posted January 31, 2016 03:43 PM            

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Originally posted by LF DX:
Well, you wanted the conclusion, here it is

Yesterday, it finally happened, the long awaited reunion, and finally found out that yeah, she's been dating just recently, with a man who's very identical to me , musician, a computer engineer, bassist, but he's 36 years old, and has a good car.

It was awkward as hell, but dunno how I did it, and how I handle it quite well, I ended up talking a lot to her boyfriend, we became buddies even, the good is that she still wants to play with me, so, it's something.

I will tell more of what happened yesterday later on, I still need to process this, glad it's all over, but I'm ****** , kinda sad, but it will pass.

Later.

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Oh dear, sorry to hear that. On the other hand, thumps up!!! you made it and this is the first step toward a new brave man. I know it s..cks and at this point you need to process the pain. take your time. be compassionated with yourself. you may be numb now, but later some awareness of the pain will surface. live it, dont try to run from the pain. sometimes there is a beauty in it. and hey, silver line. I am sure best lyrics comes from pain as well. at least you can get that.

receive a cybernetic hug and tons of love from my little corner..

best

posted January 31, 2016 03:47 PM            

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Originally posted by LF DX:
Well, you wanted the conclusion, here it is

Yesterday, it finally happened, the long awaited reunion, and finally found out that yeah, she's been dating just recently, with a man who's very identical to me , musician, a computer engineer, bassist, but he's 36 years old, and has a good car.

It was awkward as hell, but dunno how I did it, and how I handle it quite well, I ended up talking a lot to her boyfriend, we became buddies even, the good is that she still wants to play with me, so, it's something.

I will tell more of what happened yesterday later on, I still need to process this, glad it's all over, but I'm ****** , kinda sad, but it will pass.

Later.

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Sorry to hear....

It sounds though like she brought her date which didn't give you a chance to really talk with her...but her bringing a date along is a response unless she was trying to make you jealous or be hurtful...

posted January 31, 2016 04:26 PM              

There are 2 ways to get people love you.
1) Head Games
2) You make yourself lovable, adorable and be open with your emotions. People want to be with you because you make them special and give love you have.

I wish you best but grow a pair and don't do when everything is like lost. Last moment ,one should always fear that if you want something and if you do not do things necessary than you would lose it and that means you need to work hard on yourself and show other your true self and love.

posted February 04, 2016 03:46 PM            

Well, these past few weeks were very hard as we couldn't have the chance to meet, the loneliness did a number to me. In those nights, had some intense encounters with women in pubs(no sex, but one experience was pretty close), it felt good to have some attention but I was still very nunb and depressed, only her could wake me up again, even if I was doing my best to enjoy myself and the other good things that were happening, like the preparations for the launch of the demo of my band, getting in touch again with old friends and making new friends, it was all good, but seeing the cancer woman was the only thing that would bring me back.

So last saturday was the show of a band that all of our friends were going, it was the reunion of the crew and I was going to see a lot of people for the first time in months, it was going to be exciting, I knew that the reunion was going to happen that day and I was completely sure that I was going to get some answers and thing will patch up. And somehow it did...

I arrived on the gig, and there were a lot of people, and I tried to have the best night I could have, enjoying it with my friends, then I met an old friend that was the girl that I was having a crush until the cancer woman straight conquered me, what's funny is that she's a friend of the cancer woman, and also a cancer herself, yep, lots and lots of things happened before the cancer woman became the only one in my eyes.
We both talked about therapy and trying to socialize more, cause she also was looking to being more social and more open with the people, so the night was going good with the group, until she came, and my heart pumped up in a way that didn't pumped in a very long time, I looked like I ignored her arrival, but eventually she came to us with a man who was more or less my same stature, a bearded tatooed man, whom I've learn through HIM that they were dating just very recently, like a couple of weeks and that day was there official debut with the public. And the cancer woman then straight told me than the other cancer was daiting with another man, in a way saying "she's taken you fool"

As the night went by, it was the three of us, the world was almost left behind, it was like I put it, comfortably unconfortable, as me and her when we talked of the good times we had it was like the magic was never lost, our praises on ourselves towards our music, words, our adventures, it felt pretty good.

