posted December 15, 2018 04:28 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:

yeah, with this guy we've only had threesomes but we're not dating him if we're dating someone it's a little different

@hypatia238

in placidus mars, neptune, and uranus are 3rd house whole sign my 3rd house is uranus and saturn and neptune and mars move to the 4th

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posted December 15, 2018 05:03 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:

I'm confused are you a man or a woman?

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i'm not sure what difference that makes since i'd be bi either way, but i'm a guy

posted December 15, 2018 05:08 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i'm not sure what difference that makes since i'd be bi either way, but i'm a guy

my fiancee and i are both bi, so men and women are equal opportunity with that sort of thing

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posted December 15, 2018 05:16 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Yes, I feel the DC sign and ruler are key, like if my partner's venus ruled his DC and it squared his Uranus that would be a different story or if Uranus ruled his DC and squared his Venus like you but his venus in leo rules his chart and Uranus rules his MC, that restlessness and need for chage, need to take risks and need for stimulation in his case manifests in his career/direction/hobbies/interests, his entrepreneur and visionary spirit, his tendency to take on new projects/hobbies and think big, his tendency to automatically think about expanding and growing when he has a business idea, his creativity ect...

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posted December 15, 2018 05:28 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
No it doesn't matter I was just confused. I thought you were saying that you were engaged. And that you had a friends with benefits with another woman. I was going to ask if she had Venus/Uranus as well.

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i am engaged, i've been with my fiancee for 14 years

we're just also somewhat open and have a male friend we have sex with, but she's bi as well

she was actually suggesting finding another woman it's been a while, but we've been with both

her venus is conjunct pluto in scorpio, uranus is on her sun she's an aquarius ascendant, sag sun, we both have aries moons, she's a pisces mars conjunct jupiter

my moon is trine uranus (uranus is part of a kite in my chart with my moon, mercury and venus runs along my ascendant which is also conjunct my nodes) and my 5th house is aquarius (i have eros in aquarius) cap mars, virgo sun (minor trine with neptune and pluto, my sun and neptune trine each other and sextile pluto) my venus is conjunct ascendant

our friend with benefits is an aquarius sun conjunct uranus (neptune too but from cap), and aquarius mars conjunct jupiter with a cap venus (retrograde) and mercury

so i suppose uranus is strong in the mix come to think of it

edit: i'm upfront with people btw, about my situation

how my fiancee comes first and so on, but at the same time her and i both like to have fun

she can see threesomes as foreplay, she has a thing for watching too, and we both like having another person

but if it's nothing serious with anyone and there's more than one person we're friends with where there's mutual attraction then we'll have sex with those people but they'll never interact with each other

we dont have our friends with benefits meet

right now it's just one, but when that first started we were also hooking up with someone else

posted December 15, 2018 05:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i'm not sure what difference that makes since i'd be bi either way, but i'm a guy

my fiancee and i are both bi, so men and women are equal opportunity with that sort of thing

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posted December 15, 2018 07:13 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Interesting Aries23! Looking at your guy's chart.... his DC ruler is venus and conjuncts Uranus on the AC! Bam! Yes like I explained I feel venus aspect uranus has this negative effect in the love life when Venus or Uranus rules DC...yes your mars in libra with moon in cancer offers security and stability in a relationship and values that, you should never be with someone like that but my partner has venus square uranus and is not like your guy but his Venus or Uranus do not rule his DC....

You just need a relationship guy...

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So it's only a problem when Venus or Uranus rules the DC. When a person has Venus square Uranus? I can see how that would be the case. So what kind of person would be an ideal partner for someone with these aspects? I assume someone else with Uranus aspects or Aquarius placements. I've read that it's best to date another person who also has Venus/Uranus in their chart.

posted December 15, 2018 07:31 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:

You and your fiancee...

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i never got through game of thrones, didnt see past the first few episodes in order

i did see the last episode that guy was in though, my younger brother was watching it

we were staying with him when him and his ex broke up, he was in a bad place

posted December 15, 2018 07:52 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i never got through game of thrones, didnt see past the first few episodes in order

i did see the last episode that guy was in though, my younger brother was watching it

we were staying with him when him and his ex broke up, he was in a bad place

hard to forget that episode though lol

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Hahahahaha hard indeed, I was so excited, it was super disappointing the way that episode evolved, I wanted him to be around for a lot longer! Very memorable indeed, her scream, cant blame her...

