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Topic: Fellow Cancers---Would you rather date a Virgo or an Aries?
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Benedict Moon* Knowflake Posts: 1920 From: Avendesora Registered: May 2009
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posted February 13, 2011 08:26 PM
Okay, cool....but we've already established here that smothering people isn't good. In the above example I was 16-17 years old anyways, when we all tend to be that way. Nowadays I know that I would prefer that people still had their own lives seperate from mine, I'm actually NOT COOL with merging identities (that would *suffocating* for me). IP: Logged |
GrlyGirl20 Knowflake Posts: 378 From: USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 13, 2011 08:58 PM
"I have an Aries Mars and a Gemini Venus so I can do the whole spontanous 'lets drive to Myrtle Beach' thing if I'm bored. But when it comes to new (or romantic) situations, I can't jump in unless I've analyzed the whole thing from all four angles...talk about calculating. My ex had a Virgo mars so it was a terrible vice ON BOTH SIDES. LOL The moon rules cancer ridiculously, so I would look at that as an indicator as whether the Cancer would be a smothering type. I am moody still courtesy of 8th house placement and neptune/pluto aspects....though I'm not inclined to be emotionally expressive as the average cancer may be. And I can become very attached to someone, but it doesn't happen that often."BM I gotta ask as a Virgo Moon what makes you get attached...I see with both my roommate and even the Aqua ex they are strange about attachment. I do get it being a Cap Moon...bu they take it seriously which is something my 7th house Moon doesn't get. I think in terms of my ex he was strange about things...like I'd say he was a good guy or person...and he would freak out and tell me he wasn't used to hearing that (people tend to just see the Aqua Sun/Aries Mars jerk side). I always took our separating bad. Not so much romantic (but I'll admit I did and still do miss him) but it seemed to me like if someone cares for you and you care back even a little then why can't you be friends (the darn Moon Trine Moon aspect always made me still hold on lol). Again my Venus in the 11th in Taurus saw the simple side to things. I always thought that we got along and if he was no longer into me romantically then why couldn't he just deal with me as a friend or person. He would go onto say that people are either gf material or friend material. With me I get attached to EVERYONE lol. I really think its my 11th house Venus that LOVES everyone and wants to be friends with everyone. IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 13, 2011 09:04 PM
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specialistangel Knowflake Posts: 207 From: Registered: Feb 2011
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posted February 13, 2011 09:17 PM
True, I should do it all myself. It's me living in this world, and I have to live it, and so I need to put my best foot forwards. Although it would be heartwarming to have a little positive guidance, or something. IP: Logged |
Benedict Moon* Knowflake Posts: 1920 From: Avendesora Registered: May 2009
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posted February 13, 2011 10:44 PM
Girlygrl, I'm curious as to where this Aqua's Venus sign is...it might give a HUGE clue as to his behavior. Its just that he, and even in his last statement, seems very un-Aqua like. Though his moon is in the 8th like mine, so that's probably the first clue. Though I always thought those of us with Moon in Earth or Water took romantic matters very seriously though. I mean, its the reason I've figured out by now that I can't casually date...LOL. Then going back to the 8th house placement, that may be a big factor. When I compare myself to my Scorpio Moon friends, there are alot of parallels. We just experience life with alot more intensity than most people. Besides the typical thing like loyalty, compassion, and empathy...I get pulled by the weirdest stuff, actually. My Ex was extremely quirky, for example, and that totally melted the Capricorn Ice Queen in me. O__o In fact, I was sure he was an Aquarius when I first met him. It sounds so cheesy ala a RomCom, but that's the gist of it.
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specialistangel Knowflake Posts: 207 From: Registered: Feb 2011
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posted February 13, 2011 11:23 PM
Do you have any significant transits coming up? Uranus can periodically change things, I have mine connected to Saturn and, to a lesser extent, the Moon. The indicates that, in the upcoming months, I should have changes regarding serious matters, possibly involving the family, but whatever, it's not like you'd care. Wanna here some more about theother transits? They change things, make it better, positive, a lot goes on under the surface of the natal chart, there are still lots of planets to be discovered, by our telescopes. IP: Logged |
Benedict Moon* Knowflake Posts: 1920 From: Avendesora Registered: May 2009
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posted February 13, 2011 11:54 PM
I've been going through a series of harsh pluto transits for a few years so I'm pretty familiar with that already, good and bad. IP: Logged |
GrlyGirl20 Knowflake Posts: 378 From: USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 14, 2011 12:45 AM
quote: Girlygrl, I'm curious as to where this Aqua's Venus sign is...it might give a HUGE clue as to his behavior. Its just that he, and even in his last statement, seems very un-Aqua like. Though his moon is in the 8th like mine, so that's probably the first clue.Though I always thought those of us with Moon in Earth or Water took romantic matters very seriously though. I mean, its the reason I've figured out by now that I can't casually date...LOL. Then going back to the 8th house placement, that may be a big factor. When I compare myself to my Scorpio Moon friends, there are alot of parallels. We just experience life with alot more intensity than most people. Besides the typical thing like loyalty, compassion, and empathy...I get pulled by the weirdest stuff, actually. My Ex was extremely quirky, for example, and that totally melted the Capricorn Ice Queen in me. O__o In fact, I was sure he was an Aquarius when I first met him. It sounds so cheesy ala a RomCom, but that's the gist of it.
