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posted December 11, 2013 04:11 PM            

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You didn't get my post.

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posted December 11, 2013 04:12 PM            

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Originally posted by LovelyAries86:

You & Mercurian should get together.

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Uh nooo Aries sister!

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posted December 11, 2013 04:16 PM            

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You didn't get my post.

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Yes I did. You are not alone. I don't like casual stuff either. Must be a Scorpio ASC trait.

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posted December 11, 2013 04:18 PM            

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I didn't say that not being interested in casual relationships and sex = asexual.

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posted December 11, 2013 04:21 PM            

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19 year old virgin waiting waiting till marriage with saturn in pisces in 1 house, mars in cancer in 5 house, neptune in house 12 square venus in house 8. Also chiron in virgo in the 7 house if it means anything

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posted December 11, 2013 04:25 PM            

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Good luck with waiting
Sun conjunct Neptune. It gives quite high expectations which might result in keeping the v-card for a long time. Especially if they're in one of the love houses.

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posted December 11, 2013 04:26 PM            

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Neptune conjunct mars?

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I also have this ^ If things had been different I could've easily never had sex until today - but it so happened that I did.
It could've gone either way.
Mars/Neptune isn't all that interested in the physical aspects of sex.

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posted December 11, 2013 04:28 PM            

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don't engage in CASUAL sex

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No. She said she was not interested - not just that she doesn't engage.

Some people can have sexual desires - and still hold back and not engage in casual sex for other reasons.

When you have no desire (no interest at all) - then you're asexual - or potentially demisexual.

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posted December 11, 2013 04:29 PM            

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Neptune conjunct mars?

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Hmm actually these people usually loose it due to lack of boundaries

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posted December 11, 2013 04:32 PM            

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I don't know on what level they might lose it lol
But mine is in Capricorn - and I generally just feel like sex is 'meh' to me.
If I never had sex again it wouldn't make me unhappy.

It's a lack of physical boundaries.
You feel like you flow in and out of people - but you don't have to have sex to feel that way.

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posted December 11, 2013 04:39 PM            

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I have mars square neptune exact, I'm not spiritually or morally against casual sex. Actually I'm extremely over sexed and have trained my body to be at it's peak sexual condition.
I've had plenty of opportunities but I never wanted to go all the way with someone not on the same sexual wave length.
It does not seem very pleasurable to me at all... It's really as simple as that. Sex for the sake of sex seems empty and cold.
So I went aaaaaallllll the way this year at 21.

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posted December 11, 2013 04:43 PM            

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Oh, you remined me I'm against it spiritually. I don't want to ruin my etheric body

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posted December 11, 2013 04:44 PM            

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I'm here as well, in my early 20s.

Traditional - Saturn Capricorn, 5th house, widely square Venus. Venus is also squared by Neptune and Uranus, although it's also conjunct Sun, conjunct Mercury, sextiles Moon and Jupiter, and exactly trines Mars.

Why? I have idea about why. I'm not asexual, i really want it much, but when the relationship goes anywhere close to that, i get cold feet and don't want to engage in casual thing. It would be casual, because.. well, because my Venus/Neptune+Uranus square makes me fall for guys who are already taken, so... Also till the age of 19 I was really shy, i've changed since a lot. Now i feel i'm using all the good aspects my Venus has. I'm social, outgoing, men do like me a lot - if i'd want, if i'd said yes - i could enter a relationship even tomorrow, unfortunately if there are no feelings from my side, i can't. I would feel that i betray myself. There can be no feelings to other men if i do have feelings for that one special guy. So round and round it goes. But i am dedicated much to overcome it. I mean, i'm dating others, and hopefully, there will be a man that will make me forget that one.

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posted December 11, 2013 04:46 PM            

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Uh nooo Aries sister!

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posted December 11, 2013 04:48 PM            

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didn't know about the Neptune conjunct Mars part. that was shocking...

Ruler of the Eighth House in the Seventh House

You need a certain amount of control when it comes to partnerships of any kind. You feel intensely about close relationships and you just might be someone who also feels strongly about confining your sex life to the marriage state exclusively.

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posted December 11, 2013 05:35 PM            

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To add my experiences, I have mars conjunct venus, neptune, uranus and sextile pluto. Mars in 9th also trine Jupiter in 5th. Transit Saturn was in my 5th house Iate teen years. So my guess is if you have Saturn in 10th natally, you probably want to focus on career.

