posted October 10, 2005 08:09 AM              

Saw him sat afternoon, for game of golf, first time ever he has kissed me hello (on the cheek) - kind first physical contact - almost fell over with shock LOL - from the miute the game started he was just ripping me off jokingly - encouraging my game but also playing word games with me and teasing me, which I could handle for the first 5 holes. Then he asks me why I stopped my kung fu lessons, which he has asked many times before and I haven't answered him cos didn't want to tell him that my kung fu instructor started making a play for me - anyhoo - when I said I didn't want to tell and had told him that before - he came right and asked if it was cos I was 'shagging' him - well I almost fell over - please bear in mind that e'thing btwn us has been very very professional in the main when we are 2gether, cos he was my instructor. . Anyway so I told him to stop giving me a hard time and that we should try and get along - and he said he thought we were doing fine - (WHAT - with him ripping me off all the time & questioning who I sleep with - what is that). After the game, we had a drink and all he could talk about was going into business with me and he just started rambling on and on and on until I thought my head was gonna explode - asking so many questions about business what I wanted etc.....

HELP - what is this guys - ripping me off (not in a bad way just jokingly i must add, constant business talk , kissing me hello, hugging me when I hit a good shot, then back to business again .............. what is this??????????

I have no idea whether I am coming or going, can't relax around him cos he is showing mixed signals, really like him but feel so strange about it.

So at the end of the drink I shook his hand and told him that if we r going to have a busines relationship we need to try not give each other a hard time .......... he looked uncomfortable with that but said OK. So I called him yesterday to talk over some business ideas and left a message abut it - not a word since ?!

posted October 10, 2005 09:09 AM            

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I got to point of walking away, my mind was prepared to do it and in some funny way, even though he is around again, i think my mind is still ready to go if nothing happens.

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I think he felt that he was about to lose your interest, he just got scared and that's why acted a bit fussy.
Now that he is sure you are still 'his' he is into mind games again. Or maybe he does not know how to approach you...since 'you are going to have a business relationship'

posted October 10, 2005 09:46 AM              

How some of that sounds so familiar!.Tho not to that degree my guy has teased me in public with others around like at the fire station -(where for now or relationship is only known by me and another person---I have no idea if he's said anything to anyone else)---nuthin' bad just good natured teasing.BUt when he does so the truth is in his eyes as he does it. About the most phyiscal contact we have while there is a quick hug and kiss goodbye when one of us is leaving and of course no one around. But do ya know how hard it is not to be able to show affection for fear someone might see?? or to sleep a few feet away form him and not be able to crawl into the same bed with him???OMG! But we do have a tendency to follow each other around like puppy dogs while we are there.

I think your guy isn't sure how to approach you either , now that he has your attention, he's probably trying to see how you will react. will think on this more have to go to work. Hang in there Sister!

posted October 10, 2005 10:54 AM              

celtic: read that voluntary work post. may be , i'll have some questions . let me just think over it a bit .

and now , u all need to advice rather than asking for advice , ok

i asked for a date yesterday to a girl( she is most probably a libra or a sag , she could be scorp too)that i have been wanting for almost six months now.

u know, i was so well received . i realise it was all my inhibitions , same as your men , that prevented me all these days , to ask her .
any suggestions , how should , i go from here ? she knows my admiration for her .

her eyes and spiritual interests( she's a member of bible society) have always fascinated me .

waiting...................

posted October 10, 2005 12:50 PM              

One thing not to do - don't let her leave the date confused ........... make sure that she is aware in one way or another that you wish to spend more time with her ......... let her know that you would like to see her again!

DON'T PLAY GAMES ANGEL - if she is a scorpio - hell hath no fury LOL

Have you thought of attending one of her Bible society meetings? To find out more about what makes her tick?

Let her know a bit about you and u learn a bit about her - give and take - make sure you both learn things about each other - to start building a base.

posted October 11, 2005 12:45 AM              

I would go with what LUV said...all on target. Yeah keep her in the loop of where she is in your life and your intentions...son't make her guess too much....cuz if she is a scorpio you know already how crazy you cancer boys make us scorpio girls...LOL :P

posted October 11, 2005 10:32 AM              

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Organise s'thing fun that u both enjoy to do and make sure you have a laugh !!!!!!!!!!

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there are just two expressions that i know .either i am silent , when thinking or if tired OR i am smiling all the time . people around me , even know the shape of my teeths .

i plan to go slow . been with scorp men all my life but this is the first time if it would be a woman . i know some scorp women(they all seem to like me )but this romantic territory is new . so i am a bit sceptical , i dont want things to go wrong .

to tell u a very strange thing , it normally happens that when i am daydreaming ( cancers do that a lot, thier imagiative power at work) about a girl . i normally think a lot . but with her , it was completly different . i have been thinking about her off and on but there wasn't any new flush of emotional thinking after i asked her . it is starnge for me . i dont know why i was so unemotional and pactical about things . i had just one feeling , whatever has to happen will happen . this cool approach is something new to me . i have never been this way . i dont know if its the growing up thing ( cancers tend to learn from thier experiences ) may be this is what explains , your men's approach towards u both. though , ifeel luv's case is a bit different.

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One thing not to do - don't let her leave the date confused

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Ihave made that mistake uptill now . she knew about my feelings, she could read that in my eyes but she was sure confused. but once i start meeting her regularly , i'll make things pretty clear .

ohhhhhhhh, i dont play mind games . cancers dont know how to do this . period.

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Have you thought of attending one of her Bible society meetings? To find out more about what makes her tick?

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Let her know a bit about you and u learn a bit about her - give and take - make sure you both learn things about each other - to start building a base.

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posted October 11, 2005 11:06 AM              

So why not have a bit of mystery with tenderness - but not so much mystery that she thinks you r a bit of a joker rather than the heroic batman - if you know what I mean .

posted October 12, 2005 07:45 AM              

You have no worries there

posted October 12, 2005 02:27 PM              

and Celtic where have you gone? ............ am itching to know how it goes with you too???

posted October 17, 2005 03:59 AM              

Good luck to all you ladies out there hoping to make sense out of yr cancer men .............. bottom line for me is that I can't spend my life guessing .............. just want a man where I just know

posted October 17, 2005 04:26 AM              

I feel you made the right decision......it shows you have respect and love for yourself and of course the next one you meet will be completely different.....

I think its his loss.....but you couldnt wait around forever.....no way !!!

love to you

posted October 17, 2005 11:19 AM              

I of course am sticking it out with my boy as I have waited ...hhmm.. leessee for probably close to 25 years...i deserve to see where things lead!

posted October 17, 2005 11:40 AM              

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...hhmm.. leessee for probably close to 25 years...i deserve to see where things lead!

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posted October 17, 2005 11:41 AM              

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...hhmm.. leessee for probably close to 25 years...i deserve to see where things lead!

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posted October 17, 2005 02:23 PM              

Love to hear yr story globe, cos this might become a problem for me ...........