posted July 16, 2015 02:40 AM            

It's only because of what I've been thru was exhausting. So exhausting to a point where being single feels better. I'm just not into being controlled or held down. I like freedom freedom without judgement. Yet for some reason all I've been attracting or been around is the wrong things. That's probably my fault also but I just can't see it. I like this better

posted July 16, 2015 06:11 PM            

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Originally posted by Gemini30:
Ok girls and guys,

I see alot of you have talked about the "delusion" of your relationships.

Where did the delusion come from? Like did your ex boyfriend/girlfriend basically LIE about who they were or did you just see them as "the perfect one" only to find out that nobody is perfect?

Also, to the ones that have Venus conj neptune in capricorn, how do you deal with having venus conj uranus as well?

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for me, I cause the delusion myself. I *believe* someone loves me or is interested in me the same way that I am but it turns out that they are not or their intentions are different. Neptune is in the first house conjuncts Venus...

posted August 21, 2015 09:23 PM              

Engaged three or four times to men who were completely wrong for me. About four common law relationships.

I'm getting tired of being the sacrificial lamg here.......the last two majorly serious relationships were was venus square pluto men......and my pluto squared their venuses as well......

posted August 26, 2015 11:14 PM            

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Originally posted by deuxantares:
Is it true that a Venus-Neptune aspect in the chart indicates that the person has some sort of aversion to marriage and will avoid getting hitched officially for as long as possible? (Take note I'm not saying the person is against relationships or partnerships). Do you think they are saying "haven't found the right one" to justify their commitment phobia? Do you know anyone with Venus-Neptune aspect?

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IMO (no astrological evidence to back it up, either) people who have issues committing to marriage are aware how big of a commitment it actually is. I don't know if it is because my Venus and Neptune are both in earth signs, or because I have the trine, but that idea has always resonated with me. I guess I am waiting on "the right one" in the sense that when I commit myself to someone, I mean it for forever - not five years, ten years or heaven forbid twenty years. And if it's going to last forever, they really do need to be the right person.

There always has to be an emotional and mental wavelength that is shared, but with Venus-Neptune I think it's tempting to "get lost" in your partner. I am guilty of this. I can focus entirely on all of the good things happening and good emotions floating around that I miss all of the obvious red flags. I spent years dating the wrong person until Saturn hit my 7th - it was like being hit in the face with a bucket of cold ice water. I found myself thinking, "Why did I put up with that all these years? Why was I so blinded by this person?" Because I allowed myself to be. Ignorance is bliss with Venus-Neptune.

posted September 03, 2015 01:04 AM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
Understandable that some would have issues about it and those issues based on careful thought.

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posted September 04, 2015 09:55 AM            

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Originally posted by StubbornVirgo:
IMO (no astrological evidence to back it up, either) people who have issues committing to marriage are aware how big of a commitment it actually is. I don't know if it is because my Venus and Neptune are both in earth signs, or because I have the trine, but that idea has always resonated with me. I guess I am waiting on "the right one" in the sense that when I commit myself to someone, I mean it for forever - not five years, ten years or heaven forbid twenty years. And if it's going to last forever, they really do need to be the right person.

There always has to be an emotional and mental wavelength that is shared, but with Venus-Neptune I think it's tempting to "get lost" in your partner. I am guilty of this. I can focus entirely on all of the good things happening and good emotions floating around that I miss all of the obvious red flags. I spent years dating the wrong person until Saturn hit my 7th - it was like being hit in the face with a bucket of cold ice water. I found myself thinking, "Why did I put up with that all these years? Why was I so blinded by this person?" Because I allowed myself to be. Ignorance is bliss with Venus-Neptune.

For some reason, I always associated my Venus-Uranus trine with commitment phobia more than the Venus-Neptune trine in my chart. But maybe that's just me.

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I think with Venus-Neptune in comparison to other "commitment-phobic" placements one could have is, someone with dreamy Venus-Neptune isn't avoiding commitment for malicious or selfish reasons - that they want "options" or to "play the field" or any other such reasons. I think it's more to do with the IDEA or FANTASY of "the one" and that never-ending search for this person. Almost like you're waiting for that magical feeling you THINK you're supposed to have when you meet "the one" and so you question your connection with the person you're with and wonder if "this is how it's supposed to feel."

