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Topic: I miss my Scorpio neighbor
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted June 26, 2011 09:33 PM
  
Well ,bottom line. We all want to help Esheep. So, lets just unite in that.
Our personal differences are not really important, I don't think.
I have to go but that is my point of view on it, anyway!------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
I am my Beloved's.My Beloved is mine.
Song of Solomen
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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esheep123
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From: brooklyn, ny usa
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted June 26, 2011 09:38 PM
littlecloud, thanks for Underdstanding. Being hit is awful, and if a person were never beaten by their partner, they will never really understand what goes on mentally.Feeling a bit hopeless again. Also, I passed by my Scorpio neighbors house, my old apartment after hanging out with the husband. He was outside, back to the street, so he didn't see me pass in my car. My heart leapt into my throat. I have missed him so much. I've been sad since. I hurt in all ways... IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted June 26, 2011 09:57 PM
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Originally posted by esheep123:
littlecloud, thanks for Underdstanding. Being hit is awful, and if a person were never beaten by their partner, they will never really understand what goes on mentally.Feeling a bit hopeless again. Also, I passed by my Scorpio neighbors house, my old apartment after hanging out with the husband. He was outside, back to the street, so he didn't see me pass in my car. My heart leapt into my throat. I have missed him so much. I've been sad since. I hurt in all ways...
Yes , the road up from all this will be slow. If there were a quick fix, I would tell you cuz I would have found it  ------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
I am my Beloved's.My Beloved is mine.
Song of Solomen
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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littlecloud
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posted June 27, 2011 10:42 AM
Betty Boop-  Not sure if I remember correctly but you're in Australia right? From what I know Australia is generally better than America in a lot of things, even shelters from the sound of it. Cities in America usually have some of the worst shelters, especially L.A. and NY. I've been to the nicer ones and it's not a place I would choose to live but in desperation to get out of an abusive in environment I was ready to. I understand esheeps reluctance to go live in a shelter but having been in a slightly similar situation (minus children) it's better than living with her husband for sure. Sadly all the music and movies that illustrate what living in the projects is like is true. However essheep, taking into account your kids and being a stand up citizen (by law, in reference to your track record) me thinks you'll be ok. I'll probably be skewered for this next comment but fcuk it, I think the projects is harder for white people. Meaning if you look more white the you might have a problem because the majority of the people there, again sadly, are black and hispanics. A lot of this depends on your attitude as well. I think that if you were your hijab and the traditional clothing that you'll be left alone. Plus 3 months is a good enough time to make some head way into a few things as far as your children and divorcing your husband. (yes divorcing him is an order). Actually what would really help you in this case is if you had any proof, such as pictures of bruises or x-rays of harm done to you that specifically points to abuse, even abusive text messages and threats to your life will help you. (er with the divorce. Just reread that last line and it sounded horrible) I can understand where you're coming from a bit better than most people, but I wasn't in the same exact situation so my view is a bit different. I know what it's like. I don't know how you took it for so long. I'm about a year ahead of you and I can tell you that it gets better. No you won't completely heal but you'll learn to smile again with time. The healing will come with time and how much you help yourself. Just keep your chin up and start from scratch. You're an Aries you can do it.  Yes some days will really suck and you'll cry yourself to sleep and other days will be much better and you'll even love yourself a bit. After a while you'll love yourself a lot. Try this out, your kids are fairly young and are experiencing life from scratch. Experience it with them. Find joy in the slimy bugs they pull out of the dirt at a park, in having your stomach and heart jump into your throat when looking down from a swing, in a little puppy that licks your face (or cat, I know dogs are considered dirty), or go to a petting zoo and hold the little baby ducks in your hand and feed the goats that start to nibble on your fingers. Baby steps. One at a time and soon you'll see that you climbed a mountain. IP: Logged |
esheep123
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From: brooklyn, ny usa
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted June 27, 2011 04:04 PM
thanks littlecloud. It's definitely a long long long road ahead of me...And I don't have the esteem right now to see a bright side. I've been looking for apartments in my area; and been yelled at by my husband at every suggestion. He wants me to just settle and take a 1 bedroom apartment just because he said so... God help me. IP: Logged |
Benedict Moon*
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From: Avendesora
Registered: May 2009
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posted June 27, 2011 05:39 PM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Well ,bottom line. We all want to help Esheep. So, lets just unite in that.
Our personal differences are not really important, I don't think.
I have to go but that is my point of view on it, anyway!
Take your own damn advice!  All you've been doing this whole thread is putting down advice that's not in line with yours. Why don't you let ESHEEP decide for herself what does and doesn't belong here, it is HER thread after all.
