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Topic: To all the ladies in the house.....
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T
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posted April 23, 2013 06:55 PM
  
Are any of you tired of the bad guys talking about how the good guys always finish last? Or that females only go for bad guys. It's like.....what they are actually saying is "women always go for the good guys" humph! or "women never go for me." boo!I had to stop and think to myself....is this really true? Do most women really go for the bad boy or a guy who treats them like dirt? Or is this just something we hear way too often? Usually from those "good guys". When I think back on my personal relationships and those of other fellow females in years gone by, I find for the most part.....we've all dated pretty decent dudes! Yeah, seriously. And no! most are not attracted to bad guys....for very long anyway.  Sure, we all have our own horror stories, or have had a relationship go very sour and our "nice guy" turn into a not so nice person, but my point is..... Have you noticed that for the most part women tend to date nice guys? I have. When I take an honest look and look down memory lane, i notice they have been mostly good. Maybe it's because nice guys outweigh the bad ones in this world and because they are always more attractive overall. I'm not sure. I'm just noticing that although people will say that "girls like badboys" ..........I really don't find that to be the case in general. Badboys aka "assholes" are not the ones we want to spend the rest of our lives with. Would you agree with some of this? Have you noticed that you and your friends usually do go out with more good guys than bad? Because looking back, myself......I honestly have to say that has been the case. I've known and been with more good guys than bad. And it's the good ones that are prefered and taken more seriously. While we have all most likely occasionally been through some rough patches with people or in relationships, I don't think I can say overall, that women prefer badguys.....from what i've observed anyway. Is anyone else tired of this stereotype? Today's woman wants a good guy......and I mean a REALLY good guy.....such a good guy that he's actually a real MAN - through and through.
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Here, we can celebrate the good guys in our lives. Spouses, significant others, fathers, brother, uncles and friends. Share your stories of the "GOOD GUYS" in your lives, whether past or present. This whole bs over and over again about the bad guys, is really old. They should not get any more of the spotlight or any more of our time talking about them. To the good guys that are good guys and not the bad guys pretending to be or talking about it - cheers! We love you and thank you.
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aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 6590
From: tennessee
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posted April 23, 2013 07:02 PM
Well, we must not live on the same planet. The female members of my family date losers, the girls I went to high school with are dating losers for the most part as well. I understand that there are women who like decent guys but they are the minority and hard to come by.IP: Logged |
asclibrasagsun
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posted April 23, 2013 07:02 PM
Sadly, I like bad boys. At times I find them disgusting. But I like the danger and excitement of a bad boy.
I don't know how to explain it but I like the sexual feelings it creates. It's fun...
I could only wish I was attracted to someone shy and kind. Unfortunately for me, the exciting ones always get me...
I kind of hate it. But I just don't like the sap/loser quality that some "good" guy complainers have...IP: Logged |
T
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posted April 23, 2013 07:05 PM
You will most likely grow out of / eventually tire of it asclibrasagsun.Nice guys are sexier than the badboys every day of the week. IP: Logged |
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posted April 23, 2013 07:12 PM
I think sometimes people (especially younger) might be thinking "nice guy" equals nerdy, boring, dorky, weak or somehow feminine.....or things along those lines. That's not what I mean.By bad boy, I mean - treats woman (or anyone) disrespectfully, is a violent criminal, abusive to people or animals, a thief, chauvanist, liar, swindler, etc. I'm not sure how that is attractive....  IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 6590
From: tennessee
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posted April 23, 2013 07:13 PM
^Well thats what my mom keeps telling me T, As she is still dating players and rejecting decent guys in her 50s. I hope its true but im not optimistic.IP: Logged |
T
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posted April 23, 2013 07:17 PM
You have to accept her and realize she's on her path even if you can't understand it, or don't approve of it and that it doesnt mean all women are like her. You really have to realize that before you can move on to better things, because it's something is holding you back. Know that not all women or even most are like your mother. You might have to pack up and leave town and live somewhere else for awhile to help you realize it. IP: Logged |
libraschoice77
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posted April 23, 2013 07:27 PM
I will admit when I was younger I use to like bad boys/guys with attitude, it was thrilling to me at the time considering I had a very strict upbringing. Now that I am in my mid 30s I decided to marry a sweet guy, classic niceness all the way. I think also when we are at certain ages our tastes change with what we find appealing in a partner. IP: Logged |
asclibrasagsun
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posted April 23, 2013 07:27 PM
That's not what I meant by a bad guy though.I do not like criminals or violent people or anyone who is mean to animals or drug/alcohol addicts, that is just crazy and wrong. He just has to have a wild adventurous streak. IP: Logged |
asclibrasagsun
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posted April 23, 2013 07:28 PM
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Originally posted by libraschoice77:
I will admit when I was younger I use to like bad boys/guys with attitude, it was thrilling to me at the time considering I had a very strict upbringing. Now that I am in my mid 30s I decided to marry a sweet guy, classic niceness all the way. I think also when we are at certain ages our tastes change with what we find appealing in a partner.
THis person is right
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mercuranian
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From: uranus
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posted April 23, 2013 07:31 PM
simply, we date who we're attracted to. the end.IP: Logged |
T
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posted April 23, 2013 07:32 PM
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Originally posted by libraschoice77:
I will admit when I was younger I use to like bad boys/guys with attitude, it was thrilling to me at the time considering I had a very strict upbringing. Now that I am in my mid 30s I decided to marry a sweet guy, classic niceness all the way. I think also when we are at certain ages our tastes change with what we find appealing in a partner.
