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Topic: How to handle Sagittarius guys?
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hannaramaa
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posted February 26, 2013 08:42 AM
  
Not men... guys, lol. This isn't concerning the Sagittarius I met online either. I met another one! This one has an Aries moon and Venus in Capricorn. He already told me he has a crush on me but we haven't seen each other in years! The three Sags I've met the last few months seem like they're really emotional, but they don't like emotion from other people? What's your experience with Sag guys and Sags in general? What makes them want to get closer to you?IP: Logged |
rosedl
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posted February 26, 2013 05:34 PM
Be honest.Don't take things they say personally. Sags often do want a committed relationship, but they need LOTS of space to run. I am a Cancer who was with a Sag for 11 years, it was never a very good romantic relationship but we always made swimmingly good friends. And, being his friend IS the most important thing. It is why he stayed so long. IP: Logged |
starfairy
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posted February 26, 2013 05:37 PM
Omg he's just like me! Sag Sun, Aries Moon, Venus Cap.I agree with the above about the space stuff. I need a lot of space or else I feel really claustrophobic. I also agree that friendship is very important! For Venus Caps, trust is VERY important. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted February 26, 2013 05:40 PM
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What makes them want to get closer to you?
Space... They like space.
The more space you give them the closer they try to get to you.
They are completely paranoid about people trapping them... and will fight for their freedom even in situations where their freedom was not at all threatened.
So the more space and freedom you give them, the better.
They are often attracted to Gemini women - because of this 'personal space' issue. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted February 26, 2013 05:41 PM
oh wow two other people said "space" - I didn't even notice..OK - *space* it IS!!!  IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted February 26, 2013 05:47 PM
That doesn't sound very appealing to my Sag DSC, at all...
/unfair
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ail221
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posted February 26, 2013 07:49 PM
Being honest to the point of almost being rude.Let them come to you don't chase after them. Be prepared to randomly runaway to place without much notice. IP: Logged |
7thGuardian
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posted February 26, 2013 08:26 PM
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PixieJane
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posted February 26, 2013 08:44 PM
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Originally posted by rosedl:
Be honest.Don't take things they say personally. Sags often do want a committed relationship, but they need LOTS of space to run. I am a Cancer who was with a Sag for 11 years, it was never a very good romantic relationship but we always made swimmingly good friends. And, being his friend IS the most important thing. It is why he stayed so long.
This seems true more often than not. My dad was that way, too. And they like emotion, they just don't like to be smothered or repressed (that includes getting bawled out every time he says what he's thinking, which isn't intended to be mean-spirited or disrespectful as many people take it), but they seem inclined to give others their own space (and right to speak their mind) as well. Generally speaking, if you want an interesting partner with his own life (as opposed to being glued to you all the time), and willing to give you your own space as well, then Sag is a good choice. But if you want someone who will let you be his shadow and/or thinks only of you all the time then you shouldn't pursue Sags as that's just not likely to fly with them. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted February 26, 2013 09:03 PM
I made a post about wanting a boyfriend on Facebook and he liked it. But I know, it's a Sag, doesn't mean much lol. Yes, I already let him text me first. I hate texting first anyways especially because with Sags it feels like I'm chasing them immediately when I do. I'm definitely honest to the point of being rude lol!! This Sag guy was like "Well, I one another record" (he bids on them on eBay) and I couldn't think of how to respond so I just said "And the world spins on..." :X. Hmm. He has Mercury in Capricorn though, and the other Mercury in Scorpio. My Mercury in Aries must be rough on them lol.IP: Logged |
starfairy
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posted February 26, 2013 10:33 PM
^^ he's a Mercury Cap, too? The Aries moon guy? Omg you really are dating me! haha we have 4 inner planets in common! Don't tell me he has his Mars in Aqua... quote:
Originally posted by PixieJane:
This seems true more often than not. My dad was that way, too. And they like emotion, they just don't like to be smothered or repressed (that includes getting bawled out every time he says what he's thinking, which isn't intended to be mean-spirited or disrespectful as many people take it), but they seem inclined to give others their own space (and right to speak their mind) as well. Generally speaking, if you want an interesting partner with his own life (as opposed to being glued to you all the time), and willing to give you your own space as well, then Sag is a good choice. But if you want someone who will let you be his shadow and/or thinks only of you all the time then you shouldn't pursue Sags as that's just not likely to fly with them.
You understand Sags well 
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Starry~*
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posted February 27, 2013 03:00 AM
Libra girl here with a sag guy for 6 years and soon to be engaged:They want to feel comfortable with the person they are with. That basically includes what the others have mentioned already regarding trust and freedom. Cuz tbh nobody wants to be with a drag who ties them down. They would like someone who supports their ideas and who is encouraging. Someone who is not too uptight, with a good sense of humor and can laugh with him. Smile a lot and laugh a lot--that's what they like to see. The sag I'm with is a Taurus moon with a cap Venus. He is a libra ASC, however, so him and I understand each other well. He has mars and merc in Scorpio.
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hannaramaa
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posted February 27, 2013 08:56 AM
What if you're the type of person who's very "I mean what I say and say what I mean"? I am a flexible person but if I say no then I mean it. Do Sags like that in a person? Also I'm very big on social causes and injustices but this doesn't seem to impress Sags much. What does impress a Sag? I hope not intellect because I've never felt very smart academically.IP: Logged |
inaworldofsong
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posted February 27, 2013 09:54 AM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
What if you're the type of person who's very "I mean what I say and say what I mean"? I am a flexible person but if I say no then I mean it. Do Sags like that in a person? Also I'm very big on social causes and injustices but this doesn't seem to impress Sags much. What does impress a Sag? I hope not intellect because I've never felt very smart academically.