P.S. Don't ever contact me on FB again with veiled insults/attempts at psychoanalysis. I let it slide that one time, but don't think I was born yesterday and not have a clue what you were doing. IP: Logged |
mochai
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From: Charon
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 27, 2011 07:58 PM
If he's looking at abandoning the children anyway, why don't you just let them stay with their grandparents for 6 months and get a job elsewhere, rent a room or do welfare in another city and bring them over when you can. It's better than them growing up in abuse. There has to be a place where you can land on your feet, no matter how hard that is. Around the holidays there are places near me where they will hire you almost no questions asked. Many temp places would probably love to have you with an accounting degree, especially with office experience. In New York City you can become a teacher through specialized programs and teach math, if only just to fill the work gap. Menial work, anything is better than the abuse. If you know how to drive, be a bus driver. If you have a clean record most places will hire you. Don't think you can't do it because you're a woman. I was considered one of the best bus drivers at my work place and the middle eastern passengers on my bus route even knew I was good. If you're knowledgeable about working out, go into a gym that despearately needs personal trainers and say you'll train for the certification and you'd be surprised how many will take you right off the bat (provided you can get over the cultural thing to play the role). What you don't know you can research, and most personal trainers are absolutely imbeciles who make their clients train incorrectly, lie to look more credible, and injure their clients. You would be much better. If people don't respond to your posts, I think it's more that they just don't know what to say. It's really hard to hear that you're going back to that. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted June 27, 2011 08:03 PM
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted June 27, 2011 08:10 PM
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Originally posted by Benedict Moon*:
Take your own damn advice! All you've been doing this whole thread is putting down advice that's not in line with yours. Why don't you let ESHEEP decide for herself what does and doesn't belong here, it is HER thread after all. P.S. Don't ever contact me on FB again with veiled insults/attempts at psychoanalysis. I let it slide that one time, but don't think I was born yesterday and not have a clue what you were doing.
Opinions are like noses.We all have them and they usually have a few holes in them  ------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
I am my Beloved's.My Beloved is mine.
Song of Solomen
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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crabbypatty
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posted June 27, 2011 09:59 PM
esheep: I have the same impression of the shelters in New York, but maybe, just maybe the ones specifically geared towards women with kids are a bit different. Look at the list below.... there's even an Arab-American program.NEW YORK
Aegis Battered Women’s Program - Bronx (800) 621-HOPE (621-4673) Allen Women’s Resource Center - Queens (718) 739-6202 Arab-American Family Support Center (718) 643-8000 Barrier Free Living, Inc. Freedom House - an emergency shelter specifically designed to serve victims of domestic violence with disabilities (212) 677-6668 Bronx Independent Living Services - Bronx Primarily serving people with disabilities, this program offers information, support, help with going to court, and benefits counseling. (718) 515-2800 Caribbean Women's Health Association, Inc. (718) 826-2942 DAY ONE (formerly Break the Cycle NY) P.O. Box 6270 FDR Station New York, NY 10150 (800) 214-4150 Domestic Violence Project of the Urban Justice Center Hotline: (718) 875-5062 Office: (718) 875-9400 Edith and Carl Marks Jewish Community - House of Bensonhurst 7802 Bay Parkway Brooklyn, NY 11214 P: 718 331 6800 English - x 149; Russian - x 147 F: 718 232 8461 Gay and Lesbian Anti Violence Project Hotline 212-714-1141 Henry Street Shelter - Manhattan (212) 475-6400 InMotion - Manhattan 70 West 36th Street, Suite 903 New York, NY 10018 (212) 695-3800 InMotion - Bronx 901 Walton Avenue #1A Bronx, NY 10452 (718) 537-7355 Korean-American Family Services Center 24-hour hotline (718) 460-3800 Admin # (718) 539-7682 (212) 465-0664 Morris Heights Center for Families - Bronx Support groups for battered women and programs for batterers. (718) 561-3190 New Day Shelter - Bronx (718) 617-8762 New Hope - Brooklyn (800) 621-HOPE (621-4673) NYC Alliance Against Sexual Assault 27 Christopher Street 3rd Floor New York, NY 10014 Phone- English: (212) 229-0345 Phone- en español: (212) 229-0345 ext. 306 New York City Family Justice Center: Brooklyn 350 Jay Street Brooklyn, NY 11201 New York Asian Women’s Center - Manhattan (888) 888-7702 Park Slope Safe Homes Project - Brooklyn (718) 499-2151 Project Oasis Safe Homes - Staten Island (800) 621-HOPE (621-4673) Pragati, Inc. (Women of Indian origin) - Queens (718) 456-4712 Queens Women’s Network - Queens (718) 657-6200 SAKHI for South Asian Women P.O.Box 20208 Greeley Square Station New York, NY 10001-0006 Hotline: (212) 868-6741 Office: (212) 714-9153 Sanctuary For Families, Inc. PO Box 1406 Wall Street Station New York, NY 10268 (212) 349-6009 Steps to End Family Violence (212) 410-4200 St. Rita’s Center (refugees) - Bronx (718) 365-4390 Transition Center (Kosher facilities) - Queens (718) 520-8045 Urban Women’s Retreat - Manhattan (212) 690-6490 V.O.W. (Voices of Women/Battered Women's Resource Center) 328 Flatbush Ave., Suite 342 Brooklyn, NY 11238 (212) 629-5929 Violence Intervention Program - Manhattan (212) 410-9080 fax: (212) 410-9117 Women Helping Women - Queens (718) 539-9111 Women’s Survival Space - Brooklyn (800) 621-HOPE (621-4673) IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted June 27, 2011 10:08 PM
Awesome Crabby  ------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
I am my Beloved's.My Beloved is mine.