Then I started talking about the therapy i'm doing to change my life, and she found out in a subtle was that everything was because I withdrew from her, as during the night as I talked to her why she never said a thing of our songs and my projects she said "you just dissappeared", and she told things that I knew already, and some more, as she told us that she tends to sometimes hurt close people, or that's what I remembered, I was so drunk and high, we shared with the cancer woman lots of cans of beer, but her BF didn't drink with us. The moment of the implicit confession made her kinda freaked then she left to talk to some friends, and it was me and her BF, talking about everything, life, music, sports, growing up, challenging oneself to be better, it was pretty good, he's a good man, stable, and confident, he's the kind of man that I'm looking now to be, as he's 36, he's an engineer, and in the end, stability beats uncertainty.

She was the one more affectionate with him more than him with her, but I don't know how I handle it that well, and the man was very surprised for our deep connection, and even said that we were a great duo, a thing we both denied instantly, but then she said that we were like that.

They took me home with his very expensive car, and I felt defeated, but good, as me and the cancer woman make our silly jokes on the highway, and it made me feel good that our band will continue, but she said that we will reunite after my other commitments, and that I should not call her before that.

So that sunday I was pretty numb, until she texted me saying that her BF wanted to join our band as a drummer, as he's trying to learn the drums, and I accepted, as his mentality fits ours, and thought it would be good to have a grown up in the music district with us to help us, and she felt pretty good on that.

And then 2 days ago she texted me to help her on a online tale she was making, her idea was that the people would continue the story where the previous person stopped to write, a group story where the story can go wherever the people wanted to go. And at the end of the day I ended up being the only fool helping her, not her BF nor our friends that are poets and writers did help on the story, and suddenly 95% of my post of my upcoming gig and stuff she's giving all the likes and stuff, so, things are good I guess.

posted February 04, 2016 11:20 PM            

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Originally posted by LF DX:
Well, now I'm good enough to tell the story of what happened last saturday and how things are right now, And I'm telling you stuff you didn't know

Well, these past few weeks were very hard as we couldn't have the chance to meet, the loneliness did a number to me. In those nights, had some intense encounters with women in pubs(no sex, but one experience was pretty close), it felt good to have some attention but I was still very nunb and depressed, only her could wake me up again, even if I was doing my best to enjoy myself and the other good things that were happening, like the preparations for the launch of the demo of my band, getting in touch again with old friends and making new friends, it was all good, but seeing the cancer woman was the only thing that would bring me back.

So last saturday was the show of a band that all of our friends were going, it was the reunion of the crew and I was going to see a lot of people for the first time in months, it was going to be exciting, I knew that the reunion was going to happen that day and I was completely sure that I was going to get some answers and thing will patch up. And somehow it did...

I arrived on the gig, and there were a lot of people, and I tried to have the best night I could have, enjoying it with my friends, then I met an old friend that was the girl that I was having a crush until the cancer woman straight conquered me, what's funny is that she's a friend of the cancer woman, and also a cancer herself, yep, lots and lots of things happened before the cancer woman became the only one in my eyes.
We both talked about therapy and trying to socialize more, cause she also was looking to being more social and more open with the people, so the night was going good with the group, until she came, and my heart pumped up in a way that didn't pumped in a very long time, I looked like I ignored her arrival, but eventually she came to us with a man who was more or less my same stature, a bearded tatooed man, whom I've learn through HIM that they were dating just very recently, like a couple of weeks and that day was there official debut with the public. And the cancer woman then straight told me than the other cancer was daiting with another man, in a way saying "she's taken you fool"

As the night went by, it was the three of us, the world was almost left behind, it was like I put it, comfortably unconfortable, as me and her when we talked of the good times we had it was like the magic was never lost, our praises on ourselves towards our music, words, our adventures, it felt pretty good.

Then I started talking about the therapy i'm doing to change my life, and she found out in a subtle was that everything was because I withdrew from her, as during the night as I talked to her why she never said a thing of our songs and my projects she said "you just dissappeared", and she told things that I knew already, and some more, as she told us that she tends to sometimes hurt close people, or that's what I remembered, I was so drunk and high, we shared with the cancer woman lots of cans of beer, but her BF didn't drink with us. The moment of the implicit confession made her kinda freaked then she left to talk to some friends, and it was me and her BF, talking about everything, life, music, sports, growing up, challenging oneself to be better, it was pretty good, he's a good man, stable, and confident, he's the kind of man that I'm looking now to be, as he's 36, he's an engineer, and in the end, stability beats uncertainty.

She was the one more affectionate with him more than him with her, but I don't know how I handle it that well, and the man was very surprised for our deep connection, and even said that we were a great duo, a thing we both denied instantly, but then she said that we were like that.

They took me home with his very expensive car, and I felt defeated, but good, as me and the cancer woman make our silly jokes on the highway, and it made me feel good that our band will continue, but she said that we will reunite after my other commitments, and that I should not call her before that.

