posted April 27, 2012 08:02 PM            

I will try to explain as best as possible, but I have a lot of neptune with this guy, and IDK if Im just not seeing things correctly..

So if I can get a few mens opinions I would be greatful.. I always love womens input to!

So me and fishy have been friends for a long time.. We did the quick hook up a few years ago, but then said its best to stop.. So we did (Ok Uranus) but then we became friends.. Telling each other everything... Keeping everything platonic. I had feelings but didnt want to cross the line,so I just dealt with them...
We got closer and closer and now the attraction between us is very strong.. We have both said we wanted to be intimate and see what happens... Yet we havent.. We talk about it every day...
He texts me, I cant wait until the day I can touch you... He says I want you.. etc etc...
He also said he's afraid of loosing the friendship, AND losing the attraction and the
tingle in the stomach and us flirting everyday..
He said what if we have sex, then we dont talk any more, or we dont flirt... etc..
I told him, I dont want to lose the friendship and that I have no plans to leave. I told him I dont want to lose you either.
He also said he's afraid he will want me even more.. That what if he stalks me..
I told him your not going to stalk me,because Im right here for you.. He said ok..
So then a few days later he calls me, and says he doesnt want to wait any more, and if he can come and touch me, because he's dying to... I said yes.. So we went out, we went to eat... Then after wards he drives back towards my house... He said look I dont want to make this about sex.. We went out had a nice time we could get a room, and just go wild with each other but its not right.. It just seems dirty like that..
He said are you ok with that.. I said yes baby Im good with that.. We said good Im glad...
We got back to my house, we were sitting in the car talking and he jumped on me.. Saying I just have to touch you for a minute... He barely did, but pulled away... He said ok you gotta go now!! lol..
I said ok I kissed his check and he said
OMFG!!!!! he showed my his arms and he had goose bumps and he said see what you do to me... Get out ... get out... I gotta go... I gotta go...
SOOOOOOO I kissed him on the check again.. (ok Im cruel) lol he grabbed me and hugged me.. He said Ill call you later ok... But you really have to go before I loose it...
I gave him a hug and I said ok... I got out of the car and left..

So I dont get it... I know he wants to but what is really holding him back here???
I have the Leo mars so Im like babe lets just DO IT! We will figure the rest out later...

Im feeling good about it because I KNOW he means well, but at the same time I feel like he's rejecting me..
A lioness doesnt know how to handle rejection .. Im not upset or have any hurt feelings.. Im just trying to understand his side..

posted April 27, 2012 08:21 PM            

Don't push this part or even worry about it. Build deeper bonds. You don't want to lose him, again. I know how you suffered. You have the man of your dreams and he loves you. Put the sex on the back burner. xxx

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posted April 27, 2012 09:14 PM            

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Originally posted by juniperb:
Treasure him. Sex is only the icing on the relationship cake.

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Totally!

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posted April 28, 2012 12:46 AM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
This is from the Pisces B@stard -- in the "How to spot a B@stard by his Sign" articles..
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/009583-2.html

[QUOTE]WHEN TO DO THE DEED
When he's drunk. When his girlfriend isn't looking. When he feels like it. Don't be surprised when you get charged with date rape in the morning if he regrets what he's done

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Bad Betty! Bad Betty! LOL

posted April 28, 2012 08:08 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Wow.. a Guy who doesn't want to have sex, something is wrong, very wrong, I don't know what to tell ya on this one.

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I 10000% disagree. This is my opinion and I know the story well. He does not want to screw it up and he thinks he may if they have sex. We may not understand it but we all have weird things and this is under that category.

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posted April 28, 2012 09:17 PM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
He was being sarcastic!

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Whhaattt, an Aqua being sarcastic??

posted April 28, 2012 09:58 PM            

I dont think he has sexual issues, if anything he may have intimacy issues.. Which is what I think would be the difference here with him.

When it comes to sex, or talking about it our roles are reversed Im saying come on baby you know Ill still care tomorrow, nothing will change...
He's saying I dont want anything to change.. Whats going to happen after wards? Are we still going to talk???

Maybe its my big ole Uranus squaring his Venus and my Meanie Mars squaring his moon, Or my neptune conjunct his moon, which is causing the role reversal.
Im not sure..

I KNOW he wants to.. man he wants to F>>> the SHHHHHzzzz out of me... I can feel it..

Thats what I am wondering from men, that what would cause you to delay having sex with a woman if even though you want to.. IS it an emotional thing...

Now for him.. He's been a player... One girl after another.. (hes told me all about it) never giving a crap about them.. Then moving on to there friend..

Here is his placements
Sun/Merc = pis
Mars = aqua
Venus = Cap
Moon = Sag

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posted April 28, 2012 10:06 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Hey, look outside.Lizards are doing it

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posted April 29, 2012 02:19 AM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
How did i come off as sarcastic, i was simply giving my honest opinion,i know some people have different attitudes about sex,but it is definitely out of the ordinary for a guy to turn down sex especially if there are feelings and history there.trust me lol i am giving you pearls here,being a guy myself and having tons of guy friends,and just being honest i have never heard a guy say sex would ruin a relationship,to most of us it only makes it better,but i will say that i dont have many watery friends,except a few scorpios and we know that they typically have no qualms about sex lol,pisces and cancer just baffle me ,so it could be a pisces thing.

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posted April 29, 2012 02:46 AM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
...but it is definitely out of the ordinary for a guy to turn down sex especially if there are feelings and history there.

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All the water boys I've been with are capable of holding back for a long time before making a move. I have a very fiery chart and I've heard them say that it was a huge turn on but also kind of intimidating. They didn't "go for the gold" until they felt sure their feelings will be spared afterwards (big Saggie mouth here.)

Sooo, maybe something similar is going on here.

posted April 29, 2012 03:48 AM            

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Originally posted by Yin:
All the water boys I've been with are capable of holding back for a long time before making a move. I have a very fiery chart and I've heard them say that it was a huge turn on but also kind of intimidating. They didn't "go for the gold" until they felt sure their feelings will be spared afterwards (big Saggie mouth here.)

Sooo, maybe something similar is going on here.

Also, you're not teenagers anymore. The guy doesn't !@#@# in his pants every time he sees a pretty woman now, does he? Maturity has its benefits.

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posted April 29, 2012 07:40 AM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
He was being sarcastic!

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I was just talking about the story, in general lol

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posted April 29, 2012 08:45 AM            

After the intimacy, women AND men have been known to feel ownership and exclusiveness in the relationship. Trust me an an Aqua, , that curtails the relationship. If he`s been there done that and desires a meaningful relationship with you, he would naturally wish to wait.

Some guys indeed do think with something other than the smaller head of the pair.

posted April 29, 2012 09:15 AM            

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Originally posted by juniperb:
Perhaps it is an old issue he`s experienced.

After the intimacy, women AND men have been known to feel ownership and exclusiveness in the relationship. Trust me an an Aqua, , that curtails the relationship. If he`s been there done that and desires a meaningful relationship with you, he would naturally wish to wait.

Some guys indeed do think with something other than the smaller head of the pair.

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