posted December 16, 2011 08:56 PM            

I didn't read all posts but I have to say something different to what others have said: when a friend/family member and I are involved in the same emotional situation I think I DO feel less than they do. I'm not talking about expressing it, but "feeling"...it seems to me that my emotions are less intense than most other people. Like for example when my grandfather passed away my family was understandably destroyed; I was also very sad and barely cried (I don't like crying in front of others but I think I only cried like once for a short time when I was alone) but I got over it quicker than, say, my brother. I should say that I loved him very much and were very close.

I'm definetely not a work-alcoholic; I'm actually pretty lazy and hate working 9 through 5 and couldn't care less about being CEO. I'm also incapable of saving $100. I don't care about traditions, I'm not a trendsetter but I'm not conservative either. (Thought I'd mention this because I read this about cappy moons every single time and it's so wrong - at least for me). Some things they DO get right: very critical of myself (and others), when things go wrong for some time I tend to get depressed, and can also be a bit irritable.

posted December 16, 2011 09:02 PM            

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I'm a cappy moon.
I'm extremely uncomfortable talking about feelings; whether they are "positive" feelings (excited, happy) or "negative" (sad etc) it doesn't seem to matter. I really don't like showing what I feel especially if it doesn't make sense. If for some reason I'm feeling something I'm not supposed to feel then I'll bury it and forget about it but no one ever is going to know that I ever felt like that.

I didn't read all posts but I have to say something different to what others have said: when a friend/family member and I are involved in the same emotional situation I think I DO feel less than they do. I'm not talking about expressing it, but "feeling"...it seems to me that my emotions are less intense than most other people. Like for example when my grandfather passed away my family was understandably destroyed; I was also very sad and barely cried (I don't like crying in front of others but I think I only cried like once for a short time when I was alone) but I got over it quicker than, say, my brother. I should say that I loved him very much and were very close.

I'm definetely not a work-alcoholic; I'm actually pretty lazy and hate working 9 through 5 and couldn't care less about being CEO. I'm also incapable of saving $100. I don't care about traditions, I'm not a trendsetter but I'm not conservative either. (Thought I'd mention this because I read this about cappy moons every single time and it's so wrong - at least for me). Some things they DO get right: very critical of myself (and others), when things go wrong for some time I tend to get depressed, and can also be a bit irritable.

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posted December 16, 2011 09:29 PM            

I know I really shouldn't take this personally but I am a touch annoyed with the whole "hiding feelings" thing being attributed to Capricorn Moon and also to Aries Sun sometimes (as I have both in my chart).

After giving this a lot of thought... I have a feeling that it is more cultural.

Yesterday, my mom was at my place for dinner. We were just eating and chit-chatting.. and the TV was on in the background. At one point I switched the channel and we saw a short scene of Law&Order where a guy thanks the lawyers or whoever was in the room.. and he has tears in his eyes.. after which he says "I'll leave before I embarrass myself" that is to say - before he *cries*.

My mom says: "Oh really? I didn't even know that was embarrassing oneself"

So I said: "Yes.. apparently in some cultures it is " O_O

posted December 16, 2011 09:34 PM            

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I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate?

posted December 16, 2011 09:43 PM            

As a cap mooner myself, I can relate to some of this; being lazy, not conservative etc. But I am curious, What house is your cap moon in? and perhaps does it aspect your ascendant/ neptune? curious, i think it may diminish receptivity/sensitivity to emotions (both your own and others). For example, my cap moon is in the first house (and conjunct uranus, neptune, my cap Ascendant, and oddly Eros) and I find it makes me very sensitive to others, but emotions when not of self pity or melancholy are geared towards being practical, what will channelling these emotions 'do' internally etc, I guess even with emotions there is some type of 'goal', but yeah lots of sensitivity. I think it really depends on the house in which the moon is placed, I'm curious the house position of your cap moon.

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My moon is in the ninth house and I failed to mention that it squares Pluto and Saturn. I have a hard time trying to differentiate each influence but I supposed it can only "boost" the irritability and depression that cappy moon might provide :P . It's also on 26 - 27 degree so there might be some Aqua Moon influence? Not sure about this, this idea just come up.

So, are you sayig that you only feel strongly when you have negative emotions about you? (self pity) but for others you'll only feel strongly when their emotions make sense?
What I mean is for example: if someone else is feeling pity towards themself, are you more likely to "understand" them and be empathic towards them? or do you disregard them for feeling something that won't get them anywhere?
I have a hard time being empathic toward others' feelings that I don't understand or , in my opinion, dont fit the situation. I try to not judge but I will listen to them (if I have to) and support them but deep inside me I'll just be blank.
My mom literary suffers and worries when someone else is feeling sad it's like she "captures" those feelings (Aries Moon)
I can´t do that. Most times, if someone else is going through a difficult time and have a valid reason, I'll totally try to make their lives easier and will hope that everything'll turn out ok for them, but it won't make me lose sleep.
Am I being too blunt?

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posted December 16, 2011 10:37 PM            

I'll make up a situation..

Lets say you are sitting down somewhere like... hmmm McDonalds? somewhere in public... and you get a phone call telling you that someone close to you (it could be a friend, family member or pet) has passed away.

Would you purposely try to avoid crying on the phone or even getting watery-eyes... simply because you are in public?

What I find strange about this is that no one actually *cares*.
You could probably bowl your eyes out in the middle of a crowded street and no one would give a damn.. because we live in such a nice world full of very self-centered good samaritans.
They'd forget they even saw you the moment they walk past.

posted December 16, 2011 10:40 PM            

i might get watery eyed, but i'll hold back the tears until i feel alone....like, say, i run to the bathroom or behind a building in the alley where no one goes (not that there are any alleys in my town)

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I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate?

posted December 17, 2011 12:38 AM            

I’d prefer to be alone just so I can get my thoughts together and breathe.
Because when I am surrounded by others – I can feel a bit suffocated.

