posted May 07, 2013 04:24 AM            

I'm the Pluto in a few conjunctions. My Pluto is at 6' Scorpio:

- The guy I grew up with (16/08/82) has his Mars at 7 deg Scorpio. We were close for a while. He was like my brother.. but I have become distant towards him lately and I don't feel like things are 'the same' between us.

- The only man I have ever been in love with (02/08/67) - Mars at 6' Scorpio. Although I care about him and I know he cares about me, we had a few ups and downs.. not because of "us", but outer problems. I am no longer talking to him.. I can't explain why.. He's not happy about it... But yeah - I just .... don't want to talk anymore. So I did cut ties, more or less. Something upset me. It's not really his fault... but I can't get over it.

- A friend I had a few years ago (25/01/84) - Mars at 7' Scorp. I was fairly close to him, but not romantically involved. We ended up losing contact. I didn't feel a very strong pull with him. He seemed keen to have a relationship, not just with me.. but apparently with anyone, for the sake of it. This put me off.

- This is a guy I can't stand.. so I won't call him a 'friend'. He is born: 12/08/82 (same year as the guy I grew up with). His Mars is at 5' Scorpio. I don't know what it is about him but I simply do not like him. He has tried to cheat on his fiancee/now wife with me. He generally seems sleazy but also immature.. definitely not my type. I think it's his Taurus Moon that gets me though. I just find them lazy.
But again ^ he wanted something to happen.. and I did not & I'm the Pluto... so there's a pattern!

Generally it seems I have cut the ties.. or stopped interacting in some way.

Venusian -

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I have mars conjunct pluto with my boyfriend. He is the pluto. No didnt cut ties. We have loads of pluto aspects.

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posted May 07, 2013 06:14 AM              

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Originally posted by Odette:

Venusian -

I was curious if the Pluto cuts ties.. since I was Pluto in all of those conjunctions.

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These are our synastry plutos aspects. We are both pluto

Sun square pluto
Neptune square pluto
Lilith square pluto
Juno square pluto
Pluto semisquare Asc
Pluto opposition chiron
Moon trine pluto
Mercury trine pluto
Pluto trine sun
Pluto trine saturn
Chiron trine pluto
Mars conjunct pluto
Pluto conjunct uranus
Pluto conjunct pallas
Pluto sextile lilith
Uranus sextile pluto

Our composite

Neptune sextile pluto
Venus trine pluto
Pluto sextile Asc

posted May 07, 2013 06:27 AM            

Honestly, I feel like I have a lot power in the relationship - not fought for, but just given.
I'm head-over-heels for him, though, and he seems to be the same for me.

Married for four years so far.

posted May 07, 2013 06:45 AM            

There's a very tight opposition between her Pluto/Jupiter/Merc conjunction and his Mars/Venus conjunction, but without any of our trines and sextiles.

From what I've heard (from himself, but mostly his friends/family) it was a 4-year, on-again/off-again relationship, and during the latter half of it she treated him like garbage (yelled at him, put him down, expected him to bend over backwards for her w/o reciprocation, and wanted him to go to therapy because he was depressed - I wonder why he was...).
He held on, though, and was even going to ask her to marry him before she moved out - at first for space, but then she began to see other people while keeping him on a string (would call and want to hang out, would ask to go on dates and then stand him up, etc).

The only bit that I saw was her freaking out and stalking him at his condo when we started dating (she "arrived" two minutes after I left and began to freak out on him; would show up and begin taking stuff that he had from before they started dating, saying that it was hers and that she forgot it) and at his place of work (would start yelling at him in stairwells, would randomly show up at his weekend job and try to talk).
She emailing him randomly (" Do you have my passport?", "I have that bear your grandfather gave you," etc) and he would reply tersely but not impolitely ("No, you it was in x,", "I don't want the bear," etc) until she saw through mutual friends that we had married.

Apparently (from one of the bouts of her screaming at and hitting him), the gist of her latter-days crazy was that, while she moved out nearly a year prior, started dating/sleeping with other people, and explicitly told him that she was "letting him go" several months before we met, he fell in love with someone else and they were supposed to end up together.
-_-

She was a Scorp Sun with a Pisces Moon, Cappie Venus, and Virgo Mars.

posted May 07, 2013 07:13 AM            

I would've called the cops, but he just took it and continued to address her civilly during her periodic ambushes at work and surprise "I really meant to take these books and records when I left last year"-athons.

Pluto opp Mars/Venus.
Wow.

posted May 13, 2013 03:59 PM            

It was actually he (Mars person) who cut all ties with me. It was because his new love interest was jealous and paranoid about us remaining friends. He was completely manipulated by her. She had mental problems. Despite the fact that he disowned me (for which I developed intense resentment towards him because I thought of it as betrayal of our strong bond and friendship) I found out that they had broken up. He was made miserable by her and was in fact so desperate that he messaged me once begging for help.

