posted May 14, 2009 01:43 PM         

re your remarks on massage, in my opinion the reason it works is BECAUSE it relaxes. stress is the NO 1 cause of disease of ALL kinds, mental and physical. massage should put the "body" in a zone very like meditation at the same time as bringing better circulation to most of the systems within.

but one of the biggest drawbacks to its success is the many people who consider it "just for relaxation". including many therapists!

every function of the body is threatened by stress, which puts it in fight-or-flight "preservation" mode, ie a mode in which NORMAL functions are suspended till the "emergency" is over...

posted May 14, 2009 10:52 PM         

It's good to know you wouldn't put up with physical abuse. The more I learn about you from reading your post the more I can tell you are a genuinely caring person. (And sometimes people like that get taken advantage of by others.)So I am just glad that your strong enough to not take it if he decides to dish it.

I actually feel bad for him too. If he has anger issues means that he isn't happy( of course), and it's sad when someone can't enjoy life and it's wonderfulness.I for one believe there is always a way to deal with issues of any kind, it's just a matter of finding the way. I hope something works out.

posted May 15, 2009 07:05 PM         

Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons afterward.

posted May 15, 2009 08:50 PM         

sounds like you could do some awesome energy work. i'm sure you'll find your path!

and thanks for the comps..!

posted May 22, 2009 04:22 PM         

Seems like you are having a busy routine...

Anyways how's life going...?

posted July 09, 2009 08:52 PM         

I know some people on this board disagree, but I think falling in love with someone you've never met is never real...it's always based on fantasy or delusion. Your sister must feel an absence in her life, and she badly wants to fill it.

Does she have a lot of real, in-person friends? Or, do you have friends and a situation where you could include her in your circle? I feel if she were getting lots of attention in person from smart, cute boys, she might be able to find a more authentic and healthier place to put all that 7th house Pluto energy.

For a Pluto-influenced Leo, sometimes not getting enough affection and validation from people in real life can make us turn to virtual obsessions...even with some of her ballsy and stubborn aspects, that tender Cancer Venus can make her a little fragile about the possibility of rejection.

If you can boost her confidence, get her away from the computer, and put hot, interested, single, real-life guys in her midst, maybe she will rejoin the world of the living. But with her chart, if she's made a decision, I doubt you can budge her. She has to choose a different path HERSELF...all you can do is put healthy alternatives in her line of vision and (internally and selflessly) shower her with extra love and compassion.

posted July 10, 2009 01:50 AM         

Maybe going to a new place on her own is just the thing for her! I'm sorry her idea for it involves a skeevy guy who gave you a (probably prescient, though not literal) nightmare...but she is making a plan to get off the computer and escape and connect with this guy in real life.

With my Leo Sun/Cancer Venus, sometimes I get really fragile about my looks...even if I am thin, doing yoga 6 days a week and people tell me I'm beautiful, sometimes I feel fat, ugly, and wretched...there's something about the combo that makes me go there with the self-criticism right off the bat. I imagine adding Virgo to the mix doesn't help AT ALL. She may feel that this man already loves her, and that he is prepared to want her even if she doesn't look perfect.

posted July 10, 2009 05:03 AM         

I have a somewhat similar chart. With Pluto in the 7th.

I really hope she'll manage to snap out of that fantasy before she acts on it. Maybe it'd be best to stare her away from video games. They are just a way to escape reality.

I've been really into video games but I overcame them by seeing that all the time inputted in them doesn't change the reality of things.

Maybe getting her to see a therapist wouldn't be the worst of things, especially since she's failing to see the big picture on this situation.

And boo for her friends giving her the moral high ground, bad friends to have.

posted July 11, 2009 03:39 PM         

my husband was a twin, and i've watched them over the years with their pushme/pullyou act, fascinating! i think all you can do is concentrate on seeing her back home from her trip happy and safe and maybe having resolved some issues...? and since your charts are so similar maybe take some positive action for yourself that might create a parallel energy to support her with? does that sound loopy??