posted April 22, 2015 05:24 AM            

"They don’t hold grudges: these are the people who remain friends with their exes. "
Yes, I don't hold grduges, I want to keep harmony,so I can remain friendship with ex if he didn't hurt me so much and he likes to keep friendship too.

posted April 07, 2018 11:56 PM            

He also has Venus square Pluto & Sun/Merc/Saturn in 8th so there is a lot of Pluto resonance as well.

We just spoke yesterday after 7+ years of no contact. It did NOT end well back then and boy, was he frosty at first. lol. It was bringing it aaaaalllll back. But I took the punches, didn't react and slowly but surely, the sweet, curious twin came back around. ;}

We first got together almost 20 years ago & I was the more unavailable one then. It's taken me years & a lot of other relationships to realize I actually had a similar configuration & emotional restlessness & that I'm not as traditional as I once thought. I have Mercury/Uranus conjunction on my Sun/Moon midpoint - makes a lot of sense while I've had a hard time settling down completely. (I also have al lot of Pluto/Scopr stuff & all my love planets are in fixed signs which makes me more tenacious) but am often attracted to unavailable & somewhat unconventional men (Uranus = 5th house ruler.)

He's the black sheep of his family, I'm the black sheep of mine. I've moved a ton in my life. He has 2 residences and every 3 days or so he's on the move to a different location.
His Mom is the literal representation of his moon. She's an Aquarian sun very spiritual & also a teacher. They are actually extremely close but I know when he was younger, they used to bump heads about his need to go his own way.

posted April 08, 2018 01:16 AM            

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Originally posted by LakiSG03:
I came across a really interesting article about people with hard aspects to their Moon and Uranus.
My Virgo Moon squares my Sagittarius Uranus, and the description nailed it! I've had a tendency to pull away in relationships in fear of suffocation and monotony. As much as I want to get close, I can't allow myself to get too close. I need room to breathe. Does anyone else with this placement experience that?

I also have a Sun in Cancer, Asc in Aries, Venus in Gemini and Mars in Cancer. So maybe those aspects to Uranus also have an impact.

Here's what the article says:

The Moon is the heart of the natal chart. When a person needs security, they turn inward to its familiar, intimate energy. It represents childhood and mother. Its element is water. Any feelings (or lack thereof) in love relationships will be decided by the condition of the natal Moon.

Uranus in the natal chart is responsible for upheaval. Its energy comes from a distant place, blasting away the things that need to be changed. It represents anything new, innovative or shocking. Its element is air. It is the universal alarm clock.

Anytime the Moon makes an aspect to Uranus in the natal chart, the emotional and the detached are combined. A good illustration of this is the moment of birth: the infant is yanked from its safe, watery environment and feels the awakening slap of cold air. What does this mean for the Moon-Uranus person in a relationship?

It helps to understand where the Moon-Uranus person is coming from. The Moon in any hard aspect (conjunction, opposition, square) to Uranus can indicate a traumatic event in childhood where security was ripped away. A quick word about aspects: I am focusing on hard aspects because they indicate trauma more than the harmonious trines and sextiles. Although all Moon-Uranus aspects will have a similar theme, the way the energies interact will vary according to the aspect. In a square, the two planets are butting heads. The opposition has the two planets at opposite ends of a table shouting at each other. The conjunction is the two in an uneasy dance where both partners try to lead.

The Moon-Uranus child’s response to trauma was deciding not to trust in emotional safety ever again. As an adult, this memory is carried into relationships. The Moon-Uranus person feels and acts like a detached outsider, reluctant to form any long-term bonds. They can develop an uncompromising attitude in relationships as a way of protecting themselves, deciding on the level of freedom and commitment without discussing things with their partner.

Their approach to committed relationships varies from restlessness to outright panic. What the Moon-Uranus person fears is being trapped and hurt. Someone with a Moon-Uranus square may be continually attracted to unreliable types. The energy of the square causes open tension which drives them forward to do something now. They can throw themselves into destructive relationships which they know, on some level, will not last. Or they may abruptly end a relationship if their partner (usually without knowing) restricts their freedom in some way. Someone with a Moon-Uranus opposition may dither for years over committing to anyone. The opposition causes a hard-to-define underlying tension. With a conjunction there may be less tension, but the energy of Uranus will still be prominent. They will stubbornly insist that the relationship operate according to their idea of commitment, which will not be typical. It may range from having an open relationship to simply needing more alone time than most people.

