posted February 16, 2015 06:14 PM            

I think through the years I've only been in love for real 3 times. And the 1st time I was in love it ended, and I was only 18. And until I was 22 I think I was kinda like Ice inside, but still I wanted so desperately to find love.
So I was very detached on the inside for many years, but at the same time I was an emotional mess. Not the best combination...

posted February 16, 2015 06:34 PM            

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Originally posted by next to neptune:
Hmm you could probably not tell from my chart, but I've had a couple of flirts back in the days where I definitely didn't wanted anything more, but they usually did. So it usually ended up in some unnecessary drama where I had to ditch the guy, or I gave them a chance and we usually ended up with having a relationship, that shouldn't have happened ever (because I was not in love at all)
I have a scorp venus in 5th house and pluto in 5th house too. Cancer ascendant conjunct jupiter and virgo sun + mars.

I think through the years I've only been in love for real 3 times. And the 1st time I was in love it ended, and I was only 18. And until I was 22 I think I was kinda like Ice inside, but still I wanted so desperately to find love.
So I was very detached on the inside for many years, but at the same time I was an emotional mess. Not the best combination...

Luckily I got a nice boyfriend today.

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posted February 17, 2015 01:09 AM            

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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
That's really funny!!
I keep thinking of awkward after sex conversations.

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I'm sure I'm reasonably charming at first, and then it quickly becomes like this.

posted February 17, 2015 01:30 AM            

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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
No, I don't. They're unfulfilling. Would ANY woman say yes to this??

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I agree with you, but I think women may like that too.
I think what you describe here comes from thousands of years of: women who have a ONS are ***** , men who do it are just men Reject this patriarchal sense of inoculated guilt and prejudice girls!

I suppose there's one appeal to ONS: sex with a total stranger, a mystery guy/gal. That could be a fantasy, right??

I just read an article that states for men, ONS are an ego boost, because it shows them they still have it and can "get" any lady. Well, it was in AskMen, that explains it lol

It was an interesting idea, I never thought about it. Personally, I know that most women ((and I assume men too) do this with someone they don't care much about, someone they can dispose of afterwards, a connection they don't intend to keep or are not afraid to loose. It's not very flattering, at all.

However, this article stated something else interesting: a research showing men lower their standards a lot for a ONS (it doesn't matter how the girl looks and how she is - which takes us back to what I said above), while women are sometimes willing to embrace the **** role lol just kidding! (don't believe that, girls!) for a celebrity or a hunk.

What do you think?? (another patriarchal article and research, right??)

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posted February 17, 2015 01:39 AM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
I agree with you, but I think women may like that too.
I think what you describe here comes from thousands of years of: women who have a ONS are ***** , men who do it are just men Reject this patriarchal sense of inoculated guilt and prejudice girls!

I suppose there's one appeal to ONS: sex with a total stranger, a mystery guy/gal. That could be a fantasy, right??

I just read an article that states for men, ONS are in ego boost, because it shows them they still have it and can "get" any lady. Well, it was in AskMen, that explains it lol

It was an interesting idea, I never thought about it. Personally, I know that most women ((and I assume men too) do this with someone they don't care much about, someone they can dispense off afterwards, a connection they don't intend to keep or are not afraid to loose. It's not very flattering, at all.

However, this article stated something else interesting: a research showing men lower their standards a lot for a ONS (it doesn't matter how the girl looks and how she is - which takes us back to what I said above), while women are sometimes willing to embrace the **** role lol just kidding! (don't believe that, girls!) for a celebrity or a hunk.

What do you think?? (another patriarchal article and research, right??)

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That's interesting LeeLoo....I would never go for just anyone. If it was going to happen there would have to be something very special about that person to make up for the lack of feeling, like great dimples, abs n hair! Lol (joking)

It's interesting that guys use ONS as a way to establish or prove their ability to hunt and gather/get their prey....as an ego boost.
It's hard to imagine it meaning nothing but a notch on their bed post and they never once want to feel anything.
While women are still looking for something special from the ONS encounter in order to feel its worth it.

posted February 17, 2015 02:53 AM            

I've always had the impression that neither men nor women were very interested in one night stands, not the majority anyway.
I hear about how men would be happy to have a one night stand while women would have moral issues with it - but frankly most men don't seem very interested either.

I have no moral or religious issues with it myself, but I'm not turned on by the idea at all, and I'm not curious to ever try it.
I would also worry about health risks and personal safety. That's the main issue I would have with it.

This was the answer to a similar question in that survey:

posted February 17, 2015 03:24 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
This isn't exactly about one night stands. It's about male sexuality in general. http://thumbnails-visually.netdna-ssl.com/eyeopening-statistics-about -men-and-sex_527fc491a9e91_w1500.jpg

I've always had the impression that neither men nor women were very interested in one night stands, not the majority anyway.
I hear about how men would be happy to have a one night stand while women would have moral issues with it - but frankly most men don't seem very interested either.

I have no moral or religious issues with it myself, but I'm not turned on by the idea at all, and I'm not curious to ever try it.
I would also worry about health risks and personal safety. That's the main issue I would have with it.

This was the answer to a similar question in that survey:

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awwww that was cute! I love men

Thank you, Odette It's almost like a "to do" list
"I would have sex anytime"...that was my favorite part awww

I didn't get the part about faking an orgasm though.

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posted February 17, 2015 04:04 AM            

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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
That's really funny!!
I keep thinking of awkward after sex conversations.

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posted February 17, 2015 04:41 AM            

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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
Would ANY woman say yes to this??

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posted February 17, 2015 06:54 AM            

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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
LOL @ LeeLoo2014 and Violets

LeeLoo, I can pretty much agree with that article I think.
Add to that, there are a lot of men who think literally, "it's better than doing it yourself".

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awww such a nice thing to say on Eros conjunct Psyche day

Just kidding! I appreciate the honesty

posted February 17, 2015 07:23 AM            

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posted February 17, 2015 09:03 AM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
awww such a nice thing to say on Eros conjunct Psyche day

Just kidding! I appreciate the honesty

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posted February 17, 2015 06:43 PM            

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posted February 18, 2015 10:33 AM            

Cancer mars trine Scorpio Venus?

posted March 06, 2015 11:36 PM            

I'm ok with all modes of love. I'm a very easy lay. I'm not incredibly picky. If I enjoy your company, and you're not ugly I'm ok with a natural progression to bed.

But for my one night stands my enjoyment of your company matters much more than your looks.

For anything more, I begin to weigh your looks heavier. I believe it is because the Venus in Libra in me values a good looking partner.

My biggest preference, and has been my main mode for 6 years now is having short burst of relationships with different people. It works well during my 20s in NYC because everyone is coming and going.

So for me -
I had a solid relationship for 6-7 years without ever considering another woman
I will have sex with anyone - strangers and friends if they're ok with casual and the night just leads to it. But I won't bed a woman just to prove my ego or because she's hot. I need to be having a good time.
And I heavily prefer a short, consistent romance over 3-6 months.

It works for me. I've never had anyone mad at me. I don't mince words about what I'm looking for, and I don't **** around if I make any level of commitment.

posted March 06, 2015 11:46 PM            

No. No one night stands for me, and no traditional set ups either. All the way weird.

I forgot to add my placements
Cancer Sun
Taurus Moon