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Topic: People that stay in bad relationships (settle for less)
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Orange
Knowflake Posts: 1175
From: Georgia
Registered: May 2009
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posted December 20, 2013 10:28 AM
  
You all are ganging up on Rosalind from the get go and that is not pretty. Let her express her opinion for once without jumping for her throat.
I understand she may have strong astrological opinions but isn't it everyone's prerogative after all. And where is the moderator of THIS Forum? IP: Logged |
Rosalind
Knowflake Posts: 2858
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posted December 20, 2013 10:32 AM
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Originally posted by Orange:
You all are ganging up on Rosalind from the get go and that is not pretty. Let her express her opinion for once without jumping for her throat.
I understand she may have strong astrological opinions but isn't it everyone's prerogative after all. And where is the moderator of THIS Forum?
Thank you. Blessings!
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Faith
Moderator Posts: 6362
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Registered: Jul 2011
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posted December 20, 2013 11:03 AM
 I wasn't ganging up on her. She gave us a command, so I gave her one.IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 7896
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted December 20, 2013 11:05 AM
Pretty much everyone on this whole thread... 0_0
Do I think 7th house, yes maybe if they are the codependent types.
I guess it depends how afflicted their ruler and house is.
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Jessica2407
Moderator Posts: 4488
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted December 20, 2013 11:06 AM
Neither was I. LOLwhat a thought!  I asked her to be nice and considerate. You can have astrological opinions, and you can voice them out nicely. No need to be on the defensive and unpleasant to others. IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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Registered: Jul 2013
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posted December 20, 2013 11:08 AM
I have sun/moon/mercury/Ascendant trine Saturn and Pluto square Saturn. I was in a really bad relationship for over 5 years. Not because I settled for less but because I really loved the person and thought that by staying with him it would make him better. It seemed the relationship got bad after moving in together. I don't regret many things in life because I like to look at everything as a learning experience, but I can't help regretting moving in together. It ruined our relationship. I didn't settle, I was just too blinded by love or what I thought love was. I don't like to get too deep here but I feel like sharing would give you a little insight  IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted December 20, 2013 11:08 AM
LOL KeroseneOk well to make amends... I've stayed in bad relationships. I think my Cap sun never wants to quit and my Pisces moon always sees the other person's point of view so clearly, I sympathize...and can be controlled that way. That being said my husband is being very sweet lately and this does not pertain to the current state of my marriage. IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
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From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted December 20, 2013 11:10 AM
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Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 7896
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted December 20, 2013 11:22 AM
I love you ladies though... My 7th house ruler jupiter is really afflicted and it's in fall... I could see myself staying in relationship that turns completely sour if I have emotionally committed to someone. Which is why marriage in general sounds like an even worse idea for me.. there would be even less reason for me to leave and I would be miserable all my life.. -___-
It really depends on the situation I mean a lot of times I go into them without any intentions of it developing..
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Violets
Knowflake Posts: 1544
From: Twin Peaks
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted December 20, 2013 11:28 AM
My 7th is empty, as is my 1st. I have Pallas and Mean BML in 7th though.And I have stayed in some seriously toxic relationships. One after another. Thankfully, that does not apply to my marriage, so I don't worry about it too much anymore. I blame (everything on) Pluto opposite Venus and Ceres. That aspect simply will not give up, give in, or let go. Period. That's my experience, anyway.
Pluto in Libra, 3h
Venus in Aries, 9h IP: Logged |
Violets
Knowflake Posts: 1544
From: Twin Peaks
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted December 20, 2013 11:31 AM
I would think that a hard aspect from Saturn to the Sun or Moon might create a low self-esteem issue if not balanced by other aspects. My Sun/Moon opposition does this a bit, so the low sense of self/identity combined with some sort of Venus affliction might create that. Just throwing that out there, I don't know that for a fact or anything. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 7896
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted December 20, 2013 11:41 AM
OMG yeahh Bml in the 7th that is intense.. I thoughts yours was in the 8th?Oh and mine It conjuncts my freaking dsc... I was definitely attracted to toxic people but mainly I was the toxic person sooooooooooooooooo. LOL not that I was abusive but I was not taking it seriously and i was messing their feelings mainly because I was really bitter.. Or maybe the black moon corridor extends to the 8th for you?
Mine stays all in the 7th so it's all concentrated in that house.... IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
Knowflake Posts: 2551
From: 🔮
Registered: Jul 2013
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posted December 20, 2013 11:46 AM
I totally get that vibe from you Kero. Why weren't you taking anything seriously lol, why were you so bitter? Was it purposely or you honestly couldn't help it?IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 7896
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted December 20, 2013 12:02 PM
hmm How can you see me doing anything because you don't even know me. 
