posted June 02, 2010 01:25 PM         

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Friends????? Think about this for a minute..... If I showed up on your door step crying, Would you care? If I called you and asked you to come pick me up because something happened, Would you come? If I needed a shoulder to cry on, Would you loan me yours? If I had one day to live my life, Would you be a part of it?..... Life is lonely without friends. It's World's Best Friend Week.... If you agree re-post Please

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1. When you are sad ~ I will help you get drunk and plot revenge against the sorry ******* who made you sad.

2. When you are blue ~ I will try to dislodge whatever is choking you.

3. When you smile ~ I will know you are thinking of something that I would probably want to be involved in.

4. When you are scared ~ I will rag on you about it every chance I get until you're NOT.

5. When you are worried ~ I will tell you horrible stories about how much worse it could be until you quit whining.

6.. When you are confused ~ I will try to use only little words.

7.. When you are sick ~ Stay the hell away from me until you are well again.. I don't want whatever you have.

8. When you fall ~ I will laugh at your clumsy as$, but I'll help you up.

9. This is my oath .... I pledge it to the end. 'Why?' you may ask ~ because you are my friend

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posted June 02, 2010 01:47 PM         

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If I had one day to live my life, Would you be a part of it?

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Just imagine, if each of us, only had one day left...........why don't we live every day like this? Shouldn't we?

posted June 02, 2010 02:51 PM         

Lexx, i am sorry you don't appreciate my humor or think it is funny.

maybe I could say if i had a sick friend that was dying i would do thier laundry and clean thier house every week for five years, and in such a way that they didnt lose dignity or feel embarrassed to have help with things, or how i can't leave when i have a friend dying and stay and stay and sing to them and love them into the next world, however much it hurts me... but seriously, anytime i talk about being good to others on here, i get treated like toot your own horn some more. so, really it is no ones buisness if i pay a friends heating bill beacause they don't have the money, or help them with their rent... whatever i do. it is my buisness anyway,,,,so i keep it light and get slaugthered for that.

whatever.
you guys don't even know me.

and honestly, if you think you are a better friend to others than i am, i don't really care, I know who and what i am and what i would do for a real friend, so it doesn't a matter to me what you think. i guess i thought you guys knew me a little better than that after all this time.

and i know enough about some of you to realize that, humor is not apprecaited all that much, nor will it ever be.

however, i truly believe life is a gift and not to enjoy it is not being appreciative of the gift. i don't think it is a sin to laugh and have fun, i think it is more of a sin to complain and whine through this life and focus on what you don't have instead of making the best of what you do have... and if you think i am an unkind person, well, you don't know me at all, and can think what you want. i don't own your thoughts, only mine.

posted June 02, 2010 03:42 PM         

I would give my right arm to have a friend like that...well okay, maybe my left

It's all in good humor.. but seriously kidding (get that? tee hee) A friend who cares enough to stop and take the time to so much as look my way would be a welcome sight. Everyone is so selfish nowdays or so wrapped up in their own drama that they don't want any part of someone else's issues...not even to help them. I'm not like that. I would give my last five bucks if it meant it would make your day a little better...and I have in the past.

I had a friend over last week and he said that he almost suffocated himself over something someone said to him on the internet... just being teased by someone he never met! Long story there, but you never know how much a simple gesture of kindness could mean to someone. And on the same token, how a small insult could ruin them. I almost lost a good friend over someone being an a$$hole.

I must be tired, I'm rambling lol.

posted June 02, 2010 05:26 PM         

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posted June 02, 2010 06:04 PM         

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geesh. you guys really don't know me at all.

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Lexx, i am sorry you don't appreciate my humor or think it is funny.

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maybe I could say if i had a sick friend that was dying i would do thier laundry and clean thier house every week for five years, and in such a way that they didnt lose dignity or feel embarrassed to have help with things,

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or how i can't leave when i have a friend dying and stay and stay and sing to them and love them into the next world, however much it hurts me...