BM his Venus was in Cap...with a loose conjunction to my Moon. I agree...alot of the time I think I tend to be airy as I don't really take romantic matters seriously. It was strange the Aqua found out that I've been in a LOT of relationships and he deff looked down on that...like I couldn't be alone. And its not that I can't...I just enjoy companionship alot. I get the whole needing and experiencing intensity...I felt it with him. I have my Moon Square Pluto...and most of my personal planets touch Pluto...but that same intensity is why I can be a friend. Well I take that back...I can't be your friend if I still care romantically...If I do and you hurt me I'll never talk to you again. But even after those circumstances a good chunk of the time (like 99% of the time) I can stay friends after my emotions have cleared. I didn't know that the Moon could take precedence over the Sun even though his Moon is also touching Uranus. I gotta say BM I didn't realize you had Cap in you...I just thought you were a Virgo Moon. Anyway when we were dating alot of that came through...he would say that I was really genuine. But again I just figured that if I was so genuine you wouldn't want to let me go...even if it meant just being "loose friends." His Moon touched my IC, and his Asc and Venus touched my DC and Moon...so getting over him was hard. Plus his birthday is coming up in a few days (the 16th) as is my boyfriends lol (the 20th)...so I'm trying to figure out if its a good idea to acknowledge his birthday. Nothing major maybe just a text or facebook message...especially since he did none of that for me. Oh and its ok about the cheesy Rom Com stuff lol...when I met the Aqua I was convinced I loved him within like a month of us being together. There were parts about him that were VERY Aqua like. He is HUGE on his friends and everything, plus he could be way spontaneous and take a random trip to Myrtle Beach or Charleston. But its like night and day in his romantic relationships. He and I moved really fast and had a very intense relationship. He even told me he and I weren't compatible as friends as I'm too serious. But as a girlfriend I wasn't serious enough lol. I think it was more of the Virgo Moon and his inability to fit me into a category (which I've found that a lot of Virgo ppl do). I always said I never thought he hated me (plus from all the Virgo influenced ppl I know they tend to remember fondly nice people). Its just there was no place for me anymore. Even my roommate is like that. Its strange lol. IP: Logged |
specialistangel Knowflake Posts: 207 From: Registered: Feb 2011
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posted February 14, 2011 02:24 AM
GirlyGirl20 you should tell this to your roommate, have a heart to heart talk with him or her, they'll probably understand eventuallyIP: Logged |
Benedict Moon* Knowflake Posts: 1920 From: Avendesora Registered: May 2009
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posted February 14, 2011 02:09 PM
quote: There were parts about him that were VERY Aqua like. He is HUGE on his friends and everything, plus he could be way spontaneous and take a random trip to Myrtle Beach or Charleston. But its like night and day in his romantic relationships. He and I moved really fast and had a very intense relationship. He even told me he and I weren't compatible as friends as I'm too serious. But as a girlfriend I wasn't serious enough lol. I think it was more of the Virgo Moon and his inability to fit me into a category (which I've found that a lot of Virgo ppl do). I always said I never thought he hated me (plus from all the Virgo influenced ppl I know they tend to remember fondly nice people). Its just there was no place for me anymore. Even my roommate is like that. Its strange lol.
Yeah, that sounds alot like his Sun/Mars vs. his Earth Moon/Venus. He kind of owns the former in most situations and projects the other two about 80% of the time. Not every male will do this, but it seems to be very true in his case. It also sounds like his venus is in the 12th house from what you've told me about him.
As for the categorizing, that is Virgoan but whenever I've attempted in romantic situations it doesn't work. Because I always end up with someone totally different from the type or the flavor of the month that I'm into. It must be a trick of Neptune (it trines my moon) or another crazy Piscean NN lesson. And yep, I'm a Capricorn Ascendant but with Saturn Conjunct Uranus in the 12th house/Sagittarius. Besides the exterior coolness, I don't identify with it much at all.
