posted December 18, 2018 02:59 PM            

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Originally posted by margym0o:
In what I've seen, there is a heavy FRIENDSHIP component to the lasting relationships, with Venus/Uranus being in the natal of one or both individuals, in the synastry or in the composite (or all 3!).

I actually know a couple with all 3 (shocking!) and they have been together for 10+ years now, married for 8 of them. They are solid as a rock and I will be VERY surprised if they ever split up.

The key is they started out as friends, and have continued that friendship into their marriage.

If their relationship was too "heavy" I bet it wouldn't last. The constant need to reassure the other person, the emphasis on being romantic all the time, etc.

There's a certain light-ness that comes with a beautiful friendship and when that's present, there is no such thing as "boredom" and being with that person is not a chore, but a pleasure.

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posted December 18, 2018 03:34 PM            

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Originally posted by HelixID:
Aries explained it very well, Uranus is the interrupter and that doesn't have to be a bad thing.

We all have our routines and the things we do because, well, that's how they have always been done.
To a person with hard Uranus aspects to their inner planets this is a burden. While other people don't mind staying in their comfort zone, people with hard Uranus aspects feel restlessness.

That's why people with hard Venus-Uranus aspects confuse their partners and themselves, too. They always try to interrupt a routine when it gets too much.

I personally have Venus conjunct Mars and they both square Uranus.

When I feel stuck in my relationship, I just take a short trip with my friends out of the blue. My boyfriend is very understanding of that and when I'm back I feel much better because I had the chance to be apart from my boyfriend and actually miss him. That's one example and those episodes have nothing to do with how I feel about my man.

I'm a very structured person and I love planning plus my Mars is in Virgo in H6, which makes me sort of a workaholic.
But although I have a good plan I don't do things in a linear fashion, one after another. I like to start somewhere at the end with a project, do something in the middle and then jump to the start, for example.

I learned for myself that predictability kills my motivation. So I always try to do something seemingly out of the blue just to keep me mentally stimulated but always keeping the big picture in mind.

Something that looks like a short circuit for most people, is just a Uranian person's reboot to restore healthy energy levels.

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I can relate, my chart ruler Jupiter conjuncts Uranus exact in sag, I am very Uranian and my husband too and his chart ruler venus squares uranus, I dont think that both of our chart rulers form a hard aspect to Uranus is a coincidence at all, we are both rebels at heart with an activist spirit who need to take risks and go on adventures. I need radical changes to take place in my life periodically or I end up creating excitement in my life in ways that are not "socially acceptable."

posted December 18, 2018 05:05 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
I can relate, my chart ruler Jupiter conjuncts Uranus exact in sag, I am very Uranian and my husband too and his chart ruler venus squares uranus, I dont think that both of our chart rulers form a hard aspect to Uranus is a coincidence at all, we are both rebels at heart with an activist spirit who need to take risks and go on adventures. I need radical changes to take place in my life periodically or I end up creating excitement in my life in ways that are not "socially acceptable."

However my partner does not need space from me and that is why I keep pointing out that venus aspect uranus is not going to manifest that way automatically unless venus or uranus rule the DC, in our case from the start we have been pretty inseperable and now have been together 12 years in March but we do have a relationship that I feel is rooted on been best friends essentially, we are like best friends and partners including at times 'partners in crime' but he has venus in leo square uranus in scorpio so he loves spending all his time with me... add his venus conjuncts my venus.

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posted December 18, 2018 05:17 PM            

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Originally posted by margym0o:
Oh my! So funny. The couple I was referring to has Venus conjunct Venus too (Virgo though). I feel like their marriage is exactly as you've described...they are best friends but conveniently they have similar tastes and interests so they enjoy spending time together. They like to have their "date nights" but it probably feels more like hanging out with a friend, rather than romancing someone.

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posted December 26, 2018 09:55 AM            

Well I think if you are bored it’s best to bring it up....in a way that doesn’t hurt or kill their ego.
Talk about it and see if they are open to your ideas. Then we get progress, if the person is right.

Early into dating when the timing is appropriate bring up your quirks to find out if he or she is open to them.

As a first year teacher taking college classes still...I really just want my space sometimes. So this week is the first week where I have no work or online classes. I feel like we can truly enjoy each others company indoors.

I’m proud of finally having a job where I get paid vacation. We are going to travel out of state with each other for the first time.

I also have a list of date ideas in my phone. Because he has takin me on some awesome dates, about a year into dating I wanted to give back. Plus I have to get pretty creative since he is such a picky eater.

I tell him if you can’t handle my 3 dollar ice cream dates, then you don’t deserve my 300 dollar steakhouse dates.

I have also been learning to ask for more help respectfully since it’s impossible for me to be a domestic type girlfriend with new job and college.

posted January 18, 2020 09:22 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
I think it’s best to date someone else who also has this aspect in their chart. My ex has the trine or sextile and I have the square. But the square is problematic not so much the soft aspects.

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