Moon-Uranus is not an emotionally stable combination. By itself, the energy of the Moon is constantly changing (reflecting its phases in the sky). Uranus has an erratic energy that can flare up and die quickly. Moon-Uranus people are drawn to whatever is new (Uranus is responsible for love or lust at first sight). But new fades quickly, and as a relationship settles into routine, the Moon-Uranus person finds their interest waning and finally disappearing. Sensations feel dulled, as if they were wrapped in a thin sheet of plastic.

Being involved with a Moon-Uranus person can be bewildering. The relationship starts with a glorious rush. The partner is flattered and overwhelmed by the attentions of this fascinating outsider. Over time, the partner notices how the Moon-Uranus person flatly refuses to do certain things (like making plans more then a few days in advance). The partner wonders how someone so apparently free-spirited can be so rigid at the same time. During conversations, the Moon-Uranus person will suddenly switch off: they’ll continue to talk, but emotionally they’ve left the room. Attempts to build intimacy cause them to distance themselves further.

Many Moon-Uranus types may be perfectly aware of the roots of their behaviour. Uranian detachment brings insight, so they are able to stand back and observe themselves. They may even offer helpful explanations to their partners. While this sounds healthy, it’s actually another way for the Moon-Uranus person to escape. For example, a Moon-Uranus person discovers that their partner is cheating. They will feel hurt, but the instant the hurt becomes apparent, they jump back to a safe distance. Whatever feelings they had for their partner have been replaced with numbness. Their reaction, depending on the rest of their chart, may range from, “No worries, it happens,” to, “Right. I’m leaving now”. Either way, it’s unlikely that they will be intimate with their partner again. The partner, expecting a display of hurt and/or anger, is confused. The Moon-Uranus person may calmly explain that they feel numb, and this reminds them of the time when they were six and their Dad walked out. Rather than feeling what’s happening, they describe the absence of feeling.

But before we write off Moon-Uranus folk as being condemned to a life of watching from the sidelines, remember that everything in astrology has two sides. The insight these people have into their emotions is a powerful tool. They’ve already covered the territory that others spend years in therapy trying to work through. They are not possessive, and they give their partners just as much freedom as they ask for themselves. They don’t hold grudges: these are the people who remain friends with their exes. And let’s not forget the power of Uranus as the great awakener. If you’re involved with a Moon-Uranus person, you’re involved with an innovator and rule-breaker. Get ready to toss any stale ideas about relationships out the window.

The key for the Moon-Uranus person is compromise and patience. With compromise, they will find that the freedom they have been guarding so closely is actually more available to them. If they suggest rather than insist, they will find that their partner is usually open to giving them the space they need. With the right partner, they will also find that the switching off of emotions is not a permanent condition. If they wait out the numbness, it often fades and the feelings they had for their partner are still there.

Inside all Moon-Uranus people is a conflict between the need to belong and the desire to break free. Not belonging makes them uneasy, but being part of something makes them uncomfortable. Are they capable of having a long-term, committed relationship? Yes – if they want one. It is entirely possible for them to be part of a relationship where they can be free to feel safe.

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posted April 08, 2018 07:44 AM            

For me, my moon is a mess energy wise!
It has so many "cords and lines" to it, its all tangled up, I can't know for sure which energy comes from which planet touching my moon.

I have:
Mars
Chiron
Uranus
Saturn
Mercury
and Asc aspecting my poor moon!

How to know which is which?!
Also I have noticed after looking at so many charts of others, I have a chart with many influences at once. Meaning being; Saturnian, plutonian and neptunian, all at once, because its a very tight tie between all thise energies in my chart.

Compared with other charts I have seen (friends and family etc) I have many more aspects to all my planets.

posted April 08, 2018 08:13 AM            

Though the "closing off emotionally" thing happens to me. And I thought it was a Saturn cold wall sort of thing. Now I'm confused if its saturn or uranus. Or both at the same time as they are conjunct! sigh.

But back to the topic, I can detach or as I call it "system shut down" , when I'm very very upset. First I will cry, be mad, angry, upset, depressed etc. I will allow the feelings to consume me, because to me, its very important to not repress ones emotions. I wanna taste them all.

But I'm also something called emotionally resillient. I will bounce back once I have felt everything, (it can take 1-3 days. Or 1-2 weeks). Then I can start to detangle my emotions, observe them, understand where they came from. For ex, I maybe got very upset, angry and sad about something a love interest did to me.

I may have felt it like I was being rejected. I will get very upset etc, the whole ride of emotions. But then after some days, I will start to analyse things. Because I know that thought affects emotions. and emotions affects thoughts! I will start to have a conversation with myself like:

Person A did this and said that to me.
It made me feel this and that.
I'm sure he ment to hurt me and reject me.
But, are you completely sure of that?
Maybe he ment this or that.
Maybe he was upset because you did this or that etc etc.

