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Topic: If you give a Scorpio a letter?
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esheep123
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From: brooklyn, ny usa
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted May 14, 2011 04:19 PM
  
So I did it. I decided to give my Scorpio neighbor crush a letter telling him that I care about him, and maybe one day we could do something about it...in the future.I haven't seen him yet. And I'm so so scared. A part of me feels I will be rejected/hated/the subject of anger.. And a part of me feels relieved that I did it. I wanted to let him know for so so long. We are both attached (if you remember me), and he and I have both had nonverbal signals of interest. But now, I don't know if it's my Cap rising, but I am on doubt mode. I feel he's going to hate me forever. And I don't know what to do or expect from this act of exposing myself, and my feelings. I've given him the power and control over my emotions, by letting him know how I feel. And am scared sh*tless of what can come of this... What are some reactions he may have to this? If he feels the same way, what could I expect. If he doesn't, what would he do. Would he ridicule me? Expose me? I haven't done anything bad to him. But maybe he could feel like I crossed the line? Any intuitive people have any ideas as well? Stupid me. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted May 14, 2011 04:24 PM
I remember you esheep and your husband who does not get woman ,shall we say lol
Dear--this man is gonna take the bait
The outcome---may not be so good.
I think the short term will be very passionate but you may have to pay a big price for the short term
That is my feeling.
Be careful, esheep. I don't feel good about the outcome.
Your husband could flip out and it could be bad.------------------
Throw away your books and listen to your heart.Listen the closest when it hurts the most.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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esheep123
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From: brooklyn, ny usa
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted May 14, 2011 04:28 PM
Ami, I'm moving away within two weeks. It was more of a good bye note than "let's get it on before I go." I would really like to keep him in my life...whatever way I could, you know.I don't expect to be swept up in his arms or anything. I really just wanted him to know that I care about him. But I don't want him hating me. Kinda wrong, considering everything. But I don't want Scorpio to think I was just a flirt or game. IP: Logged |
RMChex
Knowflake Posts: 452
From: England
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted May 14, 2011 04:34 PM
Hi there,If he's a typical Scorpio, I doubt very much he'd expose or ridicule you - that is not a Scorpio way. If he feels the same, he may be glad you were able to tell him. If he doesn't feel the same, then I would imagine he'll tell you, bluntly but fairly. When you say non-verbal signals of interest, what sort of signals? Rachel x ------------------
Where possible, give people a piece of your heart, not a piece of your mind. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted May 14, 2011 05:00 PM
Where are you moving esheep--out of the country?------------------
Throw away your books and listen to your heart.Listen the closest when it hurts the most.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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wal2
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Registered: May 2011
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posted May 14, 2011 05:07 PM
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Originally posted by esheep123:
I've given him the power and control over my emotions, by letting him know how I feel.
No, he will not ridicule you or use this to damage you. Even if he doesn't feel the same, to a Scorpios know this is the most guarded part of self someone can choose to give up to someone else, and they handle with care. Remember, it's the most important thing to them. If he feels the same way, he will probably tell you, even if he is already committed to someone. It doesn't mean he will act on it, but Scorpios are water signs after all and even though they try to do the hurt-you-to-protect-you thing it's pretty difficult to keep that up for a long time. If he doesn't feel the same, my personal opinion is that Scorpios are likely NOT to be direct. First of all, this runs too high of a risk of hurting the other person's feelings, and they would blame themselves for that, forever. Second of all, Scorpio is a fixed sign. In panic mode, I've observed that people with a lot of fixed signs in their chart tend to stay the course. He could just continue as always, not hurting you with a direct no but not really giving any answers either. This is probably worse than just saying "I'm not interested" to most people, but there you have it. But, this is just if he is acting out his Scorpio energy or if he is heavy Scorpio...of course there's other factors that influences how he might act like the rest of his chart, the timing, the energy in the air. I'm also curious to know about the nonverbal signals, if you don't mind. IP: Logged |
maira
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posted May 14, 2011 05:09 PM
It all depends on the depth of what you wrote (where's your Mercury?). If it's a casual note, and you just insinuated that something may or may not develop in the future, he may disregard it, as these people feel even more scared when vulnerable. Did you state that you feel exposed and scared? If the letter has depth and sincerity, you will definitely get a reaction. Even if it's not a yes, unless he's an immature and unevolved Scorpio, he'll make you feel relieved that you wrote the letter. IP: Logged |
maira
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posted May 14, 2011 05:11 PM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Where are you moving esheep--out of the country?