Song of Solomen
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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esheep123
Knowflake Posts: 184
From: brooklyn, ny usa
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted June 30, 2011 09:14 AM
THank you for the list crabby patty.So far I've found out a lot of info. And I was told there is a program just for me, abused and separated... Last night Scorpio broke my heart. My dad told me that I look beat up when I woke up this morning. I told him it was my back, but it's really my heart. He ( found out he's a Scorpio sun/Gemini moon with mars in libra) said "variety is the spice of life" after telling me he's completely content with his wife, their sex life got hotter since he's been talking to me, and he only wanted to get me back with my husband, and that's why he was persistent in speaking with me. I asked him to never speak with me again. He asked me to forgive him. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted June 30, 2011 09:28 AM
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Originally posted by esheep123:
THank you for the list crabby patty.So far I've found out a lot of info. And I was told there is a program just for me, abused and separated... Last night Scorpio broke my heart. My dad told me that I look beat up when I woke up this morning. I told him it was my back, but it's really my heart. He ( found out he's a Scorpio sun/Gemini moon with mars in libra) said "variety is the spice of life" after telling me he's completely content with his wife, their sex life got hotter since he's been talking to me, and he only wanted to get me back with my husband, and that's why he was persistent in speaking with me. I asked him to never speak with me again. He asked me to forgive him.
What a JERK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am so ,so, so sorry you went through that.
That guy is really ,really bad.
He will pay for what he did to you,somehow.
Things come back on people!!!
If you looked up his Asteroids,he would have Lie,Actor and other deception Asteroids prominent! ------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
I am my Beloved's.My Beloved is mine.
Song of Solomen
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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Benedict Moon*
Knowflake Posts: 2404
From: Avendesora
Registered: May 2009
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posted June 30, 2011 09:58 AM
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Originally posted by esheep123:
THank you for the list crabby patty.So far I've found out a lot of info. And I was told there is a program just for me, abused and separated... Last night Scorpio broke my heart. My dad told me that I look beat up when I woke up this morning. I told him it was my back, but it's really my heart. He ( found out he's a Scorpio sun/Gemini moon with mars in libra) said "variety is the spice of life" after telling me he's completely content with his wife, their sex life got hotter since he's been talking to me, and he only wanted to get me back with my husband, and that's why he was persistent in speaking with me. I asked him to never speak with me again. He asked me to forgive him.
Ewww, sorry you had to find this out the hard way.  But honestly, great for you for setting some definite boundaries around yourself now. This is a big step foward. 
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esheep123
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From: brooklyn, ny usa
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posted June 30, 2011 02:22 PM
How obvious was this ending? IP: Logged |
woah cakes
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posted June 30, 2011 02:45 PM
nuts! that is sort of a double insult hey, considering both the leading on AND wanting you to be in an abusive relationship???well now you know how and why you can get over this guy, so that is the silver lining. you deserve much better. and as painful as it is, he really was the catalyst to get you out of such an unhealthy relationship, which is a GOOD thing. i'm glad you found some leads on shelters and support. you'll feel so much better when you're independent and away from these shmucks. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 30, 2011 02:54 PM
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Originally posted by esheep123:
How obvious was this ending?
I don't think there is one person on here who hasn't done anything as "stupid" as this.
If there is, we can put them under glass and preserve them  ------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
I am my Beloved's.My Beloved is mine.
Song of Solomen
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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mochai
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From: Charon
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 30, 2011 03:39 PM
Not 100% suprising, but not knowing you, I'm nontheless proud of you for the steps you've made.IP: Logged |
JohnFKennedy
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Registered: Aug 2009
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posted June 30, 2011 04:30 PM
Proud of you, girlfriend. You did good, and youve come out as the victor in this situation. You made an easy mistake all of us go through, even several times over, there's nothing to be embarrassed about. He's an idiot and you're so far above him it is ridiculous. You have a lot to be proud of. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted June 30, 2011 04:49 PM
Agreed; he's the idiot, not you. IP: Logged |
Benedict Moon*
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From: Avendesora
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posted June 30, 2011 08:34 PM
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Originally posted by esheep123:
How obvious was this ending?
I had my suspicions with him wanting you to go back to a dangerous situation, but I had no way of knowing he was this slimy. I'm really sorry. We all have had the wool pulled over us at sometime in our lives, especially when we're extremely vulnerable.
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lalalinda
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From: nevada
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posted June 30, 2011 10:07 PM
Live and learn Sweetheart IP: Logged |
mercuranian
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From: the 12th house
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posted June 30, 2011 11:52 PM
this sounds like harsh neptune aspects in the synastryIP: Logged |
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