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Topic: Fellow Cancers---Would you rather date a Virgo or an Aries?
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RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 05, 2011 03:25 AM
A question for Cancers only:Think of the hottest Virgo you know, and the hottest Aries you know lol Who would you choose if you had to pick one? ---the Virgo or the Aries?!
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seeleah Knowflake Posts: 420 From: kokomo, IN, USA Registered: Dec 2009
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posted February 05, 2011 04:08 PM
Um....hard to say...aries tend to hit my lust asteriod and my MC. I have actually dated an aries for many years I have dated atleast one virgo, never intimate (high school) and find them interesting but too much like family..I have alot of virgo in my family...it depends because my psyche is in virgo. So I just love virgos but aries gets me hot but usually emotionally I just can't stay with them for a long time.IP: Logged |
coconutcancermoon Knowflake Posts: 492 From: A Place of Pure Love Registered: Nov 2010
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posted February 05, 2011 05:41 PM
I'm Cancer Stellium and I cannot stand Virgo men in a relationship so it'd have to be Aries.IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 05, 2011 07:41 PM
Lol why cant u stand virgo men?are you a cancer sun?I get you seeleah. I agree that it's very comfy with virgos, but also kinda boring only because you are both pretty shy and reserved. But with an aries, though it's really hot---they are like the hotness of a scorpio times 5 to us cancers i think---but the fact is it's hard to connect emotionally with them. Kinda feels like they could leave at any second or something right?---opposite of virgo. But i found one now I have sun conjunct venus with in the composite, so let's see how this goes bc it seems that we are extremely gentle and caring towards each other. And at the same time i almost always find him sexually attractive---whereas with virgos i do only every other day. But for me, a virgo has a lot of benefits also. Though we may not be sexually on all the time i think there is a definite sensuality and affection that always stays. And the emotional connection is def there and is very very strong---at least for me. But with Aries we cancer girls feel more girly, right? It's also more fun. But with virgo it's more cloudy and confused, you're not sure whether they're "the one" because you are both so shy that it feels sometimes like you dont even have chemistry. Aries is definitely more fun---nights out on the town, seeing future possibilities in ur life, feeling inspired, and feeling very alive. Sex is always on lol, but the connection is not always fully there emotionally.
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Moons Of Jupiter Knowflake Posts: 149 From: Australia Registered: Jun 2010
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posted February 05, 2011 10:00 PM
Hands down Aries. It's a better match for Cancer than astrology would like to admit. I'm a Cancer Sun, ASC and Mars. I need a sense of impulse, straight-forwardness, an uncomplicated attitude to life and love, and a passion I can feel is about to explode when he's around me. I have never felt that with a Virgo (who, granted, made for fun conversation and smartass observations, but absolutely nothing to turn me on). In today's day in age, you need plenty RAM in your hard drive. Even a Virgo knows this.  IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 06, 2011 05:28 AM
Ugh!! You are so right. When I was with a virgo he didn't even make me feel nervous at all. No sweaty palms, or heart pounding. I just felt very affectionate. And i did like kissing him. But that's about it. I don't think I could ever do anything else lol. Because ur right..their personality is too effeminate for us girly cancers. I think that applies to us with the other feminine signs too, unfortunately. Great emotional connection...but no nervousness or star-struck look in ur eyes lol. Maybe it's cuz we're too similar. Relationships should be like...just touching their arm with one finger makes you feel like you've done something incredible lol. And i've definitely felt that way about Aries guys. Maybe capricorn too...until after 2 days of talking to them..then it's gone lol. Dating a feminine sign feels too much like dating your brother. IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 06, 2011 03:36 PM
I don't know. Even if sex isn't wildly passionate, there could still be a lot of love and caring in it, right? Isn't that okay, too?Someone help me with this.. IP: Logged |
enchantress299 Knowflake Posts: 214 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted February 06, 2011 03:51 PM
This thread cracks me up, because I am a Virgo with an Aries Moon (best of both worlds), and I dated a Cancer once. He was very interesting and empathic, but way too emotionally unstable for my tastes. quote: In today's day in age, you need plenty RAM in your hard drive. Even a Virgo knows this.
Ugh no. Not this Virgo. Aries turn me off so much. However, that Cancer I dated did have an Aries Mars, and THAT I didn't mind. quote: Even if sex isn't wildly passionate, there could still be a lot of love and caring in it, right? Isn't that okay, too? Someone help me with this..
