posted October 12, 2010 11:39 AM         

I hope I get some clearness there, room enough to THINK..

Thanks, could be that I'm lost in my 12th at the moment!

Hope this is clear enough

posted October 12, 2010 02:15 PM         

His Dejanira conj my Mars and DSC

First scenario... we have a very intense sexual chemistry and when it comes to me he can't say no. I can easily talk him into anything when we are "involved" (I could use it as a weapon) but he has asked me to please not manipulate him into sex b/c he won't be able to turn me down. (I know majority of men won't turn down sex but it's extremely easy with him when pertaining to me and I use it to get what I want from him)

Also, I'm really good at picking up that he is vulnerable/****** off and hurt. When he is in this space he usually needs to release that energy in some way. And I usually allow him to use me to release the energy... like, I proposed that we get into an extremely intense screaming match for a good 20 mins b/c when he screams he visualizes himself releasing the energy. He was screaming about work and I'm fine with it when I know it's not pointed at me...

posted October 12, 2010 02:38 PM         

I am reluctant to write this cuz I don't want you to take it wrong and it may sound weird.

However, relationships have all flavors and colors.
Speaking of that does he have an Aries Venus? Do you?

posted October 12, 2010 02:42 PM         

Anyway, he has Venus in Aries.

Also, we have
His Mars square my Venus
his Eros conj my Psyche
His Venus opposite my Pluto...

posted October 12, 2010 02:48 PM         

Is yours in Aries, too?

posted October 12, 2010 03:04 PM         

We have a DW Venus trine Sun : )

posted October 12, 2010 03:56 PM         

I can't remember the last time I fell so hard for a guy - I'm an Aquarius sun with moon and mars in Cancer, so I'm usually looking for freedom *and* protecting my heart.

I ran our synastry and we have all the classic "hot" aspects: Venus-Mars, Moon-Mars, Venus-Pluto (both ways, scary!), Sun-Mars, Sun-Venus, it goes on and on...

But. I learned after the first few times we hung out that it's "out of sight, out of mind" for him. If I call him, he'll call right back, and when we are together, he's totally present. But otherwise, it's like I don't exist.

I finally accepted that things probably won't work out for us romantically - or at least, I need to just give it some time and space. But it's really hard when you feel such a great connection with someone!

posted October 13, 2010 07:58 AM         

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But. I learned after the first few times we hung out that it's "out of sight, out of mind" for him. If I call him, he'll call right back, and when we are together, he's totally present. But otherwise, it's like I don't exist.

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I know what you mean. That's exactly what makes it a little hard for me to let my Pisces go, because.. he called me everyday and we were definitely a couple, but .. a couple without an eventual future probably... well, that's what *I* made of it because he couldn't confirm me if I needed to hear the *US*-future-picture.. and because he couldn't I saw certain moments of the present (acts/{lack of}words, from him) probably more negative than they actually were.

In fact, I gave him in his big mental mess the/no choice;
- It's *US* or I won't help you anymore..

(is the effect)

posted October 13, 2010 08:48 AM         

He has an Aries Venus so he needs a woman with more Yang("masculine")
This is JUST energies .

posted October 14, 2010 08:07 AM         

If you're used to live in certain 'negative' spheres.. it almost seems as if you're forgotten how else it/life can be.
Yesterday I felt *Sex* and really... it's many many months ago that I could feel that - my Pisces ofcourse wasn't part of it (to approach the truth; he never was, although he moved heaven & earth to let me feel - reaching eroticism just by technical-act is cold, isn't it?).
And you know... I felt for a while *born-again/fresh/new* and that's when I thought; hell, where did I live in?! No sex, no *real* love, not the understanding/sweetness I'd fallen for, .. the only thing left was a sacrificing *ME*.

Could it be true? I was on the Magi astrology site and a little bit shocked for what they say about Saturn...

His Saturn is conjunct my Venus.

***** One of the results of a Saturn Bond is that the person who contributes the Saturn (called the Saturn Person) has a great deal of control over the other person (called the Passive Person).

Traditional Astrologers have long noticed that Saturn Bonds exist in many couples who stay together for very long times. Because of this fact, Traditional Astrologers have misinterpreted Saturn Bonds as being helpful to have in a relationship and that they help keep two persons together. But Traditional Astrology has missed the most important characteristic about Saturn Bonds which is that the Saturn Person has the upper hand in the relationship and can therefore take advantage of the Passive Person.

A Saturn Bond creates an unequal relationship where the Saturn Person is in the driver’s seat and the Passive Person is a less than equal partner and can feel like he or she is trapped in the relationship but does not know how to get out.

Traditional Astrology is wrong in its belief that Saturn Bonds mutually keep two persons together. The truth is Saturn Bonds do not work mutually – instead Saturn Bonds tie the Passive Person to the Saturn Person but the Saturn Person feels free to do whatever he or she wants and does not feel bond to the Passive Person. The Saturn Person can walk away from the relationship with ease whereas the Passive Person cannot do so without heart-wrenching difficulty. *****