I love the scene he agrees to fight for Tyrion!
http://youtu.be/h0htqxWSlDY

posted December 15, 2018 08:24 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Hahahahaha hard indeed, I was so excited, it was super disappointing the way that episode evolved, I wanted him to be around for a lot longer! Very memorable indeed, her scream, cant blame her...

I love the scene he agrees to fight for Tyrion!
http://youtu.be/h0htqxWSlDY

I was not that into the show at first, is like you have to give it time and then you get more and more into it, I actually liked the show more the second time I watched it, the show is odd like that...

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that's what everyone's told me, but i don't usually bother sitting around and watching anything unless someone else feels like it

our ex was into it but we never watched it with her, and my fiancee didnt want to watch past the first 3 and i didnt care so that never happened

everyone tells me to get past the first season though, but i imagine that will only happen if my fiancee tells me we're watching it (she occasionally mentions wanting to try watching it again)

my attention span is pretty terrible for most things

with books and movies there has to be something that makes me pay attention even if i don't like them

i watched the begotten alone and i ******* hated that, but i just wanted to see something happen other than cricket noises while "the son of man" convulsed on the ground for way too long

i got the whole deeper meaning of the story, but it couldve been told in 5 minutes with less wind and i wouldve been happier for it

posted December 15, 2018 08:49 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
that's what everyone's told me, but i don't usually bother sitting around and watching anything unless someone else feels like it

our ex was into it but we never watched it with her, and my fiancee didnt want to watch past the first 3 and i didnt care so that never happened

everyone tells me to get past the first season though, but i imagine that will only happen if my fiancee tells me we're watching it (she occasionally mentions wanting to try watching it again)

my attention span is pretty terrible for most things

with books and movies there has to be something that makes me pay attention even if i don't like them

i watched the begotten alone and i ******* hated that, but i just wanted to see something happen other than cricket noises while "the son of man" convulsed on the ground for way too long

i got the whole deeper meaning of the story, but it couldve been told in 5 minutes with less wind and i wouldve been happier for it

i cant put my finger on what makes things keep my attention over **** that doesnt

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posted December 15, 2018 09:07 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Hahaha that is why I struggled with the show too at first bc of my attention span as there is lot of talking and important details to keep track off...

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you know, you said that and i just realized that's probably why i like silent movies

i never thought about it before

i prefer subtitles, because i can read whatever i didnt listen to

i'm annoying as **** with it i'm sure, i do it to people too

posted December 15, 2018 09:14 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
you know, you said that and i just realized that's probably why i like silent movies

i never thought about it before

i prefer subtitles, because i can read whatever i didnt listen to

i'm annoying as **** with it i'm sure, i do it to people too

it's unintentional, i'm just easily distracted except for when i take uppers

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posted December 15, 2018 10:45 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
I like subtitles too for the same reason and to be able to rewind lol...

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i dont usually bother with rewinding things unless i'm really interested because i don't usually care that much

i prefer shorts to movies and books with short chapters etc because they hold my attention better

posted December 15, 2018 11:58 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Interesting Aries23! Looking at your guy's chart.... his DC ruler is venus and conjuncts Uranus on the AC! Bam! Yes like I explained I feel venus aspect uranus has this negative effect in the love life when Venus or Uranus rules DC...yes your mars in libra with moon in cancer offers security and stability in a relationship and values that, you should never be with someone like that but my partner has venus square uranus and is not like your guy but his Venus or Uranus do not rule his DC....

You just need a relationship guy...

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Thanks for taking the time to check his positions. Funny how when you are involved with someone,its harder to interpret their chart objectively.

Odd thing is, I really didn't mind Uranus/Venus being on the Ac/DC. But I was really nervous about Chiron being there(conj 7th) and opposing Venus especially.

He liked me for a long time. I didn't know this till he mentioned it to me when we were together.

He would check me out from a distance, get irritable if someone got close and never approved of my then bf(Taurus): Said he was an "airhead pretty boy". Lol.

Anywho it surprised me that he pulled the Houdini act. Maybe he got bored ? Maybe I wasn't all that he thought I was? Maybe the
"challenge" was over for him? I don't know.

All I knew was that I felt single even when with him.So I thought "what's the point?". A break-up seemed very sensible.

He did however say that he has regrets about what he did when he was with me. And that he really did feel loved/cared for etc. Which is the very thing that attracted him to me.