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but seriously, anytime i talk about being good to others on here, i get treated like toot your own horn some more.

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so, really it is no ones buisness if i pay a friends heating bill beacause they don't have the money, or help them with their rent... whatever i do. it is my buisness anyway,,,,

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so i keep it light and get slaugthered for that.

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whatever.
you guys don't even know me.

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and honestly, if you think you are a better friend to others than i am, i don't really care, I know who and what i am and what i would do for a real friend, so it doesn't a matter to me what you think. i guess i thought you guys knew me a little better than that after all this time.

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and i know enough about some of you to realize that, humor is not apprecaited all that much, nor will it ever be.

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however, i truly believe life is a gift and not to enjoy it is not being appreciative of the gift.

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i don't think it is a sin to laugh and have fun,

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i think it is more of a sin to complain and whine through this life and focus on what you don't have instead of making the best of what you do have...

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and if you think i am an unkind person, well, you don't know me at all, and can think what you want. i don't own your thoughts, only mine.

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posted June 02, 2010 06:21 PM         

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I had a friend over last week and he said that he almost suffocated himself over something someone said to him on the internet... just being teased by someone he never met! Long story there, but you never know how much a simple gesture of kindness could mean to someone. And on the same token, how a small insult could ruin them. I almost lost a good friend over someone being an a$$hole.

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posted June 02, 2010 07:33 PM         

Still I keep asking and they don't call.

posted June 02, 2010 07:45 PM         

Sorry about this, but I am human, unlike others. Don't deserve this or some pathetic excuse. Yeah, I'm ranting/venting like a woman.

Any reason anyone? Without knowing the situation...why would someone/people not call like that?

posted June 02, 2010 08:01 PM         

It wasn't an attack.
I thought you were serious
so I was disagreeing
and sharing my views.

I know plenty of people who think that way,
and they'll laugh and say it's a joke, but
isn't that how insensitive people are?
Isnt that how insensitive humor is?

From what I do know of you,
and from what I've heard you say,
it's not easy to determine the extent
to which you may be kidding here.

I don't think you're tooting your horn,
but I do think you're being defensive.
And I think LEXX would have liked to hear
the nice things that you do for your friends.
You could just present them as how a friend is,
without having to say that's what you have done.
People might think those things were done for you.

Also, I dont think you're an unkind person,
I just think that you, like everyone else,
hold beliefs which limit your compassion.

If you think something isn't insensitive,
then it's not insensitive to you, but,
if you're wrong, it's still insensitive,
even if your heart is in the right place.

posted June 02, 2010 08:14 PM         

The joke upset me too. I grew up in an environment where they actually believed it's a good idea to kick somebody when they're down in order to give them a push in the right direction. People thought it was the right way to act and be. I have seen so many crushed dreamers, such bitterness thanks to "tough love"!

But this is not why I feel compelled to post now. I wanted to post because something needs to be said here...

cpn made an insensitive post and received two disagreeing replies. That was enough for her to get all defensive, and tell people how she doesn't really care, and how they don't even know her.

Now, compare that to what happens when Valus posts and he gets 10 angry replies. Multiply that by 6 years. Remember how, despite all the bad feelings and energy directed his way (and my way by association), he still tries to explain himself and apologizes profusely just so there is peace? I do.

posted June 02, 2010 09:20 PM         

Somehow, don't believe it. Wouldn't shock me if they had a gun to her head, just to tell someone. Now if they told me they wanted her to be raped, at least they would be honest and I would know.

posted June 02, 2010 09:30 PM         

yes coffee it is rude to leave people worrying about you. very rude. she probobly went on about her life and forgot all about, selfishly leaving you worry. i dont think i would consider someone who did that a friend at all. more like someone who just uses people.

yin - while i did defend my position, i did not call anyone names, or act in a condesending manner to anyone. HUGE DIFFERENCE.

