posted November 07, 2015 06:00 PM            

You cited:
"I dont like a man to look after me at all. I hate being told what to do or ever depending on a man for anything. I dont ever expect a guy to fight my battles or start trouble if im out and another guy looks or says anything. I like a guy to be sensitive towards me if im emotional which doesnt happen too often but if it does just like every other girl i wouldnt want him to be as a$$hole to me. I dont and have never let another guy pay my bills or when i go out buy my drinks. I dont allow my parents to shout me food or drinks either. Its just how i am. So all of that "take care of me" crap does not work for me at all. It might be nice if i could do it but i would lose my independance if i did that and its very embarressing to have someone do things for me, help me etc."

Agreed! That expressed exactly what I wanted to say.

And you said:

"That kind of looking after is patronising and dependent and while I'll let a guy take me out for dinner or whatever (only cos every single time I go to pay, my attempts are futile no matter how strongly I protest. Its just easier to let them pay), i don't allow for them to pay for anything else to make my lifestyle better cos that's when they think you owe them something and that's when emotional and mental power games come into play."

Totally agreed! Nothing worst than feeling "in debt".

"I don't like violent or aggressive guys who like to fight or start arguments. I like and attract bad boys, but they come in many different forms that don't require tatts or a criminal record. A bad boy is someone who doesn't follow rules and it sparks my interest when I see that in a normal situation, like at work seeing someone stand up for themselves to a manager who's an a*shole makes me think, "Hmmm..there's a bit of fire in you.."
I'm attracted to raw, masculine power".

That absolutely makes me attracted too. I love assertive, self-confident men who are able to stand up for themselves and believe in their dreams even if no one else does.

"I liked to be looked after in the sense that I'm so independent and strong and so busy being in control of my life that I need someone stronger than me who isn't going to break when I lean on them when I'm exhausted."

True! That's what I want too!

"I've been taking care of myself for so long with no real support and taking care of others at the same time, these little, pointless efforts to take care of me are very much appreciated.
I guess its the dad complex thing, as mine wasn't the type to hug and kiss me and left me to my own devices. There's been so many times where i've been suffering and my parents haven't noticed or cared to ask, thinking that I'm so independent that I don't need help or support.
To see the opposite in a guy is very attractive to me".

I feel identified with that in the sense that my father was also distant -not a bad father and not that I blame him, everybody has their own personality, but he definitely didn't involve as much as my mother, who was more caring. Besides I was also very independent growing up.

posted November 07, 2015 06:58 PM            

My ideal date would be with Scorpio.
I had made huge list of how I wanted male full of contradictions. Confident yet sweet and so forth. Perhaps balanced that's what I meant.

Major Turn Ons
- Good Listener
- Good Manners
- Smart, Practical yet Ambitious
- Positive, Uplifting and Risk Taking
- Caring without suffocating
- Enjoys his work.
- Wants to work towards good lifestyle
- Loyalty and Honesty in good dose but I know meaning changes once you are married

Major turn offs
- Insecurity
- Possessiveness
- Over Protectiveness
- Over Critical
- Know it alls

posted November 07, 2015 09:06 PM            

Idk I like a guy who is more outgoing or extroverted than me. Most guys I've dated have been really active, tried the whole sports thing as kids only to end up musicians or artists: p

posted November 08, 2015 03:25 AM            

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Originally posted by GrlyGirl20:
I was thinking about this and being that I am single what type of guy I'd like to date next. I'm a Cancer Mars in the 1st Conjunct both my Sun and Asc. And the type of guy I like is deff a mans man...a bad as*...like he fights (not all the time lol), LOVES sports, works on cars, aggressive...basically all the typical Man stuff...BUT is in private a real softy.

I read this...and was really liking it lol. It speaks to the kind of guy I like.

"If you have Mars in Aries, you are especially drawn to strong or athletic men and "macho" types; and have an even more aggressive inner "warrior woman" who loves action, competition, and challenges - perhaps even a good fight now and then"

But also this describes me to a t...not so much the liking my mom. "But If you have Mars in Cancer, you may be particularly drawn to a protective and mature man, and possibly to one who acts like a "father-figure" to you."

So do any of you see this in common with your mars? I think the reason mine might be so like the Aries more than the Cancer is because the 1st is such a strong house. And it's conjunct all my stuff.

