posted October 06, 2013 07:04 AM            

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Originally posted by Xodian:
Me and my wife have a rule of thumbs when deciding as to who is going to foot the bill for our dates. Essentially, as we see it, the one who initiates the date, pays for it. And you know what? It works out just fine for both of us. Its an agreement that makes us both feel like we are at equal terms with each other. And truly see each other as partners.

There have been times where we had to share the tab when the cost of the night out might have ballooned out of proportion Lol! But for the most part, its pretty much been even handed .

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posted October 06, 2013 07:19 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
For the sake of clarity: it MIGHT be a man who respects his date's wish to retain her independence and NOT be "taken care of."

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Very simple Faith.

Any woman can have her independence off me. That's the door, just leave without drama and don't let it slam your tushie.

I'll retain my values in the way i see best fitting fir a man and you retain your quest for independence.

My Mrs. never complained.

You've got some nerve to come after me when you married an older dude with the cash. With multiple houses. With yachts. Absolutely no hypocrisy there.

posted October 06, 2013 07:30 AM            

There's a difference between living a certain kind of life and expressing the viewpoint that that kind of life ought to be the standard for everyone. See?

Obviously my life reflects traditional values, but I'm not preaching anything. I'm not saying, everyone should do this. It's not hypocrisy, it's open-mindedness.

Calling my husband "some older dude with cash" is tacky, what do you hope to gain with personal insults?

posted October 06, 2013 07:41 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
I wanted children since my toddler years. In kindergarten, I had swarms of girls around me because I liked doll houses and I had toy babies. Somebody had to play the daddy while playing "house." I always hated being with boys. Of course there was always smack talk. But it helped that I was always much heavier than the typical boy and one head taller, and I had martial arts classes. My brother is 12 years younger. I took care of him like a father when he was an infant. He slept in my bedroom by choice when i was a teenager. I had my parents merge three rooms into one. Children have been my life long passion. I would have liked to take care of my girls too but that never happened, so I invest myself heavily in my boys.

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posted October 06, 2013 07:46 AM            

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Originally posted by MetalAphrodite:
Second time I've seen you mention your girls, I think. May I know what you mean by that or is that a off-limits topic?

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posted October 06, 2013 07:53 AM            

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Originally posted by MetalAphrodite:
Gem sun/Merc, Taurus moon, Cancer Venus, Cap ASC/Mars.

I feel like I'm two side of an opposite magnet trying to force the ends together lol.

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LOL

I have a Gem Mars, Taurus SN, and like I said, Cap sun. Probably some conjunctions between us. I love the bookstore comment you posted

posted October 06, 2013 07:53 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
you're sure to win that way.

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"Win" at what? The court of public opinion? I don't give two pennies for what anyone in this forum thinks of me. It's inconsequential.

posted October 06, 2013 07:59 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
"Win" at what? The court of public opinion? I don't give two pennies for what anyone in this forum thinks of me. It's inconsequential.

AND. Don't call me by my first name unless you have the gumption to address yourself by your REAL first name in this forum.

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posted October 06, 2013 08:01 AM            

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posted October 06, 2013 08:06 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
You're the one who always talks about "taking people on" like it IS a contest or fight.

'Won't call you anything but YTA from now on. Everyone else can call you by your real name, you don't seem to mind the publicity. If you want to blab my real name that's of course an option. I don't know what you will prove by it, except that you can take low jabs when you're frustrated enough.

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You started throwing a nasty jab at him, to which I responded because I don't like the people I care about to be hurt.

Now, you are acting like he came after you when it is obvious that you picked the fight with him.

At least be honest about it.

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posted October 06, 2013 08:17 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
My two daughters passed away. I grew up wanting girls. But now I'm delighted with sons.

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posted October 06, 2013 08:21 AM            

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Originally posted by MetalAphrodite:
I'm sorry to hear that, but I am glad you speak freely about them.

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People care about you here, Ian, Just ignore the ones that try to hassle you.

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posted October 06, 2013 08:24 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:

You started throwing a nasty jab at him, to which I responded because I don't like the people I care about to be hurt.