Darling (((Ami)))
I can feel the loving, mothering Cancer energy from thousands and thousands of miles away! IP: Logged |
starzy54
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From: CA
Registered: Feb 2010
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posted May 14, 2011 05:21 PM
from my experience with men,when they are put in an uncomfortable situation,or one they deem possibly bad or wrong,they will just not contact you anymore.He has a wife,and i'm sure getting a letter from you has him worried or scared of his wife finding out.He might be juggling with the idea of confronting you personally,but more often than not when a woman shows interest in an unavailable man he will just avoid the situation and block it out.we usually don't get those "Listen i think your a wonderful woman,but i'm married,and maybe if i wasn't than sure.." conversations.They just tend to block it out in my experiences,I've seen my fiance do this to women.he has a scorpio mars if that helps.but men in general,i dont think will take any bait.plus whatever he was to offer you,(fleeting,quick passion etc) will not over trump the shame,pain,and confusion,possible heartache it will cause to act on these feelings.It will be a quick moment of action,that will have a life long effect,most likely negatively.just my advice. IP: Logged |
JohnFKennedy
Knowflake Posts: 587
From: US
Registered: Aug 2009
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posted May 14, 2011 05:32 PM
If I may, I once sent a Scorpio ex of mine a reconciliation letter/note after a period of not speaking (it was hostile between us) and it deeply touched him, to offer some personal experience. I've done this more then once with him and it always softened him. Your situation is understandably far more complex given the fact you're both married, but who knows. Scorpios aren't as cruel as they're typically painted. IP: Logged |
RMChex
Knowflake Posts: 452
From: England
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted May 14, 2011 05:37 PM
Agreed. Scorpios are rarely ones to hurt someone for the fun of it, or 'start' a war.------------------
Where possible, give people a piece of your heart, not a piece of your mind. IP: Logged |
esheep123
Knowflake Posts: 238
From: brooklyn, ny usa
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted May 14, 2011 05:38 PM
Aries Mercury. My letter was straight and to the point, mostly. Stuff like "I wish I met you in another set of circumstances. I wish we could be friends, talk on the phone, I wish I could have a relationship, but we couldn't and didn't" type stuff. I gave him some compliments, about how amazing he is, and why. Then I told him that I will always treasure my feelings for him, and keep them with me forever. I told him that my feelings come with a great intensity, that both scares and soothes me.No sexy stuff, promise!
As far as the non verbal communication, the stares, the eye contact, smiles, body language, his need to always make sure I wasn't mad at him after he'd test me somehow (and I always saw right through his tests.). Then for my birthday, he stuck a birthday cake mailing label sticker outside my doorbell.
Then he did the same thing a few weeks later with a heart mailing label sticker. I also "find" things, like heart shapes made of sticks in the backyard, or from wires, a strategically placed souvenier flattened penny with the words "I love you" on it after his trip to Maryland. Peeping at me from his window, or bumping into me at the most opportune times. And the sighs. He's always singing and/or sighing when he sees me. So cute. The biggest indicator for me was that he asked my husband if "I" wanted to go to Jordan (my husband is taking us overseas by semi-force to "try it" there.) That is another story...and driving me depressed. I swear, if I drank, I'd be better off at this point. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted May 14, 2011 05:39 PM
Scorpio's are touched by "real".That is a great point!------------------
Throw away your books and listen to your heart.Listen the closest when it hurts the most.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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esheep123
Knowflake Posts: 238
From: brooklyn, ny usa
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted May 14, 2011 06:08 PM
I actually tell myself that I would prefer him toss it out in the garbage and never speak of it, than for anything to happen because of the severity of what can come of it.IP: Logged |
Shalimar
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posted May 14, 2011 06:09 PM
From the little gestures he's shown you, it sounds like he does reciprocate your feelings. Isn't it obvious to you? lol. As for the situation you're both in (being attached) I don't don't see scorpio making a blatant expression of his feelings for you. In my experience, that's just not the scorpio way, unless you both find yourself in a position to give yourself to one another 100%. When you see him again, I think you'll know how he felt about your letter. If he avoids you, it could just mean that you putting your feelings into words scared the daylights out of him. IP: Logged |
esheep123
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From: brooklyn, ny usa
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted May 14, 2011 07:33 PM
Also, should I take his words at face value?For example, today, he saw that my husband had taken my minivan, yet he still asked my son "Where are your parents" as if I left him home alone (my son is 6 and I've never done that). Then he said "the reason I asked is because I thought you were home alone." Is he fishing for info here? Or does he just want to mention me? IP: Logged |
NickiG
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From: Pluto, next to Ami Ann
Registered: Jul 2010
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posted May 14, 2011 07:39 PM
no no no no, never never take a scorpios words at face value...what they say is usually cryptic------------------
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Shalimar
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posted May 14, 2011 07:49 PM
Yup, I agree with NickiG. Scorpio was trying to find out if you were home, or if your husband was home.  IP: Logged |
esheep123
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From: brooklyn, ny usa
