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Topic: Cougars. Do older women go looking
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avocadosandwich
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posted June 16, 2011 02:46 PM
  
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Originally posted by AstrologicalMan:
...Older women have a different sexuality quality about them that younger girls do not possess and it is very enticing.
Since I'm well older than 28, I'm past my "prime"  but strangely, I'm more confident, wiser, kinder and dare I say, much, much more attractive, even with a few wrinkles, stretch marks, and spider veins. And I won't bother trying to convince someone who doesn't see it otherwise. I suppose the cougar thing might very well come down to differences in sexual peak. I, myself want a man with some confidence, wisdom, kindness and attractiveness that often comes with age, and I will take the ear hair, receding hairline and stomach paunch that might come along, too.  IP: Logged |
avocadosandwich
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posted June 16, 2011 02:49 PM
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Originally posted by AstrologicalMan:
Do older women dress themselves up and go looking for younger guys...
Don't they always say that women actually dress to impress other women? I read something somewhere that if we were dressing for men, we'd wear jeans and a T shirt OR a simple sundress! That's apparently what does it for *most* men surveyed that particular time. IP: Logged |
lechien
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posted June 16, 2011 03:20 PM
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Depends on where you are, though! Small towns do tend to be a bit traditional, and my family does still ask me when exactly I'm going to settle down with a good man and buy myself a house and such... And I'm only 26! 
unfortunately regardless of where, all small towns are like that, lol. that's why i said "move to a Western European CITY" no you don't want to land in a provincial medieval village in Bavaria...  quote:
Originally posted by avocadosandwich:
and I will take the ear hair, receding hairline and stomach paunch that might come along, too.
ewwwww! is ear hair an old-man thing!? IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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posted June 16, 2011 03:57 PM
I've seen cougars before the trend started, so I think they've always been around. There are even historical accounts of very rich or noble women (and older) who had young boy toys as well. But even today I think they're pretty rare. Granted, when you live on a world with BILLIONS of people, it's not too hard to find that rare exception, especially if you're looking. OTOH, "Twilight Moms" seem surprisingly common to me so maybe the lust for young hottie males is more common than I think. (Speaking of which I've found it weird how many "Twilight Moms" can publicly appreciate 17-year-old Taylor Lautner going shirtless while at the same time criticizing Miley Cyrus for dressing sexy as well because they think Miley--same age as their precious Taylor--is too young! ) IP: Logged |
LEXX
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posted June 19, 2011 03:22 AM
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Originally posted by AstrologicalMan:
Do older women dress themselves up and go looking for younger guys. I have had a few run ins with these women. I had one yesterday. I was wondering if it is frequent or if you know of older women who go out on the prowl for younger guys?I always ask them if they live by themselves and they all say yes. Everytime, I ask them if I can come over and they are usually hesitant, "well I don't know you" but eventually they all agree to let me come over. I am not saying that I actually take the invite on all or any of the situations.
Hello and  I simply be myself.
I am now 56 and far from trim and young.
  I prefer younger men (though oddly when under 25 preferred older, like even 96 years old, and at 14 had a thing for a very cool 102 year old) Men my age are mostly creepy. Set in their ways or old party burnouts.
 Frankly I find many of the under 30 guys more emotionally mature than most guys over 30,
and definitely usually more than guys my age or older.
Here are some threads you might find interesting!
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum27/HTML/000317.html
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum27/HTML/000121.html
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum27/HTML/000053.html
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/001238.html
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AstrologicalMan
Knowflake Posts: 435
From: Brickenton
Registered: Jun 2011
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posted June 19, 2011 06:32 AM
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Originally posted by Doreen:
Err OK then
Funny I haven't seen you around
I haven't been here in awhile. They banned me a long time ago and now I have recently returned. Nice to meet you IP: Logged |
AstrologicalMan
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Registered: Jun 2011
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posted June 19, 2011 06:38 AM
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Originally posted by pixelpixie:
So...at 34, I would be considered a cougar and/or over my fit prime, but not quite in my sexual prime?
That's funny, because I run 5k at least three times a week, and have vigorous and terrific sex just as much or more.It's good that I am classified though! Good to know!
