posted October 03, 2013 03:24 AM            

You should stop being so caught up in gender roles just enjoy each other and don't sweat the formalities.
Just offer to pay and if she's not interested, let it go!

Besides you can be creative and save money too!
Because dating casually is expensive.. so unless you have a steady job!
Even then.. people have to pay bills!

You don't have spend like 60 plus dollars on a girl to give her a good time.
There's so many things two people can do together besides dinner and a movie
You can go adventures, with some discretion... try not to get the cops chasing after you!
I always love when my partner takes me on adventures!!
Sag rising + Sag dsc = fun!

posted October 03, 2013 08:59 AM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
All I know is I'm not a walking atm.

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posted October 03, 2013 09:01 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:

You just wait till you are married. You'll be a driving Brink's armored car.

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posted October 03, 2013 09:18 AM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I have come to realize that its not for me... By traditional dating I mean the man pays for everything. Here recently I was seeing a girl who had the expectation that I was going to spend money on her everytime we met up and it got on my nerves really quick. I'm not a cheapskate and don't mind
taking a girl out and treating her
but my god... Should I have to
effing spend money everytime I want to see her? Is her time inherently more valuable than mine? I just don't feel like its fair, especially now when we live in the supposed age of equality. All I know is I'm not a walking atm.

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This is interesting about my son. He pays for the dates but she makes dinners and she makes picnic lunches.

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posted October 03, 2013 09:24 AM            

That and simply find things YOU enjoy doing that cost very little money and invite the next one along to do those things.

Issue here is both gender roles, men being dumb, and a lack of creativity.

posted October 03, 2013 09:51 AM            

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Originally posted by Padre35:

That is the great thing about dating AG, if you do not want to be that walking atm you can simply tell her thanks but no thanks and find someone to date who sees things differently.

That and simply find things YOU enjoy doing that cost very little money and invite the next one along to do those things.

Issue here is both gender roles, men being dumb, and a lack of creativity.

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posted October 03, 2013 09:58 AM            

You don't want this kind of a person.

Speaking for myself, I never needed a guy to spend money on me.

Being with him was what I wanted.

We could go for a walk, out for coffee, to the beach, whatever.

This is a red flag to me about this woman, AG.

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posted October 03, 2013 10:23 AM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Padre35:
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That is the great thing about dating AG, if you do not want to be that walking atm you can simply tell her thanks but no thanks and find someone to date who sees things differently.

That and simply find things YOU enjoy doing that cost very little money and invite the next one along to do those things.

Issue here is both gender roles, men being dumb, and a lack of creativity.

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It's not the "way things are supposed to be", tbh men simply pay b/c it is easier.

Also think what happens is instead of making a statement, most guys offer alternatives instead of just saying "we will do thus".

Which opens the door to her saying "no" and your avg guy is terrified that she will say no..so they just pay and do the same old same old, basically what she wants to do which means the guy pays for the night at the bars/dance clubs whatever if they are say under 25.

posted October 03, 2013 10:43 AM            

Low maintenance ladies are great but don't complain if you end up with an eco-friendly 4-cylinder Prius engine.

If you want a Dodge Viper SRT with the V10, then you have the pain of the bills.

My Mrs. takes in only high octane premium gasoline and high performance low profile tires, or there will be a lot of knock and ping

posted October 03, 2013 11:02 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Ya.. good luck

Low maintenance ladies are great but don't complain if you end up with an eco-friendly 4-cylinder Prius engine.

If you want a Dodge Viper SRT with the V10, then you have the pain of the bills.

My Mrs. takes in only high octane premium gasoline and high performance low profile tires, or there will be a lot of knock and ping

Bottom line. Choose the type of woman that you like. If high maintenance is not for you, then go for the low maintenance kind.

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True, I have seen some beautiful down to earth women who like romantic creative type of men, but be aware that there are model gorgeous women that do expect a man to spend alot of money on her simply because of that fact.

