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Topic: Do you like one-night stands?
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LeeLoo2014
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From: Venus cornering Neptune
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posted March 07, 2015 07:23 AM
  
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Originally posted by Koho:
Looks like I'm in the minority here. I'm ok with all modes of love. I'm a very easy lay. I'm not incredibly picky. If I enjoy your company, and you're not ugly I'm ok with a natural progression to bed. But for my one night stands my enjoyment of your company matters much more than your looks. For anything more, I begin to weigh your looks heavier. I believe it is because the Venus in Libra in me values a good looking partner. My biggest preference, and has been my main mode for 6 years now is having short burst of relationships with different people. It works well during my 20s in NYC because everyone is coming and going. So for me -
I had a solid relationship for 6-7 years without ever considering another woman
I will have sex with anyone - strangers and friends if they're ok with casual and the night just leads to it. But I won't bed a woman just to prove my ego or because she's hot. I need to be having a good time.
And I heavily prefer a short, consistent romance over 3-6 months. It works for me. I've never had anyone mad at me. I don't mince words about what I'm looking for, and I don't **** around if I make any level of commitment. It's important for me to end on good terms. Nothing like having an old lover pass by your life again for a day or two and then be on your way again.
Cool Hand Koho, right? 
Thanks for sharing, candid and a bit weird though I didn't get some of the parts, such as "your good company" matters more for one night stands, less for relationships; for relationships, what matters is good looks. What is this, reversed psychology?  What are your other placements, especially Mars and Mercury? (sign and house) ------------------
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LeeLoo2014
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posted March 07, 2015 07:31 AM
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Originally posted by venus2tinkerbell:
Just LOL Koho. You're so fantastically candid.No. No one night stands for me, and no traditional set ups either. All the way weird. I forgot to add my placements
Cancer Sun
Taurus Moon Cancer Venus: Pluto squaring, Uranus training.
OK OK....more details please! what was that?: no traditional set ups either
and that:
All the way weird. ?? ------------------
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Sccs
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posted March 07, 2015 07:53 AM
haha I relate to you venus2tinkerbellI'm not comfortable with one night stands and I cant commit either and I never had a real relationship.
im a weirdo sag sun
cancer rising
cap moon/venus
scorpio mars my moon is exactly in between saturn and venus conjuct to both ahhh its not easy!! IP: Logged |
Selenite
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posted March 07, 2015 08:27 AM
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Originally posted by LucieLemonade:
Yes and no. My Saggie bits like 'em.
My Scorpio bits don't. 
Same :ninja:
And if it does happen it always turns into something more than a one-night stand. Like FWB but also with a vague sense of commitment, and a moderate amount of soul destruction.. IP: Logged |
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posted March 07, 2015 10:55 AM
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Originally posted by Koho:
Looks like I'm in the minority here. I'm ok with all modes of love. I'm a very easy lay. I'm not incredibly picky. If I enjoy your company, and you're not ugly I'm ok with a natural progression to bed. But for my one night stands my enjoyment of your company matters much more than your looks. For anything more, I begin to weigh your looks heavier. I believe it is because the Venus in Libra in me values a good looking partner. My biggest preference, and has been my main mode for 6 years now is having short burst of relationships with different people. It works well during my 20s in NYC because everyone is coming and going. So for me -
I had a solid relationship for 6-7 years without ever considering another woman
I will have sex with anyone - strangers and friends if they're ok with casual and the night just leads to it. But I won't bed a woman just to prove my ego or because she's hot. I need to be having a good time.
And I heavily prefer a short, consistent romance over 3-6 months. It works for me. I've never had anyone mad at me. I don't mince words about what I'm looking for, and I don't **** around if I make any level of commitment. It's important for me to end on good terms. Nothing like having an old lover pass by your life again for a day or two and then be on your way again.
Libra all the way!
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aquaguy91
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From: Wankety Wankerson
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posted March 07, 2015 11:09 AM
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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
I just read an article that states for men, ONS are an ego boost, because it shows them they still have it and can "get" any lady. Well, it was in AskMen, that explains it lol
Oh yes.... Men and their fragile egos! i'm glad i'm one of the few that doesn't have this problem. Most men will never admit that they aren't ladies men and will almost never admit to having anything less than a 7 inch schlong. I just don't get it. What's the point? Why lie?
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LeeLoo2014
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posted March 07, 2015 11:42 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Oh yes.... Men and their fragile egos! i'm glad i'm one of the few that doesn't have this problem. Most men will never admit that they aren't ladies men and will almost never admit to having anything less than a 7 inch schlong. I just don't get it. What's the point? Why lie?
Well, I think it's inherited, thousands of years of patriarchy and peer pressure? It's not exactly your fault as individuals, guys. Mentalities take the same amount of years to be changed. I meant the first part of your post...the second may be inherited too, I guess...what can you do? Do those email spams work?  ------------------
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aquaguy91
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posted March 07, 2015 11:57 AM
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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
Well, I think it's inherited, thousands of years of patriarchy and peer pressure? It's not exactly your fault as individuals, guys. Mentalities take the same amount of years to be changed. I meant the first part of your post...the second may be inherited too, I guess...what can you do? Do those email spams work?