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posted April 23, 2013 07:34 PM
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Originally posted by asclibrasagsun:
That's not what I meant by a bad guy though.I do not like criminals or violent people or anyone who is mean to animals or drug/alcohol addicts, that is just crazy and wrong. He just has to have a wild adventurous streak.
I figured you didnt.  That's why I brought it up. Many nice men have a wild adventurous streak. So, it's probably safe to say that you actually like good guys too. ....that maybe look a little rough around the edges or drive / work on motorcycles, ride horses, chop wood, are carpenters ...things along those lines. IP: Logged |
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posted April 23, 2013 07:35 PM
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Originally posted by mercuranian:
simply, we date who we're attracted to. the end.
You missed the point. Point is, I think most women are attracted to good men. Not the other way around. IP: Logged |
asclibrasagsun
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posted April 23, 2013 07:37 PM
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Originally posted by T:
I figured you didnt. That's why I brought it up. Many nice men have a wild adventurous streak.So, it's probably safe to say that you actually like good guys too. ....that maybe look a little rough around the edges or drive / work on motorcycles, ride horses, chop wood, are carpenters ...things along those lines.
hahahahaha this made me laugh out loud. but yes I like them very manly like that and attractive in their own way! IP: Logged |
asclibrasagsun
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posted April 23, 2013 07:39 PM
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Originally posted by T:
You missed the point.Point is, I think most women are attracted to good men. Not the other way around.
oh oh oh! another thing is that there are some women who are wh0res and are good guy magnets and others who are angels and are sh$t magnets! this world is unfair...
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aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 6590
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted April 23, 2013 07:40 PM
I just have one question, Why are decent guys expected to be ok with being ignored for a whole decade? People tell me all the time (especially older women) that women "wise up" by the time they are 30 and start seeking out decent guys.Just being honest when I say i'm not ok with that. IP: Logged |
mercuranian
Knowflake Posts: 774
From: uranus
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 23, 2013 07:40 PM
my point is we date who we each individually are attracted to. no amount of whining and complaining from any certain guys are going to make us attracted to them if we're not. they just need to keep it moving and find someone that wants them back.IP: Logged |
ail221
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From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted April 23, 2013 07:40 PM
Yes I am tired of the "bad boys" tirade. The "bad boy" trope is one of those symbols that should have died out with the phrase "from the wrong side of the tracks". None of my friends have a continuously dated "bad boys" at least to their or my knowledge. I find that most men who claim women are only going after one type of man usually is lacking in the self-esteem department (either their appearance, finances or educational background) and as a result revert to the default of women only want "bad boys" when the reality is they need to accept the side of themselves that is unappealing to the opposite sex. For the most part, my friends date real good guys that happen to be attractive, attentive and secure in themselves. Sure there are times when things go sour and both parties have a negative view of one another but nothing to the degree of he was abusive, or stole from them, or used them things that horrible. IP: Logged |
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posted April 23, 2013 07:40 PM
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Originally posted by asclibrasagsun:
hahahahaha this made me laugh out loud. but yes I like them very manly like that and attractive in their own way!
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Kerosene
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From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted April 23, 2013 07:43 PM
Hehe most women like confidence and not guys who feel sorry for themselves.
That does not mean they only go for assholes.
Guys who complain about finishing last need to grow a spine... IP: Logged |
asclibrasagsun
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posted April 23, 2013 07:49 PM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Hehe most women like confidence and not wimpy guys who feel sorry for themselves.
That does not mean they only go for assholes.
Guys who complain about finishing last need to grow a spine...
WOW WOW WOW you amaze me. that was exactly what I was trying to phrase...!
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aquaguy91
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posted April 23, 2013 07:52 PM
@kerosene, of course its always about the guy and his insecurities...... I suppose all the women I see everyday dating :cheaters/players, druggies, guys without jobs, guys with criminal records, guys who are emotionally and/or physically abusive to women etc. are just a figment of my imagination. Yep , i'm delusional and none of that exists... i guess i'm spineless for calling it like i see it.IP: Logged |
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posted April 23, 2013 07:52 PM
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Originally posted by ail221:
Yes I am tired of the "bad boys" tirade. The "bad boy" trope is one of those symbols that should have died out with the phrase "from the wrong side of the tracks". None of my friends have a continuously dated "bad boys" at least to their or my knowledge. I find that most men who claim women are only going after one type of man usually is lacking in the self-esteem department (either their appearance, finances or educational background) and as a result revert to the default of women only want "bad boys" when the reality is they need to accept the side of themselves that is unappealing to the opposite sex. For the most part, my friends date real good guys that happen to be attractive, attentive and secure in themselves. Sure there are times when things go sour and both parties have a negative view of one another but nothing to the degree of he was abusive, or stole from them, or used them things that horrible.
WELL SAID. Thank you.  IP: Logged |
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posted April 23, 2013 07:53 PM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Hehe most women like confidence and not guys who feel sorry for themselves.
That does not mean they only go for assholes.
Guys who complain about finishing last need to grow a spine... Its funny because women spend so much effort on their apperances and most of these guys are slobs that are not willing to improve themselves..
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