posted February 23, 2014 02:42 PM            

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Originally posted by next to neptune:
Yeah but that's just how it is. I see no reason for me to enter a relationship I know will go wrong. And maybe some people like moon square venus, maybe it is what they need in their relationship. But I'm actually very socially awkward myself, and I need a partner that has some healthy attitude towards friends and all that. All the men I've experienced with this aspect had some unhealthy relationship to women in general. But they both had mars square neptune too, and a bit aggressive mars. I think actually that's what made it that bad.
I also have got my dose of pluto relationships, so I'll also turn around instantly if I see this in our synastry.

I'm too emotional (I'm pisces moon and water dominating) so it's really just to protect myself, and keep my heart from being broken again and again

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posted February 23, 2014 03:04 PM            

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Originally posted by theunknown:
Well, I kinda disagree. If venus square moon but venus is not in the same sign as the sun, the person already has to deal with some conflicting emotions and can be more evolved because the sun would be harmonious with the moon. If the person has venus in the same sign as the sun, the moon's needs are always conflicting the sense of self.
If stellium is involved, the lesser energy will be easier to overcome.
So the conflict might not be that bad.

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posted February 23, 2014 03:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
Moon in Libra=relationship-a-holic. Are you sure he's completely single? Pisces is a tricky sign. If he's past 25, 26, 27 and still single, he is most likely a handful.

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He's only nineteen.

Pretty certain he's single. He isn't much of a dater so it seems...only two past relationships.

posted February 23, 2014 03:28 PM            

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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
Instantly dumping somebody because of their placements and aspects ?? ermmagaad what did I just read??!!

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posted February 23, 2014 04:10 PM            

Had I looked at my ex husband's chart/our synastry before when we met/got married/divorced, I would have missed out on 15 wonderful, easy, fun years with a really special man.

Of course, if I had seen what our Saturns were doing before we broke up, we might have been able to save the relationship. But perhaps it wouldn't have been the best thing to do in the long run.

He and I have 23 squares & 14 oppositions in our synastry and our relationship was easy and drama free.

posted February 23, 2014 04:30 PM              

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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
^ Sad thing is that some of us fall in love with a person’s birth chart instead of falling in love with that person.

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posted February 23, 2014 04:35 PM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
Moon op Venus and Venus sq Pluto/Uranus.....I have these and it's all true. I would stay away from myself if I could

I can go from on to off by the time you come back from restroom and I won't know why and you won't know why but I will have turned cold and distant. I will probably contact you in a few days/weeks/months when I feel like it.
It's ugly-ugly.

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::hugs:: You are more than just your aspects. I have moon square venus, a capricorn moon, venus opposite pluto and moon square pluto. Despite all of these unpleasant aspects/placements, I am very consistent in what I feel for other people. No one has to guess as to what I'm feeling or thinking because I directly tell them.

You can overcome the disadvantages of your aspects. You are already aware of your own flaws, which is great! What I suggest is to take some time and figure out what exactly you feel regarding someone. When I meet someone new, I'm very neutral in my interactions with them. As I get to know them more, I will either open up and become more friendly or I will become more distant if they prove to be of questionable character. If you find yourself not enjoying someone's company, it's best to be honest and say that you don't feel like you're a good match for each other as friends or as a couple. The key is to make sure your actions match up with how you feel about someone. Consistency is important. If there is a mismatch, you will only confuse or frustrate someone.

Sometimes when I know I have a huge project coming up and I know I won't have time to socialize or spend time with someone, I give them a heads up that I will be "missing in action" for 4 weeks or however long I need. That way they know that you aren't ditching them or being distant for no reason.

