posted October 02, 2005 12:54 PM              

something is always better than nothing .u never know , where the things will turn.

posted October 02, 2005 01:05 PM              

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They interfere in the womanly things I do...like ask all these personal feminine questions. I like my men on the manly side.

//////I have this annoying Cancer uncle who always has to tell me how he thinks I look whenever I meet him. (For example, "Oh you've gained weight!" or "Highlights don't look good on you. Not natural"). Im always like ok....who the eff asked you (thinking this not saying it of course) lol.

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i am not sure if these sentences are connected but in case ,if they are meant to be . i would just say , cancers say these things just for connecting with people . its thier way . i do this to all the people that i know , infact i give tips .

its in no way a sexual comment . even at that , these are said to people that they feel bit familiar with , not every tom, dick or harry ( u could even include the prince ) . its a way of making people comfortable.

posted October 03, 2005 12:30 PM              

So angel, if you focus on yourself and do what you want for yourself then I am sure everythign will fall into place and may have some more fun with it?!

Whadaya think?

posted October 03, 2005 03:31 PM              

yes what your doing is exactly what I should be doing, and it would what i would tell soemone else if they came to me with the same problem but there are times when it is hard to listen to your own advice...lol...yet I hate to feel like I have been forgotten or cast away and out of sight out of mind.

posted October 04, 2005 05:39 AM              

When I was with an Aqua guy I used to do this a lot of the time.....but the whole relationship became based on "head game".......in the end it exhausted me........

The guy I am with for the past 16 years is different.....no headgames.....challenges......but I didnt want to go thro that again....

I am sure you know what you are doing....I hope it works out for you and if not that you meet "the one" when the time is right.

Love to you

posted October 04, 2005 03:34 PM              

Playing games is not what I am suggesting, all I am saying is focus on yrself and all will fall into place.

I still don't know if anything will ever happen seriously btwn me and the cancerian guy, but at least I am enjoying my life any way. I do feel the way you do underneath it all, but instead of it being at the front of my mind it is at the back. It used to drive me mad, his behaviour, but I think cos I got to point of walking away, my mind was prepared to do it and in some funny way, even though he is around again, i think my mind is still ready to go if nothing happens.

So hang in there and if u need an ear let me know and I will try my best to help.

posted October 04, 2005 06:30 PM            

Celtic, you are an wonderful woman, and your cancer boy is so lucky to have you. I know ALL about old insecurities and hurts. They loom over all of my relationships like ghostly shadows, whispering of failure and loss. We cannot let our past dictate our future though. I remind myself of this every day. Your cancer man is not like anyone you’ve ever dated before, and as long as he is with you rest assured that you are the one he wants. You and only you.

I had a bit of an epiphany when I realized your crab had a child. I think his child is probably the heart of what keeps his affections and attentions focused away from you. Cancers prioritize their lives in a big way – and children are always first on that priority list. Always. If he is actively involved in his child’s life that would leave less room for you - Unless you can find a way to support him in that part of his life. I wonder if you could arrange to take him and his child out to the park or some amusement park some weekend? Try to include his child in your plans if he will allow that.

I know you are probably worn out from all the advice people are tossing your way, but every time I see one of your posts I’m so touched and driven to try to help you. It’s very obvious that you love this man thoroughly and completely, and believe me that’s the kind of love cancers spend their entire lives looking for.

posted October 04, 2005 06:48 PM              

Yes, his daughter is his the most important thing to him and she is due to be tweleve soon, not an easy age for a girl and not an easy age for a parent either. He had more time for me that is for sure during the summer while she was at her mom's except on some weekends. and now she is home except for every other weekend. We are both very busy people I work 12 hours shifts he works 5 day a week 10 hour days and we both volunteer at the same fire station on diffent nites and weekends so it is hard. His daughter likes me and is always giving me hugs and I have offered to help out when he has to run battlion for the night and he can't leave her alone at night and he has agreed for me to help him with that but he hasn't needed me to do that yet. SO I feel it is good, but now the togetherness time is greatly reduced and I am having a hard time adjusting, plus with all the typical Cancer traits of just not returning calls e-mails etc just makes me a little insecure don't know if that is wrong or normal. I'm really trying to cut him some slack. becasue he does work so hard that frequently he is exhausted and falls asleep way early or can't sleep at all and then is grouchy the next day and more exhausted....so there you are I 'm trying really ahrd to hang inthere ! thank you all!

