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coolingembers
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posted February 23, 2014 01:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for coolingembers     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If you were looking at the chart of someone you were seriously considering getting involved with, what would be an instant red flag from your personal experiences?

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posted February 23, 2014 02:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You mean, from their chart?

Oh. Mars in Libra comes to mind. Actually, anything Libra.
Then it would be Moon sq/opp Venus, Moon and/or Venus sq/opp Jupiter. Moon or Venus sq Uranus is not cool either. Actually, that's not true, they are cool, as in cold as ice and on/off like an electrical switch.

However I don't mind the Saturn and Pluto bad aspects, IMO they forge character.
But those above.. eh.. too much indecision and laziness. With the aspects I selected, grass is always greener somewhere else. They're just never satisfied. Why would I subject myself to a self-esteem trip because of them? Mno.

Libra placements.. I really need to argue sometimes and they avoid it like the plague. Not that they can't or don't argue, they DO, but on their terms and/or mood swings. When they had enough of you they can't man up to say it, they make you miserable so you'd break up with them and then they hate you for making them feel bad about themselves..

I would also probably not date someone with a Virgo or Taurus Jupiter. And I guess I am also wary of Mercury/Neptune hard aspects. They can bend the truth unless they're really evolved types and artistic or spiritual.

Basically, anything that would suggest to me the dude is unstable and a liar.

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posted February 23, 2014 02:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for next to neptune     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by coolingembers:
If you were looking at the chart of someone you were seriously considering getting involved with, what would be an instant red flag from your personal experiences?

Totally 100% moon/venus. If they have anything moon/venus I would seriously dump them instantly, I just don't want to go there, especially if they got more afflictions to their moon.

I don't like taurus placements either, or venus square pluto. If they got venus square pluto I would also dump them, because this placement has the tendency to make people really jealous and mistrustful.

And if people have venus square uranus, I would probably also at least never think of them as serious potential. Cause no matter what, they are probably gonna leave unexpectedly when they get tired of you.
Venus square saturn is ok, and to an extent venus square neptune. But just not venus square pluto or uranus.

If it was a scorpio guy with some of these placement I would maybe give him a chance, but not if it was a gemini guy or some other air sign. It's just too risky. I know it sounds a bit crazy, but I have just experienced too many bad guys with these placements, and though I would very much like to not be so judgemental, I just don't need these types in my life. Been there done that !

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charlie
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posted February 23, 2014 03:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Moon op Venus and Venus sq Pluto/Uranus.....I have these and it's all true. I would stay away from myself if I could

I can go from on to off by the time you come back from restroom and I won't know why and you won't know why but I will have turned cold and distant. I will probably contact you in a few days/weeks/months when I feel like it.
It's ugly-ugly.

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posted February 23, 2014 03:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LoVeLy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Hera:
You mean, from their chart?

Oh. Mars in Libra comes to mind. Actually, anything Libra.
Then it would be Moon sq/opp Venus, Moon and/or Venus sq/opp Jupiter. Moon or Venus sq Uranus is not cool either. Actually, that's not true, they are cool, as in cold as ice and on/off like an electrical switch.

However I don't mind the Saturn and Pluto bad aspects, IMO they forge character.
But those above.. eh.. too much indecision and laziness. With the aspects I selected, grass is always greener somewhere else. They're just never satisfied. Why would I subject myself to a self-esteem trip because of them? Mno.

Libra placements.. I really need to argue sometimes and they avoid it like the plague. Not that they can't or don't argue, they DO, but on their terms and/or mood swings. When they had enough of you they can't man up to say it, they make you miserable so you'd break up with them and then they hate you for making them feel bad about themselves..

I would also probably not date someone with a Virgo or Taurus Jupiter. And I guess I am also wary of Mercury/Neptune hard aspects. They can bend the truth unless they're really evolved types and artistic or spiritual.

Basically, anything that would suggest to me the dude is unstable and a liar.


Why Mars in Libra?

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posted February 23, 2014 03:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LoVeLy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by charlie:
Moon op Venus and Venus sq Pluto/Uranus.....I have these and it's all true. I would stay away from myself if I could

I can go from on to off by the time you come back from restroom and I won't know why and you won't know why but I will have turned cold and distant. I will probably contact you in a few days/weeks/months when I feel like it.
It's ugly-ugly.


Is this true with Venus opposite Uranus too?

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posted February 23, 2014 03:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for coolingembers     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I see a loottt of moon/venus mentioned..His main placements are.

Sun- Pisces
Moon - Libra
Mercury - Aquarius
Venus - Pisces
Mars - Aquaurius

I saw Libra was mentioned and he is Libra moon o.o . ALthough I am Libra mercury, and I am rock solid/stable/decisive/confrontational...

Thank you for the opinions! I now know to always look at moon/venus. I never really did that before!

