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Topic: Cancerian Men - what on earth?
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Pop Producer
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posted September 27, 2005 10:58 AM
 
And BTW what are the ages of the people involved? It is not the same to be 17 than to be 35... IP: Logged |
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posted September 27, 2005 10:59 AM
she's a libra/scorp cusp with merc,venus and saturn in scorp...The situatuion is pretty similar too...well  she's involved with another guy right now but I know that she has this something for me  and anyway college is almost over,will be moving on in a bout four months... IP: Logged |
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posted September 27, 2005 11:12 AM
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Answer you'll get: "Shell? what shell? I never got into any shell... I'm a very direct person so cut it out."
Why would you say that Pop?
Negativity usually scares off every luck!  Are you sure anyone can resist the nicest possible scorpio way?? By the way, the guy has Moon either in Aries or in Piesces (I think Pieces is the case!!! YES he is very sensitive!!) Venus is gemini - he must LOVE text messages, lol but his Venus conj Saturn so he will never be very demonstrative of his deepest affections
BML in scorp - there's a magnetic attraction between you! Pluto at 29 degree - he can be quite a dictator! Moon opposition Pluto (mood swings and depressions here)may experience emotional blockagews which inhibit sharing feelings. Emotional energies which cannot find suitable release may accumulate, maintains tight inner controls which influence relationships,may be emotionally sensitive, and feel really hurt when another does not respond to his advances, has a low threshold for emotional pain, which amplifies mood swings, tends to store pain Sun square Uranus opp jupiter - definitely problems with authorities, bosses. The guy is very very independent, there're tendencies towards impracticality, antisocial attitudes and hidden urges for personal power, can be very demanding Merc conj Mars in leo sharp mind and high energy here, acn be restless and impatient in his actions and judgements etc... Sorry have to run already! ------------------
It all depends on how we look at things, and not how they are in themselves.
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posted September 27, 2005 11:12 AM
Pop - I agree that he thinks he knows how i feel .... although I haven't been pushy ...... u just know these things ..... would never deny it to him if he asked, but wouldn't tell him if he didn't ......... my question is do I wait or do i move on?  Is he hiding cos he doesn't feel the same way? or is it because I have been a bit aloof? He is 33 I am 31.
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posted September 27, 2005 04:23 PM
I wish I could know and tell you what's going on in this fellow's heart...I was simply saying that with us Cancers the fact of having no action doensn't mean there's ot interest... We go round in circles and think about things and need to be prepared. Again, the fact that he doesn't call can always mean he doesn't care at all... IP: Logged |
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posted September 27, 2005 04:28 PM
If you want me to suggest a little trick, play the role of being a little sad and lonely and confused and the "I need protection" game. I know it's not easy for a Scorpio... Maybe just a little thing like "I need some help to move a heavy thing" or something like that... Cancers love to help and protect... That's why they (we) don't feel at easy with amazon Aries or fire women who act like warriors and make sure they need no protection at all... IP: Logged |
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posted September 27, 2005 04:33 PM
Or, just ask him for a recipe. You'll need to have some other subject besides your relationship... Cancers never call you and tell you directly that want to see you... (When someone does, you can be sure he's freaking out or losing his mind). He'll ask you for your chicken's recipe, then he'll talk for an hour and then he'll casually ask you out. So give him an excuse for him to call you! Even if you both are in your 30's and single... IP: Logged |
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posted September 27, 2005 06:13 PM
I have been reading with interest this thread, I am a Scorpio with libra rising with Moon in Pisces who is in love with a Cancer with Pisces rising with moon in Taurus.....similar issues check the thread Cancer man /scorpio woman in soul unions. I have the same problem with feeling like my Boy Crab pulls the disappearing act. I feel like I call too much sometimes only get voice mail....e-mail with out much response stuff like that,but then I get surprised. I know he cares about me but I feel like I always have to make the first step ...for most everything. I felt really bad one day early on when he called me to see If I wanted to have lunch and I did but I had not gotten into the shower yet so we weren't able to now he is too busy at work even to get away...are Cancers always as busy in the middle of several projects and demands on their time as they seem??? LOL------------------
