posted July 28, 2012 09:17 PM            

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Originally posted by cappy1277:
it's unfortunate that women reach their peak later then men. men slow up and women speed up in their late 30's and into their 40's....for most women the threat of pregnancy is gone and that takes away the anxiety of having sex away.

My sexual appetite is out of this world but only for one person. We see each other once a week and have sex about 12 times over the span of 24 hours. I have a capricorn mars and I don't see myself slowing down anytime soon lol. it's hard to find a happy medium when you live with someone so thank goodness that we live apart because I know I would be disappointed. Your wife also has a gemini moon, too? Gemini moon women get turned on by intelligence...I know I do. it's not about how you touch me but if he gives me good conversation and debate, I am turned on.

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posted July 28, 2012 09:27 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Yes it resonates but I can't tell her that. Can't ruin a good relationship that way. But yes it's an addiction under the guide of passion.

The other way she looks at it is a husband that is over service is incapable of taking care of a younger woman on the side. There's this inherent complex as menopause takes effect.

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posted July 28, 2012 09:32 PM            

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Originally posted by cappy1277:
Lol @ ami....its a blessing and a curse, trust me. I have gone years without but he has to be really special intellectually to even turn the switch in me.

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Yep I am Gemini Sun, Merc and Venus so I hears ya

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posted July 29, 2012 02:30 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Well, just completed another session and it's intermission till part 3. I would have thought the estrogen kicks in during the early 20s. I know I was out of control at 18. But now I'm forced to behave 18 again.

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Why are you so reluctant to deal with this straight on with her, Ian?

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posted July 29, 2012 07:05 AM            

I have only been with two people and one of them I wasn't passionate about at all, the other, whom I love deeply, said we wouldn't work out because "we would have too much sex!!" Of course this sounded, like a lame excuse to me until I realized how insecure I made him because he is left thinking Im never satisfied. Well its definitely not that; I really thought he LOVED it!! Why else would he be up for it over and over?! I also would be crushed if he wasn't satisfied and seeking that kind of fulfillment somewhere else. But most of all, I wanted to be CLOSE to him, to express how I feel about him in every way possible. All the while he felt like I will get bored any day and leave him I was heartbroken when he told me that, because its not just sex to me, its making love with HIM. I like variety, sure, but its as much for him as it is for me. It kept us apart, which is funny because all that was to bring him closer.

Well we were close, we could sense each others thoughts, moods, desires but when it came to being vulnerable and up front about our fears, nope, he dropped "hints" that I took as compliments for quite some time even though I could tell something was off, and then I tried to please him even harder.

Then one day, his Pisces moon got fed up with dropping subtle hints and he mentioned me getting bored, and I almost didn't take it seriously yet again but when I looked into his eyes, he looked sooo sad. Here I was, thinking how awesome it is to be with a guy who could go at it over and over, and he was thinking how much more can this girl take how unromantic, and awful and counterproductive!! It felt rejected and embarrassed but it made me face reality. I had no idea that other women my our age didn't requite that much sex to feel nurtured, loved, secure, close, whatever. By all means, he didn't say there was anything wrong with me, but he told me how he felt, and that he may not be able to make me truly happy in the long run, he said it felt like its too intense, too much and like its something unreal that will burn out quickly.

We went through a phase of readjustment where we only had sex a couple times a day, and even days without, we just spend time together, we talked a lot, we started doing more things together and this brought us so much closer. And then things started picking up in the bedroom again as well, and we got into Tantric sex, which I always wanted to try, and now we spend even more time being intimate then we used to, and its so much more fulfilling then it ever was back then

The cycle you're talking about btw, the one where the more you get off, the higher your testosterone level rises, the more you want it, well its the same for women.

Astrology wise, (I know, wrong forum, sry) I also wanted to add that Virgo placements (or 6th house overlay in synastry) make one enjoy serving their partner. My SN is in Virgo and I believe your wife has Virgo placements. My moon lands in my loves 6th and I love pleasuring him. It would be interesting to see your wifes chart. I wonder if her mars is afflicted because mine is negatively aspected by nearly every planed in my chart and apex of a very tight t-square with Jupiter and Pluto.

All that aside, I really hope you can be honest with her, and open yourself up to her. Surely she doesn't want this to feel like a chore for you. And hopefully you were joking when you said that this is what keeps you from chasing skirts. Surely you know it can't go on this way forever, and you've kept up appearances long enough lol Sex is healthy, and crucial to a healthy and growing relationship, but when its out of balance, its value, spontaneity, meaning, closeness, fun, further exploration, fades into 'oh, here we go again'. And I don't think I would have known that if we hadn't reevaluated our needs, intentions, feelings, desires, wants, etc. Not only that, but we are now far more open about everything. We are no longer stuck in a rut, we are fully engaged with our hearts, bodies and minds, we just go about it in a way that makes us both feel energized, secure, understood, connected and good old happy

posted July 29, 2012 10:43 AM            

Thank you very much for shaing

Yes, my wife has a five planet Virgo stellium.

And no, I neither have the inclination, time, energy nor resources to chase skirts. lol

posted July 29, 2012 10:49 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:

Why are you so reluctant to deal with this straight on with her, Ian?

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posted July 29, 2012 01:31 PM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
I don't think it's trivial

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Totally Ian
It is not trivial
imho

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posted July 29, 2012 01:36 PM            

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posted July 29, 2012 05:00 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Ian
If you have such a good relationship, you should be able to talk about things that bother you, by definition.

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This thread was started for the fundamental need to put things delicately, wasn't it?

It boils down to basic personality. The woman is the more sensitive type that is less capable of constructive criticism. Combined with a temper, brash moves can lead to a minefield.

Yes, talk is good. But it's easier when it's me who needs improvement.

Today, I've been successful thus far. It was the morning episode and then I was left alone. I'm sure there will be an evening session, like the Olympics, but I would be rested and ready. Lol.

How many husbands are stuck with frigid wives who detest sex? I estimate more than half of Asian marriages are that way. I had an Asian girlfriend who told me she didn't want sex ever, even after marriage. How many American husbands even have sex twice a week? So I have to also consider the collrary and how fortunate I am.

posted July 29, 2012 07:21 PM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
Pls don't ruin twice a week for me. I have high hopes for it lol.

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posted July 29, 2012 07:27 PM            

I am about to enter my 30s and I gotta tell ya... Except for the month of Ramadan and many other holy days ( ) between our interfaith relationship, me and my beloved have yet to miss a good day's worth of lovin .

This isn't bravado talking here; Just plain fact. For us both, intimate contact is a very essential part of our relationship. Love and lust works in conjunction for us. Our intensities need it! There are times where she might demand even more and you know what? I am more than happy to oblige and worry about consequences such as lack of sleep later .

posted July 29, 2012 07:31 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:

This thread was started for the fundamental need to put things delicately, wasn't it?

It boils down to basic personality. The woman is the more sensitive type that is less capable of constructive criticism. Combined with a temper, brash moves can lead to a minefield.

Yes, talk is good. But it's easier when it's me who needs improvement.

Today, I've been successful thus far. It was the morning episode and then I was left alone. I'm sure there will be an evening session, like the Olympics, but I would be rested and ready. Lol.

How many husbands are stuck with frigid wives who detest sex? I estimate more than half of Asian marriages are that way. I had an Asian girlfriend who told me she didn't want sex ever, even after marriage. How many American husbands even have sex twice a week? So I have to also consider the collrary and how fortunate I am.

I didn't know my adult life would be one big sexcapade. Now, if I can only tap that for economic gain.

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posted July 29, 2012 08:51 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:

haha arguing with women is futile.

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