posted July 30, 2012 10:56 PM            

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Originally posted by T:
Sexual energy is creative energy, they go hand in hand. If there is an abundance in a person, it's often a good idea to find a creative outlet or hobby to throw oneself into.

How boring and wasteful to utilize all that creative energy on sex only! :O

zzzzz. omg, I'd die. lol

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You have no idea how busy her life is.

The simple truth is that most people, men and women, can't handle what she does. Plus she exercises an hour a day and rides her bike an hour a day. She's the mother of a chronically ill and two special needs children. She's my son's academic coach and he has a 3.9 GPA, speaks six languages, plays violin at the state level, plays piano at the concert level and is a national-level esquestrian champion. She's also a fashion designer for a major fashion house, photographer and book author. She's an artist. She's a musician. Enough? She has a Masters in Fine Arts. She's creative - a lot more creative than I am, for sure.

That's her schedule. Most people would fall on their faces with that schedule. She wants to drive her sports car at high speeds and have five hours of sex after that.

She's more active at 44 than most 21 year olds. She also has a body that can be admired given her age. That helps.

posted July 30, 2012 11:23 PM            

Yes, sensitive subjects indeed. Just because you are older and it happened a long time ago, does not mean it's healed though.

I agree that 'talk therapy' does not always help much.

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You have no idea how busy her life is.

The simple truth is that most people, men and women, can't handle what she does. Plus she exercises an hour a day and rides her bike an hour a day. She's the mother of a chronically ill and two special needs children. She's my son's academic coach and he has a 3.9 GPA, speaks six languages, plays violin at the state level, plays piano at the concert level and is a national-level esquestrian champion. She's also a fashion designer for a major fashion house, photographer and book author. She's an artist. She's a musician. Enough? She has a Masters in Fine Arts. She's creative - a lot more creative than I am, for sure.

That's her schedule. Most people would fall on their faces with that schedule. She wants to drive her sports car at high speeds and have five hours of sex after that.

She's more active at 44 than most 21 year olds. She also has a body that can be admired given her age. That helps.

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Well, she sounds like a superwoman! The way you describe her, it sounds like you might have a genius on your hands. And being a partner to someone like that, can really keep one's hands full!

Actually, from the little I've read, it seems like you are perfect for one another. I mean, it seems you are able to handle her high energy and ready and willing to. And I can tell you love and respect her deeply too, from what you have written here. It seems the sexual energy can be too intense for you at times, but overall you can and want to live with it and are happy with it the way it is.

That's a beautiful thing. You sound like a lucky man.

posted July 30, 2012 11:26 PM            

Your input is much appreciated.

posted July 30, 2012 11:27 PM            

She's got a regal, proud look about her (a Leo, right?) Very beautiful. Wow!

posted July 30, 2012 11:28 PM            

Glad to contribute some food for thought.

posted July 30, 2012 11:28 PM            

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Originally posted by vickymadness:
yourstrulyalways, what are her placements ?

Was she always like that? If not, then maybe she's hitting the peak of her sexual drive and it's just a passing phase, or maybe you're just super HOT! lol

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vickimadness,

posted July 30, 2012 11:33 PM            

I take it you mean she designed those dresses?

posted July 30, 2012 11:38 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
lol i'm not a typical guy .

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posted July 30, 2012 11:49 PM            

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Originally posted by T:
Yes.

I take it you mean she designed those dresses?

over here.
(not sure who you were asking)

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I was asking you

Thank you.

posted July 31, 2012 12:00 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
You have no idea how busy her life is.

Plus she exercises an hour a day and rides her bike an hour a day.

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I'm sure that is also a possibility why her sex drive is so high. Athletic active people are known for their "drive"

posted July 31, 2012 12:01 AM            

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Originally posted by T:
That's what they all say, bud. LOL

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posted July 31, 2012 12:46 AM            

Having sex 20 times a day IS out of the question IF a person has career aspirations beyond just sitting at home and chatting on the computer all day (Yes its a joke Stay-at-home moms; I know how difficult your job is. Much respect to you all) but sex CAN be an avenue of healing. It is prime mode of communication if you can make it to be. **** *ing like animals is fun and healthy and good in the right context ; But it doesn't spawns communication lines between partners.

Though many may disagree, making love to your partner can tell you a lot about what's been bothering them. So just for a few days, you need to stop their impulses to go on a full out fucki*g frenzy and just make soft love. Let the abused partner open up to you this way since they usually want to **** to forget their trauma.

posted July 31, 2012 01:08 AM            

example, where he said something about being careful not to set off an abused person's "trip wires", as one example.

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Xodian, you make some valid points...except that I would never want a partner to be fuquing me to "forget their trauma". ... Not sure if i could get turned on knowing that was a big reason they were doing it was to forget traumatic things that have gone on with them...and I was just an escape for that......or another way to look away from the issue..

Sure, sexual healing has it's place for some...maybe for many.

Screwing like animals.....has it's place for some, especially in nature... Maybe that's all some people need for them to heal. Animal sex, all the time. I don't know. I don't see that being the most theraputic way for people who've been sexually abused to deal with that trauma though.

I don't how tons of sex is going to do it for most people who are dealing with some sort of trauma in their life. Life is not like a Marvin Gaye song and sexual healing will not solve the world's, or an individual's problems.

Banging your girlfriend or boyfriend like crazy is not going to heal major damage done to their psyche if they are a sex addict because of abuse. More sex won't help them. I don't care how good of a lover you think you are. Or how much you would rather ignore their issues and just f** them instead. A caring partner would take a serious look at their issue.

I agree that communication is often key in a relationship. And don't think that the art of communicating with someone is by having to F*** on eggshells so as not to "set off any trip wires", in them. So that maybe you can sleep with them peacefully, without any fuss from them, or bringing up any bad experiences from their past (what a way to kill the mood!) but instead as something you want to do, because you care about them.

posted July 31, 2012 01:14 AM            

I havent been.

posted July 31, 2012 01:18 AM            

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Xodian, you make some valid points...except that I would never want a partner to be fuquing me to "forget their trauma". ... Not sure if i could get turned on knowing that was a big reason they were doing it was to forget traumatic things that have gone on with them...and I was just an escape for that......or another way to look away from the issue..

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Exactly! Which why you try to deal with it as you would with an addict; Forcing them to quit cold turkey will only set them off and lash out. This could and in most cases WILL make the addict turn towards other avenues for release. In many cases, the partner will end up cheating to get the release they need.

You will have to ease off on the sex demand by opening up the needed gateway of communication; Which is why you need to switch over to making love. LOVE being the key word here . Its soft, its warm, its more intimate rather than carnal.

Yes ladies, I am speaking through a woman's definition of making love Lol! Not all guys are heartless pigs ya know .

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I don't how tons of sex is going to do it for most people who are dealing with some sort of trauma in their life.

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It won't. See my point above.

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A caring partner would take a serious look at their issue.

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Exactly. Once the avenue of communication has been created, you can talk to them more sensibly and get them to get the required help they need. It will require a lot of effort but its the more sensible way.

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I agree that communication is often key in a relationship. And don't think that the art of communicating with someone is by having to walk on eggshells so as not to "set off any trip wires", in them. So that maybe you can sleep with them later without any fuss from them, but instead as something you want to do, because you care about them.

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posted July 31, 2012 02:05 AM            

Xodian, ...proper, nice, safe ( and highly edited )repsonse.

posted July 31, 2012 02:06 AM            

of all people! whaaaa???

*horrified*