What are your thoughts on this?
http://www.astrologyzine.com/index.shtml

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posted November 08, 2015 08:39 AM            

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Originally posted by mamawolf:
Aries 12H trine Venus/Uranus 8H, sextile Moon 10H, square Sun 9H

Idk I like a guy who is more outgoing or extroverted than me. Most guys I've dated have been really active, tried the whole sports thing as kids only to end up musicians or artists: p

I attract guys who like myself, live alternatively and gives no f***s about being part of the norm. He is passionate and independent until he dates me and turns into a cuddle monster who loves to be the little spoon sometimes lol.

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That sounds nice too, mamawolf. I like men who are more extrovert than me as well. What's your Mars sign?

posted November 08, 2015 08:50 AM            

Sun libra 5th house conjunct Chiron
Moon Sagittarius square Saturn and conjunct Jupiter
Mars Scorpio 6th

posted November 08, 2015 09:56 AM            

I'm attracted to true neutral type.

And a resilient, undemanding, mild, non pushy, emotionally collected, cool/level-headed, mentally stimulating man is a good choice of partner for me. Analytical. Slightly blasé. Has some artistic streaks. Has a light hearted attitude. Lol I've just described my s.o.

posted November 08, 2015 02:00 PM            

I'm stupidly attracted to the intellectual types. Someone I can have endless conversations with. I LOVE a good conversation/debate, especially if he wins! haha.

posted November 09, 2015 12:38 AM            

Mars in Aqua in 6th

Yes:

--can be my friend first
--articulate, educated, can keep up with me in conversation without being intimidated
--curious
--reads
--respects my opinions, tastes, views
--not traditionally or conventionally masculine
--broadminded
--prefers creative, artistic or intellectual pursuits
--independent minded, doesn't need to be part of "the crowd"
--sensitive and compassionate without being excessively emotional; some moodiness OK
--introspective
--has a methodical/intellectual approach to romance
--comfortable being equals in most areas of the relationship but a little on the dominate side with sex/sensual pursuits

No:

--show-offs, braggarts
--lots of emotional displays, attention-seeking, drama
--pettiness, peevishness
--rigidly heteronormative
--intolerant, bigoted
--really into sports
--condescending, patronizing
--concerned about status symbols
--religious

posted November 09, 2015 02:07 AM            

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Originally posted by GrlyGirl20:

I read this...and was really liking it lol. It speaks to the kind of guy I like.

"If you have Mars in Aries, you are especially drawn to strong or athletic men and "macho" types; "

"But If you have Mars in Cancer, you may be particularly drawn to a protective and mature man,

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That fits me perfectly!(I have cancer mars in the 2th house.)

posted November 09, 2015 02:44 AM            

so i am worried about myself lol or you made unrealistic man ideal ??? but i guess there is a lot of man with positive features In real life as you listed, the brad pitt with sick glasses freshly out the plane...

often, i think your "no" list is harder to reach than you yes list.

when i read that topic, i said : "they ask too much, far too much"

now i really hope i will stay single all my life.

i am :

-Moody
-lazy +++
-very possessive and jealous
-overcritical(virgo rising)
-knwo it all
-wild,primitive, savage +++++++++++++++
- very arrogant ++++++
-broke
-i have insecurities
-somewhat tired of listening but i can be a good one when i want
- i did job i did'nt enjoy because life u know
-i would like to have a goodlife style but i don't come from the rich quarters...
-i can lie to escape anything bothering me.
- also bad intensity towards others sometimes

posted November 09, 2015 03:41 AM            

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Originally posted by visions:
so i am worried about myself

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If you decide to work on yourself and become a "better man", it won't seem that impossible to you. It's a matter of what you want in life...
It's a hard truth, but if you're lazy and don't have anything going for you, you'll hardly attract (but especially keep) anyone. :/ The least you can do is show some ambition or determination, in at least ONE area... Self-improvement, work, social causes, etc. Anything. But more particularly I would advise to work on your qualities/flaws... "Be the person you want to be with" is a fitting quote, in my view.

posted November 09, 2015 04:17 AM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
If you decide to work on yourself and become a "better man", it won't seem that impossible to you. It's a matter of what you want in life...
It's a hard truth, but if you're lazy and don't have anything going for you, you'll hardly attract (but especially keep) anyone. :/ The least you can do is show some ambition or determination, in at least ONE area... Self-improvement, work, social causes, etc. Anything. But more particularly I would advise to work on your qualities/flaws... "Be the person you want to be with" is a fitting quote, in my view.