And even though he immediately started seeing someone else right on the heels of our breaking off. He said that he hopes that we will get back together when I start to be less " girly" about stuff and over-emotional.What????

I suspect the other guy he started publicizing right after our breaking off things was there all along? Can't say. But I was glad that it was over. Even though it hurt to see him happy so quickly with someone else. I was so jealous even though I am the one who ended the relationship.

That's why I said I hope I never have another experience like that ever again. But its not like I can ask the next guy I like to pull out his chart to see if Venus/Uranus are in aspect? Lol. So I hope the universe is kind and sends me a relationship guy.

It would certainly be an ironic twist if Venus/Uranus is on the angles and Chiron is prominent( hits Sun/Moon) in the chart of the guy I eventually settle down with. Geesh!

posted December 16, 2018 06:12 AM            

I thought we might make it a bit longer, because we had both the sextile and the square exact at 0 degrees in our synastry as well (and a looot of saturn aspects), but I guess it was too much somehow

The "funny" thing is that none of us have really been in a serious relationship ever since we broke up (which is almost 3 years ago now), but both of us have had a lot of shorter relationships or more unserious ones.

It was really hard for me to move on from our relationship because it ended so sudden, and we kept contact for a long time afterwards where I wasn't sure if we would go back together, but eventually I just had to move on, and today I am finally seeing someone new, but still I feel it's really hard to commit myself.

I think relationships can be even more difficult with hard uranus aspects to personal planets today, than it might would have been just 50 years ago.
Today we have social media, and this whole "single-culture" which makes it more acceptable to stay single, and become more hesitating when entering committed relationships.

I've been with a bunch of guys through the years whom I think I could have had longterm relationships with, if it hadn't been because of the modern dating-culture...

But the question is, would I have been happy in those relationships? I think the ability to compare yourself with others today constantly, especially on social media, makes you question whether your relationship is making you happy enough, succesfull enough and so on.

And if your already a bit uranian, it can make you reflect about your own level of individuality, independence and whether this would be sustainable in a committed relationship. You'd might become prone to think that a relationship would limit you, and then you're not going to commit yourself, where others might be more accepting because their personal freedom and independence isn't THAT important.

So, I don't know if anyone follows my thought, but at least these are the thoughts that is kind of preventing me from entering a serious relationships and perhaps ever get married.
I'd really like a family and a husband at some point, but I think its really really difficult to find a guy who understands my longing for personal freedom, but still can be my trusted companion throughout life

I've thought a lot about that maybe I should just accept that I don't really want to commit myself into something very serious, and maybe become more open towards alternative relationships, where I can date others or just seeing someone, but never making it official, but I don't think my scorpio venus would like that:P

posted December 16, 2018 07:07 AM            

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I have venus sextile uranus and moon/mars square uranus very tight, but I was together with someone who had a very tight venus square uranus for a couple of years, and we didn't make it, because he eventually got a bit "bored" I would say, or he just felt a rush of breaking up and regain his "freedom".

I thought we might make it a bit longer, because we had both the sextile and the square exact at 0 degrees in our synastry as well (and a looot of saturn aspects), but I guess it was too much somehow

The "funny" thing is that none of us have really been in a serious relationship ever since we broke up (which is almost 3 years ago now), but both of us have had a lot of shorter relationships or more unserious ones.

It was really hard for me to move on from our relationship because it ended so sudden, and we kept contact for a long time afterwards where I wasn't sure if we would go back together, but eventually I just had to move on, and today I am finally seeing someone new, but still I feel it's really hard to commit myself.

I think relationships can be even more difficult with hard uranus aspects to personal planets today, than it might would have been just 50 years ago.
Today we have social media, and this whole "single-culture" which makes it more acceptable to stay single, and become more hesitating when entering committed relationships.

I've been with a bunch of guys through the years whom I think I could have had longterm relationships with, if it hadn't been because of the modern dating-culture...

But the question is, would I have been happy in those relationships? I think the ability to compare yourself with others today constantly, especially on social media, makes you question whether your relationship is making you happy enough, succesfull enough and so on.

And if your already a bit uranian, it can make you reflect about your own level of individuality, independence and whether this would be sustainable in a committed relationship. You'd might become prone to think that a relationship would limit you, and then you're not going to commit yourself, where others might be more accepting because their personal freedom and independence isn't THAT important.