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specialistangel Knowflake Posts: 207 From: Registered: Feb 2011
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posted February 14, 2011 09:26 PM
When in doubt, blame in onthe NN!Capricorn ascendents have Saturn ruling their 1st personality house, so I guess that's why they might have some issues WITH their appearance, but I guess there are other planets aspecting the appearances, maybe a good planet or Venus onthe Cap ascendent, so you shouldn't have too too much trouble. Exteriour coolness is a bad thing, it repels people from you, so hope for the best with those other aspecting factors and try not to be so cool, that's my (only my) astro advice. IP: Logged |
GrlyGirl20 Knowflake Posts: 378 From: USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 14, 2011 10:40 PM
Yeah, I could see that. I'm dating someone else and still thinking about him...plus his b-day is coming up. So I don't know if its right for me to contact him. A part of me says its nice to...and a part of me says its not right. But I figure if you care for someone you'll tell them happy birthday even if they aren't talking to you. Looking back I do wish his Moon wasn't Conjunct my IC. I think thats why I still care as much as I do. And he's an Aqua so they never care that much unless your a friend or meant something. And I know I didn't for both...I was a college gf and we live in the south so it was like all my relationships...an experiment to a white guy and fun and games. Btw BM what are your V-Day plans today? My bf had to work so we celebrated over the weekend. It was nice. IP: Logged |
Benedict Moon* Knowflake Posts: 1920 From: Avendesora Registered: May 2009
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posted February 14, 2011 10:58 PM
What's V-Day? LOL...I kid. I always try to forget this holiday nowadays, which was why today was an awful day to have an appointment with the OB-GYN: Too many couples were also there for post-partum checkups. I basically spent it the only way a Virgo Moon would---->> multitasking. LAWLZ
quote: Exteriour coolness is a bad thing, it repels people from you, so hope for the best with those other aspecting factors and try not to be so cool, that's my (only my) astro advice.
Advice well noted.
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specialistangel Knowflake Posts: 207 From: Registered: Feb 2011
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posted February 14, 2011 10:58 PM
My Valentine's DAy plans? Same as yours I guess, internet stuff. IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 15, 2011 04:30 AM
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RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 15, 2011 04:30 AM
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specialistangel Knowflake Posts: 207 From: Registered: Feb 2011
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posted February 15, 2011 04:47 AM
Libras can be boring and dull, I'd rather go for the firey one. IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 15, 2011 05:06 AM
Libra was for the indecisiveness of the other virgo guy i dated. But u've got a point He was that, too.IP: Logged |
specialistangel Knowflake Posts: 207 From: Registered: Feb 2011
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posted February 15, 2011 05:14 AM
Out of curiousity, how many virgo guys did you date?IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 15, 2011 09:40 AM
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RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 16, 2011 02:31 AM
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Benedict Moon* Knowflake Posts: 1920 From: Avendesora Registered: May 2009
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posted February 16, 2011 10:57 PM
quote: Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming: Psh aries, virgos? Who needs em?? I'm sticking with my fellow water signs who understand what it means to care too much and to be hurt easily. This website says it well---why water signs should stick together http://zodiac-traits.com/pisces-man-scorpio-woman.html
That's generally how I feel these days...I blame the series of nasty pluto transits that helped me to see the light.
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RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 17, 2011 12:06 AM
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RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 24, 2011 11:55 PM
A comparison: Noting the differences between How Cancers and Virgos talk about each other when in a relationship with each other, and how Aries and Cancers talk about each other. Virgo & Cancer --------------------- most articles say that pieces is a cancer’s perfect match but I would have to disagree. Im a typical female cancer ((6.27.90)). I have the mood swings i fall in love within like a week any and everything hurts my feelings. I just got out relationship with a pieces and i can honestly say I never knew my heart could could feel so much pain. But now I met this virgo and he’s almost perfect in my eyes. We just met like a month ago. (we was childhood friends at least thats what our mothers say but neither one of us remember). Any way he’s everything I ever wanted n a dude. Easy to talk to, funny, sweet talks me when he hurts my feelings always spending time with me and so much more.