As a Sag girl, those all sound like very appealing qualities, actually. Keep it as real as possible, don't hide things or lie by omission. Share your passions - Sags love people who are passionate about many different things. Interest in social justice issues should actually work to your advantage with Sags, because their ruler Jupiter is the planet of ethics, justice, law, and fairness. Traditional "intelligence" is less important than being informed and being able to think on your own. It's more about being able to look at the facts and come to your own educated conclusions than being able to do advanced calculus. To impress a Sag, be funny. If you know and like their particular sense of humor, try to make them laugh. Also, show them something new that you think they'll like. Don't be afraid to show off a little! As for emotion, Sags aren't necessarily the BEST with emotion, at least the more negative ones. They generally work best when everyone is energetic and enthusiastic and happy. They're fairly balanced in being able to express emotion, but dealing with someone sobbing hysterically they'll probably just try to throw in a couple awkward jokes or change the topic to something more lighthearted. (The only exception to this that I've seen is my dad, but he's a Scorpio Moon, so...) IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted February 27, 2013 12:24 PM
I'm not worried about crying hysterical at all. I don't cry for the most part, really. I wondered how they handled show-offs! I don't know what it is but when I get around fire suns the performer in me really starts trying to come out lol! IP: Logged |
vickymadness
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posted February 27, 2013 12:37 PM
They are low maintenance, so really, handle them any way. Just avoid nagging, complaining, lying and being boring...and you'll be fine. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted February 27, 2013 12:39 PM
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Originally posted by vickymadness:
They are low maintenance, so really, handle them any way. Just avoid nagging, complaining, lying and being boring...and you'll be fine.
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Lazyscarecrow
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posted February 27, 2013 02:39 PM
All these are not really surprising, with keeping histrionics and emotional drama to a bare minimum and allowing them enough space to run back to you every single time and just being happy and interesting. I am recently confused though, as I know a lot of Sag guys who are getting with Scorpio women as of late. And these are moody, possessive textbook Scorpio women who need constant reassurance. I'm definitely not saying all Scorpio girls are like this (There are detached ones too) but I'm describing the ones with these Sags. So maybe there are exceptions... IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted February 27, 2013 02:53 PM
ummm They kind of like emotional drama... though...
Much like the other fire signs... IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted February 27, 2013 03:17 PM
Good! ^ This is good. I need variety in the answers to form a good conclusion (taking my personal experience into account as well.)IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted February 27, 2013 03:18 PM
Also to add I've noticed Sagittarius' like "crazy" girls. However, defining what type of "crazy" they like is hard. I've seen one with a possessive girl, one with a demanding girl, one who had anxiety and depression issues, but the point is they were extremists. That worries me (a very little bit.) because I'm not an extremist. Well, I contain that side of myself anyway Haha!IP: Logged |
Padre35
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posted February 27, 2013 03:26 PM
Hmm, I'm a Saggie Sun and think there is a fine line between being smothering and becoming disinterested. When the feeling of disinterest comes into play, Saggie's don't get hurt, we just wander off, no harm no foul. But if the romantic interest is really still interested they don't quite understand why we just sort of disappeared. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted February 27, 2013 04:11 PM
padre - quote:
if the romantic interest is really still interested they don't quite understand why we just sort of disappeared.
Not all... A lot of airy-type women wouldn't care much.
Aries women are passionate though. They want their men to fight for them. And if you don't fight and wander off.. they conclude you are weak and have no spine. This happens sometimes in Aries-Sag relationships ^^ so it's worth mentioning - Hannarama, since you're an Aries as well But some Sag guys are more energetic and passionate. It depends on their other placements. I wouldn't go for the "loopy" - "don't know what I want" - "don't know how to get what I want" - "don't know how to hold on to what I want, once I have it" and so on....kind of Sag...
Something else I've noticed very often is that - Sag men end up with air sign women like Gemini or Aquarius.. because these women give them a lot of space.. But then they complain that these girls are "too cold". I think it's difficult for Sagittarius to understand that they can't have their cake and eat it too.
hannarama -
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I'm not an extremist.
They do like aggression.. so "crazy" in that sense..
If you throw your shoes at his head in an argument... the make-up sex will be all the hotter, if you know what I mean 
However, they don't like depressed-types.. They like girls who are mostly positive and up-beat. IP: Logged |
Padre35
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posted February 27, 2013 04:33 PM
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Not all... A lot of airy-type women wouldn't care much.
Aries women are passionate though. They want their men to fight for them. And if you don't fight and wander off.. they conclude you are weak and have no spine. This happens sometimes in Aries-Sag relationships ^^ so it's worth mentioning - Hannarama, since you're an Aries as well Something else I've noticed very often is that - Sag men end up with air sign women like Gemini or Aquarius.. because these women give them a lot of space.. But then they complain that these girls are "too cold". I think it's difficult for Sagittarius to understand that they can't have their cake and eat it too.
About the Aries portion that can be true, Saggies, at least myself, tend to operate with bursts of passion and then withdrawals. I don't think that would go over to well with the Ram..  Libras and Virgos though, we seem to just mesh well. As for Airy women..not so much, just to dispassionate for me at least, then again do have all of the Scorpio and Pluto so could be more the exception than the rule. IP: Logged |
Yin
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posted February 27, 2013 04:33 PM
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Originally posted by rosedl:
Be honest.Don't take things they say personally. Sags often do want a committed relationship, but they need LOTS of space to run. I am a Cancer who was with a Sag for 11 years, it was never a very good romantic relationship but we always made swimmingly good friends. And, being his friend IS the most important thing. It is why he stayed so long.
Rose, why wasn't it a good romantic relationship? And LOL to the taking things personally part. I need to check myself before I blurt out hurtful stuff to my tenderhearted Cancer. I think I'm getting better. Either that, or he's getting better at not taking it personally, LOL.
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