I think what most people call "patriarchy" is more female centered than anything. Case and point, I went to a funeral the other day and the pastor went into a random rant about marriage. He basically said that marriage defines a man and a good marriage is proof that the man is blessed by God. What I did I take away from that? Female approval or lack of female approval defines a man and men who don't have female approval are not blessed by God. That is not patriarchy.... That is putting women on a lofty pedestal and seeing them as above men.
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LeeLoo2014
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posted March 07, 2015 12:06 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I think what most people call "patriarchy" is more female centered than anything. Case and point, I went to a funeral the other day and the pastor went into a random rant about marriage. He basically said that marriage defines a man and a good marriage is proof that the man is blessed by God. What I did I take away from that? Female approval or lack of female approval defines a man and men who don't have female approval are not blessed by God. That is not patriarchy.... That is putting women on a lofty pedestal and seeing them as above men.
I was talking about some thousands years before you were born, not present times? And what you describe is mostly overcompensation, an attempt at compensation actually, you know, like the Australian government apologizing to aborigines? It will take the same amount of years, as I was saying, to establish the balance between the past (when women and cattle had the same rights and they were part of husbandry dowry blah blah, just like your pastor describes - for this is the origin of that Bible speech) and this bright and shiny future when there will be no matriarchy and no patriarchy. Relax! We have a long way to go ------------------
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aquaguy91
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posted March 07, 2015 12:18 PM
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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
I was talking about some thousands years before you were born, not present times?And what you describe is mostly overcompensation, an attempt at compensation actually, you know, like the Australian government apologizing to aborigines? It will take the same amount of years, as I was saying, to establish the balance between the past (when women and cattle had the same rights and they were part of husbandry dowry blah blah, just like your pastor describes - for this is the origin of that Bible speech) and this bright and shiny future when there will be no matriarchy and no patriarchy. Relax! We have a long way to go
I think feminism has done a good job of convincing us that women were the victims. As if men had it any easier in the past... Men had to work their butts off at hard labor jobs and fight and die in wars they didn't agree with. Men were not going to cozy air conditioned office jobs and talking about sports while the women slaved away in the kitchen. That's what feminism wants you to believe..... The reality is there weren't many jobs that were fun and enjoyable and most people weren't educated. There were no machines to help with work, there were no unions or H.R to protect workers. The patriarchal system in place wasn't to keep women down, it was the practical system for the times! Most jobs were hard labor jobs and men did them because they were physically stronger and had to! Yes, women had it rough in alot of ways but they were probably better off staying at home because the world wasn't nearly as safe as it is today. Feminists just don't want to see reality for what it is. IP: Logged |
Selenite
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posted March 07, 2015 12:28 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
[b] I was talking about some thousands years before you were born, not present times?And what you describe is mostly overcompensation, an attempt at compensation actually, you know, like the Australian government apologizing to aborigines? It will take the same amount of years, as I was saying, to establish the balance between the past (when women and cattle had the same rights and they were part of husbandry dowry blah blah, just like your pastor describes - for this is the origin of that Bible speech) and this bright and shiny future when there will be no matriarchy and no patriarchy. Relax! We have a long way to go
I think feminism has done a good job of convincing us that women were the victims. As if men had it any easier in the past... Men had to work their butts off at hard labor jobs and fight and die in wars they didn't agree with. Men were not going to cozy air conditioned office jobs and talking about sports while the women slaved away in the kitchen. That's what feminism wants you to believe..... The reality is there weren't many jobs that were fun and enjoyable and most people weren't educated. There were no machines to help with work, there were no unions or H.R to protect workers. The patriarchal system in place wasn't to keep women down, it was the practical system for the times! Most jobs were hard labor jobs and men did them because they were physically stronger and had to! Yes, women had it rough in alot of ways but they were probably better off staying at home because the world wasn't nearly as safe as it is today. Feminists just don't want to see reality for what it is. [/B][/QUOTE]I am a feminist and I want to see reality for what it is. Feminism doesn't want you to believe anything. It just is a movement of equality. It's also not perfect, but nothing is, and it's more important than its imperfections. It's doing more good than harm. So, suck it. IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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posted March 07, 2015 12:29 PM
In the mood for love on Saturday, Aquaguy?
I agree it was the practical solution in our primitive societies, but it is outdated. Feminism going beyond women emancipation to the point of equal rights is obviously not a long term solution, just a temporary bouncing/balancing effect. The long term solution is absolute equality. To get there, you need to catch up. And denying the fact that women haven't had equal rights and social/political/educational status for thousands of years is the same as denying the Holocaust. It is also an affront to the millions of women still living in oppression in our present world. "You are part of this world" said Merry Brandybuck. Are you denying LOTR too? ------------------
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aquaguy91
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posted March 07, 2015 12:39 PM
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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
In the mood for love on Saturday, Aquaguy?