But it does not embarrass me at all to cry. In your example Nicky -- If I went to the bathroom and later found out there were cameras there and someone posted a video of me crying on youtube, I could care less.

Crying just doesn’t register as embarrassing to me.
If someone told me they sat on a couch that had spilt coffee on it... and they walked around with a huge brown spot on their white business-suit… throughout the day --- This registers to me as an embarrassing situation.
Crying does not! I can’t understand the psyche of someone who would be embarrassed by it.

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So if I was the witness rather than the crier?
Well personally I am very Piscean so if this was someone I knew - I’d try to see if they wanted to talk and if everything was ok. If they did want to be alone – I would live them alone.

If it was someone I did not know – again I wouldn’t feel embarrassed.. I’d carry on with my day.. and I’d try to mentally send them positive vibes like ‘I hope that person I saw crying earlier – is OK now.. and feeling better” – I would think of it like a prayer.

Seeing emotions doesn't make me uncomfortable. I have a watery chart.

But a lot of people (minus the extra Neptunian ones)… don’t seem very interested at all. I think most people wouldn’t even look at the person crying or notice them – at all… nor feel embarrassment.

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I also don’t feel like I need to cry on someone’s shoulder.. but I wouldn’t avoid it.

If someone was nice to me and there for me.. someone who understands.. I could ‘cry on their shoulder’. If no one was there.. I could cry on my own.

Basically I wouldn’t avoid someone’s sympathy, if it was genuine (because I would think it was really nice of them to give a damn and I would appreciate it) -- but I don’t seek it out either.

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No. I really don’t feel this way. Why ultimate?
I would say sex is the ultimate act of privacy for me… because I want that to be between me&him. That’s why I usually talk about general preferences but I never give details. This is also not because of embarrassment.. but rather because it feels –special- if it’s between us only.

Crying is such a natural thing from my perspective… people cry in such different circumstances.. I don’t really see it as a private thing. People cry at weddings – at funerals, at movies – when they’ve had an argument – when they make-up.
I think crying can be very sweet sometimes – depending on the emotion it conveys. I love to see people crying out of happiness.. like when they meet someone they haven’t seen in ages at the airport.

But as I said before – I don’t cry much because I don’t really react to things. It takes a lot for me to have such a strong emotional response (maybe this is where my Cap Moon comes in). But if I did react I wouldn’t feel like hiding it.

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That's the thing... I'm almost never screaming inside. I don't reach that height of emotion because I'm pretty calm overall.

But if I was really in a situation where I was *that* strongly hurt.. I would explain myself (that I'm upset etc..) and I would probably leave. I wouldn't put on an act.
My Moon is very closely sextile Pisces Merc.. so I find it easy to express what I feel through words.

I think I'd only hide it - if I thought it might ruin someone else's day... like if it was Xmas and there were kids around - and they expected me to be there and be happy - then I wouldn't just leave.

posted December 17, 2011 11:52 AM            

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No. I really don’t feel this way. Why ultimate?
I would say sex is the ultimate act of privacy for me…
because I want that to be between me&him

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One of the ultimate. Pain is just as soul-baring as sex.

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Agree! Crying out of happiness is very intense,I could give in to that,and I find it very heart-warming and genuine.

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I think I'd only hide it - if I thought it might ruin someone
else's day... like if it was Xmas and there were kids around -
and they expected me to be there and be happy - then I
wouldn't just leave.
So, I guess if I felt it was irresponsible to look upset -
because of the way it might affect others... then I would
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posted December 17, 2011 11:57 AM            

you said you wouldnt put on an act

thats the thing with me...i'm no performer, so i'm not going to make a scene in public...even if it doesnt make a scene, i dont want the possibility of making a scene

and the way it is around here, the people are very friendly, so just about anyone will come up to you and ask if you are ok...its not the city here...no buildings above 3 stories....its just a gigantic community, even if we dont know our neighbors name

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I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate?

posted December 17, 2011 12:05 PM            

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I think it is very interesting that you would consider crying an act.

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it is a performance only for intimate parties

(damn leo moon, lol)

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I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate?

posted December 17, 2011 12:12 PM            

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I know I really shouldn't take this personally but I am a touch annoyed with the whole "hiding feelings" thing being attributed to Capricorn Moon and also to Aries Sun sometimes (as I have both in my chart).

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posted December 17, 2011 12:21 PM            

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Would you purposely try to avoid crying on the phone or even getting watery-eyes... simply because you are in public?

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posted December 17, 2011 01:11 PM            

Have never seen him cry/ get emotional or anything.Apparently, when he was younger, he was a deeply sensitive kid. I guess people learn to balance other aspects of their chart as they get older.

My dad, albeit his stoic exterior, has a Cancer sun. I see his Cancer sun because of his terrible mood swings.In such instances, everyone just leaves him alone.

I think a good romantic matchup for Cap moon is a Taurus moon. My Mom has her Taurus moon trine my Dad's Cap moon and she "gets" him.

He writes long essay-like love letters to my mom from time to time; expressing his undying devotions in ways that even my soppy Cancer moon would cringe.

So these folks do "feel", but I think they tend to "feel" in retrospect rather than contextually; maybe that is why they come across as unfeeling/ aloof. They take time to truly feel.

Other people seem to get them. I never will.....

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posted December 17, 2011 01:41 PM            

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