So I will challange and question all my thoughts and emotions. And I will end up having 3 or more scenarious about what something can have ment.

And then, I will move on. I'm my own therapist! i think this is mainly due to being plutonian and very self aware and interested in ones own psyche. But moon-uranus definitely helps!

posted April 08, 2018 08:22 AM            

Not having someone to share our mind and heart with, someone who can keep us on track, reflect back to us, question us, will essentially lead us to insanity. We'll go mad. Wanting to detach from that and "be free" when we've "had enough" is symptomatic of this. Aquarius and Uranus do indeed tend to generate a sort of "madness".

Perhaps it is for this reason we have Uranus aspecting certain things to begin with. We have an issue we need to grow out of, and often with Uranian energy, what our issue is, is so deep and ingrained, nothing less but a shock will help, and Uranus/Aquarius provides the energy we need to change.

When we have a sign or planet, it doesn't mean that always is what we are. It means that is the energy we need to work with to better embody the energy, sign or planet.

For example, Aquarius is the sign of friendship. This in no way means we are entitled to call ourselves masters of friendship. It all comes down to what you DO with the energy of the sign or planet you're given. It's like a tool to be mastered. If we come into this world and we're given a shovel, some seeds, a hoe and some plants, it doesn't mean we've mastered gardening. It means we have to learn how to become one through hard work, dedication and commitment.

The things that "trigger" our Uranus aspects are the very things we must work on, lest Uranus continue his shocks for all time.

We're not meant to just roll over and go "Oh I've got this aspect so that's why I've got that problem. Oh well!! Just who I am!"

posted April 08, 2018 09:38 AM            

Moon-Uranus fear of intimacy is because they fear the proverbial mat being pulled from under them.

I as a Moon Cancer-Mars Libra square guy can relate. I fear opening my sensitive heart because I don't want to get hurt. So I can get defensive.

Moon in Scorpio/Moon-Pluto fears being taken advantage of or abandoned.

Whilst Cap Moon/Sat-Moon finds it hard to admit that they need anyone. Always wanting to seem capable and "strong".

Unfortunately as much as these walls we build keep hurt out. They also stop healing from coming in.

Good news is that messed up people attract other messed up people. So we will have to learn to heal and there is no way to avoid it.

posted April 11, 2018 06:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Lalafortunaea:
@ChildofVenus

Oh, yes, very much so.

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posted June 24, 2018 04:54 PM            

"The Sea was in Love with the Sand."

The sea is wild, mysterious, intense and free, its unpredictable and cannot be controlled but it always willingly returns to kiss the sand.

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

posted June 24, 2018 08:26 PM            

I am a cool guy according to most people I meet and I'm not bad looking but I have never had a real relationship. I have a good amount of friends but when it comes to solid partnerships I've never been able to maintain one. I have always wondered if I will be able to settle down and marry. I literally can't be in a relationship because it is too restricting for me, maybe I just haven't found the right one but as of now I don't mind it. Girls tend to like me but I don't think they see me as relationship material.

posted June 24, 2018 08:36 PM            

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Originally posted by Radium:
I have an Aquarius moon and mercury. My Venus is also conjunct my Uranus AND Aqua rules my 4th.

I am a cool guy according to most people I meet and I'm not bad looking but I have never had a real relationship. I have a good amount of friends but when it comes to solid partnerships I've never been able to maintain one. I have always wondered if I will be able to settle down and marry. I literally can't be in a relationship because it is too restricting for me, maybe I just haven't found the right one but as of now I don't mind it. Girls tend to like me but I don't think they see me as relationship material.

Cause I'm not LOL

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Bless your honesty Radium! hahahaha

posted June 24, 2018 09:02 PM            

I want a relationship, then I dont want a relationship.

Right now I feel like juggling 2 or 3 men would help me with not getting too involved emotionally (and I am super emotional) with just the one person will prevent me from being hurt again.

But then I think it's not fair on the men and dont want to f u c k them over as I know how it can mess with someone..

posted June 24, 2018 11:11 PM            

So be you so that others have the courage to also be them and not restrict their true nature because of societal expectations.

posted June 25, 2018 01:02 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
unconditional love

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posted June 25, 2018 05:07 AM            

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Originally posted by Somna7H:
Mine is worse.
Neither have any friend nor ever had any single romantic relationship.
May be I will stay Single forever.

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Theres nothing wrong with being a virgin.

posted June 25, 2018 11:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Radium:
Venue-Uranus conjunction is a weird one man, I attract everything.

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