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Ami Anne
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posted August 16, 2011 02:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Would you make a Friends With Benefits girl your serious girlfriend or wife?
If woman has sex without being in those two categories do you lose respect for her sufficiently that she could never get in to them.
Thanks for your answers.
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posted August 16, 2011 04:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I wouldn't, but that's just me. Typically, a guy has more than one FWB and gives the girls a number on the list (number one, two, three, etc). Well, the guys who are into FWB, that is.

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posted August 16, 2011 05:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I married my FWB.

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posted August 16, 2011 06:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for juniperb     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think Randall stated the average mans view.

Of course, there are men who fall in love when they least expect it, be it FWB or not.

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posted August 16, 2011 06:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for starfox     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It would depend a lot upon her character.

I'm not sure if I would like an FWB thing or not?

How much friends is it Vs just sex? do you go on days out or holidays together or just meet for sex acts?

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posted August 16, 2011 06:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LEXX     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So why is it most men think less of a woman they have sex with as a friend with benefits?
I mean geez,
takes two to tango and he is just as much part of the sex as she is.
If one is having sex with someone they do not respect then hello! They are the low life in the set up if they are thinking they are all pure and moral but their sex buddy is not worthy of a more serious relationship as marriage.
Geeez I detest fraking holier than though double standards.

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posted August 16, 2011 06:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mblake81     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Would you make a Friends With Benefits girl your serious girlfriend or wife?
If woman has sex without being in those two categories do you lose respect for her sufficiently that she could never get in to them.
Thanks for your answers.
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posted August 16, 2011 06:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NickiG     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by LEXX:
So why is it most men think less of a woman they have sex with as a friend with benefits?
I mean geez,
takes two to tango and he is just as much part of the sex as she is.
If one is having sex with someone they do not respect then hello! They are the low life in the set up if they are thinking they are all pure and moral but their sex buddy is not worthy of a more serious relationship as marriage.
Geeez I detest fraking holier than though double standards.

so lexx, go for it??

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posted August 16, 2011 06:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for juniperb     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

Since men were asked and I a women replied, I did refer to and agree to the double standard men set in their delusional world

but oh! how I agree with lexx

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posted August 16, 2011 06:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I agree, with Lexx.

Sometimes two people are just at the point in their lives where maybe they are just too busy or not emotionally ready to give to a full on relationship, so what should they do? Not have sex, ever?
I mean, I guess some people feel that way, but I don't.

And having a FWB is not saying that you meet someone at some skanky nightclub and go at it after knowing them for five minutes.
I mean, you want this person to be someone that you like and respect and have an attraction for,
personally,
these type of relationships last longer and are better for ME
than the other kinds, because these ones I actually think about before hand, and it's not some kind of big dramatic, emotional issue.
Although it can TURN into that, but
that's another story!

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posted August 16, 2011 07:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LEXX     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by NickiG:
so lexx, go for it??


Explain please.

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posted August 16, 2011 07:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NickiG     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
well, my ex asked me if we could have a FWB relationship....i still love him and want to be with him and its not that we have hard feelings towards each other cuz we didnt have a bad break up...this is just the clip notes (the rest is in my male opinions needed thread), but should i agree??

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posted August 16, 2011 07:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LEXX     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
juniperb
Thank you!

GypseeWind
Well said!
Thank you!

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posted August 16, 2011 07:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Depends Nicki, will you get hurt if you have this and then he meets someone else and stops it?

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posted August 16, 2011 07:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NickiG     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by GypseeWind:
Depends Nicki, will you get hurt if you have this and then he meets someone else and stops it?

and this is why i'm asking for advice!! LOL

see, i dont know if i'm willing to take that risk or not

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I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate?

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posted August 16, 2011 07:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LEXX     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by NickiG:
well, my ex asked me if we could have a FWB relationship....i still love him and want to be with him and its not that we have hard feelings towards each other cuz we didnt have a bad break up...this is just the clip notes (the rest is in my male opinions needed thread), but should i agree??


