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Topic: Capricorn Guy...
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hannaramaa Knowflake Posts: 4996 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 12:00 PM
Okay, this Capricorn guy has liked me for a few months now (and his Sag Moon and Sag Mercury made that quite obvious; Venus in Aquarius and Mars in Taurus for good measure.) and finally confessed it to me last week. But then he went cold by not responding to my texts, and when I invited him out to the lake to hang out, he declined... but still wanted to know if a couple things about me were true (facts like - am I writing a book, and do I read Tarot cards). What gives? If you like someone, don't you jump at the chance to spend time with them? We've never hung out outside of work, but prior to my invitation he invited me to drive allllll the way up to where he lives (about an hour and a half drive) just to go to some lame biker bar. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme Knowflake Posts: 2784 From: neptune Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 19, 2013 12:11 PM
TBH, even though I don't like telling you this, it sounds like he is playing a game with you IP: Logged |
AriesKat Knowflake Posts: 732 From: Brooklyn, NY USA Registered: May 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 12:17 PM
I hope you didnt go to that barIP: Logged |
hannaramaa Knowflake Posts: 4996 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 12:19 PM
WHY do people like playing games with me so much! He said he loves talking to me (I didn't ask any of this) and I know everything about him ... Hell no, I didn't go to that bar! He wanted to take me out and I was like "No, that place sucks." IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme Knowflake Posts: 2784 From: neptune Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 19, 2013 12:20 PM
I know, it's not fair. I hate it when people do stuff like that.Doesn't sound like he has a good personality or character. IP: Logged |
AriesKat Knowflake Posts: 732 From: Brooklyn, NY USA Registered: May 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 12:27 PM
But of you did im not judging..but notice how when you invited him out he declined? its easy for him to have you drive all the way up to see him...no efforts on his part. And then didnt even treat you to a nice meal or something classier? IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Knowflake Posts: 4996 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 12:29 PM
quote: Originally posted by AriesKat: But of you did im not judging..but notice how when you invited him out he declined? its easy for him to have you drive all the way up to see him...no efforts on his part. And then didnt even treat you to a nice meal or something classier?
Yeah I thought about that too. Wow, what a douche. He did say "Let me take you out" when he invited me, so he was going to treat me but it's still not worth an hour and a half drive to me at this point, lol. Like, why don't you drive down here then... IP: Logged |
AriesKat Knowflake Posts: 732 From: Brooklyn, NY USA Registered: May 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 12:29 PM
quote: Originally posted by hannaramaa: WHY do people like playing games with me so much! He said he loves talking to me (I didn't ask any of this) and I know everything about him ... Hell no, I didn't go to that bar! He wanted to take me out and I was like "No, that place sucks."
ok good because you deserve better than that...I feel you on the game playing ish..just ignore him and move on..thats all you can do...he is prolly out playing games with other chicks too..dodge that bullet!
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hannaramaa Knowflake Posts: 4996 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 12:34 PM
I know he is. Like he hasn't opened up to me about that part, but I'm sure he would. I met him because he stays at our hotel every week and we started talking, and it's kind of like therapy. He opened up pretty fast alright, but he's 22, with a Sag moon, so no hope there. Not for awhile.IP: Logged |
AriesKat Knowflake Posts: 732 From: Brooklyn, NY USA Registered: May 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 12:34 PM
quote: Originally posted by hannaramaa: Yeah I thought about that too. Wow, what a douche. He did say "Let me take you out" when he invited me, so he was going to treat me but it's still not worth an hour and a half drive to me at this point, lol. Like, why don't you drive down here then...
but drinks? in my experience when men offer drinks as a first date is because he wants to have sex .