After their supposed break up (I never really found out for sure but I saw that he had removed her from Facebook and had deleted all their photos together) he slowly started coming back. Now we’re friends (kind of) which is what I always wanted from the start. However I still resent him and sometimes wish he would just disappear from my life.

We had strong Saturn connections – Venus trine Saturn (DW), his Saturn trine my Sun and Moon, Saturn conjunct Saturn

Me:
Gemini Ascendant
Scorpio Sun, Moon, Venus, Jupiter, Pluto
Libra Mercury
Leo Mars
Pisces Saturn
Capricorn Uranus, Neptune

Him:
Sagittarius Ascendant, Sun, Mercury
Capricorn Moon, Uranus, Neptune
Scorpio Venus, Jupiter, Pluto
Mars Leo
Saturn Pisces

posted May 14, 2013 10:44 AM            

I had my Pluto conjunct his Mars.

Man this affair was SEXUAL. And there arguments would often lead to sex that, at some moments, I wouldn't be sure why we were fighting(maybe only creating enough tension to take our clothes off).

posted August 27, 2015 02:54 AM            

Basically, we have GREAT sex (!!) and we can talk about everything BUT, he plays mindgames and he is very good at it. It makes my Mars infuriated and off we go. I am extremely "fiery" and my Pluto squares Sun, Moon and Mercury so I'd say my Pluto is somewhat more explosive than his..at least when I've had enough.

He also has Venus on Asc (op Pluto) so there are some nuances with that I do not like! Very push/pull and passive aggressive ala Pisces.

posted August 27, 2015 04:28 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
^ Some time ago you were asking about a man potentially having BPD or NPD? Was this someone else, or the same guy?
I kind of developed a negative impression of your partner, from what you have been telling us... but I might've misunderstood some posts to be about him, when they may well have been about someone else.

Sexual attraction and sex is definitely off the charts with Mars/Pluto, so it's great that you have this aspect, from that perspective!
But for a marriage, Sun-Sun and Mercury-Mercury aspects would also be nice to have.
I can't say I like the egomaniac signs in his chart... I think I've mentioned this to you before. But I'm hoping he rises above that and displays a higher vibration of those energies.

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posted August 27, 2015 09:41 AM            

He left many times and I would try to fight for the relationship and make him stay. He would come back days later. Once, I had a boyfriend when we broke up and he said he would try and get me back no matter what. The new boyfriend didn't work out and he did get me back. I've tried leaving many times and he still tries to come back.

posted August 27, 2015 10:53 AM            

Theirs is an interesting synastry to study though I don't have my Dad's birth time They fight like cats and dogs yet still manage to keep it together. They would NEVER leave each other, under any circumstance. They are both eternally faithful to each other still, too, despite many times getting to the breaking point (Mercury square Mars at play too!).

posted August 27, 2015 11:11 AM            

I have the square aspect with someone DW.

posted August 27, 2015 11:42 AM            

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Originally posted by Rosalind:
Hmmm...

I have the square aspect with someone DW.

Lots of power struggles.
Ego and any other kind of fights.
Sexual tension. We cannot see it but others do. We could have sex only by looking intensively at each other.

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i nodded my head to all of this.

posted August 28, 2015 03:28 PM            

The one relationship I complained about being "controlled" and said I wanted more freedom.

He was a Leo, Mars/Pluto conjunct in Libra nataly and widely conjunct my Mars in Libra.

For about 2 weeks he cut me off to "think" about whether or not we should continue with the relationship.

The other one(Libra Sun/Moon) had his Pluto/Sun exact conjunct with my Mars in Libra. He was dodgy

After I broke off with him, he disappeared. I haven't seen him since.

I think the Pluto person has a thing about "cutting" people off. I have the wide Venus/Pluto conjunct in Scorpio and I find myself cutting people off.

But then again,my Pluto is in 7th.

posted August 28, 2015 04:09 PM            

i've been in a long term relationship with a guy where both our plutos and mars square each other - my pluto squared his mars, his pluto squared my mars..

the relationship was wonderful. i broke up with him because in the end (nearly 4 years together and we moved in together within 2 months) we're too young to choose love over career (we just finished undergrad) and we needed to be untied to anything so we can grow our own way and come into our own before we can think of getting back together

we really created a world for ourselves and were devoted to each other. though we figured out that that was hurting us as well. as much as our 'world' was home and safe we have to bite the bullet and learn to divide and recombine.. not just one all the time.

honestly the more we knew of each other's crazy side or skeletons buried under the closet the more we love each other. he literally knows every thing about me and there are now things i've either forgotten about myself or is no longer part of my psyche because he took it - something i considered horrible and worth grieving over, made it okay and either made it lovable or made it disappear. we grew alot together.

our relationship was simply, imo, love in it's purest form. i never really understood the phrase 'when you love someone you want them to be happy even if it's not with you' until our relationship happened. actually i never understood any of those selfless love quotes until we happened.

we still talk everyday. he's my best friend and i'm his. we both agreed that there's no way we'd be able to cut each other out of our lives for a long period of time.