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posted September 27, 2005 06:58 PM
Never believe that a Cancer guy is too busy (at least until he's got a huge family to suport). We just lock inside and say that for people to leave us alone.  IP: Logged |
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posted September 27, 2005 11:33 PM
I am concerned because this man has mercury conjunct mars, which makes him sharp, impatient and not at all reliable. Nothing like a Cancer, who need his shell to be warmed and protected, not at like the other cancers mentioned. I know Cancer men pretty well, I have a Cancer moon and they are sweet, warm, affectionate, you know Cancerian. This particular man is different, independent, bossy, and will never be owned by one woman unless she acts independent herself but needy and available at the same time. In other words, don't ask for much, but when you ask, ask big and make it to the point. non emotional, move ahead. Make plans for the future and include him don't ask him. I do not think he's mr. steady if that's what you are looking, and as a Scorpio you like stability and most of all being your own boss. Something to think about, do you want to be independent or not? or compromise always?
Cancers will act flighty but not usually if they have promise of love and affection. In this one, the psychology is all about not needing someone, so he is more like a Scorpio or an Aries. Think about your future, not about cuddles on the couch, in that you have to decide if he's worth the trouble first. I also have an 8th house moon, Pluto trine Sun, so I meet a lot of Cancer men. They are the greatest, most loyal and true friends. Natasha
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posted September 28, 2005 05:51 AM
Celtic, I can identify with u there. I turned down a date with him cos was busy that night - then he asked me to give him any other night that week and I couldn't cos that week was a mare for me - seems like he has been punishing me ever since ........ it just wasn't a good week for me! I never call, e-mail or text too much ......... maybe I have become too cautious in my old age lol The one other thing that drives me mad, if he texts me I respond within 24 hours or so ..... if I text him he takes 2 to 3 weeks ......... Another mind blower - is that he asks me what I am doing most weekends on a friday and most of the time I leave some time open in my reply ......... he never acts on it ........ why ask then all the time if u have no follow through? is it just curiosity?  do these ever happen to you too? IP: Logged |
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posted September 28, 2005 05:57 AM
Pop, with u there 2 - the practicality is that if someone really wants to spend time with you they will make a plan ....... hence me leaving the situation for now .......my question is are you lovely guys renowned for coming back? he has made a lot of effort with me but timing has been really bad. He works 7 days a week from stupid o'clock to night time ......... he has intimated to a friend that once his season is over he would like to even things out ........ but what bugs me is why has he not maintained contact in the meantime? does he consciously think i will be around waiting for him? or is he just innocently not thinking about the situation until he has the mental space to do so? I know u cancerians are worth the wait - girls they are just divine .......... but don't want to make a fool of myself but waiting for s'thing if cancerian men are not known to return? do these men like unfinished business? IP: Logged |
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posted September 28, 2005 06:03 AM
sthenri, tahnsk for the tips - I think he has been incredibly patient and gentlemanly about the situation - me thinks I am the impatient one lol  Someone has mentioned to me that he thinks I am a bit of a princess and that I am out of his league ............ which is absolute nonsense ........... i think he and I are definately on a par - so a bit of a confidence issue may be on the cards ..... wish I could help there! I am incredibly independent and not needy ........ people cannot be both or can they? Mayeb friendship is the plan and nothing more ........... doesn't help though that everytime we see each other both of us are a complete mess and act like 5 years olds We can't even look each other in the eye without blushing .......... definately foreign territory for me ....... but I love the out of control feeling - quite refreshing and exciting! IP: Logged |
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posted September 28, 2005 06:11 AM
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Again, the fact that he doesn't call can always mean he doesn't care at all...