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Barbiegirl19
Knowflake Posts: 2551
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Registered: Jul 2013
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posted December 20, 2013 12:09 PM
I changed it and put I get that vibe from you you just seem like such a jokester(Gemini!!) and that you'd never take any relationship seriously or as serious as the other person would. You remind so much of a friend. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
Knowflake Posts: 6532
From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted December 20, 2013 12:20 PM
One placement does beyond a shadow of a doubt but not in every case is sun in Taurus. They do not like being on their own and straying from the security of a relationship. Once they are in one, they want to stay and will do everything they can to keep things the same.
Finding a new partner is high stress for some of them. IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
Knowflake Posts: 2551
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Registered: Jul 2013
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posted December 20, 2013 12:24 PM
That sounds soooooooooo much like my mom. She divorced her husband and they still live together.. Who does that my Taurus mom owns it IP: Logged |
charlie
Knowflake Posts: 1292
From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted December 20, 2013 12:32 PM
I have nothing in 7th (pisces) and I flee the scene at the smell of badness and whether it will blow over or not matters not much. I have Pluto in Libra square Sun, Venus, Merc in Cancer and square Moon in Cap. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
Knowflake Posts: 6532
From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted December 20, 2013 12:40 PM
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Originally posted by charlie:
I have nothing in 7th (pisces) and I flee the scene at the smell of badness and whether it will blow over or not matters not much. I have Pluto in Libra square Sun, Venus, Merc in Cancer and square Moon in Cap.
That sounds very Piscean. IP: Logged |
page one
Knowflake Posts: 163
From: USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted December 20, 2013 12:43 PM
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Originally posted by Rosalind:
I would exclude people with Sun/Moon/Venus square Saturn or Pluto because those are too picky to find themselves in such relationships. My two cents.
I wouldn't exclude them at all. Once someone with a personal planet afflicted with Saturn or Pluto had committed themselves, it would take a lot to make them leave. IP: Logged |
theunknown
Knowflake Posts: 419
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Registered: Dec 2010
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posted December 20, 2013 12:46 PM
I doubt pluto in 7th means settling. Pluto is about the truth and pluto in 7th is extremely strong willed. I have pluto in 7th and I would drop you in a second if I think you don't deserve me!I know a libra dominant couple who should have divorced eons ago. Fight every day, husband kicks the wife out too. Cancer risings do stay in bad relationships. So do Taurus risings, but for different reasons obviously IP: Logged |
Violets
Knowflake Posts: 1544
From: Twin Peaks
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted December 20, 2013 01:28 PM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
OMG yeahh Bml in the 7th that is intense.. I thoughts yours was in the 8th?Oh and mine It conjuncts my freaking dsc... I was definitely attracted to toxic people but mainly I was the toxic person sooooooooooooooooo. LOL not that I was abusive but I was not taking it seriously and i was messing their feelings mainly because I was really bitter.. Or maybe the black moon corridor extends to the 8th for you?
Mine stays all in the 7th so it's all concentrated in that house....
Ugghh, yeah that placement.  Mean BML is in my 7th, True BML is in 8th, conjunct my Sun. Yay me, haha. My 8th house starts at about 3 degrees Pisces, and my True BML is at 4 degrees. Mean is at around 2 degrees, and my Sun is at around 6. So yeah. I've been such a priceless gem in relationships (and have found some real gems as well). *snort* But yeah, Mean BML is at the end of 7th, and True BML is at the beginning of 8th. Add that to a Pluto/Venus opposition, and you have some long-term, seriously f*cked up relationships for the first 30 years of a lifetime, hahahah. Ps
The longest and most toxic relationship I have ever had was with a Taurus. IP: Logged |
Rosalind
Knowflake Posts: 2858
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Registered: Mar 2011
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posted December 20, 2013 01:44 PM
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Originally posted by page one:
I wouldn't exclude them at all. Once someone with a personal planet afflicted with Saturn or Pluto had committed themselves, it would take a lot to make them leave.
I would exclude them because I am one with these aspects. I have NEVER settled. I always thought I have low self esteem but people with low self esteem settle for less than they deserve. I am not one of those people. Deep down I love and respect myself. Even if that means to live a single life.
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jjj
Knowflake Posts: 243
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Registered: Aug 2009
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posted December 20, 2013 02:22 PM
As for Venus in hard aspect to Saturn, I see that those people often stay in bad relationships. I was one with my Venus/Saturn opposition and I know at least 3 people w Venus/Saturn square and my sis with Venus/Saturn conjunction how stayed or are staying in bad relationships because they have low self esteem.IP: Logged |
Rosalind
Knowflake Posts: 2858
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Registered: Mar 2011
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posted December 20, 2013 02:24 PM
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Originally posted by jjj:
As for Venus in hard aspect to Saturn, I see that those people often stay in bad relationships. I was one with my Venus/Saturn opposition and I know at least 3 people w Venus/Saturn square and my sis with Venus/Saturn conjunction how stayed or are staying in bad relationships because they have low self esteem.
Sad. IP: Logged |
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