posted July 19, 2014 08:32 PM            

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Originally posted by BellaFenice:
You unfortunately missed my point. I'm not talking about online dating or running around asking people whether they think you are nice or not. I'm talking about people who constantly proclaim they are nice and play the victim when in reality they are not. I still stand by my point, you shouldn't have to proclaim/justify you are nice if you really are nice.

I'm referring to people who suffer from the Nice Guy/Girl Syndrome. People who shout from the rooftops how nice they are and how unfair it is that the opposite sex treats them badly. But in reality, have themselves to blame for their dating problems. People who oversimplify ideas as to why women/men aren't flocking to them in groups. The same whiners who are manipulative and self-serving.

People who get angry when you friendzone them: "I have sexual needs, how dare you reject me!" Claiming you know everything about the opposite sex when in reality you can't even have a conversation with one. Having a sense of entitlement because you 'deserve' it more than your peers.

Hopefully this clarified my statements.

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"I'm referring to people who suffer from the Nice Guy/Girl Syndrome. People who shout from the rooftops how nice they are and how unfair it is that the opposite sex treats them badly. But in reality, have themselves to blame for their dating problems."

But maybe (in their mind) they are doing all the nice and right things, but they don't have any women interested in them because they're "too" nice.
And this is what is falsely assumed here. That they're all the same.

Yeah, of course all they have to blame is themselves for their dating problems, and the problem isn't that they aren't actually nice like they say they are, it's just that is exactly it. They should try not to be too nice, and then see whether or not they attract women.

I stand by my point as well.

And I agree, like I said in an earlier post; people shouldn't have to say they're nice (non-online dating and interaction), they should just show it with their actions and not even point out that they're nice.