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posted February 23, 2014 03:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for next to neptune     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by coolingembers:
I see a loottt of moon/venus mentioned..His main placements are.

Sun- Pisces
Moon - Libra
Mercury - Aquarius
Venus - Pisces
Mars - Aquaurius

I saw Libra was mentioned and he is Libra moon o.o . ALthough I am Libra mercury, and I am rock solid/stable/decisive/confrontational...

Thank you for the opinions! I now know to always look at moon/venus. I never really did that before!


But you should know that it's only the square I think… and if his chart is otherwise filled with only good aspect, he might have learned how to handle the moon/venus square.
The problem with the square is that it's something they probably don't know about themselves, but they just have an urge to get attention from the opposite sex, it's probably because they feel insecure and something happened in their childhood that wasn't good for their self worth.

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posted February 23, 2014 04:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by LoVeLy:
Why Mars in Libra?


Why I wouldn't date a detriment Mars? My domicile Aries Mars doesn't like how they prance when they walk.

And..

Libra Mars: Let's get married!
Aries Mars: WHAT?
Libra Mars: Seriously, let's do it, I feel very strongly about it, we're PERFECT for each other!! *Libra Mars disappears off the face of the earth*

Libra Mars (several years later): Do you still love me?
Aries Mars: NO!
Libra Mars: Let's get married then!

*Aries Mars punches him in the face*

No need to get offended if you have it, it's all subjective. One man's garbage is another man's treasure and whatnot.

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posted February 23, 2014 04:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for next to neptune     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by charlie:
Moon op Venus and Venus sq Pluto/Uranus.....I have these and it's all true. I would stay away from myself if I could

I can go from on to off by the time you come back from restroom and I won't know why and you won't know why but I will have turned cold and distant. I will probably contact you in a few days/weeks/months when I feel like it.
It's ugly-ugly.


Aww feel sorry for you But you know, with time you probably learn how to handle your bad aspects, and I guess astrology has also helped you a lot?
But do you feel like you just need some time for yourself with venus/uranus but then you come back to people? Or are you just tired of them after a while and never come back?

I ask because I'm dating a libra guy (oh no not libra lol) with his libra venus square uranus And he is really nice, but I keep getting afraid that he will suddenly turn cold out of nowhere:P

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posted February 23, 2014 04:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for summerlite     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Too much libra/pisces/aquarius placements.

and that's literally your guy's chart.

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posted February 23, 2014 04:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for coolingembers     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by summerlite:
Too much libra/pisces/aquarius placements.

and that's literally your guy's chart.


Yeah, im not a fan of Libra/Aquarius either but I shockingly click very well with this one.

I just had a bad experience with a cancer who was hot/cold all the damn time and drove me up the wall, so i really really really really want some stability v.v

I fear Sag/Gemini the most though. ESPECIALLY SAGITTARIUS MOONS.

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posted February 23, 2014 04:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LoVeLy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Hera:
Why I wouldn't date a detriment Mars? My domicile Aries Mars doesn't like how they prance when they walk.

And..

Libra Mars: Let's get married!
Aries Mars: WHAT?
Libra Mars: Seriously, let's do it, I feel very strongly about it, we're PERFECT for each other!! *Libra Mars disappears off the face of the earth*

Libra Mars (several years later): Do you still love me?
Aries Mars: NO!
Libra Mars: Let's get married then!

*Aries Mars punches him in the face*

No need to get offended if you have it, it's all subjective. One man's garbage is another man's treasure and whatnot.


LOL
Thank you
Still laughing seriously hahaha

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posted February 23, 2014 04:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for dadoo     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have to second what's being said about Moon square Venus.
I'm not sure if in my experience it was so much about turning cold in a second, as about being very warm before the relationship started to downright cold and not nice after.
And clingy after the breakup too.

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posted February 23, 2014 05:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for coolingembers     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Would the moon square venus also apply to synastry? o.O

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posted February 23, 2014 06:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for next to neptune     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by coolingembers:
Would the moon square venus also apply to synastry? o.O

yeah it's a really lowsy aspect to have in synastry too!

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posted February 23, 2014 07:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by next to neptune:
Aww feel sorry for you But you know, with time you probably learn how to handle your bad aspects, and I guess astrology has also helped you a lot?
But do you feel like you just need some time for yourself with venus/uranus but then you come back to people? Or are you just tired of them after a while and never come back?

I ask because I'm dating a libra guy (oh no not libra lol) with his libra venus square uranus And he is really nice, but I keep getting afraid that he will suddenly turn cold out of nowhere:P


I am SUPER progressive and all those planets in 11H trine Uranus (Venus is sq ) I just get bored. Then I will fly off elsewhere and meet someone new. I won't lose contact though because in my childish mind I feel I am in a sense building bridges so that we can all be one big and happy family

The only (and I mean only) human that has yet to EVER bore me is an Aries Sun, Mars, Venus, Merc and Virgo Moon. It's ever-changing between us and it flows and evolves. Love that!!! I don't think Venus/Uranus is as big of a problem as Venus opp.Moon though..