I am a Cancer Female (7/15/61) and I have been commited to a Virgo male (9/21/67) for almost 16 months now. I have never been with anybody more compatible with me. I love him deeply and he loves me deeply. We are both extremely loyal, we are both extremely respectful of each other, we are both silly, and like the same things in every way. In our differences, we fit together like a jigsaw puzzle. Where I tend to be a bit disorganized, he is very organized and we work together well as a team. We both do tend to worry but both of us are each other’s best encouragement too! It still amazes me how intuitive he is to my feelings and needs. It’s almost as though he can read my mind at times. We always seem to say exactly what the other is thinking! Because of his intuitiveness he almost has a keen ability to read my moods before I even recognize they are there (mine more due to pre-menopause) and he reminds me to take St. Johns wort which works for me as a natural mood enhancer!) Our sex life is marvelously compatible and it couldn’t be hotter!!! As far as jealousy or possessiveness…neither one of us are jealous or possessive, but would defend and protect each other to death if need be!!! I do believe that marriage would be forthcoming if either of our circumstances permitted it! Both of us are extremely content with the other and neither one of us want anyone else and we definitely anticipate a long term relationship. He’s my best ftiend
Im actually in a relationship with a virgo right now and things are reallly great between us that we cant get enough of each other. Im not a very possesive girl for a cancer, but i am very emotional and my virgo guy always gives the perfect hug n kiss to msake me go back to my happy mood. Me and my man have been dating for a month now. We do have the occasional fight and make up but he has the affection and passion that is perfect for what i want. Thanks alex(: <3 I am a female cancer 06271990 and I’ve just met a virgo man 09181990 on labor day weekend and I cant get enough of him. We aren’t in a official relationship but we are fateful to eachother. He rubs my tummy and makes me feel like the most beautiful queen in the world. I can’t wait till he we can make it official. I never met anyone so amazingly similar to my soul. =) Wish us luck I agree with the “soul mate” feeling of this pair. My first love was also Virgo and it was such a deep connection i couldnt stand it…I’ve never trusted any one more than him and to this day, even though I’ve been married 4 years, we are still quite close. The ties were so deep he could “feel” when i cheated , and I couldnt bare to lie to him. To this day he is the ONLY person that knows all my deepest darkest secrets. I thought it would run him away , but we still have an unshakeable love. ----------——-------------------------- Aries & Cancer -------------------- I am a 19 year old Cancer female, my boyfriend is a 18 year old Aries. We have been dating for two years now and things are great. When I first met him I was amazed at how macho he was with out being so in your face. A direct turn on. He had me wrapped around his little finger. Once we started dating and he began opening up to me I was the one with the hold on him. In public me being a cancer and shy he takes charge. He reminds me of a dark knight always making me feel safe and secure. But when we get home, he knows that my domain and I rule, and I am more than happy to pamper my knight. We are happy together and have just as much fun as when we first met. Its clear we want the same things but we have different approaches. We learned that when we work together as a team we are unstoppable. Knowing what we know now, we have lots of plans for the future. P.S I wish all Cancer and Aries the best of luck, however in the end you make the relationship not the sign. Im a 21 yr Cancer woman, engaged to a 26 yr Aries. We adore each other, and we were holpelessly in love from day one. We have a few small issues, but we work through them quit smoothly. As long as he compliments me every now and then, helps me around the house and with our infant, and I remind him how much I truly love him, that I would never do anything to purposely hurt him, and let him make decisions and take control from time to time, then we pretty much don’t have any problems. Every relatoinship takes work, it’s just a matter of how much work your both willing to put into it. As a Cancer women though, this is vital advice for any relationship: You have to let down your wall, let your needs and feelings be known. If not whats the point in dateing in the first place, really?! I am a 28 y/o Cancer female and my boyfriend is a 30 y/o Aries. We have been dating for a year and a half. When we first met, I felt very calm and relaxed by his presence. He noticed my mood swings that I show when I’m around my family. So far, I haven’t really been too moody around him. I do talk about my emotions and sometimes it’s stuff that doesn’t worry about. So he’ll listen or just change the subject. It kind of helps me to worry less b/c he doesn’t make a big deal about the situation I’m worried about. Then I can forget about it faster. He’s very giving and caring but bottom line…He is first in line. He’s basically the decision maker for most stuff. But takes my opinion into consideration for things as well. We’ve talked about marriage and moving in together but he would rather live together first. I’m more old fashioned and would like to be married first but they say, just go with the flow with an Aries. We basically hang out every day. It’s really his idea to do that. We really have a good “giving space” system. The longer I know him, the more I see he does have sharp comments at times. Being a cancer, I can be sensitive about it or I’ll just put him in his place. I am insecure when he talks to other girls but I’m working on that. Really, what girl isn’t insecure. I do trust him and I know that he is not capable of cheating. I just have to step back and remember that he’s just a social butterfly. Plus, we work mon-fri so when we go out. He wants to make it well worth it for himself. I think he has more good than bad so all in all it so far works. I agree with everyone, it’s not the stars that make the relationship work. It’s how you two work together. If you have similar interests, understanding of each other, and communication. It can work! IP: Logged |