I agree it was the practical solution in our primitive societies, but it is outdated. Feminism going beyond women emancipation to the point of equal rights is obviously not a long term solution, just a temporary bouncing/balancing effect. The long term solution is absolute equality. To get there, you need to catch up. And denying the fact that women haven't had equal rights and social/political/educational status for thousands of years is the same as denying the Holocaust. It is also an affront to the millions of women still living in oppression in our present world. "You are part of this world" said Merry Brandybuck. Are you denying LOTR too?
I don't see it that way at all. If feminism was truly about equality they would speak up about mens issues too. They'd ask questions like: Why are men required to register for the draft? Why do men get harsher prison sentences? Why do men make up the majority of workplace fatalities? Why are men around 80% of the homeless population? Why do more men commit suicide?etc. And if feminists really had mens best interests at heart they wouldn't use shaming tactics in an attempt to silence men that bring up these issues.
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I'm so cappy
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posted March 07, 2015 12:41 PM
AG, why not become a MGTOW guru? ------------------
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aquaguy91
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posted March 07, 2015 12:52 PM
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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
AG, why not become a MGTOW guru?
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SaturnFan
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posted March 07, 2015 12:53 PM
As a female born and raised in a society which is fairly discriminatory towards women, I've experienced aggressive discrimination first-hand and have witnessed men not allowing women to participate in their society/organisation and at the same time complaining of overload/stress/etc. We live in a patriarchy, which is putting enormous pressure on both genders.
aquaguy91, I agree that physical work in industrial times was hard on men. Men were also the decision makers at this time - in wars, in politics, in small communities and in each family's home.
When 1 half of humanity treats the other half as 'unworthy' of participating in the society, of course they will struggle to carry the economy on their shoulders  We must all participate with the skills we have, this is what (true) feminism is about. I agree that men do not have it easier, and adequate feminist movements see it this way as well - but when you say "feminism has done a good job of convincing us that women were the victims" you come across as incredibly one-sided. Women were not the decision makers in these times - this is the fact, regardless of whether it makes us 'victims' or not. Many feminists movements are one-sided too, and I feel you are attacking their philosophy rather than the core of the valid philosophy which sparked the original feminist movement, and what current feminist movements are about. Extremes are always bad.
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I'm so cappy
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posted March 07, 2015 12:55 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
[b]AG, why not become a MGTOW guru?
I am[/B][/QUOTE]Outside LL 
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aquaguy91
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posted March 07, 2015 01:01 PM
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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
Outside LL
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posted March 07, 2015 01:05 PM
Link please ------------------
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aquaguy91
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posted March 07, 2015 01:55 PM
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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
Link please
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Aubyanne
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posted March 07, 2015 02:38 PM
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https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KLtLbiQBe8s
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Koho
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posted March 07, 2015 04:07 PM
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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
Cool Hand Koho, right?
Thanks for sharing, candid and a bit weird though I didn't get some of the parts, such as "your good company" matters more for one night stands, less for relationships; for relationships, what matters is good looks. What is this, reversed psychology? What are your other placements, especially Mars and Mercury? (sign and house)
I don't think my post is weird or hard to understand. Definitely candid. In lesser words I treat one night stands as another activity of friendship. Since it is a friendly and fun activity for me it is more important that I find the person interesting, fun, and entertaining than how they look. Sex doesn't always have to be about love and deepness for me. I can switch the purpose of sex. For relationships my standards are high all around as they should be. Relationships are partnerships and I want a partner equal or better than me in all regards. Marriage/relationships are a resource to me and being a good looking couple is an important asset. So good looks is a criteria important to me in a romantic relationship but not necessarily a one night stand which I view as a friendly activity. It is how I don't require my friends to be good looking but I do require the enjoyment of their company I'm probably not going to marry until late in my life due to being so picky for a SO. But I'm quite fine with that, and even fine with never marrying. I'm just saying if I'm going to devote my time and resources into a life partner I really need to know it is a partner that holds up to the standards I need Until then, bring on the temporary romances, and the one night stands. I'm also open to poly amorous relationships as long as loyalty and priority remains where it should My placements
Scorpio Sun 7H
Cap Moon 8H
Scorpio Merc 6H
Aries Mars 12H
Libra Venus 6H
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Koho
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posted March 07, 2015 04:13 PM
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Originally posted by page one:
Libra all the way!
What Libra placements do you have and what did you agree with about what I said? IP: Logged |
Koho
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posted March 07, 2015 04:15 PM
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posted March 07, 2015 04:58 PM
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Originally posted by Koho:
What Libra placements do you have and what did you agree with about what I said?
Everything you said sounded very Libran, especially the part about always parting on good terms. I'm an Aries myself. IP: Logged |
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