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Topic: Dating - Red Flags!
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Stawr Moderator Posts: 4154 From: N. America Registered: Nov 2010
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posted February 24, 2014 07:02 AM
The guy I've been with for almost 3 years. My Juno conjuncts his ASC.His Juno is in Libra. I have nothing in Libra. So I was a bit concerned with this...and that it might mean that I might love him more. My DC is in Sagittarius. He has no main planets in Sagittarius. His DC is Taurus, his DC conjuncts my Mercury. So I feel like that makes up for it. IP: Logged |
Desiring Shadows Knowflake Posts: 4429 From: USA ! Registered: Jan 2012
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posted February 24, 2014 08:58 AM
quote: Originally posted by LucieLemonade: Oh, come we're not THAT bad. How about we just get engaged? Gotta run. Talk to you next week... or next month or something....
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Desiring Shadows Knowflake Posts: 4429 From: USA ! Registered: Jan 2012
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posted February 24, 2014 09:04 AM
quote: Originally posted by Jessica2407: I seriously couldn't believe what I'm reading in this thread.Dumping someone because of their natal aspects is like dumping someone because of their skin color. What's the use of being knowledgeable in astrology if you are going to use it against the person? am glad am with someone who doesn't know **** about astrology who wouldn't judge me by my natal aspects.
I agree...... Astrology shouldn't be used so religously. ------------------ " Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it is called the present." -Joan Rivers Be who u r and say what u feel cuz those who matter dont mind & those who mind don't matter IP: Logged |
vickymadness Knowflake Posts: 2183 From: Minnesota Registered: Jan 2012
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posted February 24, 2014 10:05 AM
Pluto/moon. Saturn/Mars. BIG NO. Pisces prominence.IP: Logged |
DaniPepper87 Moderator Posts: 6209 From: Curitiba, Brasil Registered: Sep 2013
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posted February 24, 2014 10:11 AM
Pluto/Moon, Mars in Gemini and Pisces in the combo... BIG NO for me...IP: Logged |
LovelyKitty Knowflake Posts: 617 From: ~*Cosmic Wanderer *~ Registered: Jun 2012
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posted February 24, 2014 10:38 AM
quote: Originally posted by next to neptune: Aww feel sorry for you But you know, with time you probably learn how to handle your bad aspects, and I guess astrology has also helped you a lot? But do you feel like you just need some time for yourself with venus/uranus but then you come back to people? Or are you just tired of them after a while and never come back?I ask because I'm dating a libra guy (oh no not libra lol) with his libra venus square uranus And he is really nice, but I keep getting afraid that he will suddenly turn cold out of nowhere:P
I'm not sure if I could help , but I think I fit the worst combo here. - libra sun, venus leo , mars conjunct uranus exactly in scorpio, cancer moon - mars square venus - venus square uranus exact - sun square moon I'm very serious in relationship , till now I have had a long relationships , my current ones is almost 7 years now . We did survive the transit uranus conjunct my vertex in 7th House and t. Uranus is now back and forth my bf'venus in Aries ....but we 're still together with a strong foundation relationship. I think , things which help me hold -on to relationship are ... saturn conjunct my AC and Sun , cancer moon , leo venus ( those 're quite loyal quality) HTH, Btw .... If some of my guys know Astrology , he would be really freak out to date me IP: Logged |
I'm so cappy Knowflake Posts: 9778 From: Death Star Registered: Nov 2012
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posted February 24, 2014 10:43 AM
What about I just post my chart? ------------------ I'm sooo happy! I mean, cappy. IP: Logged |
LucieLemonade Knowflake Posts: 1592 From: Registered: Sep 2013
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posted February 26, 2014 01:26 PM
quote: Originally posted by I'm so cappy: What about I just post my chart?