Don't lose hope.

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actually i tried a lot to change myself but now as i am 36yo, despite all my efforts, i cannot change who i am and i will say i even get more shortcomings than when i was Young especially embittered(++++) or i think i faced and now i ilive my shortcomings truthfully, so yeah most of time it scary people but i feel freer, but it's hard to attract then lol !

i agree with you doux reve and it's a very good advice at least focus on a good side of me and develop it.

i think us, man, if this thread was :"for man only!! Venus and the type of venus you want" we probably be even more critical and craving for the perfection than what the women wrote here.

i will say in my opinion what i want in a woman :

posted November 09, 2015 04:19 AM            

haha!!

posted November 09, 2015 04:24 AM            

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Originally posted by visions:
actually i tried a lot to change myself but now as i am 36yo, despite all my efforts, i cannot change who i am and i will say i even get more shortcomings than when i was Young especially embittered(++++) or i think i faced and now i ilive my shortcomings truthfully, so yeah most of time it scary people but i feel freer, but it's hard to attract then lol !

i agree with you doux reve and it's a very good advice at least focus on a good side of me and develop it.

i think us, man, if this thread was :"for man only!! Venus and the type of venus you want" we probably be even more critical and craving for the perfection than what the women wrote here.

i will say in my opinion what i want in a woman :

- one who claim her shorcomings and her shadow, and then face it. a woman like that will immediatly get my attention.

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posted November 09, 2015 05:17 AM            

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Originally posted by visions:
easy to say when you are in las vegas with beautiful and paradise surroundings...isn't a conveying land to laziness ?

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posted November 09, 2015 12:06 PM            

To be clear, I believe when I was younger I was about 80% lesbian, and became 90% as I got older...complicated by that I'm demisexual (and yet I typically have more male friends than female). One thing everyone (male and female) I've been strongly attracted to had in common is that we were friends (as opposed to just meeting) and s/he had a humorous streak, as described being desired by a Sag Mars woman. And I felt I had things to learn from all of them.

That said, there are plenty I feel this way about who I don't feel attraction to (though I still like them).

It might also give me an extra bit of insight. The one person who cheated on me terribly had powerful Aries placements (including Mars). She was most attracted to me when there was competition (that is others wanted me as well). As people finally accepted we were a solid couple, perhaps she then felt the need to spice it up by playing a dangerous game of cheating, and when I found out, the reason she was angry that I offered a polyamorous arrangement was because she didn't want harmony, she wanted drama, more specifically, she wanted me to FIGHT. It would be nice to believe this (as opposed to what I assumed of her being so supremely and outrageously selfish), though even if I'd known, I doubt it would've worked out between us as I find the notion of fighting over that to be absurd (all that Libra and Sag in me expects higher ethical standards than to draft others into such games with the intent to spice up our love lives as that would be very unfair to the innocents we used as well as my Libra preferring harmony to blatant competition).

posted November 09, 2015 01:38 PM            

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Originally posted by Sikanda:
That sounds nice too, mamawolf. I like men who are more extrovert than me as well. What's your Mars sign?

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posted November 09, 2015 01:47 PM            

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Originally posted by visions:
easy to say when you are in las vegas with beautiful and paradise surroundings...isn't a conveying land to laziness ?

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posted November 09, 2015 02:11 PM            

I'm attracted to Martian energy in general. Strong Mars, afflicted Mars, especially.

Confidence with some well-concealed insecurities (that they sometimes reveal to me); seriousness with the ability to have a laugh and be light-hearted; good hygiene; practicality.
Emotional stability; honesty; receptivity to communication and sharing. Maturity.

Demonstrative, loving, affectionate... "adoring" (but not over-the-top... that has to be my 5H being in Leo/Virgo, lol.) Sensual, tender, protective, sexual. A little pushy, especially in a playful but at the same time serious manner.

Actually a lot of those things are traits that I have myself... or think I do (on a good day, lol).

Ideally though: more assertive, confident and demonstrative than me.
Not overly agreeable or pleasant, but polite. Serious-looking face and strong principles.