frankly i was surprised that after 6 years of posting here that most of you dont know me a little better than that.

and actually when i am down and realise how many people are worse off than me, it does make you put things in perspective and feel thankful that things aren't a lot worse.

and furthermore i can't for the life of me remeber her screen name, but you know the girl that got jilted at the altar, and had to work with the guy after he got married to another girl and was sad sad sad? i remember the dear girl, a harmless prank made all the difference with the faint sound of mc hammer singing, can't touch this, totally made her situation bearable. how is that a bad thing? pa made me laugh when i was going through a hard time and i love her for it, i am pretty usre she even made fun of me, and we laughed and made jokes about it.. and sometimes it takes a good hearty laugh to get through certain situations that bring us down and remember that life IS good.

and furthermore, people that are carrying airborne pathogens should deliberately not go around others, as a courtesy to others, i don't. if i had even a sniffle i wouldnt go around my dad, because i would never wnat to make him sick, my germ could mean his life. some people have compromised immune systems and people with colds, germ and such should contain themselves as a courtesy to others.

i am tired of writing this trying to explain myself. i'm am not so sure certain people will ever be receptive to me, and i am ok with that. take care everybody...and have a beautiful evening.

posted June 02, 2010 09:42 PM         

I slipped over, coming out of a concert, when I was fifteen (this, walking alongside a girl who was deliberately slipping and sliding on the floor). Mum helped me up, and we burst out laughing, as soon as I looked her in the eye - When we started to laugh, other people around us did as well. (obviously, nobody would be laughing if the other had been hurt.) Anyway, that's what that one reminded me of.

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posted June 02, 2010 10:13 PM         

Would you forgive her and think she has stuff going on, or would you think that something is wrong?

The people who are ""friends"" are the real nasty ones. Without knowledge of the situation (I've been there) hard to see the situation clearly.

It's more than humiliating. Isn't that what the illuminati do to new members? Humiliate them?

posted June 02, 2010 10:29 PM         

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if you would be embarrassed walking with me, well, i wouldn't so i guess it isn't my issue.

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4. When you are scared ~ I will rag on you about it every chance I get until you're NOT.

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5. When you are worried ~ I will tell you horrible stories about how much worse it could be until you quit whining.

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6.. When you are confused ~ I will try to use only little words.

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7.. When you are sick ~ Stay the hell away from me until you are well again.. I don't want whatever you have.

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8. When you fall ~ I will laugh at your clumsy as$, but I'll help you up.

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Words have power to hurt or soothe. And timing is also a factor. I posted on another thread how I have known folks who were driven to suicide by an ill timed unkind barrage or continuous ridicule.
I have known folks who just by a random act of kindness were transformed by it to feeling more optimistic or at the very least, less despondent.
I am quite aware that things could be much worse...however that does not negate the reality nor the severity of my or any person's suffering.
Call us whiners, call us clumsy, or silly, or weak....

whatever.

I have thought of you as a nice person.
I still do.:

But I have to agree with what Valus said:

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I know plenty of people who think that way,
and they'll laugh and say it's a joke, but
isn't that how insensitive people are?
Isnt that how insensitive humor is?

From what I do know of you,
and from what I've heard you say,
it's not easy to determine the extent
to which you may be kidding here.

I don't think you're tooting your horn,
but I do think you're being defensive.
And I think LEXX would have liked to hear
the nice things that you do for your friends.
You could just present them as how a friend is,
without having to say that's what you have done.
People might think those things were done for you.

Also, I dont think you're an unkind person,
I just think that you, like everyone else,
hold beliefs which limit your compassion.

If you think something isn't insensitive,
then it's not insensitive to you, but,
if you're wrong, it's still insensitive,
even if your heart is in the right place.

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I would never use those "friendship" codes of conduct on you.

posted June 02, 2010 10:42 PM         

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cheer up buttercup!
you has friends.

http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum25/HTML/001170.html

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