posted March 14, 2011 01:00 AM            

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Originally posted by PlutoSquared:
Another inexpensive way of getting massage is going straight to the student clinics at the Massage Therapy schools...

Often times you'll pay around twenty-five dollars for a full hour therapy.

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posted March 14, 2011 01:07 AM            

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Originally posted by LEXX:

There might be some like 4 hours round trip away.
Too far to go.
Also there are complications that students would not be qualified to deal with.
Only a chiroprator would know how to not cause me more injury.

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posted March 14, 2011 01:12 AM            

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Originally posted by PlutoSquared:
Wow. I will sound annoying for a few minutes making suggestions... but any chance the home owner's ins will cover it? Disability benefits? Local charities? Anything?

Life sounds terrible there, LEXX.

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posted March 14, 2011 01:19 AM            

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Originally posted by LEXX:
PlutoSquared
Bless you for trying to help and hearing my b!tching.

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No problem, LEXX. It's bad, and it's ok to b#tch it out.

If I were you, I'd go down to the courthouse and pick up the divorce paperwork from the county clerk... it should cost about fifty bucks. Without lawyers and being uncomplicated, you should be able to get the divorce done quick.

That way you can free yourself up for whatever benefits and help you can get as a single woman.

posted March 14, 2011 01:29 AM            

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Originally posted by PlutoSquared:
No problem, LEXX. It's bad, and it's ok to b#tch it out.

If I were you, I'd go down to the courthouse and pick up the divorce paperwork from the county clerk... it should cost about fifty bucks. Without lawyers and being uncomplicated, you should be able to get the divorce done quick.

That way you can free yourself up for whatever benefits and help you can get as a single woman.

Obviously not knowing all details, I try to give whatever advice. Forgive me if I miss the mark.

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posted March 14, 2011 01:51 AM            

if your house is a handyman special, it is good news. you can become a handy woman, a special one.

are you the owner?

I want to do that too, buy an old house and repair it. there is everything I need on internet to do it properly, professionnally.

posted March 14, 2011 03:02 AM            

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Originally posted by PlutoSquared:
No problem, LEXX. It's bad, and it's ok to b#tch it out.

If I were you, I'd go down to the courthouse and pick up the divorce paperwork from the county clerk... it should cost about fifty bucks. Without lawyers and being uncomplicated, you should be able to get the divorce done quick.

That way you can free yourself up for whatever benefits and help you can get as a single woman.

Obviously not knowing all details, I try to give whatever advice. Forgive me if I miss the mark.

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Originally posted by LEXX:
We are looking into all the options.
The separate living looks financially impossible at this time though.
We have only one car and it is 11 years old.
Neither one of us can afford separate living expenses and another car.
And I need some medical done before I go off his insurance. Medicare will not cover certain things and I cannot afford to pay out of pocket.
And my living alone and his, with our health issues, living alone is a bad idea.
And yes, we intend to do a do it yourself divorce, no extra costs.
We are definitely going over every possible idea.
One is one or both of us moving to country(ies) with free medical care.
It is just so discouraging and exhausting.
On that note;
off to sleep and visualize better times to come.
I have not given up, even when bummed out.
If I had given up;
no one here would know;
because I would just not be here and sooner or later someone would wonder where I went.
So as long as I am griping, I have not given up.
Sigh.

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posted March 14, 2011 06:20 AM            

Support Groups can be beneficial.

Writing down how you feel can help release those emotions,
get it all out and then put it away.

A heart to heart with someone who loves you helps,
sometimes just verbalizing can help put what you're feeling into perspective.

Music can be soothing.

as a side note:
Each Element handles Depression differently,
if there is a preponderance of Water in the Natal,
then it is part of their nature to deal with periodic highs and lows
so they will work through it.

Air signs might try to deal with it logically, rationally, and/or reasonably
while they (pep) talk themselves through it.

The Earth signs will try and take it in stride
except for Virgo who may obsess about it.

Fire signs are gutted by depression,
it challenges who they are and sends them into a tailspin
and in danger of losing hope so they would benefit with professional help.

posted March 14, 2011 09:53 AM            

I was trying to restore my original thread, and still might do so.
However......
The advice here is great for the psychologically/bio-chemically based depression,
but not the other kinds.

Law of Attraction?
I did not attract my problems which have made me and make me need to fight depression throughout my life to date;
Birth defects, childhood rapes, brain/body damage from a drunk hitting me with car, lost over 26 pregnancies, industrial accident resulting in permanent damage I cannot just think away, assaulted physically resulting in broken bones, and just more more more crap.
I detest the new age concept that blames me and others for all my/our troubles.
Oh yeah, sure, right, oh yes, I attracted and asked for all the bad shite, it is my fault.
Negative thoughts caused it, its all my fault
Bullshite!
Excuse me whilst I go tell disabled folks or folks injured by others, "its all you're fault! Your negative thoughts and you asked for it(LOA) you are a real loser stop whining and think positive thoughts and angels will descend from above
and blow sunshine and daisies up your tukas and you will be made miraculously healthy wealthy and wise!
Hallelujah!"

A good optimistic attitude is great.
But to deny reality is stupid.

If I have offended anyone, sorry.

I do not have anything much more to contribute at this time.

posted March 14, 2011 10:38 AM            

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Originally posted by EverEvolvingSpirit:
LEXX, I am sorry to have ffended you in any way, and no I don't believe that you attracted this to you

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posted March 14, 2011 12:10 PM            

I used to worry that if I was too happy, that bad stuff would happen. That's a trick of the mind, though.

Bad stuff happens when you're happy or sad... it's just part of the chaotic universe we're in...

I agree that many people will try to say that others are responsible for uncontrollable stuff - but, that's just the human ego deluding itself into believing that we have ultimate control of what happens externally.

The fact is, many times we have no control over what happens in the world - and many times, to us.

We can control the now through our action in the sense of how we react, and I hope that even though you're in physical, emotional, spiritual pain, that you remember that even in the midst of the storm, that it will all pass. The sun will come out again.

You've been through a lot, LEXX. And, in many ways, I look up to you as a survivor of so many things. I truly believe that even in this moment, you have the strength to decide how you will face your future... you can choose whatever you want.

You are a Scorpio, afterall.

You guys are built from the strongest material.

posted March 14, 2011 02:50 PM            

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Originally posted by EverEvolvingSpirit:
Sometimes everyday stresses like money, work or bad relationships can attribute to depression. I know this was the case with me when my symptoms began to become worse. Sometimes it's a matter of having all your bills paid that can make a world of difference in a depressive mood

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