I think some people are content with the good thing they've got going with someone, either for practical reasons or you have a lot in common etc., and this is enough to base a marriage upon. For others though, especially with Venus-Neptune, it's a search for that fairy tale dream.

Ultimately then, relationships dissolve and hearts get broken because some with this placement will decide they just don't have that "feeling" they think they're supposed to have and the cycle continues.

posted September 04, 2015 10:10 PM            

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Originally posted by margym0o:
I think with Venus-Neptune in comparison to other "commitment-phobic" placements one could have is, someone with dreamy Venus-Neptune isn't avoiding commitment for malicious or selfish reasons - that they want "options" or to "play the field" or any other such reasons. I think it's more to do with the IDEA or FANTASY of "the one" and that never-ending search for this person. Almost like you're waiting for that magical feeling you THINK you're supposed to have when you meet "the one" and so you question your connection with the person you're with and wonder if "this is how it's supposed to feel."

I think some people are content with the good thing they've got going with someone, either for practical reasons or you have a lot in common etc., and this is enough to base a marriage upon. For others though, especially with Venus-Neptune, it's a search for that fairy tale dream.

Ultimately then, relationships dissolve and hearts get broken because some with this placement will decide they just don't have that "feeling" they think they're supposed to have and the cycle continues.

I think other natal placements can mitigate this placement though, like if someone is heavily Saturnian they are more realistic and grounded. For instance I have Venus inconjunct Neptune exact but also Venus trine Saturn almost exact, and my dreaminess is tempered by the harsh reality of relationships and the work involved.

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Venus-Neptune people usually do get that magical feeling, or at least I do. There is a fairytale, fated, meant-to-be aspect to it. If the connection lacks that feeling, it usually means (for me) that there is no connection. I can't make it appear out of thin air. It either happens or it doesn't. And there is no rationality to it. I've had that magical feeling with people who were incredibly incompatible. It lasts long enough for the ugly truths of reality to seep in and the arguing to begin. When peace and good feelings/vibes cease to exist, I'm likely to hold on for ages in hopes that I will get that fairytale feeling back. So yes, I do agree that Venus-Neptune differs from other aspects that might imply commitment phobia.

posted September 16, 2015 08:27 AM            

My worries for the future sometimes get the best of me in romance. It's not that I want to avoid commitment, it's just I really need to know how it will be worth my while.

posted September 16, 2015 08:29 AM            

My worries for the future sometimes get the best of me in romance. It's not that I want to avoid commitment, it's just I really need to know how it will be worth my while.

posted September 30, 2015 10:39 PM            

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Originally posted by deuxantares:
Buena, very true. A long-distance relationship makes you see only the "ideal" side of the partner. His absence supports the fairy tale you see in the imagination.

For people who have this aspect and are dating online, it is advisable to meet the other person face-to-face ASAP and get to know them well before getting into a serious relationship.

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I agree with this. I have venus opposite neptune. I am not against marriage per se, but I'm 35 and in no rush. I see so many unhappy married couple my own age! As much as I hate heartbreak, at least I had some very romantic experiences. Of course, my idealism led to many a heartbreak. I definitely go for foreigners.

posted October 07, 2015 12:07 AM            

Can you do casual sex?

posted October 11, 2015 02:01 PM            

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Originally posted by Soltze:
One night stands make me feel dirty after, but "sometimes sex" without a relationship it's perfectly fine by me.
Friendship with benefits is dangerous and ambiguous in my book. If I want to sleep with someone once in a while I want some emotional distance...

Venus opp Neptune

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Forgot to check this thread!

I knew i could always count on you replying Soltze!

So you have done one night stands in your past? And you need emotion distance at times?

posted October 11, 2015 05:51 PM            

Yeah, it gets too overwhelming I need to back off from people. For my mental sanity and to avoid damaging them as well. Because I can bury people in the back of my mind and forget them forever in a month.

