posted January 19, 2010 10:48 PM            

I dont think this is an issue of astrological signs but more a mental issue.

I'm Virgo Sun, Cappy moon, yes I really dont sleep around but I'm not as "paranoid," as your guy sounds to be. Besides, I find myself & other Virgos I know, really open minded (more so than other signs)--until proven something seriously doesnt work.

posted January 20, 2010 03:22 AM              

I understand what all you guys are saying, but i honestly can not live or be with a man like that. And he doesnt look relaxed or anything while hes having sex. He asked me today how he can improve but i dont think its something you can really teach unless your willing to experiment. I mean i cant turn him into a robot saying dont do this or do that.. He needs to relax. Hes shy to even initiate sex. I have to move his hands and tell him how to touch me.

Were going to get a hotel room on monday night for Australia Day and im going to get him really drunk and see if he can relax a bit more and then i will try and corrupt him a bit more :P

I honestly think its very sad that hes lived till 32 and has missed out on great sex. I do think it might even be our synastry. His venus is sextile my mars. I am the mars person here. But even regardless he needs to get out of his shell. I havent had alot of sexual partners and i was worried i would have issues adjusting to a new partner after 10 years with the same person.

Hes very soft and instead of holding me like a man he runs his fingers down my body which not only irritates me and makes me impatient, it isnt even a turn on.

Every other way hes so perfect. Hes romantic hes a dreamer like me but where are his dreams if he doesnt fantasise and live those out?

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posted January 20, 2010 03:29 AM              

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You've got a way with words, Belgz.

But I want to know - how does he do missionary in the shower?

It could be his wife liked his version of sex, so there was no need for him to experiment or do anything differently. Will he do it for you? That's the thing.

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posted January 20, 2010 03:32 AM              

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belgz - either train him fast or get rid of him. My advice is train him fast, because being a Venus in Virgo myself, all I can say is WE ARE HOT when we get started!!!!!!!

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Please tell me how to get this hot side out of himmmmmm

I would definitely love this man alot i i got that out of him..

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posted January 20, 2010 03:37 AM              

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I think it could be moon in the 8th.

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posted January 20, 2010 06:04 AM            

Try these keywords, they will map better than conventional house systems [though harsh aspects to Mars and stelliums near the Ascendant can skew the results]

8th House = Karmic Sex.

9th House = Raunchy Sex (with a Foreigner or in a foreign land during vacation)

10th House = "Perfectly executed" passionate sex.

7th House = Innovative sex

11th House = Artful and Beautiful Sex

1st House = Selfish Sex

2nd House = Clingy Sex

3rd House = Phone Sex/Cyber Sex

4th House = Best sex after marriage

5th House = Joyful, romantic sex

12th House = Sexual Obsession

posted January 20, 2010 06:06 AM            

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Please tell me how to get this hot side out of himmmmmm

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posted January 20, 2010 10:43 AM              

Tonight i made him drink some scotch and tonight it was a very different story !!

Hes improving. Theres hope LOL

But i think virgo combined with cancer shyness .isnt too great. But im virgo rising too and im nothing like him. Looking back at what IQ wrote about the houses..

posted January 20, 2010 12:44 PM              

I wasnt harsh on him, in fact im extra nice since hes such a sook. I think you might be right he may blossom later.

posted January 20, 2010 12:46 PM            

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I understand what all you guys are saying, but i honestly can not live or be with a man like that. And he doesnt look relaxed or anything while hes having sex. He asked me today how he can improve but i dont think its something you can really teach unless your willing to experiment. I mean i cant turn him into a robot saying dont do this or do that.. He needs to relax. Hes shy to even initiate sex. I have to move his hands and tell him how to touch me.

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And you should be with someone who wants the same things as you. Maybe you two are just just different in this area. Give it a chance. He may open up, but if he doesn't you should be with someone who is more in tune with you and so should he.

Re your other guy with moon/8th. I find aqua acts differently on the cusp of the 8th than some other signs.

Vaporlash:

Thanks. I don't have anything in gemini or aries. I'm trying to think of what it could be ( I get this IRL too). It may be aquarius or sag placements, which are all of my placements, really.

posted January 20, 2010 01:18 PM            

Mars in 4th Taurus, Scorpio or Aries, LUST in 10th and EROS in 5th would be one of the best combinations.
Mars in 10th Sag, LUST in 8th and EROS in 5th will work very well too.
Mars conj LUST conj EROS in 10th Scorpio = James Bond.
Mars conj LUST in Aries 10th = Male Wh*re.

Mars in 1st or 5th or 10th Fire Sign alone can be excellent for short term flings.

In most houses, LUST in Leo is NOT so good, EROS in Cancer will be over-chivalrous, EROS in Capricorn takes a while to rev up. 10th or 5th House can mask those deficiencies.

Mars in 2nd Cancer or Pisces squared by Saturn is the most hopeless male as far as sex is concerned. Saving grace for him can be LUST conj EROS in Aries or Scorpio.

Mars square LUST square EROS = Useless/Dangerous Perv, one must look at Nessus here as well!

The above are not rules set in stone, just observations and insights which can be used as a starting point.

For BelgZ:
You are also using an awfully lopsided Placidus Chart for him, that chart is just too innaccurate.

In reality, he is extra Cancerian with 2nd House Cancer Sun and 4th House Virgo Mars. He is incapable of forcing himself on a woman even if he has not had sex for 100 years and they are both alone in an island. He needs rock solid commitment all the time. That moon is 7th Capricorn. Ask yourself this difficult question: Has his social status gone up because of you? Is he with you for this or because he genuinely loves you?
Half his mind is on cash flow and on "being mentally insecure"/worrying for whatever Cancerian reason. He may still be feeling guilty about his ex-wife for all you know. His martial arts career is actually an outlet to convince himself that he is not insecure.

posted January 20, 2010 01:51 PM            

What would you look for in a woman`s chart in terms of her sexuality?
Venus, Psyche and Aphrodite maybe?
Or Juno?

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Belgz,
I hope you can get this sorted out, especially if he really is that nice and sweet.

posted January 20, 2010 02:36 PM            

On to his chart. He has an earth grand trine with Moon-Chiron-Venus. Looks like Chiron is on his Moon/Venus mp.

I'd say his emotional nature is blocked in some way. If you can open him in that area, he'll become more open and expressive sexually as well. The emotions (Moon and Venus) are linked to his sexuality (earth grand trie). Especially since he's a Cancer, feeling secure emotionally is vital for him. Chiron impacting his Moon & Venus shows that there's something heavy going on preventing him from feeling that security. Since it's a grand trine, he has the potential for expressing those elements of himself with a skill that could surpass even a Leo Venus' standards . But as long as one part is suffering, the whole grand trine is going to be working kinda crappy. My opinion.