So, I don't know if anyone follows my thought, but at least these are the thoughts that is kind of preventing me from entering a serious relationships and perhaps ever get married.
I'd really like a family and a husband at some point, but I think its really really difficult to find a guy who understands my longing for personal freedom, but still can be my trusted companion throughout life

I've thought a lot about that maybe I should just accept that I don't really want to commit myself into something very serious, and maybe become more open towards alternative relationships, where I can date others or just seeing someone, but never making it official, but I don't think my scorpio venus would like that:P

So I think that if I ever want a family, I would have to compromise with my own needs in this area. It's either that I would have to accept that I might never get a family if I don't commit myself to anyone exclusively, or I'd commit myself in a serious relationship, but would probably always think that it would limit my personal freedom and that the grass is greener on the other side....

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Thank you! I can really relate to what you are saying. My ex of 9 years has Venus sextile Uranus. He and I had a lot of Saturn aspects. But I wasn't happy I remember telling him something was missing. He would never let me have my space. We stayed together but I had my seperate room. Sometimes I wanted to be alone and he had a issue with that. I just didn't want to be with him anymore. He talked about me having his baby and I knew I had to leave.

Like you I would love to have a family but it's hard to find someone who fits me. I was even thinking about co-parenting. I don't know if marriage is for me. I feel if I found the right person I could. I have Venus in the 8th house. My Venus contraparallel my Pluto it's like the opposition. So there is some what of a conflict as you can imagine lol. I've only really had one serious relationship which lasted 9 years. He was upset he wanted to get married and have a family. But I just didn't want that with him.

After my ex I started hooking up with a guy I met online. We meet up every now and then. He lives in a different state and we've been hooking up since 2015. We aren't in a serious relationship though. I've also been talking to a guy who I met a couple of years ago. We met on his job I had a feeling he liked me. But just kind turned a blind eye to it. Since I had just started something up with the online guy.

posted December 16, 2018 07:50 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:

hard to forget that episode though lol

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posted December 16, 2018 08:31 AM            

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Originally posted by next to neptune:
I have venus sextile uranus and moon/mars square uranus very tight, but I was together with someone who had a very tight venus square uranus for a couple of years, and we didn't make it, because he eventually got a bit "bored" I would say, or he just felt a rush of breaking up and regain his "freedom".

I thought we might make it a bit longer, because we had both the sextile and the square exact at 0 degrees in our synastry as well (and a looot of saturn aspects), but I guess it was too much somehow

The "funny" thing is that none of us have really been in a serious relationship ever since we broke up (which is almost 3 years ago now), but both of us have had a lot of shorter relationships or more unserious ones.

It was really hard for me to move on from our relationship because it ended so sudden, and we kept contact for a long time afterwards where I wasn't sure if we would go back together, but eventually I just had to move on, and today I am finally seeing someone new, but still I feel it's really hard to commit myself.

I think relationships can be even more difficult with hard uranus aspects to personal planets today, than it might would have been just 50 years ago.
Today we have social media, and this whole "single-culture" which makes it more acceptable to stay single, and become more hesitating when entering committed relationships.

I've been with a bunch of guys through the years whom I think I could have had longterm relationships with, if it hadn't been because of the modern dating-culture...

But the question is, would I have been happy in those relationships? I think the ability to compare yourself with others today constantly, especially on social media, makes you question whether your relationship is making you happy enough, succesfull enough and so on.

And if your already a bit uranian, it can make you reflect about your own level of individuality, independence and whether this would be sustainable in a committed relationship. You'd might become prone to think that a relationship would limit you, and then you're not going to commit yourself, where others might be more accepting because their personal freedom and independence isn't THAT important.

So, I don't know if anyone follows my thought, but at least these are the thoughts that is kind of preventing me from entering a serious relationships and perhaps ever get married.
I'd really like a family and a husband at some point, but I think its really really difficult to find a guy who understands my longing for personal freedom, but still can be my trusted companion throughout life

I've thought a lot about that maybe I should just accept that I don't really want to commit myself into something very serious, and maybe become more open towards alternative relationships, where I can date others or just seeing someone, but never making it official, but I don't think my scorpio venus would like that:P

So I think that if I ever want a family, I would have to compromise with my own needs in this area. It's either that I would have to accept that I might never get a family if I don't commit myself to anyone exclusively, or I'd commit myself in a serious relationship, but would probably always think that it would limit my personal freedom and that the grass is greener on the other side....