posted October 06, 2005 10:05 AM              

may have to think on suggestions for ya, I gotta go to work but promise there will be a response. Would love to help a sister out

posted October 07, 2005 01:31 AM              

One thing you can do is be genuinely warm, touch him...don't attack himof course,be subtle with you touch but lingering. Hug him when it is appropriate. If he makes a move return it..like if he puts his arm around your waist put yours around his.be the last one to break an embrace or whatever if you can...Shouldn't be too hard-- smile at him--you like him right?? Its easier to be soft than prickly...lol I think my pisces moon allows me to be more sweet..i guess. I've always been told I have a sweet nature it comes through in my actions most of the time...the true scorpion comes out when its time to rescue or defend or when I get angry.It may be easier for me to "be softer" However I think many guys are intimidated by me for whatever reason. Don't know what made my boy crab step up, I had a feeling he liked me for a while and then I started needing help with stuff and one thing lead to another. And so I'm here trying not to go crazy.

posted October 08, 2005 08:45 AM              

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Everybody is posting about Scorpio Woman and Cancer Man. I can't find any Cancer man around me.

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So, shall i come to mumbai

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If you need the money start worrying, he doesn't mean bussiness... I'm pretty sure.

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101% SURE . doubtlessly. business was just an excuse to talk .

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i also told him I was not out to change him but open his eyes to realm of possiblities...meaning he didn't hav to compartamentalize everything that you could blend soem of those compartments meaning hey I can do things with him and his daughter evenif it was only spending an evening at home. but anyway...thanks for giving two cents

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Those were not two but twenty .
u know what , that kind of sentiment exactly makes a woman so adorable. infact, everytime i read your post , i have to control myself falling in love with u . i don't know how your man can resist such charms .
now, if u see the positive side , if someone can resist such charms for some responsbilities , u can understand the value , he gives to his responsbilities.

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TIP: they hate being ignored too so a little of their own medicine doesn't hurt as long as it is done in the nicest possible way.

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i think my insecurity stems form old baggage and he's really NOT the type to bail on anyone. It's just my head playing games with me.

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Forget about the baggage part . they are non judgemental people , if it had counted , u would not have been given a place in his life . astrologically, this is one big reason , why they get allong with gems even after having so many diffs.

this baggage might come out only when u use his baggage against him , untill then .... nothing .
he might talk about your past , even tell u about his past but they are just a way to connect , not to rub your wounds .
i told u this b'coz u 'll go through this phase , just to avoid any confusion ( my twenty cents )

posted October 08, 2005 08:46 AM              

oh, that seduction tip . i think i have told u this earlier too .
its just a simple one, make him sentimental , cry a bit if u can . he wont be able to say no to anything that u say . but the problem is , if he feels he has been used , then its better to forget the realtion . so its not actually advisable . actually this is something that i am saying on experience . my cap sis would try to mend me according to her wish but it usually backfired with her but with my cancer sisters ,it didn't normally . reasson was , cap wouldn't stop using her mind and cancers in general dislike mindgames in realtions . all this , even though me and cap sis are more of friends but with cancers , its more of elder-younger dynamic.

and lastly, u scorps don't need to change yourself . scorp women are enchenting the way they are , not the way that others might want them to . all of us cancers posted to understand someone not necessarilly to change yourself.

posted October 09, 2005 02:23 PM              

Thank you for all your posts! It seems that you have come out with the moon...

>>>now, if u see the positive side , if someone can resist such charms for some responsbilities , u can understand the value , he gives to his responsbilities.<<<
Yes I do understand the value of this especially when I need someone who is responsible, but it does get a little frustrating waiting your turn
I also have to get adjusted to the idea that he isn't going to be joined at the hip with me because of his responsibilties and other demands on his time...and I geuess that is what makes it different for me. When we are together without anyone else around) we are TOGETHER...that whole unspoken communication you talked about is there--it has always been there. But it is so difficult for whatever reason for me to feel reassured of my postion in his life and I don't know why, really....everyone on this board have been so kind to reassure me that I do have a position in his life which makes me feel better and intellectually I know that I have it ,but it doesn't feel concrete to me and that is what makes me feel unsettled. I mean this sounds so stupid , I mean I am getting his daughter something for her birthday after making sure it was okay with him and he said "Sure" like nothing would be wrong with that. So I'm getting more encouraged about where I fit in. I mean I'm sure he and I need to talk about it more and that would help but you gotta be able to spend soem time with someone in order to talk and I don't want it to be like the sole reason to get together you know like call him and say "look we need to talk" I hate that kind of stuff I just like to breach those subjects naturally and subtly, plus I don't want it push him away with that. Hee hee sometimes I seem to take the Cancerian approach with people