posted December 18, 2012 05:15 PM            

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90 percent of all bird species are monogamous

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Termites

In an ant colony, a queen mates once with the male(s), stores the gametes for life, and the male ants die shortly after mating. In contrast, several species of termites can form lifelong pair bonds between a female "queen" and a single male "king" who literally give birth to their entire kingdom.

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Schistosoma mansoni worms

They may not offer the conventional image of love, but these parasitic worms are usually far more faithful than the humans they inhabit. As unromantic as it sounds, they cause the disease schistosomiasis, also known as snail fever. When they reproduce sexually within the human body, they form loyal monogamous pair bonds that typically last the entire cycle.

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Other speices that are known to stay faithful:

Gibbons

French Angelfish

Wolves

Prairie Voles

posted December 18, 2012 06:12 PM            

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Originally posted by 11nahyt:
in my ipod/ipad 90 percent of the songs are from 05 and back. maybe 20 songs are from 06 - now

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posted December 18, 2012 08:59 PM            

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Originally posted by 11nahyt:
sorry but i just don't care enough to get into that much detail. im just not going to go as far as to actually list numerous artist, to compare to past artists. and this and that etc etc, just to try and disprove someone else's opinion. especially on something as subjective as musical tastes? because at the end of the day, what you or i consider "good" music, is still a matter of opinion. and if you don't see things the way i see it, then so what?. i don't see things the way you see it either. but SO WHAT? i wasn't aware that we HAD to see eye to eye on our musical preferences.

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I wasn't arguing your opinion on your preferences, and I didn't even question your claim that it's all about the money today as I don't see how you could possibly know enough in the music industry so intimately as to be able to make such a valid claim, only your claim that music today is worse, particularly more violent, today than before. That is, I didn't challenge your opinion, I challenged your assertion of the facts.

And it was also a little disconcerting to you see you believe it so strongly and act amazed that anyone could disagree (as I can't help but wonder what I missed). The 80s pretty much gave us some of the most violent songs ever, from gangsta rap to metal songs that literally sang praises to Josef "Angel of Death" Mengele. Not even Marilyn Manson at his most shocking came close to what used to be very popular. And while arguable that those were to niche audiences (though large enough that they became exceedingly wealthy), even pop & country were more violent, as I already gave examples of. And you also told me to compare and so I did...I guess it's you who needs to compare then.

posted December 18, 2012 10:28 PM            

For me, it's either commitment or I'm playing the field without any strings.

posted December 19, 2012 09:14 AM            

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Originally posted by ail221:
Why would I want to share someone who I intend on sharing numerous intimate things with.

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posted December 19, 2012 05:44 PM            

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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
I actually think that music has gotten progressively less promoting of sleeping around in recent years. If anything there is an epidemic of pu$$y-whippification in popular music. It started with the emo movement/Dashboard Confessional and now you've got Bruno Mars telling the masses that "you're amazing just the way you are." The Ushers of the world, with their lurid tales of infidelity, have become passe, so 1999.

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Something else this thread got me to wondering about...where are the songs about a young man sleeping with an older woman (or at least eroticizing the experience) like the award winning Mrs. Robinson and Hot For Teacher? Have any been made since 2000?

And interesting enough I never heard those 2 songs I just mentioned piped over store speakers, but I HAVE heard Don't Stand So Close to Me played quite a bit.

I'm finding it strange because these days the cougars and the pumas are in style, and female teachers hooking up with underage male students have also skyrocketed in the last 10 years. So wouldn't the music world reflect that?

posted December 19, 2012 06:08 PM            

“How I feel is that if I wanted anything I’d take it. That’s what I’ve always thought all my life. But it happens that I want you, and so I just haven’t room for any other desires.”

― F. Scott Fitzgerald
The Beautiful and Damned
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posted December 19, 2012 09:59 PM            

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Originally posted by 11nahyt:
i loveeee 80's and 90's music. even songs from those days that could be categorized as "meaningless" is still substantially more meaningful than today's version of "meaningless" lol. sad sad. music from before had more passion. you can feel the artist's passion for their music. . today, its alll about the money and fame.. and glamorizing violence. there's a "vacant" feel in today's music. its no longer being composed from the heart. the majority of today's artist are only passionate about the money they're gonna make off their "music".

