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posted March 01, 2010 11:32 AM         

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I know how you feel, I'm a caged animal too. Not a lemur, but a half horse. Anyway, my car was stolen last week, and now I am stuck.
My daughter is going to be induced to labor this week, and all this without wheels!!

You are not a disease. You are Leaping, a very brave person, who just happens to have a disease. Which, by the way, probably half the people you work with have. So, screw em, what do they know. They obviously have very boring lives if the best fun they can have is gossiping about you. Don't let people drag you down to their level, cause they will try every chance they get. And you are a leo, proud and regal, just throw back your mane, and stare them in the eye. Who wouldn't back down from a leo? Anybody with common sense would know when to shut up. Jeez, my Little Leo is only 11, and sometimes she scares me with her fury!! It will get better, I swear!!

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I really do believe I'm right about that, because I worked in a doctor's office for a year.

My job was in medical records, and I had to update and organize the charts for over a thousand patients. I know how prevalent this is, and it's young, old, all across the board. So, you have something VERY common.

But, I did learn from the doc, that time does help, and the initial outbreaks are the worst. Also, try to avoid stress, cause I think this can make it flare, like so many other diseases. Plus, the meds they have now, don't they have you on a med that makes you never have an outbreak after the first one? I forget the name of it, but I remember the doc giving it out.

As far as the man at work. Here is my opinion. When someone (especially the opposite sex!) doesn't like you, it usually boils down to jealousy or envy. He probably had at one time feelings of attraction towards you, and he knows he can't have you, and that ****** him off. So, now he thinks he's got some little ammunition in his arsenal, to make YOU feel as crappy as he feels. Well, the thing to do there, is not to let him. Don't go to his level, and that will irritate him even more. Hold your head up high

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posted March 03, 2010 06:46 AM         

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Tell her in a quiet moment that you were actually concerned but you felt uncomfortable saying it there and then. Nothing wrong with a bit of sisterly concern. Coke is a stupid drug, expensive and a blind alley.

I'm really sorry you're having such a tough time.

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Sounds like you need to talk to someone. There is no shame in seeing a therapist!! It doesn't mean you are "crazy" or anything like that, it just means you would like someone to help you sort things out in your mind.

Sounds like the ex's actions have caused a ripple effect in YOUR life, and maybe HE is the one that is gonna get the karma slap??
IDK, not for me to say, but, something similiar happened to me way back in high school.

It took this guy, hmmm, like 15 years to admit what he did.
Then he went into ministry!

I found this image when I got one for Lexx, it reminded me of you, hope you like it...

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Well, it's not necessarily "fair," but, people have their own boundaries. If it's in his value system to dismiss you becos you had sex with a black guy, there isn't much you can really do about that.
I've learned the hard way, that grown people very rarely change their values.

And also, I come from basically the same neck of the woods that you do, and I have Latin blood, and I can say, as a generalization, that Latino men usually do not like their women to see ANY other men, and black would be a big, huge NO NO.
Latino men on the East Coast are brought up this way.
Sad, but true.

I would of thought it had gotten better since I was young, but, apparently it hasn't.

Seriously, my Dad said that if he ever found out that I had a black boyfriend he would disown me and never speak to me again. His own flesh and blood!! I've tried to speak to him about this using logic, but apparently, logic doesn't work when someone feels so inherently strong about a subject.

IDK, Leaping, if you found him, you can find another. I mean, before you met him, you still had a life to live, and you still do now!
If this is how he feels, and plus with the boss thing, do you honestly still want him, or do you just want to have sex with him?

Or has he become a bigger challenge now, and therefore more desirable? I'm not picking on you, btw, I'm just asking you stuff I ask myself in similiar situations.

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Glad to hear that leaping.

Wheels isn't on the board anymore.
If you are on FB, she is there.
She has been working at a museum and loving it.

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