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social media has never made me reflect on anything other than how many women seem to forget no matter what angles and filters they use seeing them irl doesnt fix anything

i don't personally find it worth reflecting on the parts of life people choose to share and filtered realities and then holding it up to my own, and i've never seen a reason to care about how other people live

i figure life is defined by my own terms and values and **** what anyone else thinks of it since we all die anyway and they can't really tell me any different and have it fit my perspective on how i want to live

i've always found it mind numbing and pointless to care much about how other people live their lives or their ideas of right and wrong etc

i tend to see people who are influenced by that kind of thing heavily as weak willed, naive, irrational etc and so on because you would have to be to let filtered versions of other people's reality affect your views on the life you're living

i actually never wanted a serious relationship as a kid, my parents' marriage was terrible most of their friends had terrible marriages too and it made relationships extremely unappealing

ended up meeting my fiancee which changed things, but i don't see why commitment has to extend towards sex with other people when i don't even feel like it's the same as sex with her on any level

she's special, sex isnt necessarily not without that deep intimacy i feel with her

i tend to equate sex with everyone else with drinking or a good adrenaline rush etc

@Aries23

this will sound ****** i guess, but i know what that guy meant about too many feelings being a turn off

my fiancee has a lot of feelings and can be like an emotional rollercoaster which i don't find offputting when it's her for some reason because id go through hell with her and wouldnt break the promises ive made her

but anyone else when they start having too many intense or difficult to deal with feelings i tend to lose interest even if i like them otherwise

i really did love our ex (only other person ive hooked up with that i had romantic feelings towards), but then she just became too erratic and it became mind numbing and i stopped wanting to deal with her (as shallow as it sounds, if i had been more physically attracted to her this probably wouldnt have happened as quickly) and she had too much going on with her having kids and whatnot

i'm fine with kids that's not a dealbreaker for me, but their father already hated me because he saw my chart when she read it and decided she was going to cheat with me (she did) so that didnt help

but ultimately she just had too many feelings and half of them were excessive for me

sometimes she'd be hysterical over i don't even know what and i'd just stop listening altogether, and id avoid her sometimes too if i knew id just be getting bitched at

posted December 16, 2018 09:45 AM            

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Something that was always "normal" to me, which I never questioned until not long ago, was the fact that actually, I did not spend a lot of "physically present" time with people I was with. Sure we messaged, texted, called sometimes. But going together wasn't a main thing.

I didn't take note of the pattern until recently. They were all people who had their own quite autonomous, self-possessed lives, who also, in their own way, were happy enough with the "distant" setup. Loyalty and trust was never an issue, but we didn't think that being physically with each other changed much about how we felt. Even not speaking to each other didn't change anything. Similar to a cat, my attention and affection quota gets maxed very quickly on some days.

So I cannot tell you what it is like to even live with a romantic partner for several months, to a year. Or even what it is like to physically spend time with them "regularly." Regular for me is... A long time apart.
I feel like if I were to ever be with someone permanently, we'd either have to have a 30 foot bed, or sleep in separate rooms. Or, even live in two separate adjacent houses. I don't associate love with being near someone. To desire to be close, I see it as simply a bonus. Perhaps one day I shall meet someone that does not make me wish to have them live far away from me. There is also a strong need for solitude, which is indescribable, and varies from person to person. Change and personal growth are very important, perhaps I'd need someone who can change, learn and grow with me. Reach for the stars, so to speak.

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I swear I wrote this.. Everything especially the part with the bedrooms.

I have Uranus (and Neptune) conjuct DSC
I have observed that pattern really young.
I had just distant relationships with people that I haven't even seen live (twice).

I have too much water in my chart and it is kind of difficult to handle it.. Strong emotions but detached physically.

