUT he is still in college, sewing his wild oats and can't give me the relationship I deserve. How typical of an aquarian look into the future, at the big picture, and brush aside any 'selfish' emotions until he has more stability in his life.
2. He doesn't love or care about me enough to have more than a casual fling type-of-deal.

I'm extremely confused and now I'm sure that you are too.

Basically what I'm trying to say is that he will probably always care about her, but who knows when, or even IF he will ever claim her, thanks to that Uranus unpredictability.

Frustrating, huh?

posted September 19, 2007 08:20 AM              

He has 'someone he is in love with' right now but expects me to feel completely platonic about our relationship.

I let him know that I would probably always have some sort of feeling for him and wouldn't be able to relate to him as ONLY a friend that i have no past with. I basically told him that I didnt consider him a friend at all because of the way he's treated me in the past.

That mad him maaaaaaad! He exploded and tried to completely shred my character to pieces. He threw some RIDICULOUSLY ignorant stereotypes at me. He also brought up how I had hooked up with his best friend(another aquarius) one night last year.

I only did it because my aqua had made it very VERY obvious to me that he was NOT interested. His best friend was CLEARLY making advances towards me(in my aqua's house!!) and he didnt react, but left us alone together!!! Later in the night aqua and I had a heart-to-heart and he offered to let me stay at his house that night. He also instructed me to send my ride home since I'd be staying there. Later that night he disappeared... into his bedroom with another girl. The next day he apologized profusely saying he was drunk and passed out(crappy excuse, but believeable knowing his habits)when she crawled into bed with him, and offered to take me and some friends to his summer home for a night. I agreed, of course.

When he picked me up I was completely shocked to see that the only other friends coming with us were a mutual friend and his girlfriend from school. This was a double date... HOW CONFUSING! He was skittish around me that night but wanted me to stay in his bed with him. He was giving me that analytical aquarian stare so I naievely thought that maybe he was reconsidering being in a relationship. I agreed AGAIN. The entire next day he did all he could to avoid talking to or looking at me. This is outrageous because there were only 2 other people with us!!!

Needless to say I was mad as hell. I called him one night soon after. He said he'd call back and did not, of course. This was the last straw for me so I swore to myself that I was done with him FOR GOOD and to finalize my decision, I gave into his friend's strong advances towards me at a party the next week.

Back to the present... The other night he was so angry with me and I have never heard him this way. He asked what I was thinking when I did that. At the same time though, he was putting me down and implying that I had been single for a long time because I was hung up on him... and how pathetic I was for it. I never said I wanted to get back together but he had a whole list made up in his head already of reasons why we couldn't be together. These reasons were just so outrageous and unfounded. He sounded like a narrow-minded old man, that's so atypical of any aquarian. It sounded more like he was trying to convince himself, not me. Especially of the fact that he's in love now. I said good for him. I was being honest.

After the discussion, I sought comfort because of his straight-up character assault on me. He proceeded to drink n entire bottle of Jagermeister.

I'm so angry with him and I really don't want him back. Still I'm so curious to know what he really feels for me. If he doesnt love me and has all these hateful things to say then why does he care about what I do and say SOO much?? Why did he get so incredibly upset?? If he is in love, I would expect him to care less about me.

Do you all think he still loves me, or was he lashing out because of a bruised ego? Should I ignore him? should I be friendly and pretent that his rude comments dont bother me?

posted September 19, 2007 01:30 PM            

Recently I have been pounced on by one, an Aquarian... I dunno whether to be afraid or excited, but good thread!

posted September 21, 2007 03:21 AM              

Everything became so much easier for me/us when I finally realized that there really is no mystery there - my Aqua is what he is, he should be taken at face value, he is open and at the same time distant, but so what? I no longer try to analyze him or his behavior. It took a while getting used to it, but now it almost seems predictable (he's very fixed, with his Sun, ASC, Moon, Mercury, Mars & Neptune in fixed signs).

There is no big mystery there.

Aquas' behavior misleads many, and they must secretly enjoy it ;-) Once you drop the analyzing (or overanalyzing) and take them as they are, it's much much better for everyone involved. That way you will also know if there are real feelings there between two people or "just a mystery to be solved".