posted January 20, 2010 10:00 PM              

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He needs rock solid commitment all the time. That moon is 7th Capricorn.

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He wants commitment. When i tell him i just came out of a 10 year relationship he still insists he wants to make things permanant with me. He keeps telling me how hes scared of losing me because he thinks im too into my freedom. I like keeping the distance.

Hes actually friends with my ex boyfriend. Well they were!

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Ask yourself this difficult question: Has his social status gone up because of you? Is he with you for this or because he genuinely loves you?

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We started this relationship in a funny way. One day on the phone we decided wed put up our statuses as in a relationship to get back at our exes. But that same time when we met up after 10 years of not seeing each other he wanted to start dating me. He was com-plimenting me and blah blah and it became something. Everyone was so happy for us. But it started as a joke. Everyone we knew were ringing the both of us and within 20 minutes of putting up a pic of us both we had like 30 comments. Everyone knows the both of us very well i dont know if its a status thing but everyone sure is talking about it.

Funny how you mention money as well. HE broke up with his ex wife because she wouldnt work and left him with all this responsibility of paying off a mortgage and a business loan. HE gave her the opportunity to work but she didnt. She also had a 2 year old at the time. Other than that she never coked or cleaned for him (so he says) and was just out shopping all day spending money and stealing money from his wallet.

Suddenly he got a nice transit of uranus making a trine to his sun and he built the courage to break up with her. His reason for leaving in my opinion is based on money. Typical of those cancer and capricorn placements. We both have jupiter in 2nd but i dont look at money the same way he does.

posted January 20, 2010 10:28 PM              

I have:

*Eros and Lust and chiron in 8th in Taurus.
*I have mars conjunct MC (wide) in 10th
*These make a sextile aspect to my cancer planets.

He has:

*Nothing in 8th
*Mars in 5th

And another thing i noticed is that both our 8th house rulers are exactly conjunct!!

My 8th house ruler is venus and his is saturn. I dont think my venus likes his saturn on top of me like that My eros and lust are sextile his mars and venus. Its either these syanstry aspects
are great like i think they are but he has personal sexual issues or our synastry denies sexual energy and chemistry and hes incompetent.

Our 5th house rulers are sextile. I would assume we should be having the time of our lives. Maybe his 8th house ruler being saturn denies him great sex.

He has personality wise everything i wished for in a guy i guess i didnt wish for the part where he needed to be able to take me out of this world when having sex.

What would it mean with our 8th house rulers exactly conjunct?

Am i coming on too strong for this guy? I havent really been sexual with alot of guys and i know hes been around with other girls in the last 18 months since him and his wife separated. Maybe thats why he didnt last with any of these other girls.

posted January 21, 2010 01:29 AM            

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definetly lots of hard saturn aspects.

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HUH? lol

posted January 21, 2010 09:03 AM              

Yes hopefully if it works out.

PeaceAngel,

LMAO LOL HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA @ michael Jackson being a Virgo.

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posted January 21, 2010 10:31 AM            

My reasoning:
1. The relationship started as a double rebound.

2. Saturn conj Venus in Leo as pointed out already is a wet blanket with a hose attached. Karmic yes, but fun ... NO WAY!!!

3. To avert point 2, you need a good LUST aspect. What he has got is the worst: LUST sq Mars. The giggle story shows that the sexual adolescence is refusing to grow up.

4. True Nodes are squared. This is a clash of best paths for Spiritual Actualization. If basic needs are unfulfilled, how will Spiritual life improve?

5. His Saturn squares your Eros, that is the last straw.

posted January 21, 2010 01:46 PM              

I wouldn't say I don't like sex but sex kind of annoys me and I think it has to do with everyone being so open with their sex lives around me and having run in on people in the act or people calling me on the phone whilst they have sex or me having to wait on a friend having sex whilst I stay down stairs was probably the most irritating one..>_>;

I can remember a time a girl I barely knew who was just a friend of a friend was telling me how she likes to be double stuffed,,

posted January 21, 2010 03:06 PM            

Besides, I have an unfair advantage in understanding what BelgZ wants because my wife has Sun, Mercury in 10th and Venus in 11th.
She would give BelgZ a medal of honour for being so patient [But then my wife is Scorpio... Cancer ladies are definitely patient and forgiving].