Okay...sorry, I got off track. Back to the thread topic. After my last experience, I'm terrified of Taurus moons. Just way too jealous, possessive, clingy and needy. Also, I don't know if it was just my ex or whether it is characteristic of this placement, but my ex was quite sexist. Initially, he was a gentleman and romantic, but the sexism gradually became more apparent.

posted February 23, 2014 05:12 PM            

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Originally posted by theunknown:
I have moon square venus and uranus natal. Guess I'll stop giving ppl my birth time so they won't dump me

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posted February 23, 2014 06:18 PM            

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Originally posted by dadoo:
If someone feels like meeting others through their charts because they have an analytical disposition or haven't figured out yet how to do otherwise, I don't see a problem. They may very well make great discoveries and encounters this way too.
If someone has suffered enough to refuse to enter a relationship for a reason, be it an aspect or a haircut, because they haven't had time to process their pain and evolve from it, I don't see a problem either.
To each their own path.

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I understand what you are saying. To be honest, I'd be hesitant to date another Cancer, for sure. I've had enough drama and heart ache with them, be it family, friends, bosses or boyfriends. I've had drama with all of them!

But I wouldn't dismiss them solely based on reading their chart. I'd not continue a relationship with them based on who they are and how we get along together. Each individual is just that, an individual.

posted February 23, 2014 06:22 PM            

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Originally posted by dadoo:
If someone feels like meeting others through their charts because they have an analytical disposition or haven't figured out yet how to do otherwise, I don't see a problem. They may very well make great discoveries and encounters this way too.
If someone has suffered enough to refuse to enter a relationship for a reason, be it an aspect or a haircut, because they haven't had time to process their pain and evolve from it, I don't see a problem either.
To each their own path.

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Well said.

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Instantly dumping somebody because of their placements and aspects ?? ermmagaad what did I just read??!!

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Yep!!

In the mating game if someone said to me, "Aquarius" I go instantly on guard. The moment they forget to respond to a text, has to go out of town, or some other thing, I stop taking them seriously - I detach. If they're serious they'll surprise me, otherwise...meh. They'll get the hint.

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He's only nineteen.

Pretty certain he's single. He isn't much of a dater so it seems...only two past relationships.

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This is good news. He's still corruptible, romantic, and believes in love. Take a chance with him. Be vigilant and mind which direction the fish is headed.

I've read that the stable Pisces knows exactly what he wants from an early age and pursues it with a steady determination.

At the age of nineteen his pMoon will be ten signs from its natal position pitting him at the right place at the right time to score an early career triumph. Or the first major step in the right direction.

Observe how he handles this.

posted February 23, 2014 06:51 PM              

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Originally posted by Nine:
Moon in Libra=relationship-a-holic. Are you sure he's completely single?

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Ahahaha, awesome
Guilty as charged. All them cozy past life memories with another...

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Originally posted by Nine:
This is good news. He's still corruptible, romantic, and believes in love.

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Again ahahahahahaha! Too true! This is too much. Damn you naivete and idealism!
Don't worry, someone or thing will stop by eventually to crush that.

posted February 24, 2014 12:23 AM            

Dumping someone because of their natal aspects is like dumping someone because of their skin color.

What's the use of being knowledgeable in astrology if you are going to use it against the person? am glad am with someone who doesn't know **** about astrology who wouldn't judge me by my natal aspects.

posted February 24, 2014 12:55 AM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
My current partner has a Scorpio Venus & Mars with Cancer moon. I came real close to dropping her because of that as I feared being smothered (despite her Sag placements and she's got a pretty well rounded chart). And it was a problem at first, but the chart helped me focus on what would not be good for me and helped us talk it out. Natch, I endeavor to give what she needs as well, and there are aspects of our lives she's allowed to micromanage if she wants, I show more signs of romance & affection than I have any other previous partner male or female, but I have my space and areas she can't dictate to me on, and she respects that, has even taken to supporting me on those things, so it works...and we've never been happier.

I'm glad I used astrology as a guide rather than a straightjacket.

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posted February 24, 2014 01:12 AM            

but things that make me flinch...
I think it's Jupiter square Venus (seems to be a one minute your hot next minute your not)

A guy that has more than one planet in Cancer, especially if they have "mommy issues"

posted February 24, 2014 01:59 AM            

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Originally posted by geminigal2805:
What if something bad like Algol/Nemesis conjuncts an angle? R they given importance in synastry? I am asking cuz my Nemesis n Sun conjuncts my guy's Desc EXACT. If u were ny guy would u continue to see me if u knew my Nemesis conjuncts your desc? After i learned this it has messed up my head.