Personally, I feel that sex can and should be varied and multidimensional, so yes, both wildly passionate AND loving, caring sex should both be on the menu. I don't think any one sun sign embodies only ONE type of sex. If you want something different from your partner, ask for it... IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 06, 2011 04:14 PM
Enchantress...no. You didnt get my question at all....sighIP: Logged |
Benedict Moon* Knowflake Posts: 1920 From: Avendesora Registered: May 2009
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posted February 06, 2011 04:17 PM
If I absolutely had to pick one, it would be the aries but I think the only reason he did it for me is because he had some neptune/pisces stuff going on. Other than that, I don't care for most aries men...even with my aries mars. IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 06, 2011 04:25 PM
BM....could you share your views on some of the things said above about the difference between a cancer-aries relationship and a cancer-virgo oneEspecially as refers to the problem with the lack of strong sexual attraction with the virgo Thanks IP: Logged |
Benedict Moon* Knowflake Posts: 1920 From: Avendesora Registered: May 2009
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posted February 06, 2011 04:37 PM
I don't think I can do that without bringing in other personal placements too. For the record, the virgo did it for me too attraction-wise, but he turned out to be incredibly one-dimensional. I don't remember his chart exactly so I can't say where it came from, but that was my one virgo guy experience. Actually there was another one! He was the one that I was positive was an ARIES. LMAO He had alot of the douchebaggery that I come across with most arien men so color me shocked when he tells me his birthday was September 14th. Turns out he had a very prominent aries mars...with a Leo Venus. Not that I find Arien men anymore interesting....they think too much of themselves in my experience, amongst other things. IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 06, 2011 04:42 PM
LOL...interesting. i get ya....But it's still interesting how you still chose the Aries whom astrology always says is a match made in hell with cancer, over the Virgo whom astrology always says is a match made in heaven with us ! IP: Logged |
Benedict Moon* Knowflake Posts: 1920 From: Avendesora Registered: May 2009
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posted February 06, 2011 04:49 PM
That's because you can't only go by sunsigns. The aries and I meshed well together in personality and temperament because of other influences in our charts (common neptune in our case). I'm not sure what it was in the Virgo's chart, but he was more interested in arm candy than a real relationship. Neither my Gem Venus nor my Virgo Moon (Ironic) roll like that. I suspect he had some significant libra in his chart. IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 06, 2011 04:51 PM
Enchantress, hey i was thinking about it..and Virgos are pretty emotionally unstable themselves. Extremely sensitive..complicated, indecisive, will play games--but only cuz they're scared, messy, judgmental, afraid of commitment, worriers, always anxious and closed up, and cold and in denial when they really don't feel that way inside. I know them too well. They are a complicated bunch, and need a whole lot of understanding. Especially because they are so emotional but usually live in denial of being so. lol. So it just makes things more difficult.IP: Logged |
Moons Of Jupiter Knowflake Posts: 149 From: Australia Registered: Jun 2010
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posted February 06, 2011 04:58 PM
Not saying a Virgo can't be passionate or have great sex. On an emotional level, I find they just operate differently. I find Virgo to be a better temperament and character match for Cancer, but that can be said as a friend or otherwise. I find Aries to be a better match in the bedroom and in romance, because the passion and craziness carries on into the rest of the relationship, whereas a Virgo is very different in the bedroom compared to outside of it. There seems to be a lot more romantic detachment. Having said that, God I love Virgos, they are my best friends in the world and I wouldn't change them for anything. Would just prefer to date an Aries. IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 06, 2011 05:20 PM
Ugh. I dont really understand your last post, MOJ. Lol. Could you explain? I'm sorry..I just don't get what ur trying to sayIP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 06, 2011 07:05 PM
lol, check this website out. I think it's true http://www.netplaces.com/love-signs/cancer/sun-love-matches-4.htm IP: Logged |
Lehia2 Knowflake Posts: 65 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted February 06, 2011 07:49 PM
Aries. Generally speaking, earth signs lack that "spark", or I just don't feel them from them.IP: Logged |
Betty Boop Knowflake Posts: 563 From: Betty Boop Land Registered: Sep 2010
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posted February 06, 2011 07:57 PM
This has been an interesting read --- because -- if only I'd have a penny for every Cancer/Virgo and Cancer/Taurus couple I've met and known in my life!I'm very surprised you are all saying Aries. I'm an Aries myself with a Cancer AC. I would strongly prefer to date a Virgo. In my experience Aries-Cancer marriages end very badly. I'm not sure about dating and sex.. But if you want something long term -- Go for Virgo -- for goodness sake!! lol IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 06, 2011 08:56 PM