So that sunday I was pretty numb, until she texted me saying that her BF wanted to join our band as a drummer, as he's trying to learn the drums, and I accepted, as his mentality fits ours, and thought it would be good to have a grown up in the music district with us to help us, and she felt pretty good on that.

And then 2 days ago she texted me to help her on a online tale she was making, her idea was that the people would continue the story where the previous person stopped to write, a group story where the story can go wherever the people wanted to go. And at the end of the day I ended up being the only fool helping her, not her BF nor our friends that are poets and writers did help on the story, and suddenly 95% of my post of my upcoming gig and stuff she's giving all the likes and stuff, so, things are good I guess.

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posted February 05, 2016 09:43 AM            

When we reunite again to play, all the remaining doubts will be cleared, and from there things will return slowly. Because of the things that I've investigated, they just have met not long ago, they just get hooked too fast. they don't seem to me like a long term couple, but who knows..

4lifephrases: didn't understand your questions, explain it to me again please.

Bonus: Here's the cancer woman's Chart

posted February 06, 2016 08:54 AM            

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Originally posted by LF DX:
Sure, here it is

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No, of course I won't compete with the man, or I'll try to not compete, I don't want to mess around our bond for some childish stuff. Of course when we get back and rehearse again, I know our chemistry will go up on his own, now the only thing is to control it, because that's what trully made us bond.

posted February 06, 2016 06:09 PM            

Her venus rules her 7th house and you are not activating that but your Sun is opposing her DC angle so that is good, you satisfy a certain ideal she has. However, Mercury is your DC and IC ruler and she is not aspecting your mercury! I am surprised you feel so much for her and she is not aspecting your mercury to be frank. You are not aspecting Uranus her IC ruler either.

Based on what I am seeing I don't think she is the one, I see clearly why you have opened up to her and feel comfortable around her, she makes you feel safe and like you can talk to her about anything. I see her as a catalyst in your life to healthier patterns of relating.

You should preserve that bond and nourish that friendship in that is a step for a more wholesome and complete you but I don't see this leading to a committed romantic relationship.

posted February 07, 2016 09:46 AM            

Her Sun on my SN, Her Saturn on my NN, the famous Jupiter Cn Juno, which I've learned it's one of the top soulmate signs, her venus and mars in my 5th house, my moon on her NN, and the bad part, a DW of Venus-Saturn hard aspects, mine squaring hers and hers opposites mine, my vertex and chiron conjunct her mars, so, it's something there, but as you said, not enough for a romantic relationship.

The Composite

The famous love stellium in the 8th, and a big karmic stellium in the 12th, karma, lots of karma

And I post this story in interpersonal and Mir, one of the tops in progressed said this

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Originally posted by mir:
The first thing we look at is the SUN and the MOON. In very significant relationships or relationships wich have/had a deep impact on our entire being we often see an amazingly outstanding geometric-aligned pattern between these luminaries.

And look at thaaaaaaaaaaaat;

Her Sun/Moon midpoint; 7'54 Cancer.
His Sun/Moon midpoint; 7'47 Cap.

Her Sun in a 137 deg angle to his Moon.
His Moon in a 137 deg angle to her moon.

OK, but this doesn't automatically mean both people will have a relationship. It just means there's a very strong (equal) vibe in between their natures drawing them together.

For longterm relationship potential (in whatever form I would almost say) the progressed synastry can give us some more insight.

Later.

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posted February 07, 2016 04:50 PM            

For example my Ex Mars conjuncts my Sun-Moon midpoint.

For example, my Venus conjuncts my husband's Sun-Moon midpoint.

Are either of you activating each other's sun-moon midpoint via conjunction, opposition or square? Anything going on with progressed to natal synastry?

2. Lets talk about stelliums, Stelliums are 3 or more planets clustered together but at least 3 of those planets have to conjunct in orb by 3d or less. You don't have a love stellium as venus is not conjuncting in orb your composite Sun or Mercury, venus is far from the Sun and Mercury but in the same house. What you do 'seem' to have is a stellium with Isis and part of fortune BUT part of fortune is not an object but a point so that is not a stellium. Its nice though that venus is in the 8th as well as the sun giving that fatedness vibe and transformation through love theme! Merc in the 8th also nice as you can talk about anything really and love stelliums are over rated anyways, many astrologers feel that way on this site about them.