I dont know if this will ring true for all signs/houses but 10th Sun-Mars-Merc ladies do need: (If any guys are reading this, this could turn out to be very useful if you land yourselves a 10th House hottie)

1. Sexual mind games. They ABHOR sexual routine like every Tuseday and Saturday 10:30 PM. They should be TOLD that it is going to be Tuesday 10:30 PM, then take em by surprise Tuesday morning. Going late to work because of this gets you Tuesday night as reward. Next week it should be Monday night and the week later the timetable becomes the surprise.

2. Foreplay should be primarily through direct eye-contact or a constant "I WANT YOU" gaze. If a man is not confident about this, then the relationship wont click.
And same position all the time is a cardinal sin.

3. These ladies want to melt in their man's arms, and for that they need to be held with intensity.
Soft hands can be a turn off on many occasions. Soft hands imply fear/insecurity.

4. Venus in 11th needs plenty of INDIRECT compliments and flirting even on non-sex days. Funnily, less flirting is ok on sex days, to keep the guessing game going.

5. Every once in a while, there is a need for direct and commanding body language, followed by a demand for a passionate night. There is a need to feel hungrily wanted in these ladies but I repeat, once in a while. Most of the times it is all about point 1 and 2.

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posted January 21, 2010 03:46 PM            

Can you do a list please for the same planets in 11th house!?

So very interesting turn this thread has got since IQ pitched up

posted January 21, 2010 04:04 PM            

1. Sexual mind games. They ABHOR sexual routine like every Tuseday and Saturday 10:30 PM. They should be TOLD that it is going to be Tuesday 10:30 PM, then take em by surprise Tuesday morning. Going late to work because of this gets you Tuesday night as reward. Next week it should be Monday night and the week later the timetable becomes the surprise.

Completely true! I get bored pretty easily and I love surprises.

2. Foreplay should be primarily through direct eye-contact or a constant "I WANT YOU" gaze. If a man is not confident about this, then the relationship wont click.
And same position all the time is a cardinal sin.

This is SO true - it's just ridiculous. This is exactly what I would want. Lots of eye-contact. Not just in foreplay.. but also when I initially meet someone before he approaches me romantically - He has to make direct eye contact. I often make direct eye contact myself (usually in a sensual/pleasant way - def. not in an intimidating way).. It makes me uncomfortable if they get awkward or shy about this.

3. These ladies want to melt in their man's arms, and for that they need to be held with intensity.
Soft hands can be a turn off on many occasions. Soft hands imply fear/insecurity.

I was JUST saying this in my Venus/Mars turn ons/offs - thread. I can't stand "soft hands". It's almost like nails on a chalkboard for me.

4. Venus in 11th needs plenty of INDIRECT compliments and flirting even on non-sex days. Funnily, less flirting is ok on sex days, to keep the guessing game going.

Definitely true! Although if there is *only* flirting - it would put me off.. because I like guys who can talk about anything and everything.

5. Every once in a while, there is a need for direct and commanding body language, followed by a demand for a passionate night. There is a need to feel hungrily wanted in these ladies but I repeat, once in a while. Most of the times it is all about point 1 and 2.

No - I *always* want to feel hungrily wanted lol. Ok, they can take a brake on occasion But this is something else I mentioned a few threads back. I'll quote what I said here. I feel like you're reading my mind IQ.

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I'm not a jealous person. In my past patterns of attraction - I only end up in serious relationships with men whom I truly feel LOVED by. If I feel uncertain - like either MY heart or theirs isn't actually *there* completely.. I wouldn't enter a "relationship".

Any whiff of uncertainty from a man, any whiff of slight rejection.. puts me off. It's not a feeling of "hurt". It just feels like a put-off.. because I want something intense and mutual. So if he doesn't feel intensely passionate about me - I don't go there.. I lose interest.