I have a Gemini stellium :-D Must be it.

My Neptune is conjunct Saturn so they both gang up on my Venus. I suppose that alters the way I feel emotions. I have a wide - 6 degree - Venus/Chiron conjunction too so..."Love is pain - AVOID"

Plus the 8th house just makes me crave physical relationships so hard I can throw feelings out of the window LOL.

Yes, I've been with 5 different men in the last month. One time stuff. I don't care what people think really. I think it's trPluto opp Venus.
If I wasn't so abhorred with the idea of getting pregnant I would still be doing it by now hahaha. And my health isn't so good lately

posted October 21, 2015 08:17 PM            

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Originally posted by StillTippin:
I have a Venus sextile Neptune. I would like to get married one day but I honestly think I would be happier NOT being married. At least at the moment that's how I feel.

It's only because of what I've been thru was exhausting. So exhausting to a point where being single feels better. I'm just not into being controlled or held down. I like freedom freedom without judgement. Yet for some reason all I've been attracting or been around is the wrong things. That's probably my fault also but I just can't see it. I like this better

Just my honest opinion

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Agree wholeheartedly about the freedom part and about not needing to be married, for a while I entertained the idea of being just "good friends" with the guy I'm supposed to be with and us living separately...the only thing that would stop me is that when we have kids how it would affect them. It would be selfish not to think of them. But yeah I agree with that.

posted November 01, 2015 12:11 AM            

I also said, if I *had* to get married for some awful reason, I wanted my own room if not my own house and hopefully he would live no closer than 20 minutes away!

This has held pretty much. I'm mid century old now and single. First love was venus-neptune and he was not worth my life or dedication so I left.

Astrology always says Venus in Libra is the best and also "you don't do well alone in life". Hell, being on my own has been the best thing and I chose it, no regrets. It's me.

Anyone would have to be pretty darn special to make me marry them, much less live with them. You couldn't pay me to do it. I don't mean to sound harsh it's just what it's like with the aspects and planets I have personally.

posted November 01, 2015 01:37 PM            

I need loneliness and privacy to sleep properly.

posted November 08, 2015 06:02 AM            

If i have to share a bed with anybody i feel ok only with my closest friends, nobody else. often i wake up after some time and i have to go to another room/bed/or even i would rather sleep outside under the sky than share my sleeping space with anybody (including romantic/sex partners). When i had a room mate that really made mentally and physically sick. I dont know if its weird or not.
I'd give you everything to make you feel at home and comfy but let me sleep alone.

Maybe its bc my imagination is very vivid and i easly space out even when we're talking. I love to be in other dimensions in my mind usually.

posted December 15, 2015 06:44 AM            

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Originally posted by Gemini30:
Ok girls and guys,

I see alot of you have talked about the "delusion" of your relationships.

Where did the delusion come from? Like did your ex boyfriend/girlfriend basically LIE about who they were or did you just see them as "the perfect one" only to find out that nobody is perfect?

Also, to the ones that have Venus conj neptune in capricorn, how do you deal with having venus conj uranus as well?

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I have Venus-Neptune conjunction in Capricorn 11th house. Delays in marriage maybe, but I wouldn't say 'aversion'. It's just that I have to make sure that this person is 'the one'. Surprisingly I just got a reading about this. She said that I am looking for love but 'I wouldn't sell my soul' for it.

posted December 16, 2015 07:34 AM              

Yes, there's a touch of Piscean 'unconditional love', unfortunately. Always gets me into trouble.

Seeing the loved one through rose-coloured glasses, check.
Aversion to marriage, check.

The M-word sends me running for the hills. Or hiding under a rock.

posted December 17, 2015 03:45 PM            

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Originally posted by Elysia:
Venus trine Neptune here.

Yes, there's a touch of Piscean 'unconditional love', unfortunately. Always gets me into trouble.

Seeing the loved one through rose-coloured glasses, check.
Aversion to marriage, check.

The M-word sends me running for the hills. Or hiding under a rock.

In fact, forget marriage. Making a relationship official is in itself an ordeal. ("Why do we need to label it, honey?")

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