in your experience? Say, what kind of experience do you have? Hmm, interesting. Please share. Lol. I am also surprised that so many cancers have said Aries! I think all of them chose Aries, right? Omg. I guess they must have had some EXTREMELY boring experiences with Virgo...to choose ARIES. I've met my share of annoying Aries guys. But I love Aries women, they're great..no problem ever getting along with them. I have also had my share of Aries friends...but absolutely no attraction to those. I've only met two Aries which I really liked non-platonically and got along really well with. I love the enthusiasm, the get up n go! and also the tender quiet side that lies underneath, and just everything about the Aries guys I've been attracted to AND actually gotten along with. These guys made me feel like the most loved girl in the world....it truly felt like i was dating a GUY for once. They would always take the initiative, and they made me feel oh so protected and like they really really appreciated me---an incredible feeling. For me, virgos not expressing how they feel was never a problem. Sure, they are uber uber shy, but they always found the sweetest most subtle way to show how they felt, and it was the most romantic thing to me. Even something as seemingly trivial as a kind, shy smile from them would make me melt and make me feel like it was the most romantic thing in the world, just because of the way they express love with their eyes. And the fact that they are always there willing to help and are oh so considerate is so nice. But still, i'm a cancer. I'm lazy. I need someone to put a firecracker in my butt and make me do stuff with enthusiasm. And virgo's criticism does the opposite of that. Aries on the other hand  In the end I would probably pick the aries just because cancers need someone who's always onto new projects, but who also enjoys protecting someone and doing things for them. Life with a virgo would probably be very loving, caring and comfy, but also pretty boring. Cancer would have to take the lead and Cancers hate taking the lead..especially because they would prefer the guy in the relationship to do so. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop Knowflake Posts: 563 From: Betty Boop Land Registered: Sep 2010
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posted February 06, 2011 09:21 PM
One example is one of my closest friend's parents. He is a Cancer. She's an Aries. They divorced after 20 years of a very unhappy marriage that my friend and her brother are still in therapy about.The second example is my step dad and his ex wife. Again, he is a Cancer and she is an Aries. Again they were married for years. I am not sure how long exactly but it was something like 20-25 years. It ended very bitterly and the divorce itself was extremely painful for the children who were dragged through unpleasant situations and bitter financial arguments. He wishes this relationship never happened. I don't know others that lasted as long. I remember two people from Uni who were dating for a while. She was Cancer and he was Aries. For some reason, after their breakup she was really embarrassed because he was spreading nasty rumors about her. I'm not sure exactly what happened between them. I don't even remember what the rumors were, but I know that it left her feeling very hurt and depressed. This left an impression on me because I walked into the women's bathroom once and she was bowling her eyes out in a corner because of something he had done. That's all the "experience" - I recall of the top of my head. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop Knowflake Posts: 563 From: Betty Boop Land Registered: Sep 2010
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posted February 06, 2011 09:30 PM
quote: I love Aries women, they're great..no problem ever getting along with them.
Run Around Screaming - It's funny how it's often easier to get along with the same sex of your squares. I've noticed a lot of people saying the same thing. I usually like and befriend Cancer women - as long as they have some air & fire in their chart. If they are *extra* watery, it can get tricky. I can't really see myself dating any of the Cancer men I've met so far. Though, I know of two Cancers ---- (one was a poster here, *ahem* -Seeing Stars - *ahem*) and one is famous ---- both of whom I found sexually attractive, judging by photos only. They both have a fire Mars.. Aries & Leo respectively. IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 06, 2011 09:38 PM
Well i have mars, venus, and moon in leo, jupiter in gemini, and a libra ascendant.I do only get along well with aries with mercury in pisces, though. lol I have merc in cancer Oh my god, those are some pretty bad "experiences." Gah. I know a lot of square sign marriages, though, and they seem extremely happy. The rest of the marriages i know are either opposites, or neighbors in the zodiac. The opposites i know seem um, satisfied but emotionally drained at the same time, and the zodiac neighbors seem like they dont fit together at all, but somehow they look pretty happy.
I actually know 3 trine marriages, and they dont look very happy at all . The guy and the girl are like identical to each other in personality, though, so makes me wonder why they would be unhappy together. IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 633 From: USA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 06, 2011 09:47 PM
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