posted December 16, 2018 10:07 AM            

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Hmmm boredom isn't so much the issue, but I guess you could call it that. Human tongues are so limited. If only we have another word for it. Boredom can mean someone who just has nothing to do, or is sitting in a room, alone, bored, no interesting thoughts or activities, but then you give them a book to read and they're satisfied. Boredom is also a state of mind and a bored person attracts more boredom. Even a bored/boring person will be bored doing something interesting and potentially life altering. Bored people escape their own monotony, but Uranus isn't monotonous, so it's slightly different in intention. It's a need to feel electrified by irregular bursts. A dislike for stagnation. It's not just in love, but in life I am like this. I become so annoyed by feeling stagnant. Even something shocking could become common place after awhile." In some ways, it's almost like a need to take responsibility. It's that shock of accountability you feel when you realize there's something you HAVE to do, and if you don't you feel your soul becoming complacent. Uranus is the awakener. I think sometimes the Uranus energy can be mistranslated, and just turn into someone doing trivial "fun things", until they eventually realize something that makes their "soul" feel alive. I think once they find that "thing", then they could actually be quite content and won't even seem irregular at all. So the venus aspect would mean they NEED their love to be something higher, larger than life. Which is why regular standards for relationships can irk them. So, to keep from getting bored, it cannot be a relationship simply for the sake of a relationship. Some Uranus/Venus may still think this is what they "should" do, and Uranian individuals will try to take the normal route, but eventually feel dissatisfied until they realize their true intentions and potentials.

Something that was always "normal" to me, which I never questioned until not long ago, was the fact that actually, I did not spend a lot of "physically present" time with people I was with. Sure we messaged, texted, called sometimes. But going together wasn't a main thing.

I didn't take note of the pattern until recently. They were all people who had their own quite autonomous, self-possessed lives, who also, in their own way, were happy enough with the "distant" setup. Loyalty and trust was never an issue, but we didn't think that being physically with each other changed much about how we felt. Even not speaking to each other didn't change anything. Similar to a cat, my attention and affection quota gets maxed very quickly on some days.

So I cannot tell you what it is like to even live with a romantic partner for several months, to a year. Or even what it is like to physically spend time with them "regularly." Regular for me is... A long time apart.
I feel like if I were to ever be with someone permanently, we'd either have to have a 30 foot bed, or sleep in separate rooms. Or, even live in two separate adjacent houses. I don't associate love with being near someone. To desire to be close, I see it as simply a bonus. Perhaps one day I shall meet someone that does not make me wish to have them live far away from me. There is also a strong need for solitude, which is indescribable, and varies from person to person. Change and personal growth are very important, perhaps I'd need someone who can change, learn and grow with me. Reach for the stars, so to speak.

It could be that Venus/Uranus individuals are sometimes only partially aware of this, and may or may not realize it is an "issue" for some? Which is why I think it is very important for people like this to be with people who are somewhat similar in this respect. It could be painful for someone who needs "more" in a normal way.

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posted December 16, 2018 10:14 AM            

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I agree I can spend months away from a person and it doesn't bother me. I kind of have this setup with someone now and it's been working for me. They have Moon/Uranus in their natal chart so I think that's why it works for them as well. I can relate to everything you've said because this is how I am. And yes being this way can be a problem for some people. I was living with my ex and he couldn't take the fact that I had my own separate room. He wanted to be under me 24/7 always wanted to know what I was doing etc.

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interesting, i couldnt stay interested with a lot of distance and long spans of time apart

i'd just move on with someone closer and see them on the side but that would dampen feelings for me

i've lived with my fiancee for 13 years now, and in that time we havent spent more than a few days apart and that's fine with me

i like coming home to her and waking up beside her (or with her and someone else, there's room) etc, when i havent had that i tend to care less and not take things as seriously

i have moon/uranus in my natal chart (theyre trine, part of a kite with venus and mercury) and that lack of closeness would just make me feel lonely, bored, and like they werent worthwhile unless they didnt at all care about me hooking up with other people and having more serious relationships

they'd never be what i wanted though

posted December 16, 2018 10:24 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
interesting, i couldnt stay interested with a lot of distance and long spans of time apart

i'd just move on with someone closer and see them on the side but that would dampen feelings for me

i've lived with my fiancee for 13 years now, and in that time we havent spent more than a few days apart and that's fine with me

i like coming home to her and waking up beside her (or with her and someone else, there's room) etc, when i havent had that i tend to care less and not take things as seriously

i have moon/uranus in my natal chart (theyre trine, part of a kite with venus and mercury) and that lack of closeness would just make me feel lonely, bored, and like they werent worthwhile unless they didnt at all care about me hooking up with other people and having more serious relationships

they'd never be what i wanted though

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The distance just doesn't bother me We message each other every day though. I don't know I guess everyone is different. He doesn't want to live with anyone. He likes being to himself most of the time. He's a free spirit and likes to travel and be on the road a lot.

No way would I have been able to have someone else being involved with my ex. He wouldn't have allowed it. You are lucky to have found someone who doesn't mind.