I was saying in general. You may actually be a cougar but there is nothing wrong with this, in fact there are many advantages to being a mature woman. In fact, At age 29 I am starting to become more attracted to the Mature woman.
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AstrologicalMan
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posted June 19, 2011 06:40 AM
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Originally posted by LEXX:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by AstrologicalMan:
[b]Do older women dress themselves up and go looking for younger guys. I have had a few run ins with these women. I had one yesterday. I was wondering if it is frequent or if you know of older women who go out on the prowl for younger guys?I always ask them if they live by themselves and they all say yes. Everytime, I ask them if I can come over and they are usually hesitant, "well I don't know you" but eventually they all agree to let me come over. I am not saying that I actually take the invite on all or any of the situations.
Hello and I simply be myself.
I am now 56 and far from trim and young.
I prefer younger men (though oddly when under 25 preferred older, like even 96 years old, and at 14 had a thing for a very cool 102 year old) Men my age are mostly creepy. Set in their ways or old party burnouts.
Frankly I find many of the under 30 guys more emotionally mature than most guys over 30,
and definitely usually more than guys my age or older.
Here are some threads you might find interesting!
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum27/HTML/000317.html
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum27/HTML/000121.html
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum27/HTML/000053.html
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/001238.html [/B][/QUOTE] hahaha. Very Cool Post. I think that I added you on facebook. I am Sanche Nuss. IP: Logged |
AstrologicalMan
Knowflake Posts: 435
From: Brickenton
Registered: Jun 2011
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posted June 19, 2011 06:43 AM
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Originally posted by PixieJane:
I've seen cougars before the trend started, so I think they've always been around. There are even historical accounts of very rich or noble women (and older) who had young boy toys as well. But even today I think they're pretty rare. Granted, when you live on a world with BILLIONS of people, it's not too hard to find that rare exception, especially if you're looking. OTOH, "Twilight Moms" seem surprisingly common to me so maybe the lust for young hottie males is more common than I think. (Speaking of which I've found it weird how many "Twilight Moms" can publicly appreciate 17-year-old Taylor Lautner going shirtless while at the same time criticizing Miley Cyrus for dressing sexy as well because they think Miley--same age as their precious Taylor--is too young! )
Interesting. Do you have facebook? IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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From: CA
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posted June 19, 2011 02:55 PM
Nope, no Facebook for me. Or anything like it.IP: Logged |
dysfunctionalmystic
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posted June 19, 2011 06:37 PM
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Ami Anne
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posted June 19, 2011 07:27 PM
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Originally posted by dysfunctionalmystic:
I'm not sure about the cougar thing, I don't deliberately look for the younger ones but I wouldn't turn down someone I like if they were younger than me. Astroman, I'd have said you were out of the age range for most cougars? Don't they normally go for 21 yr olds? I'm 37 myself and don't care much for stereotypes, I had a recent fling with a guy of 22 and it most certainly was not about the sex...conversation was great and we got on like a house on fire. I called time on it because I didn't think it had long term potential...because we didn't click right on an intimate level but everything else was brilliant.
The rarity with which a heart can touch makes age secondary.
For me, my heart bonds very infrequently.
Sex is mind/body and soul.
I,literally,could not conceive of just having "pure sex"
This is not for religious reasons or anything like that.
If I ever had sex with a guy and I could see he did not care, it would devastate me.
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Stawr
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posted June 20, 2011 01:36 AM
Men have their sexuaul peek in their teens to early 20's. while women have their sexual peak later.
So with that I can see cougarism on the rise.Plus now that many woman do alot more and are becoming the one making the money and becoming the provider.about the cougar women having that speacial something. I bet being in their sexual peak, and when your at that age you know who you are more, know what you like. unlike younger girls who think they know what they like. my taste in guys have allready changed a whole lot in just this past year. But anyway I'm 21.
I went from "I want an edgey guy" to "I want a guy who is mentally stable and can hold a job" :P IP: Logged |
AstrologicalMan
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From: Brickenton
Registered: Jun 2011
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posted June 20, 2011 03:25 AM
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Originally posted by dysfunctionalmystic:
I'm not sure about the cougar thing, I don't deliberately look for the younger ones but I wouldn't turn down someone I like if they were younger than me. Astroman, I'd have said you were out of the age range for most cougars? Don't they normally go for 21 yr olds? I'm 37 myself and don't care much for stereotypes, I had a recent fling with a guy of 22 and it most certainly was not about the sex...conversation was great and we got on like a house on fire. I called time on it because I didn't think it had long term potential...because we didn't click right on an intimate level but everything else was brilliant.
