posted October 18, 2005 11:13 AM              

I find we Scorp women need to respect the man in our lives as we are strong and value honour, we need to see that in another. Whatever the sign of the partner, this kind of behaviour wouldnt work....we need someone to respect us and be truthful and not someone who is gonna run away.....he is not acting like a mature person to me.....this would drive me NUTS....cute or no cute...LOL !!!

Ask for a strong, noble and cuter than cute one.......someone who can match you girl....then you wont feel exhausted....instead you will feel.....

.E X H I L E R A T E D.............

posted October 18, 2005 12:46 PM              

Everything was perfect in the first month. Then one weekend, when my parents were visiting, he was text messaging me continously, asking me what we were talking about. I said family matters and he insisted that we were actually talking about him. In the end, I was so fed up that I said, "Allright, we are. I am talking about you with my dad and comparing you to all the other potential men in my life "

My line was a joke. My father is a very serious and conservative guy and he had met him and he knows how uptight he is and that I can never discuss guy matters with him. My boyfriend took it for real and stopped talking to me. I told him it was a joke. He never believed it. And it all started from there. I tried so much to make him believe it was a joke. He thinks I have a hidden agenda. It's close to a paranoia for the most part.

He never cuts off contact, though. Just when I think it really is over, he comes back. He is never direct, always shows up in my text message box all the time. He insists I hide my true emotions, which I don't. We exchange anger, fear, love, hate, everything in text messages, which I dislike quite a lot. He comes back promising the world one day. He disappears the next day. His absence usually takes about a week. I asked him why he does that. He said, "I'm a plane and you're an air traffic control tower. I'm circling around you. I am about to land, yet I don't until I run out of fuel". I told him it was bothering me. He didn't want to talk about it any further.He says I was ruining the moment--the moment of his joyous come back. He's so funny and cute and lovely that I can't help forgiving him. He knows this so well. He even says "nobody can stay mad at me because I'm so cute"

It's not always the disappearing. I really don't understand what he wants--not in general terms--I don't even understand what he wants at a particular leisurely moment. We meet in a restaurant to eat. He gets upset over the waiter and refuses to eat. He isn't easy going at all. And he criticizes me for being too easy going that I was happy with small things. So what? That's a beautiful gift, I think. When we are ready to go out he starts playing computer games. I wait for a round or two. Then I say we should go and he insists to play another round. I start reading or go for a run to keep myself busy. He comes and asks if I'm mad at him. I say no. He says yes. I say no. He says yes and we start arguing over how I feel vs how he interprets I feel. It's so stupid. He doesn't like my shoes and we argue over the color of the ankleband of my shoe. He says I disagree with him over the color of the band to get back at him on some other stupid thing. He refuses to go to the concert, sits at home with a long face. I go by myself or with other friends. He gets even more upset I did that. He's 29 yet acts like a silly 17 year old girl.

He's super successful at his career. Yet, he thinks he's a failure. I always encourage him that he's great and will do even better. Yet, he says I'm just trying to be nice. I encourage him to eat right and exercise. He says I find him fat, that's why I do it. He wanted to buy an overpriced condo in a not-so-good neighborhood, I recommended he looked at another place. He says I never support his decisions. I was way too smart, but I wasn't able to soothe him. Although very rarely (usually at the time of comeback) he says he loves me and I may smile or say my love back. He says I don't really love him, I just liked being loved.

It's always always about him. I am independent in every matter, yet I would have loved it if he could be a genuine friend and would at least listen to my problem when I have one. I'm afraid of talking about my problems with him because he always finds something to relate to himself for the reasons. Then he manipulates it in a way that it appears that he was my problem and there starts the brooding.

Hopeless, huh?

posted October 18, 2005 06:54 PM              

Now saying that I will find something to relate to:>

Honestly water moons can take a joke the wrong way, it's hard to forgive if it's done in a quick way-and you are right about being cool, and distant and not giving a safe place to land. I have been guilty myself of wanting this in a partner, rather than seeing the truth.

posted January 09, 2006 10:40 AM              

its just a jovial way of reminding you of his attraction to you .

by pink balls , he is just trying to bring a simple fact to your notice that he is noticing everything about you . simple !
are you still into him?

btw, how has been life all these days ?

posted January 09, 2006 10:59 AM              

Basically not sure cos he hasn't contacted me in over 3 months but sends me the ball a month ago and nothing since. Surely if he liked me he would make some effort in speaking to me or even an e-mail?

Should I just move on and forget it? Why the ball and nothing else. I saw u wrote in one of your other threads that if a cncer guy likes u he will want to spend as much time with you as possible?!

How r u doing? have good festive season?

posted January 09, 2006 11:29 AM              

i have repetedly said this to all ( mistakenly interested in cancer men ,especially men . in my view cancer women are more forthright )

if the cancer isn't making ( they are notorious for not making a move) a move . go ahead , talk to him .simple !
better if this all can be done in private settings rather than a public one .

if a cancer is presented with two options ,either to move on or make a move .
any guesses what he'll choose ( ofcourse , no prizes for that , i know you know the answer !)

i always confuse my women ! remember ,the girl that i talked about . same condition as yours( i know)and here i am , giving advices to you .
hahahahahahahahahaha......
idiotic huh....
thats the way cancers are !

posted January 09, 2006 12:00 PM              

I then left a message sayign I needed a chipping lesson (bearing in mind he was my golf instructor) ......... no response.

I then sent him a text saying that I had a conflict of interest and if that wa a problem then he must let me know ........ no response.

then I sent him an e-mail letting him know that I had got the distribution for an american golf mag for the UK and that it may generate some income for the business. no response.

2 weeks later he sent me pink golf ball. i sent him a text saying "lillies are white, golf balls r pink 1 out of 2 is pretty good i think .......... no repsonse.

and nothing since .........

so how much more can one girl do????? what the hell does he want? i am communciating and he isn't - how do i compete with that?

if he won't return messages, e-mails etc... then what can one do?

i think he just is playing games and really doesn't care enough to do anything.

can't wait to c yr reasons for the above, i think even now u may be stumped yourself?!

posted January 09, 2006 12:04 PM              

yeah, i am stumped by your love for him not by his idiocracy .

posted January 09, 2006 02:04 PM              

I really really don't get it. For me that is something because I am usually good at deciphering peoples intentions.

I'm still stuck between it being selfishness of the higest magnitude or being scared beyond reason, and more importantly, maturity.

The thing I consider now is, what if the relationship hits a normal everyday hiccup as ALL do because you have the great invariables, people and emotions involved?

Do they sulk and pout and play hide and seek as if you were to chase them around the playground in kisschase? Or do they develop a solid moral foundation and awareness of other people's feelings as well as their own?

I am so disappointed in my Cancer, she has proven to be weak beyond comprehension, and very very cold. She said she is never cold, but then acts it. She said she never plays games, but then proceeds to draw out an emotional maze with all the turnings a wrong one where you have offended her or done something wrong.

Of course, she is completely beyond reprimand or expectation.

Very very disillusioned with this Cancer game of love (no not all of you, some bloody marvelous Crabs here on this forum serve as example to that) that seems to permeate so many people's recent negative experiences of simply expressing their love for someone.

I will see mine this week at the exhibition we met at last year, unless she hides (which is likely).

So very very disappointing. At least I know now for the future. But I will listen to their sob stories now with a huge pinch of salt. Bordering on contempt unfortunately.

Swerve

posted January 10, 2006 11:56 AM              

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Very very disillusioned with this Cancer game of love (no not all of you, some bloody marvelous Crabs here on this forum serve as example to that)

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I hope among those marvelous one !