My husband has a co-worker who makes sure to date women where he doesnt have to spend any money on them. That is his main criteria when seeking out a woman. Heres where it gets really shallow...he makes sure they arent too attractive as well, as he claims ”pretty ones they want to much from me”

posted October 03, 2013 11:22 AM            

There are also women who outright demand to be taken to a high-powered restaurant, flowers, limo, and then a club and receive a gift like a designer handbag or shoes. Some women even demand the obligatory trip to the hairdressers/nail salon before hand, and a new outfit.

posted October 03, 2013 11:48 AM            

Point being AG, it's wide world out there, decide what you like in a companion and don't settle for mere attractiveness.

Ask yourself, what does she do for you? What does she bring to the table and do you want that in your life.

That clarifies things immensely it also filters out the simply pretty who is choc full o' drama.

posted October 03, 2013 08:13 PM            

Idk, I like having fun, but I'm also easygoing. I'm used to pooling my money with the other person, saying hey look, we have this much, lets go do this, or whatever.

posted October 03, 2013 08:21 PM            

You crack me up, Ian

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posted October 03, 2013 08:42 PM            

It is comedy night

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posted October 03, 2013 09:04 PM            

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[b]simply pretty who is choc full o' drama.

It is comedy night

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It's what happens for me at least, their lives are one big adventure full of hateful bosses, jealous ex's, service that is never adequate, and of course food/drinks that are the same.

Then the piece de resistance!

"..let's dance..."!

How nice, pumped full o' drama venom for an hour then let's have fun!*

If she has a child, one will hear about it, tbh, more interested in hearing how their children are doing and what they feel about them over the other stuff..at least it is honestly spoken

*of course I try and distract from such unpleasantness, then ask later when hyper need to impress has simmered down. 9 times out of 10, the ladies I've dated just want to vent the surface things. If I ask again later and "risk" ruining whatever mood has been struck up it can be "oh I'm over that" or if it really matters she is happy I listened and kept it in mind.

Unlike "joe average" if I'm out with her it is because I truly do like her, I'm not out just to try and sleep with her and the rest of it does not matter so why bother with it.

posted October 03, 2013 10:28 PM            

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Originally posted by: aquaguy91

I have come to realize that its not for me... By traditional dating I mean the man pays for everything. Here recently I was seeing a girl who had the expectation that I was going to spend money on her everytime we met up and it got on my nerves really quick. I'm not a cheapskate and don't mind
taking a girl out and treating her
but my god... Should I have to
effing spend money everytime I want to see her? Is her time inherently more valuable than mine? I just don't feel like its fair, especially now when we live in the supposed age of equality. All I know is I'm not a walking atm.

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Why Do Women Still Earn Less Than Men?

Read more: http://content.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,1983185,00.html

Black Suffrage and the Struggle for Civil Rights

Quote: Women gained the right to vote in 1920

http://www1.cuny.edu/portal_ur/content/womens_leadership/black_suffrage.html

Equal?! Baa-hahahaha!

posted October 04, 2013 08:16 AM            

I like to give. To be honest, if i like a guy, i will probably shower him with gifts... have done so even with crush - breakfast, cakes, coffee on his desk... that's not very expensive. It made him happy, it makes me happy and that's two folks with goofy smiles.

posted October 04, 2013 08:40 AM            

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You can try nontraditional:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ITwdDnWu3g8

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posted October 04, 2013 08:53 AM            

I open doors, pull chairs, deliver flowers and I drive because I want to. Don't want that, then forget about it.

Honestly, I haven't ever lacked a request backlog, so supply issues didn't materialize.

I reserve my comments about men who insist on women paying or going Dutch.

posted October 04, 2013 06:36 PM            

My college boyfriend spent more than I did on "us" but it was easier for him, he was richer than me. I sometimes just ate like one bag of potato chips for my breakfast, lunch, and dinner. If he wanted to splurge and make some pasta for me in the nice apartment his parents paid for for him, that was okay by me, I wasn't too proud to take that....