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posted February 23, 2014 08:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for theunknown     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have moon square venus and uranus natal. Guess I'll stop giving ppl my birth time so they won't dump me

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posted February 23, 2014 08:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LucieLemonade     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Hera:
Why I wouldn't date a detriment Mars? My domicile Aries Mars doesn't like how they prance when they walk.

And..

Libra Mars: Let's get married!
Aries Mars: WHAT?
Libra Mars: Seriously, let's do it, I feel very strongly about it, we're PERFECT for each other!! *Libra Mars disappears off the face of the earth*

Libra Mars (several years later): Do you still love me?
Aries Mars: NO!
Libra Mars: Let's get married then!

*Aries Mars punches him in the face*

No need to get offended if you have it, it's all subjective. One man's garbage is another man's treasure and whatnot.


Oh, come we're not THAT bad.

How about we just get engaged?

Gotta run. Talk to you next week... or next month or something....

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LOL if I liked someone I wouldn't give them a chance just because of their birth chart..

But likely it would never work out but I gave this individual a chance.

but Im the kinda person that does the opposite of what everyone expects anyways, basically im not going to let anything make my decision except my own.

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posted February 23, 2014 11:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Nine     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I have to second what's being said about Moon square Venus.
I'm not sure if in my experience it was so much about turning cold in a second, as about being very warm before the relationship started to downright cold and not nice after.
And clingy after the breakup too.

This has been my experience as well. Cap-Aries, not nice at all. This was a Pisces so it wasn't obvious going in.

quote:
Sun- Pisces
Moon - Libra
Mercury - Aquarius
Venus - Pisces
Mars - Aquaurius

Moon in Libra=relationship-a-holic. Are you sure he's completely single? Pisces is a tricky sign. If he's past 25, 26, 27 and still single, he is most likely a handful.

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posted February 23, 2014 12:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for I'm so cappy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Moon in Libra=relationship-a-holic

Not always.

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posted February 23, 2014 12:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for babybull82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by next to neptune:
Totally 100% moon/venus. If they have anything moon/venus I would seriously dump them instantly, I just don't want to go there, especially if they got more afflictions to their moon.

I don't like taurus placements either, or venus square pluto. If they got venus square pluto I would also dump them, because this placement has the tendency to make people really jealous and mistrustful.

And if people have venus square uranus, I would probably also at least never think of them as serious potential. Cause no matter what, they are probably gonna leave unexpectedly when they get tired of you.
Venus square saturn is ok, and to an extent venus square neptune. But just not venus square pluto or uranus.

If it was a scorpio guy with some of these placement I would maybe give him a chance, but not if it was a gemini guy or some other air sign. It's just too risky. I know it sounds a bit crazy, but I have just experienced too many bad guys with these placements, and though I would very much like to not be so judgemental, I just don't need these types in my life. Been there done that !


I'm glad you can see how judgmental you are being, to instantly dump someone because of some placements I think is a bit silly. I have Moon/Venus opp @ 4 something degrees and I don't think I'm cold at all or hot/cold with my affection for people. The only time I feel this placement comes in handy for me is when I get dumped or I have good reason to cut someone off, then yes it is easy for me to cut the cord of emotions for them. I see it more as a defense mechanism more than anything. I don't want to get hurt.

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posted February 23, 2014 12:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for babybull82     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by theunknown:
I have moon square venus and uranus natal. Guess I'll stop giving ppl my birth time so they won't dump me

LOL, I'm sure most people don't have some of the same silly opinions as some of the post in this thread.. you're fine I'm sure.

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posted February 23, 2014 12:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for next to neptune     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by babybull82:
I'm glad you can see how judgmental you are being, to instantly dump someone because of some placements I think is a bit silly. I have Moon/Venus opp @ 4 something degrees and I don't think I'm cold at all or hot/cold with my affection for people. The only time I feel this placement comes in handy for me is when I get dumped or I have good reason to cut someone off, then yes it is easy for me to cut the cord of emotions for them. I see it more as a defense mechanism more than anything. I don't want to get hurt.

Yeah but that's just how it is. I see no reason for me to enter a relationship I know will go wrong. And maybe some people like moon square venus, maybe it is what they need in their relationship. But I'm actually very socially awkward myself, and I need a partner that has some healthy attitude towards friends and all that. All the men I've experienced with this aspect had some unhealthy relationship to women in general. But they both had mars square neptune too, and a bit aggressive mars. I think actually that's what made it that bad.
I also have got my dose of pluto relationships, so I'll also turn around instantly if I see this in our synastry.

I'm too emotional (I'm pisces moon and water dominating) so it's really just to protect myself, and keep my heart from being broken again and again

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