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posted September 28, 2005 10:03 AM
Cancer men love cuddles and being courted..even long after the relationship has been established. Also unless you did something to make him go into his shell...know that he needs to do that from time to time. He needs to think and ponder and work things out in his safe zone. But be ready when he is ready to talk about what is bothering him. And if he feels loved and safe with you..he will talk! Let him! Do not judge or interrupt!
I am married very very happily to what others call a very moody Cancer man. If they only knew what they are missing! Love from a Cancer is deep and passionate. And I do not mean only the sexual aspect!  IP: Logged |
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posted September 28, 2005 10:05 AM
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I know u cancerians are worth the wait - girls they are just divine .......... but don't want to make a fool of myself but waiting for s'thing if cancerian men are not known to return?do these men like unfinished business?
Yes, this is what i was trying to say. Before completing something there are lots of side walking and shell hiding and a "i'm-too-busy-to-think-about-love" attitude. I wouldn't worry too much, just don't sit there waiting for his call. Live your life. I mean, he's probably sensing your anxiety and that's keeping him from acting. Get out and meet new people, that'll retire your attention from him... IP: Logged |
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posted September 28, 2005 10:05 AM
Don't you know anyone that knows how to consult the I ching? This is what I would suggest to a friend of mine in a situation like this...IP: Logged |
luvscorp
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posted September 28, 2005 11:26 AM
Well Pop and all ........... thanks for all the advice but me thinks it is time to move on ............. if anything amazing happens will let you know ........... but think u r right Pop ! This scorp is outta there IP: Logged |
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posted September 28, 2005 12:30 PM
wait till i am back . haven't read all the post ,so ain't writting but will do so . so wait , dear scorp . dont loose heart so easily . we cancers like patient people and we like scoprs , they are enchanting be it negative or positive but they are . IP: Logged |
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posted September 28, 2005 10:44 PM
just curious....since it is basically a new moon have you Cancers gone into hiding?? mine seems to have IP: Logged |
sue g
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posted September 29, 2005 03:55 AM
Hey luvscorpMy "feeling" is that you maybe best to move on for a time......give yourself a break from him......personally I couldnt in my honest and open way bear this, it feels like a game......no I would have to tell him what I want from a relationship..... Of course I aint you honey.....it is your shout and depends on what you want from a MAN......  xxx IP: Logged |
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posted September 29, 2005 03:58 AM
....and when Mystic talks about "bossing them around".......oh no......I really wouldnt respect a man that would accept this......I think most Scorpio women would be like this, in our strength, we often prefer to be greeted back with strength......dont you think????One of my pet hates is "henpecked"men - LOL xxxx IP: Logged |
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posted September 29, 2005 04:29 AM
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we cancers like patient people and we like scoprs , they are enchanting be it negative or positive but they are .
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posted September 29, 2005 04:32 AM
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just curious....since it is basically a new moon have you Cancers gone into hiding?? mine seems to have
--------------------------------------------------------------------funny you should say that celtic. my little sister (cancerian), who is also my best friend, has just sent me an e-mail saying she has had enough of men and is deciding to go into hiding ........... she says she has "had enough and really thinks people should say what they mean instead of all the peripheral, round the world stuff." maybe that's the problem. whaddaya u think?
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posted September 29, 2005 04:42 AM
Hey Sue G, to be honest the weird thing is I don't think this is a game as such ..... without seeming in denial  . He just seems to not think ......... which can be just as much of a red flag as playing a game. I don't really expect men to have my strength in some areas, but I would hope that some strength is shown at some point or a balance is reached or they show strength in other areas .......... I am away from Dec to March 06 & I was just hoping a good friendship could have been established before I went .......... pity cos he is a luv I am ready to compromise somewhat and communicate properly but he isn't so nothing can be done. Maybe he'll have figured it all out by March  How is yr love life doll .......... u seem to have everything under control! tips? lol IP: Logged |
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