Im almost 29 but I look younger. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted June 20, 2011 04:55 AM
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Cougars are women who have gone past their prime,peak or most fit, which I would say is 28 and over.
More like 40..
28 - You were joking, right? 28's like really young!
And 30s is like young-ish still. 40s starts to get closer to middle age. However, I guess anyone, including a 28 year old could be seen as "older" - depending on who they were dating. Astroman - you could date an 18 yr. old. If you ever hung out with her friends, you would probably feel "older" lol IP: Logged |
AstrologicalMan
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posted June 20, 2011 07:03 AM
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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
More like 40..
28 - You were joking, right?28's like really young!
And 30s is like young-ish still. 40s starts to get closer to middle age. However, I guess anyone, including a 28 year old could be seen as "older" - depending on who they were dating. Astroman - you could date an 18 yr. old. If you ever hung out with her friends, you would probably feel "older" lol
yeah, the 18 year olds and high school girls REALLY want to bone me. I was sitting down at the mall the other day and this girl, who looked about 16, was walking with her dad and she kept turning to look at me and her dad got mad (haha you can't say pi ssed off on lindaland, wtf) and said, "STOP LOOKING AT THAT GUY"! IP: Logged |
lechien
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posted June 20, 2011 07:21 AM
i must confess, i should assume that i am privileged to be living in a liberal society here, but this whole idea of cougrarism sounds so provincial... i don't think people here care... i don't think anyone around here would see this as a rarity or odd or special, it's just people doing what they do. if they bother, they are either traditionalists or from somewhere else.IP: Logged |
lechien
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posted June 20, 2011 07:24 AM
NOT saying it's stupid, btw. less boundaries is better, generally.  IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted June 20, 2011 07:31 AM
I'm moving back to Europe eventually! lol IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted June 20, 2011 07:33 AM
I'm not a "cougar" just yet lol I'm 25.But the man I am in love with is 19 years older. He's also European LOL (Northern). If we were in Europe right now... this wholeeee thing would not be a problem.. and here it's such an *issue*.
I'm in Australia.
Here it's like --- Britain in the 16th century. IP: Logged |
lechien
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posted June 20, 2011 08:11 AM
i think people here (where i am) tend to take it slow. at the age 29, men are considered a kiddie. many men and women get married and have children in their late 30s, and men even 40s and 50s. many people don't bother the general age-difference, whether older or younger whatsoever, they care about compatibility.i'm more bothered by other things. i'm majority Asian and depending on what i'm wearing, i could even look 13 at a quick glance. my partner is a bit bothered that people might think i'm one of those "mail-order brides" from a poor Asian country or something. lol... but still, i prefer to have a harmless amount of "racially-oriented preconceptions" than being bombarded with overly generously applied political-correctness. IP: Logged |
AstrologicalMan
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posted June 20, 2011 09:24 AM
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Originally posted by lechien:
i must confess, i should assume that i am privileged to be living in a liberal society here, but this whole idea of cougrarism sounds so provincial... i don't think people here care... i don't think anyone around here would see this as a rarity or odd or special, it's just people doing what they do. if they bother, they are either traditionalists or from somewhere else.
So its normal for older women to prey on younger men? IP: Logged |
lechien
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posted June 20, 2011 10:00 AM
they don't "prey"...IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted June 20, 2011 10:06 AM
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Originally posted by lechien:
they don't "prey"...
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Benedict Moon*
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posted June 20, 2011 04:41 PM
I loved how on a certain talk show (Tyra) the Older women were trying to gain more acceptance for their relationship choices (ie. chasing younger men) but as soon as a younger woman/older man came on the set, they had loads of criticism for them. Double standards much? Though I do usually go for guys that are older than me by a few years, I couldn't see myself on either end of the May-December spectrum. I'm sure everyone has their reasons though, and its whatever you want. IP: Logged |
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