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Venusincap89 Knowflake Posts: 48 From: Registered: Jul 2013
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posted July 19, 2013 12:35 PM
hmm well i have venus in cap so I don't know if my opinion would be any useful but.. my understanding is that if he said he likes you and all.. chances are he really does because I was told Capricorn people have really hard time being all emtionally lovey dovey, including myself I find it really really hardI am thinking that he really tried hard but was disappointed by your response to his.. gut spilling action? Do you thhink there was anything from you that he might have found it.. inconsiderate? IP: Logged |
AriesKat Knowflake Posts: 732 From: Brooklyn, NY USA Registered: May 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 12:37 PM
how old are you hanna of you dont mind me asking?IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Knowflake Posts: 4996 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 12:48 PM
@AriesKat - I'm 24. He's 22. Do I sound younger?@VenusCap - This is what I'm learning about Caps. They are similar to Cancers in that they are literal people. He is so not the type who would just say how much he liked someone if he didn't. He is shy because he thinks I'm out of his league. Sometimes you just pick up things from a person without them having to confirm it, and that is one of those things. He plays dumb, but I know he isn't. When he told me he liked me like that out of the blue, I declined and said we should just stay friends. He's been with two other girls in the process of chasing me, which he tried saying (essentially) that just because those relationships changes (and they were not real relationships, more like f. buddies, or a date.) doesn't mean mine and his relationship has to change. Romantic questions aside, he trusts me somewhat. I know more of his background and his character than he expected me to, for sure. ^This is why I'm like "But you won't go to the lake..." So far, we are both sending each other mixed signals. I started that, I guess, but I'm not pressuring for a relationship and marriage... I just don't want to share lol. I haven't told him that as much though, and I won't bring it up again unless he does. IP: Logged |
AriesKat Knowflake Posts: 732 From: Brooklyn, NY USA Registered: May 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 12:52 PM
quote: Originally posted by hannaramaa: @AriesKat - I'm 24. He's 22. Do I sound younger?@VenusCap - This is what I'm learning about Caps. They are similar to Cancers in that they are literal people. He is so not the type who would just say how much he liked someone if he didn't. He is shy because he thinks I'm out of his league. Sometimes you just pick up things from a person without them having to confirm it, and that is one of those things. He plays dumb, but I know he isn't. When he told me he liked me like that out of the blue, I declined and said we should just stay friends. He's been with two other girls in the process of chasing me, which he tried saying (essentially) that just because those relationships changes (and they were not real relationships, more like f. buddies, or a date.) doesn't mean mine and his relationship has to change. Romantic questions aside, he trusts me somewhat. I know more of his background and his character than he expected me to, for sure. ^This is why I'm like "But you won't go to the lake..." So far, we are both sending each other mixed signals. I started that, I guess, but I'm not pressuring for a relationship and marriage... I just don't want to share lol. I haven't told him that as much though, and I won't bring it up again unless he does.
no I actually thought you were older...but with men its seems so simple..if they are interested then you will know and if not you will know too...doesnt matter their placements IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Knowflake Posts: 4996 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 01:03 PM
I do know he's interested, like I believe he's interested because he talks to me for long periods of time. The problem is that he's young and probably isn't looking for the same relationship I'm looking for, but either doesn't know how to communicate that, or I'm wrong and he's just stubborn and didn't want to go to the lake 'cause he was tired after a long day at work. When I called he was almost asleep.IP: Logged |
Venusincap89 Knowflake Posts: 48 From: Registered: Jul 2013
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posted July 19, 2013 01:03 PM
Oh wow... read my thread! I went through the exact same thing I also asked this girl out before and as soon as I felt rejected (in your case 'let's be friends', was a game finisher), my immediate response to that was trying my best to forget about it by dating other girls in hopes to neutralize my emotions... I thnk we caps move on too fast for our own good.. but we do so in search for security... in this case I believe he was looking for emotioanl securityI think if you just give him an inch.. I don't know maybe telling him 'that you didn't mean it when you told him you just wanted to be firends with him.. or at least some sort of other hints' may help him alot!! because it seems to me that he still likes you alot!! or at least more than it may appear to be IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Knowflake Posts: 4996 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 01:06 PM
quote: Originally posted by Venusincap89: Oh wow... read my thread! I went through the exact same thing I also asked this girl out before and as soon as I felt rejected (in your case 'let's be friends', was a game finisher), my immediate response to that was trying my best to forget about you by dating other girls in hopes to neutralize my emotions...I think if you just give him an inch.. I don't know maybe telling him 'that you didn't mean it when you told him you just wanted to be firends with him.. or at least some sort of other hints' may help him alot!! because it seems to me that he still likes you
This is my feeling too. I'm not one of those girls that's like "Well he SAID he'd call... so I'll still wait." Or anything. But I'm leaving out a lot of the story in order to make it concise. I've hinted I'm attracted, and I think he thinks I like him but he's unsure why, or he's unsure in general so it is taking a lot longer. Plus, I get the feeling he likes me more than the other two girls he was with so he is being more careful with me. We sort of come from opposite ends of the spectrum. What's your thread called? IP: Logged |
Venusincap89 Knowflake Posts: 48 From: Registered: Jul 2013
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posted July 19, 2013 01:13 PM
it's called Venus in leo woman and Venus in capricorn man? please tell me what your signs are? and please tell me more info you feel that you have left out.. longer the better! p.s as for the drinking on the first date.. I've done that as well before and I don't know about this guy but my intentions were to make the date feel more relaxed and hope that lady would open up more with the help of alcohol.. because I've been told few times that girls are sometimes scared by me... I mean I am not gonna lie, sex would have been appeciated for sure but that was probably not his main intention IP: Logged |
AriesKat Knowflake Posts: 732 From: Brooklyn, NY USA Registered: May 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 01:16 PM
quote: Originally posted by Venusincap89: it's called Venus in leo woman and Venus in capricorn man? please tell me what your signs are? and please tell me more info you feel that you have left out.. longer the better! p.s as for the drinking on the first date.. I've done that as well before and I don't know about this guy but my intentions were to make the date feel more relaxed and hope that lady would open up more with the help of alcohol.. because I've been told few times that girls are sometimes scared by me
yes thats the point to lower ones defenses IP: Logged |
AriesKat Knowflake Posts: 732 From: Brooklyn, NY USA Registered: May 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 01:18 PM
quote: Originally posted by hannaramaa: This is my feeling too. I'm not one of those girls that's like "Well he SAID he'd call... so I'll still wait." Or anything. But I'm leaving out a lot of the story in order to make it concise. I've hinted I'm attracted, and I think he thinks I like him but he's unsure why, or he's unsure in general so it is taking a lot longer. Plus, I get the feeling he likes me more than the other two girls he was with so he is being more careful with me. We sort of come from opposite ends of the spectrum.What's your thread called?