You two need to talk I feel and really make it clear where each stands and whether it might become more serious.
Personal query here:
Have you had sexual relations with him already?
Would this FWB be just you two as friends or would he go out and have sex with others?
Personally I would not agree to any sex without doing a whole lot more serious talking firstly. You must have mutually agreed upon and clearly defined boundaries and limits.

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posted August 16, 2011 07:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NickiG     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by LEXX:
You two need to talk I feel and really make it clear where each stands and whether it might become more serious.
Personal query here:
Have you had sexual relations with him already?
Would this FWB be just you two as friends or would he go out and have sex with others?
Personal I would not agree to any sex without doing a whole lot more serious talking firstly.
You must have mutually agreed upon and clearly defined boundaries and limits.



yes, we'v had sex before and as for the rest, i just havent asked him, but i wasnt sure if i should because technically, i'm still kind of new to relationships....i havent really had many and the ones i had were really short

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I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate?

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posted August 16, 2011 07:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LEXX     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by NickiG:
yes, we'v had sex before and as for the rest, i just havent asked him, but i wasnt sure if i should because technically, i'm still kind of new to relationships....i havent really had many and the ones i had were really short


OK, so you have been sexually intimate before. If he is a good fellow, he will want to be honest with you and set mutually clearly defined rules for being FWBs
and no double standards.

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posted August 16, 2011 07:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NickiG     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by LEXX:
OK, so you have been sexually intimate before. If he is a good fellow, he will want to be honest with you and set mutually clearly defined rules for being FWBs
and no double standards.


thanks lexx...i dont think i would have been able to give him an answer without being confident without quality advice

thanks everyone for your own stories and advice as well

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I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate?

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posted August 16, 2011 07:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Nicky, I was just divorced when I had FWB that is now my husband.
I was DEAD SET, 100% positive that I Did Not want it to be anything more than physical.
I wrote a contract on looseleaf paper, and made him sign it! He carried it around in his wallet for years, until it fell apart, because he thought that was very funny for a girl to do.

But, spending so much time together eventually led to me growing feelings for him,
ALTHOUGH
he had them first, and he did get HURT a few times when I stopped it to pursue other things, so it's something you gotta think about.
The whether you can handle it or not, b/c there are no guarentees,
and you don't want somebody to just be using you for the sake of using you.
You know?
Not saying that he is, but it happens in some cases.

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posted August 16, 2011 07:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NickiG     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by GypseeWind:
Nicky, I was just divorced when I had FWB that is now my husband.
I was DEAD SET, 100% positive that I Did Not want it to be anything more than physical.
I wrote a contract on looseleaf paper, and made him sign it! He carried it around in his wallet for years, until it fell apart, because he thought that was very funny for a girl to do.

But, spending so much time together eventually led to me growing feelings for him,
ALTHOUGH
he had them first, and he did get HURT a few times when I stopped it to pursue other things, so it's something you gotta think about.
The whether you can handle it or not, b/c there are no guarentees,
and you don't want somebody to just be using you for the sake of using you.
You know?
Not saying that he is, but it happens in some cases.


thanks gypsee, this is very helpful...i think i know him pretty well and am very sure he still has feelings for me...and hes a big sweetheart of a taurus too so if he does hurt me he didnt do it intentionally

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I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate?

when organic is used to describe food then you know we have come to a dark age in history

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posted August 16, 2011 07:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Mblake81:


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posted August 16, 2011 07:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
There ya go.
Mine is cappy. Earth sticks around, and well, you guys are BOTH fixed so you may be stuck and don't even know it yet!

Do what your heart tells you to do.
Even if it doesn't turn out in a marriage or whatever,
at least you had the experience, and you will grow from it.

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posted August 16, 2011 07:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NickiG     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by GypseeWind:
There ya go.
Mine is cappy. Earth sticks around, and well, you guys are BOTH fixed so you may be stuck and don't even know it yet!

Do what your heart tells you to do.
Even if it doesn't turn out in a marriage or whatever,
at least you had the experience, and you will grow from it.


thanks bunches gypsee, lexx, ami, and everyone else

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I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate?

when organic is used to describe food then you know we have come to a dark age in history

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posted August 16, 2011 07:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Good luck NickiG.

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