NOoo!! Don't do that. I like you. If you post your chart I'm sure I'll find something not to like... Then where we will be? :P
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I'm so cappy Knowflake Posts: 9778 From: Death Star Registered: Nov 2012
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posted February 26, 2014 02:18 PM
Ok, I won't post it then...I'll write it down instead Moon square Saturn - love? yeah, I think I've seen it in movies Moon square Venus - you better not expect me to be girly >_> Venus in Aquarius - sorry, but you're not unconventional enough to handle me Venus conjunct Saturn - are you sure we're compatible? Saturn in the 5th - no, I don't want your babies, biatch! oh, have I mentioned we're not having sex either?
------------------ I'm sooo happy! I mean, cappy. IP: Logged |
LeonisStar Knowflake Posts: 251 From: Daytona beach, FL, USA Registered: Jan 2013
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posted February 26, 2014 03:00 PM
quote: Originally posted by Hera: Why I wouldn't date a detriment Mars? My domicile Aries Mars doesn't like how they prance when they walk. And.. Libra Mars: Let's get married! Aries Mars: WHAT? Libra Mars: Seriously, let's do it, I feel very strongly about it, we're PERFECT for each other!! *Libra Mars disappears off the face of the earth* Libra Mars (several years later): Do you still love me? Aries Mars: NO! Libra Mars: Let's get married then! *Aries Mars punches him in the face* No need to get offended if you have it, it's all subjective. One man's garbage is another man's treasure and whatnot.
Hahahahaha I have Mars in Libra and I admit this can happen...often not with marriage though, no thank you, (for me atleast) BUT I will say when I actually fall for someone I'm not wishy washy like that.
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LucieLemonade Knowflake Posts: 1592 From: Registered: Sep 2013
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posted February 26, 2014 03:27 PM
quote: Originally posted by I'm so cappy: Ok, I won't post it then...I'll write it down instead Moon square Saturn - love? yeah, I think I've seen it in movies Moon square Venus - you better not expect me to be girly >_> Venus in Aquarius - sorry, but you're not unconventional enough to handle me Venus conjunct Saturn - are you sure we're compatible? http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m496xyu7GQ1qdh5b6o1_500.gif Saturn in the 5th - no, I don't want your babies, biatch! oh, have I mentioned we're not having sex either?
LOL. Well, you made me laugh. So I'm in love with you already. But don't worry, I'm used to the unrequited love thing. :P
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I'm so cappy Knowflake Posts: 9778 From: Death Star Registered: Nov 2012
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posted February 26, 2014 03:40 PM
Good. Now ask me out cause my Taurus Mars doesn't bother with it ------------------ I'm sooo happy! I mean, cappy. IP: Logged |
mcmlxix Knowflake Posts: 468 From: Vega Registered: Aug 2010
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posted February 26, 2014 11:23 PM
Disclaimer: I don't believe in absolutes, but...Hera: "Mars in Libra comes to mind." Agreed. Mars should be assertive. Libra is too indecisive. The result is...passive-aggressive. The corollary to this is Venus in Aires: Venus requires "we" thinking, but Aires is "me" thinking. Love is fast and furious with them...and leaves a trail of divorces. An additional corollary is Mars in the 7th house. next to neptune: "If they have anything moon/venus I would seriously dump them instantly." Really? What if it's a Venus-Moon-Neptune grand trine? Answer that before you answer this: now if that Moon is opposite Pluto, Uranus, and Mercury. Moon in Capricorn: Capricorn is a great sign...Sun & Mars especially, but with the Moon...the repression is profound. Likewise...Moon in hard aspect with Saturn. In synastry, I'd be concerned with squares or quincunxes between luminaries...and Saturn or Neptune in hard aspects with inner planets. Hard aspects with Pluto or Uranus are a crapshoot....the best or worst...more often the worst in the long term, but in the short term... IP: Logged |
coolingembers Knowflake Posts: 1185 From: California Registered: Nov 2013
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posted February 26, 2014 11:54 PM
Im cracking up at at the Libra Mars comments..Only been in love with one person , he has mars in libra. Hes so on/off im ready/not ready... Now i know what aspect to watch for o.o IP: Logged |
next to neptune Knowflake Posts: 3104 From: The Moon Registered: Aug 2013
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posted February 27, 2014 01:51 AM
quote: Originally posted by mcmlxix:
next to neptune: "If they have anything moon/venus I would seriously dump them instantly." Really? What if it's a Venus-Moon-Neptune grand trine? Answer that before you answer this: now if that Moon is opposite Pluto, Uranus, and Mercury.