3. You don't have a stellium in the 12th as two of those planets don't conjunct Saturn and lets be frank Uranus and Neptune are both generational planets which conjunct but very widely. However, having saturn in the 12th is karmic on its own. I feel neptune and uranus in the 12th will give you psychic bond and perhaps you guys astral travel at times or dream of each other from time to time. IMO planets in the 12th can give each other access to each others subconscious giving you a psychic connection and makes you feel like you have found one of your soulmates definitely.

You do have a very nice stellium in there between Pluto-Valentine-Juno.

Also conjunctions to angles can be wider up to 5d IMO so you have Saturn conjunct AC. I guess if the relationship does take off there will be delays and obstacles or it can mean it will never take off. Sometimes Saturn is limitations, delays, sometimes denial but if it happens it will really glue you too and there will be a strong sense of commitment specially since you have Jupiter on the 7th conjunct southnode, that is very nice. Specially when you have in synastry juno conjunct jupiter which I had missed.

I had noticed her moon on your southnode but wow there is more nodal action with Her Sun on your SN and Her Saturn on your NN. Southnode contacts feel so good but not necessarily conducive to long term relationships, they are like very nice reunions and you always remember them once you part but the other feels like they are holding you back in some way. With Saturn on your NN its clear that you came together to clear some karma and for her to teach you something.

She is suppose to learn from you too though as your moon is on her NN! You are both teaching each other valuable lessons and she is one of your soulmates but I feel you will move on from her romantically speaking once you learn from her what you are suppose to.

posted February 07, 2016 05:42 PM            

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Originally posted by mir:
I have the impression I got the "INITIATOR" for this recent actual "affair". Connected to their strong natal Sun/Moon alignment. It has to be triggered somewhere you know.

Namely, looking at their progressed Composite Sun/Moon midpoint we see it currently at exactly 8'00 CANCER. (the result of prog compo Sun at 11'10 Libra and prog compo Moon at 4'50 Aries).

While.. their NATAL composite Sun/Moon midpoint is at 7'50 Cancer!

Furthermore, it's interesting to see that his prog Moon 5 months ago was exactly opposite her natal Sun. Around that time her prog Moon opposite his prog Sun also.

The progressed Sun/Moon level is usually a temporarily focussed area.

The more longterm significators are clearly less-to-not promising;

His pVenus in an applying square to her pSun (takes about 15 years to become exact). As the one I really would NOT like to see in a progressed synastry. Sun/Venus squares have a separating effect in most cases. Sometimes against ones will.

Her pVenus in applying square to his pMars, by '45.

His pVenus in applying square to her nVenus, by 1'13 and to her nMars by 7 deg.

The only positive we find in his pVenus trine her nSun by 8 deg appl. currently (tangible in about 6 years) MIGHT be a bit of a temporary upswing after which the pSun/pVenus square will take its separating course again, which is then already applying by less than 2 deg. And let's not forget the exact pVenus/nMars square at that time.

Unfortunately, not a case to set your hope on.

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And that's it, but I've dedicated myself to read a bit about progressed synastry, and some of the mods from inter said that if there's nothing in the natal synastry, then the progressed will indeed break the relationship, but if there's enough in the natal synastry, the effects will be less powerful, or that's what I've found.

posted February 07, 2016 07:02 PM            

You two feel at home when together! that must be nice the ruler of the DC falling in your composite 4th house.

...and that jupiter conjunct southnode in the 7th, a lot of past life soulmate indicators you two have.

You do have enough nice stuff that there is potential for a relationship for sure, who knows!! It wouldn't surprise me either if this takes off at least for a while at some point and to top it off you two have some important common interests which really bonds and helps. But even the composite moon (DC ruler) squaring the DC shows you that if this takes off there will obstacles to overcome and delays but it could happen I feel!.

posted February 08, 2016 08:17 PM            

The SesquiSquare or SesquiQuadrate Aspect as it is sometimes known as, is where two planets are one hundred and thirty five degrees apart.

In light of this:

"Her Sun in a 137 deg angle to his Moon.
His Moon in a 137 deg angle to her moon."

^I would say then that her moon sesquisquares your moon by 2d and your moon sesquisquares her moon by 2d.

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posted February 08, 2016 08:28 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:

So I like saturn hard aspects, I feel there is an immediate connection with those, like, have we met before? as I feel very comfortable around you BUT it comes with insecurities too; for example saturn makes the venus person feel insecure, venus wonders if they are pretty or good enough for the other and insecurities delay and complicate things.

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The bold part it's been the problem between us, mostly on my side, it complicated things in a hard way