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posted January 21, 2010 05:39 PM              

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BelgZ,
I will be brutally honest with you.
He will not be able to sustain the sexual tempo well into a long term relationship with you, even though he will be a gem of a guy and a wonderful friend.
My reasoning:
1. The relationship started as a double rebound.

2. Saturn conj Venus in Leo as pointed out already is a wet blanket with a hose attached. Karmic yes, but fun ... NO WAY!!!

3. To avert point 2, you need a good LUST aspect. What he has got is the worst: LUST sq Mars. The giggle story shows that the sexual adolescence is refusing to grow up.

4. True Nodes are squared. This is a clash of best paths for Spiritual Actualization. If basic needs are unfulfilled, how will Spiritual life improve?

5. His Saturn squares your Eros, that is the last straw.

Again, let me reiterate, he may be an excellent human being, and some girl out there whose Mars/LUST/Eros conjuncts his Sun may find him very erotic but it will be difficult for him to match up to your sexual needs

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posted January 21, 2010 08:55 PM              

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1. Sexual mind games. They ABHOR sexual routine like every Tuseday and Saturday 10:30 PM. They should be TOLD that it is going to be Tuesday 10:30 PM, then take em by surprise Tuesday morning. Going late to work because of this gets you Tuesday night as reward. Next week it should be Monday night and the week later the timetable becomes the surprise.

2. Foreplay should be primarily through direct eye-contact or a constant "I WANT YOU" gaze. If a man is not confident about this, then the relationship wont click.
And same position all the time is a cardinal sin.

3. These ladies want to melt in their man's arms, and for that they need to be held with intensity.
Soft hands can be a turn off on many occasions. Soft hands imply fear/insecurity.

4. Venus in 11th needs plenty of INDIRECT compliments and flirting even on non-sex days. Funnily, less flirting is ok on sex days, to keep the guessing game going.

5. Every once in a while, there is a need for direct and commanding body language, followed by a demand for a passionate night. There is a need to feel hungrily wanted in these ladies but I repeat, once in a while. Most of the times it is all about point 1 and 2.

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100% SPOT ON!!

Look i dont want to sound like a nympho or anything because im far from it but i think its essential to have sex minimum once a day EVERYDAY.. Reason i posted this on here is because i believe astrology tells us alot about our energy with other people.

He doesnt think that sex everyday is essential either. How can somebody not see that as important. I believe if people arnt having sex as a couple then the relationship has died. Theyre not bonding or interacting. Sex shows you love someone and sex shows attraction and if you havent mastered that well then you sure havent mastered love. My mum keeps telling me marriage and relationships are not about sex and that after a few years that wont matter but eventually it will depress me and i will want to go elsewhere. I dont like hugging and kissing but i enjoy being physical sexually. I need to know he desires me and i still desire him. Its a great way to release my energy as well, without it i can be very moody and argue constantly. Lots of people become bitter and ugly without it. It makes me love that person more and crave them when i dont have it. If theres no chemistry do you think i would want to do anything for this man? NOPE!!

I will eventually get bored without it and shut him out completely.

My ex bf who im always comparing with was a taurus and so was my ex bf they seem to be the only sign that dont mind having sex constantly. They love being physical. And Iq your right my lust and eros are in taurus too. My ex bf had EROS exactly conjunct my venus rather than saturn and even up until the last day we had great sex and physically we were inseperable regardless of the argueing and fighting. It was passionate sex where i would forget i was even in this world when we were together. He had venus in aries. He loved to persist and my venus in leo loves to deny and play and make him desire it more. I think venus in leo loves to play cat and mouse.

The descriptions you gave with placements in the 10th house decribes me and him. I never used to like to sit next to him whenever we went somewhere because id love him to sit in front of me where i can make eye contact with him but he would know what i meant and i would read exactly what he wanted my looking at him in the eyes. It was constant foreplay and it kept everything exciting and stimulating for 10 years.