I think I would even more… this guy with the trine between venus-moon-neptune would obviously be a chick magnet and be overwhelmed with interested girls all the time… this would just turn on my jealousy that I'm otherwise extremely good at hiding… if he also had it opposite pluto it would be a bomb, and when it explodes it's gonna be nasty… So nope…I like moon/venus people a lot, like EVERYONE else, but that's not gonna mean I will date them. But I think as friends they are really, really great though... IP: Logged |
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posted February 27, 2014 02:08 AM
quote: Originally posted by I'm so cappy: Ok, I won't post it then...I'll write it down instead Moon square Saturn - love? yeah, I think I've seen it in movies Moon square Venus - you better not expect me to be girly >_> Venus in Aquarius - sorry, but you're not unconventional enough to handle me Venus conjunct Saturn - are you sure we're compatible? Saturn in the 5th - no, I don't want your babies, biatch! oh, have I mentioned we're not having sex either?
<3 OMG YASSSS You're like the opposite of me.. I'm a needy person LOL. Sun conjunct Venus- Why don't you love me? Mercury conjunct Venus- When I make me so damn easy to love Moon conjunct Venus- Why don't you need me? Asc conjunct Venus- I got beauty I got class I got style and I got ass. Venus in Gemini- Keep my head in them books, I'm sharp but you don't care to know I'm smart Mars in Aries- I got moves in your bedroom keep you happy with the nasty things I do Venus square Jupiter- I even put money in the bank account Don't have to ask no one to help me out IP: Logged |
geminigal2805 Knowflake Posts: 1436 From: Registered: Sep 2013
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posted February 27, 2014 03:14 AM
I have some of the worst placements... Mars in Libra Venus in Aries( I dont chase them...... i let them believe that they are chasing me. Gimme some credit. Its not all that easy)... U wouldnt wanna know my sun sign. we r labelled flaky/insecure..etc . I HATE telling ppl my sun sign but here im contradicting that with my forum id. N i believe i have Neptune square Mars which ppl consider the CHEATER aspect. My saving grace must me moon in Leo and Cancer Asc.IP: Logged |
geminigal2805 Knowflake Posts: 1436 From: Registered: Sep 2013
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posted February 27, 2014 03:15 AM
I have some of the worst placements... Mars in Libra Venus in Aries( I dont chase them...... i let them believe that they are chasing me. Gimme some credit. Its not all that easy)... U wouldnt wanna know my sun sign. we r labelled flaky/insecure..etc . I HATE telling ppl my sun sign but here im contradicting that with my forum id. N i believe i have Neptune square Mars which ppl consider the CHEATER aspect. My saving grace must me moon in Leo and Cancer Asc.IP: Logged |
geminigal2805 Knowflake Posts: 1436 From: Registered: Sep 2013
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posted February 27, 2014 06:13 AM
@Gabby Thank u! I read your post now and Im happy now. Hugsss to u. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve Knowflake Posts: 9926 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted February 27, 2014 06:21 AM
There's usually at least one "red flag" in every chart.It's up to the person with the chart to work on their stuff. Some people are very self-aware and make conscious efforts to change and improve. Others are completely clueless. Others are aware but find it hard to actually change their behavior. So it depends. We gotta look at people's actions and pay attention to their words. With that being said, I agree with pretty much everything that's been mentioned here, hahaha.
