posted February 03, 2014 06:06 PM            

Its asinine thinking if you ask me. One must look beyond the immediate hype surrounding a particular holiday and look at its roots to gain an idea as to why that particular day happens to be important.

V day was set up in honour of St. Valentine of Terni. He was executed for marrying young couples who wanted to be together inspite of the objections from their families. So to me, its kind of a set marker of a day for those of us who had to struggle for the simple joy of being with someone who we truly dearly want to spend the rest of our lives with.

If you are alone on this day, simply rejoice and remember the fact that you live in the part of the world where you have the freedom to choose who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Not everyone is as lucky as you.

Valentine's Day is my "Go!" Day . I take the challenge on each year to one up the surprise the I did for my wife the year before. This year, I have big big plans .

I choose to rejoice in the romantic aspect of this day and to celebrate to love I have for my wife. But at the same time, I choose to rejoice the fact that I have the freedom to choose who I want to spend the rest of my life with .

posted February 03, 2014 06:33 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
It's not so much that's it's commercialized. My gripe is that women are charmed by a mandatory romantic gesture. And men are expected to spend a lot of money to do so. How is that showing love?

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But does spending money on Valentine's Day a requirement for showing romantic gestures?

- How about the simple thoughtful things? Surprise her with a full course gourmet breakfast in bed (and if you can't cook, learn to cook first .)

- Take her to the spot where you first met her.

- Pamper the hell out of her for a day. Take care of all the house chores, let her soak in the bath tub in a relaxing bath, shower her with affection.

- Put on your best clothes for the night and have a quiet homely dinner for two!

The sky is the limit! There is just so many things you can do that doesn't requires you to spend a lot of money.

posted February 03, 2014 06:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Kerosene:
None of my friends even mentioned it, honestly no one has time for that **** even if you're seeing someone, maybe married couples that try super hard to keep it romantic

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You have such boring friends . I get that lack of time is an issue for a lot of people (I can relate) but seriously a simple gesture of affection doesn't takes that much of an effort not will it take up significant amount of your time.

posted February 03, 2014 07:16 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
Money was only a sub-point--not the main point. Why not show those gestures on other days--when least expected? Mandatory gestures are just not romantic. They are expected. I fail to see the proof of love in a required gesture. I do understand where you're coming from, though. You're married.

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But is fulfilling an expectation on a day dedicated towards affection and love is such a bad thing? I mean, don't you give someone a gift or show a token of appreciation for someone during their birthday or the like? I fail to see just why such animosity against this particular day exists on the sole basis that you are "expected" to do something for someone.

I get the whole "f**k society!" angle of it all but really, is showing someone an affectionate gesture on a day be something we should be condemning?

posted February 03, 2014 08:00 PM            

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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Im NOT trying to say I'm too cool for Valentines days
buuuuuuut 2cool4 Valentines day :P

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I'm married even, and I still agree with you.

My Leo husband is more concerned with getting me something than I am. Personally, I don't take it seriously either. I don't even expect (or want) chocolates.

I think my husband is just being his Leo self when he makes these little gestures, but I'm like...meh.

We both know that we don't need a calendar designated date once a year to do something fun, romantic, or to show that we love each other. Why not just do that type of thing spontaneously?

posted February 03, 2014 08:03 PM            

I might get the little guy a balloon and my husband some of his favorite licorice, just as a token, but...yeah. Eh.

posted February 03, 2014 08:23 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
It's not so much that's it's commercialized. My gripe is that women are charmed by a mandatory romantic gesture. And men are expected to spend a lot of money to do so. How is that showing love?

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posted February 03, 2014 09:22 PM            

And yeah, it doesn't require spending money. Best gifts aren't the expensive ones anyway.

posted February 03, 2014 09:32 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
It's not so much that's it's commercialized. My gripe is that women are charmed by a mandatory romantic gesture. And men are expected to spend a lot of money to do so. How is that showing love?

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posted February 03, 2014 09:57 PM            

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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
Exactly.
I've really been showing love every day if can with nice words and little sweet favors. (we both do) Like just stopping by to get her favorite snack on my way home. Just little things.
It's nice because she really shows appreciation for them.
We'll do something nice that day (I took the day off) but both of us feel the same.
As long as we enjoy it together, whatever it is. Neither is into all that typical v-day stuff. The meaning is kinda lost in our eyes.

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Yeah, I mean...he probably got me something small, like a box of inexpensive chocolates or something, and I'll probably get him something similar.

posted February 03, 2014 10:07 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
Just for the record, I do celebrate. Like I said, it's mandatory. Women expect that gesture.

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posted February 03, 2014 10:18 PM            

Life gets hectic, kids, jobs, bills, obligations to the nth degree to hold our every day focus .

Altho the shared responsibilities are love and expressed by attending to them, setting aside a day for me and thee is important .

It doesn`t have to be monetary gifts at all. A quiet shared dinner, movie or a hike in the woods. Private time for each other is essential. So we call it St valentines day, it is really just a single day we don`t feel guilty to steal some time to celebrate your love.

They say shared vibrations are strong and if umpteen million people celebrates, a love vibe would color the globe