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Anybody can go back and read what I said. Or wait, here it is:

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Not all women want to be "taken care of"...I mean, everything comes with a price.

Some guys will take care of a woman's bills but not her heart, others will do the reverse, some do a bit of each, but at the end of the day I think we are all responsible for our own happiness. When two people can collaborate towards mutual happiness, that's ideal.

It's not a gender thing to me so much as avoiding or overcoming the language barriers that prevent cooperation. But if one person is fixated on gender stereotypes, that's enough of a barrier to weigh down any relationship they get into, right from the start.

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That's nasty?

posted October 06, 2013 08:27 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
LOL

I have a Gem Mars, Taurus SN, and like I said, Cap sun. Probably some conjunctions between us. I love the bookstore comment you posted

PS Oh and what degree is your Mercury? Mine's at 5 Aquarius, is that trine yours? Sorry if I sound pushy, I just get curious when I strongly agree with someone...ya know, it's so rare around here.

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No, you don't sound pushy lol. I don't know much about this stuff, but it's interesting to hear about.

posted October 06, 2013 08:28 AM            

If you throw self righteous jabs, people may respond back. That is just life

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posted October 06, 2013 08:33 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Ian thought it was a jab and I did, so it probably was.

If you throw self righteous jabs, people may respond back. That is just life

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Uhhhh no...more like if you say anything even slightly in disagreement with a hyper-sensitive individual, expect to get blasted full force.

posted October 06, 2013 08:35 AM            

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posted October 06, 2013 08:38 AM            

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Originally posted by MetalAphrodite:
No, you don't sound pushy lol. I don't know much about this stuff, but it's interesting to hear about.

Gem Merc 27 and Gem sun 13.

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Thanks! I was feeling pushy so I'm glad I hid that well enough.

posted October 06, 2013 08:41 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I know. I am cute but you can hassle Acoustic god all day long and will get no response from me

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AcousticGod harasses himself with his bad logic.

posted October 06, 2013 08:45 AM            

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posted October 06, 2013 10:01 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
“If you want to kick the tiger in his ass you'd better have a plan for dealing with his teeth”

― Tom Clancy, The Teeth of the Tiger

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Love it. Love it. Love it. I am a Mars in cancer and people think I am a wuss but then they #$#$ with me and find out differently.

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posted October 06, 2013 10:05 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Having a life in order is to have the ability to feed your azz and that of your companion. Without the ability and/or willingness taking care of yourself, forget about attempting to take care of your companion. Going Dutch says "sorry, you take care of yourself because I won't take care of your sorry azz." What sort of man is that?

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yourstruly so u r an OG Sugar daddy , but young bloods these days want "equal standing" yeah i do see your POV as far as if you cant play dont get in the game to complain or at least be upfront what you expect, I just wouldnt want anything being held against me in any way

i am not sure what the etiquette on dating is in the US, but my personal opinion is dating per se should not be a long drawnout thing breaking the bank, maxin your cards, a few dates and thats it, what follows is a serious relationship, where certain rules, roles must be constituted

posted October 06, 2013 12:31 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Having a life in order is to have the ability to feed your azz and that of your companion. Without the ability and/or willingness taking care of yourself, forget about attempting to take care of your companion. Going Dutch says "sorry, you take care of yourself because I won't take care of your sorry azz." What sort of man is that?

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lol..

That will totally spoil the romance brewing in the air. Just imagine the conflict about bills at the end of the date.

I dislike fights over money in dating n relationship. Total turn-off. If we aren't well off, it should b about finding solutions n not putting blames n stress on the other. Be honest with yrself n yr limits. Live within yr means. Nothing destroys love faster than anxieties about money. I most prob won't date a man who is counting the times n money he spent on me. That said, I am prepared to work hard with my man, if that is what it takes to have a peaceful finance stable life. That's me.

Anyway, my opinion: A date doesn't have to b expensive. Plan one within budget; if the girl doesn"t appreciate the effort, then its cue to get rid of her. That's nothing difficult here.