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incognito Knowflake Posts: 220 From: Registered: Dec 2013
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posted February 27, 2014 09:12 AM
I agree w/ avoiding moon or venus square/opposite natal uranus people. cold ppl.Strongly agree with avoiding libra mars (passive aggressive) and any weak mars ppl e.g. mars in 12th. unless u r into ethereal vague artsy types who you can never pin down. Also, in synastry if their saturn makes a hard aspect to your moon (squ or opp.) They will usually end up hurting you emotionally somehow, even if they don't really mean to. no matter how nice they are otherwise. Its just the way it plays out. not fun. I've been on both sides of it. As the moon I was suuuper hurt. As saturn I just didn't give a **** about the other persons feelings because I thought they were stupid and immature and needed to grow the **** up
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incognito Knowflake Posts: 220 From: Registered: Dec 2013
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posted February 27, 2014 09:29 AM
I duno Jessica, It depends on how much you believe in the reality of astrology. A few years ago I would have said the same thing. I ignored crappy aspects in natal and synastry charts. But IMO, whichever way you cut it, the charts predict how you will feel with the other person eventually, so if you can avoid being emotionally battered then its just about self preservation and using your energy wisely.
quote: Originally posted by Jessica2407: I seriously couldn't believe what I'm reading in this thread.Dumping someone because of their natal aspects is like dumping someone because of their skin color. What's the use of being knowledgeable in astrology if you are going to use it against the person? am glad am with someone who doesn't know **** about astrology who wouldn't judge me by my natal aspects.
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Renewal Newflake Posts: 10 From: Registered: Feb 2014
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posted February 27, 2014 11:15 AM
Well, hello,and I just had to comment. I have Moon in Aquarius and Mars in Libra, but I never turn cold or let go. But then again, my 1st H Pluto trines Moon at 0 deg., Moon squares Uranus at 2 degrees, and I’m Venus in Scorpio, which semisquares Sun at 0 deg. 0 minutes, and conj. Uranus. My whole life has been a life and death struggle, I’ve been clinically dead, but for me everything ends only when the other one gets too comfortable and walks away, or when I die. Not everyone likes intensity, but I do. I will not run away from anything, it’s just that there is no way back for anyone. No half measures.
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Jinni Knowflake Posts: 338 From: Registered: Feb 2013
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posted February 28, 2014 07:05 AM
I have several dating red flags in my chart. Mars-moon conjuction opposes pluto and squares Venus in aquarius. So This configuration doesn`t do any good my relationships. I´m a great friend but lousy girlfriend. I swing between hot and cold and I´m too independent and selfish to make sacrifises for relationship. I was single seven years and now when I´m in relationship again... well it`s so difficult for me and demands a lot of work to be fair towards my bf.In others I have noticed that five house stellium make them too flirty/ always looking for greener grasses. Also scorpio stelliums are not my favourites, intensivity is not my cup of tea. Too many aries placements scare me off. They are too bold and rash in my taste. Mars/moon in libra I quite like even though they have bad reputation. Libra moons always get my attention. passive-aggressiviness doesn`t bother me that much. I would date anyone though no matter the chart if I felt that we could have a solid good relationship. IP: Logged |
Plutonian-venus Newflake Posts: 11 From: Italy Registered: Feb 2014
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posted February 28, 2014 12:13 PM
I do have quite a few Red Flags in my birth chart...many actually.Cap Venus conjunct Sun- << I know you noticed me, now please start courting if your interested, I am not gona make the first move" Aries Moon - <<nice to meet you. Lets get to the next level>> <<What does slow down mean?>> Pluto square Venus: Moulin Rouge Tango (the scene in the movie). Jealousy will drive you mad. Yep Moon square Venus: Give me dramma give me passion!!! Ok now please behave! Ok I want some drama again (LMAO) Moon opposite Pluto: Let's get deeper! Sun opposite Mars (Leo 5th house): now...who's the boss here? Pluto square Sun : your mine. And by the way, I love you're being so jealous but please give me some space. LOL...I caricaturized those features a bit, but the essentials are there. All of these aspects, especially Moon in Aries (12 house) opposing Pluto in the 6th in Libra has driven me nuts untill I was 27/28. But then again it was my Moon in 12th house that pushed me to learn about psicology, Jung, astrology and learn how to balance my aspects. I am not such a bad partner. I only need a man who likes complicated, very layered personality... :-) ------------------ A Cap with SUN/VENUS/MERCURY n Capricorn, ARIES MOON AND ASC, LEO MARS AND SATURN AND GEMINI JUPITER.
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