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted May 15, 2011 07:06 AM
I've calmed down a bit. I don't feel like he'll expose me. But I feel really scared about being confronted or rejected.I have no idea how he's going to react. But I'll definitely try to go with the flow about it. IP: Logged |
crabbypatty
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posted May 15, 2011 08:25 AM
If you are absolutely certain that it was him leaving those little tokens for you to find, then he won't make you feel bad about the letter. What I get from his asking your husband whether you want to go to Jordan is that he has definitely taken an interest in you. How that's going to pan out is anybody's guess.My bigger concern is that you are being strong armed into moving to Jordan. And the discussion here on LL about how difficult it could be for you to leave with your children (once you're there) has me thinking your first priority should be refusing to go. If your relationship with your husband is already as bad as it is, it's probably not going to improve in Jordan. And then you'll be stuck. Do you have parents or siblings here in the States who can take you and your children in until you can figure out the future? IP: Logged |
esheep123
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From: brooklyn, ny usa
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted May 15, 2011 08:45 AM
I have Neptune in the 12th house. I have escapism issues. I always seem to focus on something out of my control, when forced into a tough issue. I've decided to leave one of my children with my mom here in the states, and the hubby agrees it'll be a nice break for us to handle two little troublemakers, rather than three... and my husband is buying round trip tickets (so he says). He's got Venus Cap...hes not about to waste money buying round trip and not using it.He's an ass, a big one, and treats me like dirt. But I can't help feeling like I should try Jordan. Maybe with the less financial stresses there, he may be more relaxed? I wish there were self esteem boosting courses I could take somewhere. I really need help making myself feel more worthy. IP: Logged |
RMChex
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From: England
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted May 15, 2011 08:53 AM
eSheep - Scorpio guy seems like he is really in to you, and that is a great thing. For most Scorpios I know, 'knowing' how you feel about each other can be enough. He may not want to risk doing anything physical, because that is betrayal, but somehow if he knows you are serious about him, and vice versa then he will allow himself to have a meaningful relationship with you even though he is attached. Agree 100% with the other posters, there is no way he thought your son was home alone; I do things like that all the time - virtually everything I say has a hidden meaning. (Not a bad one, just not one I want to be open with.) I'd just wait for some new sign that he's seen the letter. He sounds very sweet, by the way! ------------------
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Astra
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posted May 15, 2011 09:40 AM
esheep,I advise you and your husband to seek marital counseling and sort out your relationship provided he is merely inconsiderate rather than abusive. Moving to Jordan will not change things between you and your husband. He may even treat you worse since he knows you won't have anyone to run to over there. If your husband is flat out abusive, divorce him immediately. You don't need to take that crap from him. There is no need to remain in a toxic marriage. Life will be very difficult at first, but it's the best thing for you and your children. As for the Scorpio, well, I seriously doubt he will be cruel towards you or expose you. It clearly sounds like he does care about you, but it's best not to write a letter exposing your feelings to any married/unavailable man. Even if he does not act on his feelings, you could get him into a heap of trouble with his wife if she finds the letter. Hopefully, he has the sense to shred the letter after reading it. Regardless of how the Scorpio reacts, you really need to ask yourself this question: is it worth it to stay with my husband? If this Scorpio guy wasn't around, would you be happy in your marriage or not? Do not make any decisions about your marriage based on the Scorpio guy. He may or may not leave his wife, so you must think practically. Your decision needs to be based on the welfare of you and your children. I wish you and your family the best. Good luck! IP: Logged |
Venia
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From: Somewhere near Jupiter
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted May 15, 2011 10:09 AM
esheep...I totally agree with Astra! What you said about your husband is really sad. Why are you tolerating such a behaviour? Are you dependent on him financially?
Maybe, the Scorpio guy arouse (definitely I think) feelings that you have forgotten experiencing - he gave you attention that you needed.
Do you really believe that things will get better with you and your husband abroad?
I doubt. You donīt deserve such treatment from him.
Please consider this situation carefully. Itīs about your life and HAPPINESS. On the other hand, I donīt think the Scorpio guy will expose you or ridicule you - on the contrary, from what you said about his behaviour towards you, he will appreciate it. The thing is that he may do nothing about it or step back simply because of the īsituationsī you both guys are currently. Anyhow, please THINK of yourself as someone who is worth love - cause you are. AND do something about it. I wish you the best!!! 
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esheep123
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From: brooklyn, ny usa
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted May 15, 2011 02:24 PM
He really wants to see me. He was standing at my door a few minutes ago, asking the kids if we packed yet...And he stood there for a few minutes. Me? I hid. Yep. Good times. And I sent my resume out to a few places. Let's see if I'm worth anything in the business world. I used to be an Accountant on Wall Street in 2006. IP: Logged |
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