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posted December 20, 2012 05:53 PM            

During that time, it was exactly what I needed. I have an insanely high sex drive but I don't like to go out on the prowl or get involved with people who don't get it. I don't drink, so the bar scene felt silly.

I am also a single parent and I didn't want to spend a large chunk of time going out to dinners and endless "dating rituals" only to be potentially let down. At the time, I also didn't want to have a relationship that would progress to living with another man. I didn't want a "step-father" figure coming in and taking over. I needed it to be me and the kids for a while, without any outsiders.

Some would say I should have not been worried about sex but I am human. I love my kids but I am not a martyr.

Anyway, he treated me better than anyone I was ever with before (including my ex-husband who I was with for 7 years). I never felt like girlfriend #2 or girlfriend #3. He would drop anything to help me or one of my friends if we needed him to. For example, one of our mutual friends had recently experienced a loss in her family and he picked me up at my house took me to her (70 miles) & we sat with her all day while she cried. He dropped his other plans and he was there because I asked him to be.

Obviously, it worked for us because he wasn't a selfish & arrogant ass. And I was able to approach the relationship with a clear head because I knew there were no expectations or promises. It was very much like what people call "friends with benefits" but we had a real & caring relationship and other women were involved. And that was ok with me because I couldn't/didn't want to give him all of my time.

I got my sexual/emotional needs taken care of and then I could quickly get back to my kids & my work. No long romantic weekends. No awkward moments of him trying to pretend to like my kids... it was great.

We didn't "break up" or end things in a dramatic fashion and we are still friends. We ended the sexual relations when I met someone who did seem to take a genuine interest in me and who did not mind that I am a single parent.

I experienced a significant amount of personal growth from my open relationship experience. I learned not to be as suffocating and jealous as I usually would be (I have Venus in Scorpio). I learned to be open minded about trying new things and to not shoot down ideas instantly (it could be anything, including new restaurants). I jokingly tell people "I learned to share my toys". LOL!!

Yes, I am monogamous by nature. It is my preference and desire to be partnered up with one person, my best friend. But at that time, I simply wasn't ready. I felt my kids were not ready for that either.

I just thought I'd add a positive experience.

posted December 20, 2012 06:00 PM            

Open does not = whoring around and catching STDs.

He was sexually faithful (does that make sense?) to his core ladies. That sounds funny saying it, but it's true.

The wife approved of the girlfriend and then those two had to approve of me. I know that sounds weird, but being completely truthful and honest is what made it work and made it to where we didn't have trust issues.

Before me, he was with his wife for 5 years & his other girlfriend on the side for 2 years.

Condoms were used EVERY single time. I cannot admit that to be true in my previous monogamous relations...

posted December 20, 2012 06:55 PM            

Each new person (first gf, then me) was approved and not kept a secret. It was an actual open relationship not just "swinging" or sex parties or anything of that nature that could be perceived as more risky for STDs.

Also, within the group, because of the open/honest nature of it, there wasn't any secrecy or hurt feelings. He didn't have to lie to his wife and say he was "working late" to spend time with me, etc. We were all extra careful because we knew about each other.

On the other hand, the butthole I was married to for 7 years cheated and put me at risk for STDs because he was not honest. I thought he was monogamous, so we did not use condoms (we were married!).

posted December 20, 2012 07:00 PM            

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Involving other people in a relationship just ruins the security of it I think? And it's not as intimate (emotionally).

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Not for us. I felt secure with my situation because I wasn't ready for a new, lifelong partner but I didn't want to just sleep around and have casual sex.

It was also very intimate and emotionally fulfilling, for me.

At that time, it was all I needed.

posted December 20, 2012 07:41 PM            

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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
I'm just an all or nothing person, in that when I really want a person, I don't want anyone else.

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I usually am too. But in this case, it worked for the time in my life that I needed it to. It was a phase and it was a good experience.