posted May 16, 2007 02:18 PM              

Hugs to you. I'm sorry to hear about your experience... what an icy cold reaction.

I hate to say it but maybe this will turn out to be a good thing in the end. You know where you stand now and my opinion is that this guy is NOT worthy of you.

I'm not saying he is a bad person, just that he is taking the 'easy route' rather than being upfront with you.

There are some lovely men out there you know and you will be loved and cherished. I guess we don't know how to appreciate the ones who love us unless we've been hurt.

posted May 17, 2007 04:56 PM            

I don't want to give you any advice, because you are the only one who really knows if this is good for you or not. I understand your situation, and i know i wouldn't be able to just "stay friends". Each story is different. In my case, I am happy that I'm "sticking" to my determination not to see or hear from him again...(because i know he will try to come back, i don't even want or feel the need to check if he sent me an email or not, for me this is a sign that i'm doing much better)...I was like a moth to a flame, killing myself by desire, and this couldn't continue. Now i'm learning to "detach" myself from this energy...i'm getting there, little by little...i'm learning a lot about myself and my inner ressouces, couldn't imagine i would survive this. I'm also realizing how he was playing a role in my own inner play, there was a mirroring effect taking place, a huge one. So i'm starting to feel reborn again and detaching myself from the desire nature...(I believe the transit of Pluto on my ascendant is helping me doing the "cleaning"...).

posted May 17, 2007 05:07 PM              

As to the thing with the medicine "thisdivarocks", I imagine you could be right about him hiding the fact that he went out to buy it for you. I do stuff like that too... The reason why I do it is that I feel that if people knew just how much I care about them, they'd know what power they have to hurt me. It's a great problem for me concerning others that they don't know how sensitive I really am. I'll be really mad one second, and my friends will experience my true fury - but what they can't see is that my face is full of tears when I turn around. I'm never mad for long periods of time. I might be angry for about 5 minutes after talking to the person I'mad at, but after that my anger just turns into sadness. I just pretend to be mad! Which is why I avoid people, just so they won't figure out how close I'm to breaking.

it strikes me that you and your aqua may be the kind of people who misunderstand, hurt and wrong eachother, but that at the end of the day you really do care, and can't avoid eachother!

Dealing with other people is never easy, bc as long as people are different, there will always be conflicts. And thank god for that! Maybe it's a good thing. You can probably learn a great deal from eachother! I do feel that he may need to learn more from you than the other way around, though... But of course, I don't know him. I don't even know you, only you truly know YOU. Maybe not even that.

posted May 23, 2007 05:25 PM              

WALK OUT. Look, he's obviously walking all over you. But worst thing is you let him! It wouldn't be possible for him either, if you didn't let him.

Ok, fine I'm harsh, and believe me I know it. The truth sucks sometimes, and I'm not going to give you a peptalk telling you he loves you and that everything is going to be alright. I don't think that's what you need, you've got enough of it already. Starsign or not, some people are simply arses.

What's even worse here, is you let him disrespect you. You let him get away with everything, and it's really not OK! Apologize for leaving him a love note? I'm sorry but that's about the stupidest thing I've ever heard. And the woman whom he's TOLD you is not his girlfriend, but still sticks around?? Wow.

One is blind in love. You should get out, while you still can. Go and find someone who actually deserves you, and start being the kind of person who actually deserves to be happy!! You can just wait for everything to start coming to you, bc it never will. Go out there and make your own happiness. You're complicating things that aren't really complicated. You're not happy now. What makes you think it's going to change? Has he ever really told you he loves you?