I'm not interested in casual sex or even casual relationship. I'm 21. I don't see the point of having sex early because ppl are not emotionally mature enough and I get turned off very quickly when ppl are not in the same page with me. Most teenage or college guys are not on the same page with me when it comes to respect. If I want to lose mine just for the sake of it, I can lose it now. I don't think I'll wait until marriage but I don't place high values on losing it or keeping it, just whom i want to be with. I'm an Air sun so I guess that makes sense.

On another note, mars conjunct neptune just means you can go along time without having sex. Losing virginity has a lot to do with your environment as well. Mine was not only strict but also painful. So I had a lot more on my mind besides sex.

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posted December 11, 2013 05:52 PM            

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posted December 11, 2013 07:04 PM            

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It's...complicated. I'm probably asexual and I would need the right person anyway since I'm not interested in casual stuff. I'm in my early 20's.

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If you're asexual then there is no "right person." It means you're not interested in sex period, never. Asexuals may still desire a romantic relationship, however, but one that's completely without sex. If, OTOH, you are waiting for the "right person" to have sex with (even if you never find the person) then you're not asexual.

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posted December 11, 2013 07:10 PM            

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As for the question in general...I'm wondering if that means those who choose not to or those who never do though they want to. There are sure are a lot of tortured men (and even a few women) who moan about being virgins at age 25 (and much younger of course) for a variety of reasons. I know a guy bitter about being a virgin though he's like in his 50s now (that is, it wasn't the Capricorn's choice, it just worked out that way though his personality & hygiene is a big reason for it).

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posted December 11, 2013 07:25 PM            

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I'm a bit skeptical of someone saying they want to and can't find anyone to have sex with because... it's doubtful.
Specially a 50 yr old..
I mean he could have the worst personality and hygiene - and he would've still found someone to have sex with him or a prostitute if he *really* wanted to (in the past 30-35 yrs of his life). I'm positive he could've found a woman out there with worse hygiene than his lol
It sounds suss.

The only cases where it is really impossible or difficult are when the person is disabled in a way that impairs their ability to have sex or enjoy sex.

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posted December 11, 2013 07:30 PM            

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Pixie, I simply take into consideration that I might feel both emotional and sexual attraction to someone someday. It's speculation. I'm not waiting or looking for anyone but I'm not closed to the possibility of losing virginity IF the right circumstances appear. Right for me. Anything still unclear?

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posted December 11, 2013 07:32 PM            

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I'm not a virgin but I can do casual either. Also Scorpio ASC. Venus in 8th

I lost my virginity as a junior in high school which was on the later side at the time but not by any means late obviously.

I know someone mentioned seeing synastry of losing your virginty too. I have his chart, obviously. And I was his first

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posted December 11, 2013 07:33 PM            

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Pixie, I simply take into consideration that I might feel both emotional and sexual attraction to someone someday. It's a speculation. I'm not waiting or looking for anyone but I'm not closed to the possibility of losing virginity IF the right circumstances appear. Right for me. Anything still unclear?

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If you're asexual then the right circumstances will NEVER appear. Anything still unclear?

Granted, you can speculate. But just because straight people speculate on who they "might go gay for" doesn't mean they're no longer straight.

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posted December 11, 2013 07:34 PM            

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That's why I said "I'm PROBABLY asexual". Because I'm not 100% sure, OK? That's not a crime, is it?

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posted December 11, 2013 07:38 PM            

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I'm a bit skeptical of someone saying they want to and can't find anyone to have sex with because... it's doubtful.
Specially a 50 yr old..
I mean he could have the worst personality and hygiene - and he would've still found someone to have sex with him or a prostitute if he *really* wanted to (in the past 30-35 yrs of his life). I'm positive he could've found a woman out there with worse hygiene than his lol
It sounds suss.

The only cases where it is really impossible or difficult are when the person is disabled in a way that impairs their ability to have sex or enjoy sex.

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The guy probably is disabled in a mental capacity. The guy is brilliant but has some very weird obsessions and hangups. Despite his lack of hygiene he's still a true germaphobe (opening doors with handkerchiefs for example), and that's just one reason I think he may be somewhat insane. And I can see why that would make it hard for him to be with prostitutes, especially when how little money he has is factored in.

In addition he gets weird obsessions with women that turns him into a stalker (there are multiple restraining orders against him). Not just any woman will do, he has to have a very special one with a standard look and just one of many of his weird hangups. (That said he did share about how he refused to help a woman move in next door because he knew she wouldn't have sex with him for it and he wasn't a "chump." I didn't ask about what she looked like.)

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