Hanna why would you have to hint to a guy to make him show that he likes you? that is called chasing even if subtle. If he is truly interested then sit back and let him show you how much he really is or if its all talk. And some guys can talk on the phone for hours because they are bored and passing time, he is 22 right? IP: Logged |
AriesKat Knowflake Posts: 732 From: Brooklyn, NY USA Registered: May 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 01:21 PM
and if you already know that you guys arent interested in the same type of relationships then why waste your time. YOu alredy think he is playing games, that is an awful way to begin IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Knowflake Posts: 4996 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 01:24 PM
quote: Originally posted by Venusincap89: it's called Venus in leo woman and Venus in capricorn man? please tell me what your signs are? and please tell me more info you feel that you have left out.. longer the better! p.s as for the drinking on the first date.. I've done that as well before and I don't know about this guy but my intentions were to make the date feel more relaxed and lady to open up more with the help of alcohol.. because I've been told few times that girls are sometimes scared by me
For one, nobody can make me do anything I don't want to do. I still have experiences to go through relationship wise, but my core is very secure. Plus, I didn't see the bar as a big deal because I've been talking and getting to know him so long due to him staying at my hotel every week (four days out of the week) for work. I'm tired at the moment, but if I think of anything that seems necessary to put in - I will. I'm a Gemini ASC, Aries Sun, Taurus Moon, Mercury in Aries (which goes great with his Mercury in Sag - we can read each other very well) Venus in Aries, Mars in Gemini. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Knowflake Posts: 4996 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 01:26 PM
quote: Originally posted by AriesKat: Hanna why would you have to hint to a guy to make him show that he likes you? that is called chasing even if subtle. If he is truly interested then sit back and let him show you how much he really is or if its all talk. And some guys can talk on the phone for hours because they are bored and passing time, he is 22 right?
We didn't talk on the phone, he talks to me in person because we see each other 4 days out of the week. I'll take your advice, but I haven't made a decision one way or another. He could very well be playing games, we'll see.
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hannaramaa Knowflake Posts: 4996 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 01:28 PM
quote: Originally posted by AriesKat: and if you already know that you guys arent interested in the same type of relationships then why waste your time. YOu alredy think he is playing games, that is an awful way to begin
Because maybe I'm bored just like he is? I've never dated just for fun and have always looked for something serious and never found it, so I'm switching it up. IP: Logged |
AriesKat Knowflake Posts: 732 From: Brooklyn, NY USA Registered: May 2011
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posted July 19, 2013 01:28 PM
quote: Originally posted by hannaramaa: For one, nobody can make me do anything I don't want to do. I still have experiences to go through relationship wise, but my core is very secure. Plus, I didn't see the bar as a big deal because I've been talking and getting to know him so long due to him staying at my hotel every week (four days out of the week) for work.I'm tired at the moment, but if I think of anything that seems necessary to put in - I will. I'm a Gemini ASC, Aries Sun, Taurus Moon, Mercury in Aries (which goes great with his Mercury in Sag - we can read each other very well) Venus in Aries, Mars in Gemini.
Hanna how secure are you? I remember having another convo just like this with you about another guy. I know you have experiences to go through but somethings you can avoid if you really want to. YOur right its all about choices and you will do what you feel is right.
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