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Awe... Don't stress!!
Your Nemesis on your Sun shows your personal struggle with deflating your own ego and being your own worst enemy.
Conjunct his DC shows you bring that stressor to your relationship and it creates issues with your relationship. It's not necessarily saying you are his enemy but your insecurities and fears are an enemy to the relationship, unless you take the time to fix them!

What I like about ppl and relations that have conjunctions to my issue spots is they push the button that makes these issues pop up and say, 'hey...fix me!! I'm hurting you and now I'm going to hurt you and him to if you don't start looking at me and healing my issue"

posted February 24, 2014 02:45 AM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
My current partner has a Scorpio Venus & Mars with Cancer moon. I came real close to dropping her because of that as I feared being smothered (despite her Sag placements and she's got a pretty well rounded chart). And it was a problem at first, but the chart helped me focus on what would not be good for me and helped us talk it out. Natch, I endeavor to give what she needs as well, and there are aspects of our lives she's allowed to micromanage if she wants, I show more signs of romance & affection than I have any other previous partner male or female, I forgive her bluntness when she can't take it anywhere as well as she can dish it out (normally peeves me a lot but I realize it's a bad mix of Sag sun with Cancer moon and thus cut her some slack), but I have my space and areas she can't dictate to me on, and she respects that, has even taken to supporting me on those things, so it works...and we've never been happier.

I'm glad I used astrology as a guide rather than a straightjacket.

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Well said!

I was dating a guy who we had a whole bunch of "deal breakers", lots of Pluto connections, Scorpio stellium, eeks! Seriously we had like 1/2 the "deal breakers" in that thread. Plus he's an Aqua which normally I can't deal with.

Besides the chart I was thinking I couldn't date him because of our age difference. (Sat opp. :-o )

But I gave him a chance despite the bad synastry and age difference. we have a lovely 5/6 month fling. It didn't work out in the end because we are just too far apart in life. No drama, no craziness. He's a lovely guy. Thing didn't work out because of life, not because of his chart/our synastry.

posted February 24, 2014 04:44 AM            

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::hugs:: You are more than just your aspects. I have moon square venus, a capricorn moon, venus opposite pluto and moon square pluto. Despite all of these unpleasant aspects/placements, I am very consistent in what I feel for other people. No one has to guess as to what I'm feeling or thinking because I directly tell them.

You can overcome the disadvantages of your aspects. You are already aware of your own flaws, which is great! What I suggest is to take some time and figure out what exactly you feel regarding someone. When I meet someone new, I'm very neutral in my interactions with them. As I get to know them more, I will either open up and become more friendly or I will become more distant if they prove to be of questionable character. If you find yourself not enjoying someone's company, it's best to be honest and say that you don't feel like you're a good match for each other as friends or as a couple. The key is to make sure your actions match up with how you feel about someone. Consistency is important. If there is a mismatch, you will only confuse or frustrate someone.

Sometimes when I know I have a huge project coming up and I know I won't have time to socialize or spend time with someone, I give them a heads up that I will be "missing in action" for 4 weeks or however long I need. That way they know that you aren't ditching them or being distant for no reason.

Okay...sorry, I got off track. Back to the thread topic. After my last experience, I'm terrified of Taurus moons. Just way too jealous, possessive, clingy and needy. Also, I don't know if it was just my ex or whether it is characteristic of this placement, but my ex was quite sexist. Initially, he was a gentleman and romantic, but the sexism gradually became more apparent.

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If I were a man and you met me, ran my chart, and saw my aspects, and someone told you to run the other way, you should listen. Unless you are SUPER Uranian and can handle all the eccentricities..I have a pretty bad chart where everything is either square or in opposition and for me that means always balancing thoughts and feelings and coming up with a split second decision and everyone else will be left in the dark. So, on/off is an understatement when I am involved.

I know myself extremely well, astrology has shed more light on it all, and I can be absolutely horrendous and aloof to the point my parents sometimes wonder who I am.